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Milestones

Posted by picaroon_corsair Aug 28, 2019

I got a notice from Mark that I hit 2500 days, so it will be 7 years in October. I'm kind of on the fence about something here, I sort of feel bad that I don't check in too much with the "ex" but it's only because I don't think about it very much anymore. I hope that this fact alone will give all of you encouragement. I can honestly say that I can't remember the last time I had the desire to smoke. I'm not around anyone who smokes all that often, but when I am, I don't really notice them in the act of smoking. I do notice the smell, especially when they aren't smoking, their breath, their clothes, it's really off putting. I can't believe my wife and family put up with me for so many years.

Encouragement and honesty:

1. Quitting was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.

2. Quit, don't quit, either way, never lie to yourself or anyone else about smoking, do not try and hide it, you can't. You either smoke or you don't. If you try to hide it, you will isolate yourself because you will try to get away to somewhere you can smoke and have the time to get rid of the smell (which you can't). It's a thin line, your loved ones want you to quit, you want to please them but you can't have it both ways. Better for them to be upset with you about smoking than to try and hide it. I can't empathize this enough, I was the fool who lied about quitting and it almost cost me everything.

3. I don't know about vaping, it was just starting out around the time that I quit. I used lozenges to get me over the hump and they were kind of a pain to give up too, but not nearly as bad.

4. Your health will improve and gets better everyday

5. Your mental state, anxiety and stress go down greatly over time.

6. You feel like you have more control over your own life, something that is really hard to have these days, why give any of it up to cigarettes.

 

Peace

I want to give some hope here, I don't think about smoking at all anymore, it never crosses my mind. I play acoustic guitar with a friend of mine every other Friday. His wife and son both smoke, they are the only people I come into contact with that smoke. Again, I know that they smoke but it doesn't phase me, except the next day when I smell it on my clothes. There are a few people in my life that "Vape" but I have no desire for that either, even when I've had a few beers, it just doesn't occur to me to smoke anymore. I'm 54 and to be honest with you, in my early 40's I was having issues with erections and used Viagra. Today, I have no issues and I know it's from not smoking. If you are a guy and that doesn't convince you, I don't know what will. People talk about all the cancers smoking causes, but the effects on your cardiovascular system are more common and lead to more trouble in my opinion. One more thing I want to say, quitting at any age is good, but I have noticed that everyone I knew who smoked since their late teens, early twenties, once they hit 60 or so and they have continued to smoke, they die before they hit 65. Heart attacks, strokes, lung cancer, it may or may not be true, it's just my observation. Quit now, don't wait, you won't regret it, I was a slave to cigarettes, they owned me. One last thing, there are people in your life that want you to quit, they may give you an ultimatum, never try to hide it from anyone, I did and I regret the time I lost with family because I looked for excuses to be alone so I could smoke, you can't get that time back. I know that 99% of people on this forum are supportive, but I know that some people will think I'm an idiot for the some of things I've said. I don't care, I'm being honest and yes, I was an idiot for trying to hide it from the people who cared about me.

Peace

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picaroon_corsair

1 year and 1 month

Posted by picaroon_corsair Nov 27, 2013

Quit on Oct. 23, 2012, 400 days, used lozenges until end of April 2013.

It's much easier now, even the slightest temptation is met with "NOPE" Not One Puff Ever.

I live in Maryland, Cigarettes are not allowed in any indoor public places, the only time I encounter cigarettes now are when I pass someone who is standing outside a restaurtant or a place of work. They don't bother me at all and I don't give it a second thought. The only place I have a real problem is at my friends home, they have a covered porch, where everyone gathers to play cards, listen to music, play music on Acoustic guitars, drink beer, eat chocolate and smoke cigarettes. Sounds like fun doesn't it, well it is, except for the cigarettes. On any given Friday night there will be 5 to 10 people and just under half of them smoke. I had to take a leave of absense at first, but I'm now back to going about once every two weeks. I don't even notice the smoking anymore, except the next day when my clothes smell. I never realized how bad of a smell it is, to a person that does not smoke, it's digusting. I don't know how my wife put up with it for so long, God Bless her and me for her sticking it out and finally putting her foot down.

My advice....observation....for what it's worth, if you can get over the hump, decide to do it for yourself, the desire never fully leaves you, but it only bothers you for a moment. You take a deep breathe and move on, you know your doing the right thing because you've never taken such a deep breathe like that in a long time.
It gets easier, there is a feeling like something is missing sometimes, but hey, that's why you smoked anyway, to fill that void, you'll find other ways, I wish you well.

Can't believe that I was still smoking this time last year, feels like a lifetime ago, time seems to move slower without nicotine. My breathing is sooo much better, I have a lot more energy and sleep really well now.
I still get hit with this feeling like something is missing, but it passes quickly, it's not a craving to smoke, it's just an emptyness of sorts. I don't think I would ever go back, I've been around some of my friends who are smokers and I hardly notice it anymore. Not to mention the savings, $6.00 per pack of Marlboro's here in Maryland. I don't know that there is one way to quit, you have to make up your mind on your own. I will say that this guy Allen Carr made a lot of sense to me, sitting down, writing out the pros and cons is really helpful.

I'm 50, smoked since late teens, was forced to quit by my wife in 2006 after a life threating complications from gall bladder removal, long story short, I got Pancreantitius a week after having the gall bladder removed. My Lipase numbers were off the charts and it took over a week to get it under control. Once I was well enough to go home, my wife picked me up and as soon as I got in the car I asked for my smokes. She told me no, threatened divorce if I continued. I agreed, but quickly fell right back into smoking within weeks. Instead of coming clean with her, I lied, I made excuses and I made her feel like a fool. Trying to hide smoking is one of the worst things you can do, when your family wants to go somewhere, you make excuses to stay behind so you can have a smoke. You make excuses to leave so you can have a smoke. You avoid close contact to fear of the smell. I played this game for  6 years and I'm an idiot, I've lost so much precious time, I shoud have just stood my ground and smoked. Now, this is where I'm today, in October 2012, we had another confrontation about it and I made a decision to quit for myself this time. I was honest, told her and my kids I was going to use the lozenges and that's what I did until about 4 weeks ago. I stopped using the lozenges and the first few days were really painful, but it's getting easier every day. I have moments everyday where the urge is strong, but they pass quickly and I'm finding that I'm very relaxed now, enjoying quiet time in a whole new way. Before quiet time ment sitting back with a smoke, now I feel comfortable without it. There's so much more I have to say about this new found freedom, but it's late, I'll write more later this week. Peace.