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We can be deceived, and we can deceive ourselves.

      This picture is from the Tuolumne Meadows area high above the valley floor. The river looks very peaceful and it is unless you slip on those rocks, get caught by the force of the water and, you are fighting for your life as you are being swept downstream.

      That swift water is similar to the conversation people have with themselves before they give in and smoke. They "had this" but then they smoke.

All it takes is some talking into. The point is you can stop yourself from smoking.

You can talk yourself out of smoking just as easily as talking yourself into it.

It is self deception

We all know what happens.

Be your own lifesaver.

Don't talk yourself into the swift water.

It takes years for some to quit again.


Trail Guide: Backpacking the Grand Canyon of the Tuolumne in Yosemite - Bearfoot Theory 

Doesn't cost a thing

It will turn your head and save your quit over and over and over again.

Your quit is your responsibility. If you won't invest in yourself 

with proven suggestions you are pi**ing in the wind.

      After 3 Days Of Rain, I Caved. The memory of having beef stew on a rainy day was too strong!

It finally got to me.

Today's the 4th day of rain.


It's all in the crock pots hands.



I believe memories and connections are what drive people back to smoking.


Now, please, enjoy some stew 

I just had 4 new tires put on.

      Did you know your spare must meet certain tread depth requirements or they won't let you keep it.  My left rear tire tread depth passed as a spare, so I didn't have to buy 5 tires. 

      I had called yesterday and gotten quotes for two different warranty levels of tires, installed including tax. After more research,  I made an appointment for 9:30 this morning.

      I called this morning to confirm my appointment and the price quote and, they were 5% more.  So I drove the few miles wondering if they would honor yesterdays quote. If they didn't I was prepared to come home but I wanted to ask them in person because I had made an appointment and I'm always where I say I'll be.  

      I would have been smoking by now mulling what would happen in my mind but there was no smoking thought that came to mind. 

      Anyway, they honored yesterdays quote. I was perfectly calm with my confirmed price so I could relax. Solving these kind of daily problems when we would have smoked can be done without smoking!



"Creativity Is Connecting Things" ~Steve Jobs

I read that recently and I believe

It's True


       I feel connecting a quit to a flexible timeline with milestones to look for, is an important way to approach quitting. 

      After years of seeing people come and go, I realize it may cause a new quitter to be impatient, but, time is the only way to disconnect from smoking forever.

      My goal is to get you to two years when the relapse rates drop dramatically.


and now, the three P's    

You don't get to a month if you can't make a week.

(the first 2-3 weeks are the hardest-have Patience)

You don't get to 130 days if you can't make a month.

(months 2, 3, and four are when people disappear Persistence)

You don't get to two years if you smoke.

(The relapse rate drops to 2-4% at two years. Peace with the addiction)

Quitting Smoking Isn't Learned In One Day

When I quit, I had done no research on quitting.

I had visited no online quit smoking sites or gone to any quit smoking meetings.


I made the perfect stress free ramp to my quit.

I knew I was ready but, I knew nothing about what to expect.

      I didn't have any construction jobs at the time so, I went to a friends and played guitar to whatever music he put on 10 hours a day my first two weeks.

That provided plenty of dopamine. 


      My thirst for knowledge came when I stopped using the patch. In fact, the package the patch came in suggested going to an online support site so that's where the idea came from.


      I wanted to know what was in store after those first two weeks, so I went online and found a quit smoking site and planted myself there.

      I asked questions, talked people off the ledge and generally, got a handle on what quitting was about.


      After 12 years I've realized it's about time and allowing yourself to disconnect without fighting yourself.

I feel we are driven by our memories.

Driven to repeat what has happened in the past.

Driven to recreate the feelings in those memories.

The associations are strong and silent.

We must execute the memory.


It's going to rain.

What am I thinking of?

Beef Stew in the slow cooker.


      This is how our memories drive us. Thinking of smoking is sparked by our memories. We connect feelings from the past to the present to create continuity.


      We are able to disconnect from smoking by making new memories that don't include smoking.


PS I didn't make the beef stew. I've learned I don't have to recreate every memory. (but I still make lasagna when the cheeses come on sale) 

It was still raining to the East

If you're still a smoker...


Will you take control? or will smoking control you?


You have a decision to make

      Whether you want to spend the last third of your life at doctors and therapists trying to save what breath you have left or halting the damage.

      It can be halted, but can't be undone, the sooner you quit, the better!

~Rolling Out Another Crave Buster~


Previously on this channel:

1.  Bite into a lemon, skin and all.

2.  Stick your head in the freezer and count backwards from 20.

3.  Fill your mouth with ice cubes and let them melt while trying to not get brain       freeze.



And now, may I present

4.  Aim a flashlight at an object and try to keep it held steady.

      (this will take your concentration away from smoking)


Don't tell me they don't work. Try them.

      We hear about cutting back often because many people attempt it but consider this, all the counting and denying before you quit may be building apprehension and negativity before you quit.  What if you smoke 3 more than was allowed one day? It kind of blows the cutting back idea out of the water. It becomes a permission to do it again in the same way smoking after you've quit becomes a silent permission to smoke. "Oh, what the ***, one more isn't going to kill me."


      You can get so focused an counting and keeping track and when you get to 5 or less a day those nicotine receptors are unwilling to go along but by this time you've fought so hard to get to that count, ANGER IS BUILDING, FEAR IS BUILDING.


You are likely starting your quit on the wrong foot.

There is an easier way to cut back without counting or denial.


Self Talk

      All you have to do is just say "I'm going to wait a little longer," EVERY TIME you want to smoke.

All you're doing is stopping to think before you smoke.

      Trust me when I say, there will be no fear or apprehension if you quit in this way.

      You don't have to set a quit date until you've proven you don't need to smoke just because the thought popped into your head from your memory and routine.


I went from 20 (a pack) a day to 5 a day and




I set my quit date when I bought my last pack 4 days before I quit.

This is not rocket science. This is letting your mind work for you.

"You control the horizontal,

"You control the vertical."


A bird flies

I can't

A dolphin leaps

I can't


Physical attributes prevent me/us from performing these tasks

without some invention or aid. 

What we do have, is the ability to think and create those aids/inventions that allow us to overcome our limitations and get to point B, albeit with an assist.


(You don't believe a bird knows why it can fly, do you?)

 It learned how but it doesn't understand the science or physics of flight.


Most of us don't take advantage of our ability

or learn how focus it.

Once we begin thinking before we act

Is when we develop our common sense.

This begins when we are young.

Keep learning and smoking doesn't make sense.




tip of the day

Bite into a lemon when you're having a bad crave

It's better to be "soured out" than have a smoke and cave.

A sunrise begins in darkness

It goes from greys to yellow and rosy colors 

and then those rosy colors

fade to blue and white or just blue.

This usually happens within 10 minutes.

You must be able to clear your head when

the thought of smoking comes along.

It only takes a moment


There are many steps to smoke after you've quit

The last step is inhaling to get it lit.

You can stop at any one of those "before" steps.



This is a powerful addiction

until you change your mind and

take the power from it.

Don't you hate it when you've waited days for an avocado to ripen

and when you think it's ready and peel the skin off



Life is like that. We have our expectations.

What we want to do.

What we actually do.

Who we want to marry.

How we actually marry.

Our expectations effect our mental forward motion

and our contentment.


Maybe we didn't feel we were accomplishing anything,

(unless we could smoke?)

I think I kind of smoked to cope my way through life

I have to tell you,

When you're in it, it's hard to see it.


Anyone can step away from smoking.

You just have to decide

how you're going to do it.

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