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Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Apr 29, 2019

I don't do that anymore,

and I don't miss it at all.


My take

You don't need to focus on smoking or not smoking so much.

You're unlearning something. It will happen. Give it time.

Unless you choose to.


Become More

But none of them can make me smoke or pick paint colors worth a damn.


      Where I bean?

We're repainting the inside and the outside of the house so my brother and I are adding to the handrails and patching the rear deck while the painters are doing the inside.

      We had a bunch of  too many people picking paint colors and having the painter put it on the exterior wainscot and stucco and everyone was getting desperate.

      Picking paint colors is so frustrating for me because often, the samples don't look the same as you imagined they would when they're on the wall. 

Anyway, I got to make the final decision because everyone else gave up.


         The yellow background (Moonraker) will be the stucco and the eaves.

The darker color (Clary Sage) will be the wainscot to ground the house and will also be used for the front door and all trim and the garage door. The Dover White will be the stairs deck and railings in the back.


      Who knows what it will look like. The gold looked more yellow than gold when he put it on the wall.   

      I'd love to have someone paint a mural on the wall above the garage. Missy?

and then the landscaping.

Oh Boy,  I got my compressor working correctly after replacing parts for a month until I got the right one.


Keep your quit. It's something you have control of.

Everything else is a dream or a nightmare. 

it isn't me



Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Apr 22, 2019

      "One of the biggest mistakes we make is that we assume we always learn from our mistakes. I’ve met enough people who learned little from their own stupidity.

      We all know these people. In fact, we probably are these people. You know why? It’s damned hard to learn from your mistakes. I’ve never met someone who actually enjoyed failing."


Smoking after you've quit is not a mistake, it's a choice.



10 Lessons I Learned From Making Many Mistakes in My 20s - Darius Foroux - Pocket 


Wish List

Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Apr 21, 2019

Was smoking on your list of things to attain?


      I was just on *mazon and added something to my wish list.  I'm often unsure of what I actually need and extraneous purchases are things that I'd "like for a day and hoard for forever."


      I have tools and tool parts in my list that I think I need but haven't determined which parts I actually need yet, so I don't buy them, I save them in my wish list.


      I'm sure there are some things on there like all episodes on the Untouchables on DVD. Most of us have some things that we'd like but don't need yet still seem special to us.


      Was Smoking really one of those? Was smoking special or did we just make it special?


Confess! It was the drug that kept us coming back. 

Smoking's kind of stupid actually.

The drug is what was special.

Taking the time to do it was planned.

Knowing where you could do it was planned.

It was a way of life.

A way of life we didn't even realize we were in.


All for a drug

Smoking Wasn't Special-Let that thing go. It's a "no admiration" thing. 


PS Got a drainage problem. I get to use the LED lighted camera with the 30 foot cable I bought, FINALLY.

If you will say "I don't do that anymore" every time you think of smoking,

It will stop the buildup of thoughts that would lead you to smoke.


Think about that a moment.

You are retraining your thinking.

This works, but you actually have to do it.

obviously there are factors that drive people back to smoking


drinking too much alcohol 

or, just out and out planning to smoke.

We try to help keep you from planning to smoke with assurances.

and guidance.


Try to enjoy the journey. Look for the days you didn't think of smoking.

They will come but you have earn them.

Some walls are made of stone Some times we build our own

Some walls will stand for years Some wash away with tears


Some walls are lined with gold Some hearts stay safe and cold

Some walls are made from doubt Holding in and keeping out


If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall

If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall


Some walls are built on pride Some keep the child inside

Some walls are made from fear that love let go will disappear


If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall

If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall


How will you ever know what might be found

Until you let those walls come tumbling down


If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall

If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall

If there's any hope for love at all Some walls must fall


I have the fountain of youth I'd like to sell you.


Supply is limited.

Satisfied Customers Say:

"My hair turned brown again"

"I couldn't walk. Now I can pole vault 18 feet."

"I waxed my car 24 times this week."


It's what keeps you coming back


It's the smallest part of quitting smoking.

If I told you that sipping orange juice through a straw in your right nostril every time you thought of smoking would guarantee you a successful quit and you did it, you would be successful, you would be.


It's not what you use, it's the reminder that you would've smoked but aren't.


Broccoli taped to your wrist?

Garlic in your shoe?


an eXetarian lifestyle?

We used to have unwritten rule about keeping our posts related to quitting smoking or how to move on with your life as an ex smoker. 



We used to have groups where "personal" posts didn't clog the home page.


Now, I check in 4-5 times a day and it's the same five blog posts doubled.

What the **** happened?


We are not psychiatrists

This is not facebook


This WAS a quit smoking site. If I came here as a new person, I would question that.



Good lunch everyone!!

...they revise, adjust, and pivot.

"On the one hand, perseverance and grit are key to achieving success in any field. Anyone who masters their craft will face moments of doubt and somehow find the inner resolve to keep going. If you want to build a successful business or create a great marriage or learn a new skill then “sticking with it” is perhaps the most critical trait to possess.

On the other hand, telling someone to never give up is terrible advice. Successful people give up all the time. If something is not working, smart people don’t repeat it endlessly. They revise. They adjust. They pivot. They quit. As the saying goes, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” 

Life requires both strategies. Sometimes you need to display unwavering confidence and double down on your efforts. Sometimes you need to abandon the things that aren’t working and try something new. The key question is: how do you know when to give up and when to stick with it?"

The 3 Stages of Failure

This framework helps clarify things by breaking down challenges into three stages of failure:

  1. Stage 1 is a Failure of Tactics. These are HOW mistakes. They occur when you fail to build robust systems, forget to measure carefully, and get lazy with the details. A Failure of Tactics is a failure to execute on a good plan and a clear vision.
  2. Stage 2 is a Failure of Strategy. These are WHAT mistakes. They occur when you follow a strategy that fails to deliver the results you want. You can know why you do the things you do and you can know how to do the work, but still choose the wrong what to make it happen.
  3. Stage 3 is a Failure of Vision. These are WHY mistakes. They occur when you don't set a clear direction for yourself, follow a vision that doesn't fulfill you, or otherwise fail to understand why you do the things you do.


The 3 Stages of Failure in Life and Work (And How to Fix Them) - James Clear - Pocket 


You don't hear many successful quitters if any at all say

"It came out of nowhere. It just happened."


Whether they quit successfully the first time

or quit successfully after 50 times,

It didn't just happen, It didn't just come out of nowhere.

They decided. Whether before their first quit or after all those "tries"

Everyone must decide to quit before they can succeed.

Once you decide, not smoking isn't a battle.

Nothing to do with willpower. Nothing to do with outside forces.

You decide and accept your decision and you can move forward.

If you don't, you keep smoking. 



A Successful Quit,

Does Not Come From Nowhere

A Successful Quit,

Is Planned And Grown

Smoking Is


And Then,

Smoking Is Let Go.

Kids are using ecigs on a grand scale even though they are illegal.

Kids who use ecigs are three times as likely to start smoking regular cigarettes.

Some kids are getting the nicotine equivalent to three packs of cigarettes a day.

Some people are having strokes using the ecig.

and you find yourself in front of a big plate of cookies,

the cookies have already won.

To put that in the context of quitting smoking, you can't smoke if you don't have any around and don't place your quit in risky situations.





The myth of self-control - Vox - Pocket


I know this may be sensitive to some who didn't have ideal family lives. It's not meant to offend but to open eyes and help us reach who we want to be rather than remain products of negative feelings we've experienced.


"If our parents didn’t love and understand each other, how are we to know what love looks like? … The most precious inheritance that parents can give their children is their own happiness. Our parents may be able to leave us money, houses, and land, but they may not be happy people. If we have happy parents, we have received the richest inheritance of all."




How to Love: Legendary Zen Buddhist Teacher Thich Nhat Hanh on Mastering the Art of “Interbeing” - Brain Pickings - Pock… 


This thought provoking post is another I got off the blank page of my Brave browser.


Brave is a new browser from the creators of Firefox. 

It is the most secure and NON-TRACKING browser out there at this point. It's free.

I've used this browser for general use since it came out.

"There is no “how.” It’s all in your head. There is literally nothing to do here other than mentally try on new perspectives and ask yourself, “What if [thing that is opposite of my assumption] were true about me? What would that mean?”

And then psychically traverse the answer."


3 Important Life Skills Nobody Ever Taught You - Mark Manson - Pocket 

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