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Share your quitting journey

What you think of yourself matters more

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎03-31-2019 11:00 AM

(What you think of yourself matters more)

Than what others think of you.

We create our moral compass.

We don't do that by accepting what others say as the whole truth.

We each learn and form our own truth.

Self love

Some people try to convince us any consideration of loving ourselves is narcissistic.

Is knowing right from wrong narcissistic?

Is doing the right thing narcissistic?

Could self love really just be acceptance of ones own truth?

Could self love simply be not berating ourselves?

We are what we think.

When we stop living to impress others, we can live freely.

When we learn to live for ourselves we can enjoy living.

Don't conflate enjoying life with being selfish or narcissistic.

It doesn't involve separating ourselves from others. 

It means putting a smile on your face

because you are in charge and you can choose to be happy.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.