Expectations:It ISN'T what I expected, but, I tried.
(My dad points to my happiness as a gift-I think it's the ability to enjoy each day)
Expectations are why so many marriages fail.
Expectations are why 94% of quitters don't make it a year smoke free.
We must flow with life NOT KNOWING THE OUTCOME.
Isn't that what makes life difficult? Hardships and wondering when they will end? Not knowing why someone's life was taken unexpectedly? Being stuck on the side of the road with a mechanical failure wishing you had roadside assistance insurance and wondering how much the mechanic is going to charge?
unknowns and uncertainties are what frighten us.
The good news is if you accept life as it happens, there is no need to fear it.
No need to be unhappy or worried about the other shoe dropping.
NO NEED TO SMOKE
You can be happy, but, you must allow it.
You can quit smoking, but, you must allow it.
The only outcome without strings is one you pay for with cash.
This picture is from the Tuolumne Meadows area high above the valley floor. The river looks very peaceful and it is unless you slip on those rocks, get caught by the force of the waterand, you are fighting for your life as you are being swept downstream.
That swift water is similar to the conversation people have with themselves before they give in and smoke. They "had this" but then they smoke.
All it takes is some talking into. The point is you can stop yourself from smoking.
You can talk yourself out of smoking just as easily as talking yourself into it.
Did you know your spare must meet certain tread depth requirements or they won't let you keep it. My left rear tire tread depth passed as a spare, so I didn't have to buy 5 tires.
I had called yesterday and gotten quotes for two different warranty levels of tires, installed including tax. After more research, I made an appointment for 9:30 this morning.
I called this morning to confirm my appointment and the price quote and, they were 5% more. So I drove the few miles wondering if they would honor yesterdays quote. If they didn't I was prepared to come home but I wanted to ask them in person because I had made an appointment and I'm always where I say I'll be.
I would have been smoking by now mulling what would happen in my mind but there was no smoking thought that came to mind.
Anyway, they honored yesterdays quote. I was perfectly calm with my confirmed price so I could relax. Solving these kind of daily problems when we would have smoked can be done without smoking!
We hear about cutting back often because many people attempt it but consider this, all the counting and denying before you quit may be building apprehension and negativity before you quit. What if you smoke 3 more than was allowed one day? It kind of blows the cutting back idea out of the water. It becomes a permission to do it again in the same way smoking after you've quit becomes a silent permission to smoke. "Oh, what the ***, one more isn't going to kill me."
You can get so focused an counting and keeping track and when you get to 5 or less a day those nicotine receptors are unwilling to go along but by this time you've fought so hard to get to that count, ANGER IS BUILDING, FEAR IS BUILDING.
You are likely starting your quit on the wrong foot.
There is an easier way to cut back without counting or denial.
All you have to do is just say "I'm going to wait a little longer," EVERY TIME you want to smoke.
All you're doing is stopping to think before you smoke.
Trust me when I say, there will be no fear or apprehension if you quit in this way.
You don't have to set a quit date until you've proven you don't need to smoke just because the thought popped into your head from your memory and routine.
I went from 20 (a pack) a day to 5 a day and
I NEVER COUNTED ONCE
I NEVER DENIED MYSELF A SMOKE
I set my quit date when I bought my last pack 4 days before I quit.
This is not rocket science. This is letting your mind work for you.