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We decide before we do anything except autonomic bodily functions

such as, heartbeat, breathing, and eye blinking, that we don't control.

Life is going to keep coming until it doesn't.

Stop blaming situations for smoking and begin making smarter decisions.


The Dwell

Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Dec 26, 2018

When I was a smoker, I didn't sit around all day thinking about smoking, did you?

When our body or routine told us we needed a smoke, we smoked.


People new to quitting tend to overthink a crave and end up dwelling on it.

When you dwell on smoking is when a quit is in danger.

Those smoking thoughts rattle around until many people have a cigarette in their hand and, by that point, they've already given themselves permission.


      This is why immediate self talk out of those thoughts is critical.

Say, "I don't that anymore" as soon as smoking pops into your head and, do it every time.  It is the easiest way to retrain your thinking, painlessly.

Or, is smoking more important than life?

How about quality of life?

Quality of life is something we can control right now

Our future quality of life depends on today's.

Our friend Betty smoked for over 50 years. You can go back and read her posts.

Maybe one of you could put a link up to her posts? (You can also type "Betty" in the search bar upper right corner of the page)

We lost her to lung cancer.  She was gone one month after being diagnosed.

But those last 5 years, she lived. She went to one of the annual Ex-Get Togethers.

She was vivacious, out of her smoking skin. We skyped from the get together.

She was finally living, free of cigarettes.

I know for a fact Betty would've not given up those five good years of freedom for anything.

You simply don't know quality of life chained to a cigarette.

Don't give yourself the excuse "well I've smoked for so long, it doesn't matter anyway."

It does matter.

Miss you Betty.

I went to my twin brothers yesterday and got to interact

with one of my nephews kids. The latest of 9, is 5 months old.

When you get 9 kids unwrapping presents, 

you can get a "dangerous to oldsters" buildup.

My tip: Pick up your feet.

and, don't trip on the wrapping paper.   

And, no quick stops!



      We had a new grocery store open a couple weeks ago and they had roasted salted pistachios for about half what they usually cost other places.

      Have you noticed the occasional one among the many that are split open that there is no entry point for your thumbnails?



That nut made the decision to not smoke.

(all the open ones represent those that went back to smoking.)  

If a successful quit was dependent upon misconceptions....most quits would fail.

The fact that 6% of quitters make it a year shows most quits do fail.

Likely, these failed quits were based on misconceptions.

  • One of these is that quitting smoking is next to impossible.
  • Another is that you have to want to quit to be successful.
  • Another is that you can only quit if you hate smoking.


      If you plan based upon misconception, it will be an excuse for failure.


Smoking was something we chose

Quitting smoking must be something we choose

or we will find excuses to smoke.

      Most people believe they have to want to quit smoking to succeed.

      How many times have we heard "I really want to quit?"

You need to instead, ask yourself ARE YOU ARE WILLING TO QUIT?



Wishing and Hoping aren't going to quit for you.


Then, be willing.


Exercise Releases DO-pamine

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Laughter releases dopamine.

Music, happy or sad, will release dopamine

Chocolate will release dopamine.

Eating or food **** releases dopamine.

A sexual release releases dopamine.

A hobby releases dopamine.

Volunteering releases dopamine.

Anything that brings pleasure

or makes you feel good about yourself


Fear, and Anger also release dopamine but can take you to instead of away from smoking.


There are not many components to failure at quitting smoking.

I believe the lack of dopamine replacement is a major one until

your quit gets on its feet and you've adjusted.

When people feel bummed out and negative is when they go back.

Isn't it likely the dopamine release from an NRT is its only usefulness?

This is something in your power to do in order to keep your quit.

keep it in mind 

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We usually get quite a crowd of new quitters around New Years.

I hate New Years Resolutions myself (never made one and never kept one)

so I waited until the day after.

Less Stress. 


We need to do an email call out to all those from the past who quit on New Years and are still quit and have them come back and speak of their success.

You have options to shut them down.

      I discovered this on my third morning when the person I was quitting to influence to quit (at the request of his younger brother) walked into the patio  outside of the workshop where I was, smoking.

      Of course seeing him smoking, you'd expect me to want to smoke, right?

What came to me in that moment was the fact that smoking is a choice. It made me laugh.  "My thoughts weren't going to "gotcha" me," I thought. At that moment, quitting became a game instead of a chore.


   Through the next week, I laughed every time the thought of smoking popped into my head. After that week, the laugh came intuitively in place of the thought.


Beginning our quits is the real unknown

By breaking old patterns with ones that are new

Changes in thinking are seeds that will grow.

Make it a game, it will help you get through.

If you'll laugh at your thoughts, You'll be two steps ahead

You'll be ready to  slippery thoughts in your head.

Make quitting a game, Not something you dread

Let cravings go by, Not fester and spread.


Even when you don't feel like laughing, do this out loud.

Say Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha and hear yourself.

You will feel so rediculous you must do it again.

Seriously, if you do this a few times, your whole outlook on quitting will change. 


A secret

Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Dec 19, 2018

If you are missing Ellen as I am,

she told me her router burned out

and she will receive a new one Thursday.

(at least I think that is what the text on my dumb phone said.)

Meanwhile, pick your feet up and let's go for a ride 

You have a choice, you see?

Pull out your hair?

Scream at the air?

Happy or Mad Bear?

Which will you choose?

to win or lose?

You're in control,

It's up to you.


or this?

In that way, quitting smoking is a solitary journey.

We can however, ease you off the precipice

if you will come here and post HELP!

Before You Go Buy A Pack Or Bum One From Your Partner Or A Friend.


We've gone before and made a path for you

And, we will be your guides.

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Just cited the increase in children vaping

as an epidemic. (set 'em up Joe)

This report discusses ranking of the 5 most addictive drugs but notice what it says about smoking:

      "In terms of psychological addictiveness, nicotine was ranked as almost as addictive as cocaine."

 Most addictive drugs, ranked - Business Insider 


      What this confirms for me is, once you're off the nicotine, you can unlearn the psychological dependence.

You can fight yourself or you can let it happen and give it time to grow.

Don't Smoke It Up!

You start out slow

and the more you know

You can feel it grow

It's your choice, your flow

Who taught you how to part your hair or tie your shoes?

Do you remember when you finally "got it" and you could tie your shoes for yourself?  It takes you back doesn't it?



This learning didn't just happen, someone taught you



It's why we stress learning how to quit. You do that in part, by understanding what you are up against.  Yes, reading takes some work but it's important to plant the seed that works for you.


In the end, you'll find quitting is more about changing your routine, accepting these changes as you go along, and allowing enough time for the changes to become your new routine.

We got a couple days rain and North and East of us there was some snow.

I think this is about 80 miles away as a bird flies.

I took a ride with my dad to the beach after I took the snow pictures.

Could you name one thing that would provide you a better  quality of life and future than quitting smoking?

There is a beauty in being free

we could not see as smokers.

And, she's strolling up the Grand Staircase

much deserving of our Praise


Congratulations Daniela


Winner Winner

(Chicken Dinner)


Much Respect


Getting Here

You can wring your hands

And you can wring some necks

But just stay away from them cigarettes


You can bite a lemon

Stick your head in the freeza

But, you don't need a cigarette to please ya


Don't get crazy and don't be askeered

Quitting won't make you grow a beard!

Living is Leaving

Comprende vous?

this was taken a few mornings ago

If you look at quitting as giving up something, you're looking at it the wrong way.

You need to be looking at it as reclaiming your life,

likely one you've not known

since before you chose to become smoking's slave.

I gave in to smoking at 17 and smoked 40 years.

It took some time to unlearn it but, unlearning it is the secret.


You can never distance yourself from smoking

while you still look at stopping as giving something up.

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