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Yes We Can!

But, let's talk


Let's find a way to flip the switch.

Let's talk about self talk.

Let's say "I don't do that anymore"

instead of, "I really want to smoke."



"Every time you go back to smoking you put a ***** in your armor and weaken your resolve."

***** in one's armor - Wikipedia 

      We had some movers relocate some large items 2 miles away and I was in charge of the move. 

      For the heaviest items (a 300+ pound solid oak roll top desk that I had to remove the sliding glass door to get it through)  they had to work together.


      I noticed they would stop to make sure the other person was ready to make the effort at that moment, and then, they would push forward.


      When you quit smoking, there is no other person.

   You are it. You need to stop in that moment, get your balance back, and,  REALLY decide what's going to happen next.  If you are in public, excuse yourself and walk away for a few minutes.



Regain your balance. Move Forward.

You are it!

I left it in the past. You can too.

Smoking isn't a life sentence unless that's what you choose.

You won't know what you've been missing until you've taken control of your life. 


Get to it! Let it go!


You have the power

You are the flour

Add water and yeast

And then, bake the beast.

But it's nearly 12 years and my quit still rocks



Make it happen for you

You don't have to be me

Just stick with your choice

to remain smoke free. 

Why did we think smoking changed situations and outcomes?

Wasn't that belief the real excuse we held for smoking?


Unlearn that lie!

And, you'll be free!

It is the root of smoking's continuation.



~Life is just as difficult and joyful for people who never smoked.~

tired and achy and a hundred and three

Oxygen low and she really needs sleep

She's going to take a break from the site

She'll be back when she's feeling alright.

      When you've lived in the same house, in the same town for 20 years or more,  and then you think about moving, you're naturally going to think of memories and good times you're leaving behind.

               The connection to smoking is like that.

               We didn't just smoke when we were sad,

               We smoked when we were happy too.

               Every time we did, and no matter what the reason,

               we got that hit of nicotine.

It was the common denominator that tied us to smoking.


      Once that physical connection is broken, you begin to unlearn and remove those ties. Nicotine was the routine.


              Take heart.

               Change is good.

               It's fun to settle into a new place and make it your own.

               It's even better when you aren't smoking.


Well, what were you expecting, Mad?

We've come to expect certain words that end a phrase just as

We came to expect smoking when we thought of it.



Quitting smoking involves changing the expected.

It doesn't have to be difficult.

Small changes are enough to unlearn the routine.


Put a picture  in your phone of something that calms you.


Write a word or a phrase on a piece of paper or

the back of a business card.

Laminate it and carry it with you to bring out when you get anxious.



"Keep your head up."

"You are making a great change."

Don't Start negative self talk

Once you start, it's hard to drop

Like a snowball down a mountain

It keeps building, 'til it stops 

If you keep hearing "I want to smoke" 

Your quit will likely walk.

No, it's not about losing my hair.

I should've said,

Panic is Hairy!


Consider this:  Smoking panic is self started and self fueled.

You effectively begin telling yourself to smoke over and over and over in your head, looking for and until, you give yourself permission.

YES, This is the time people lose their quits.


If you're in an uncomfortable situation, excuse yourself and walk away until you recompose yourself.

Freedom is your future.

Smarten up. 

Quitting never killed anybody.

It surely does for me.

I look at every situation from all conceivable angles before I decide

on the most logical approach for the optimal solution.

Once you do that, you've created a plan you can believe in.

This works for quitting smoking as well as any other problem in life,

(except understanding the opposite sex.)


comprendez vous?

      You know how they block the pain with an injection at the dentist?

Well, you can block the thought of smoking with self talk.

      If you tell me it doesn't work or you can't, then, I have to assume you haven't

done it and are still looking for excuses.


      This is simple stuff, even one nicotine brain cell could figure this out.

So, here it is

      Whenever you think of smoking? Just say to yourself

"I don't do that anymore"

If you do that every time you think of smoking for one week,

your association will switch to the phrase, instead of smoking.

This will reset your thinking.


Try it

Quitting never killed anyone.




Mayo Clinic

"The nicotine in cigarettes causes narrowing of the blood vessels in the outermost layers of your skin. This impairs blood flow to your skin. With less blood flow, your skin doesn't get as much oxygen and important nutrients, such as vitamin A. ... As a result, skin begins to sag and wrinkle prematurely because of smoking."


Smoking: Does it cause wrinkles? - Mayo Clinic 

This is your baby!

You decide where you are with your commitment.

You decide what this quit means, and, "how it's going to be."

And, you're the one in time who'll find you're free.


We were told how hard it was to quit

Perhaps they've not experienced it.

Empty words devoid of real knowledge

Offer naught, so, please don't fall for it.

How many of us will never realize it?

How many will?


Smoking steals the gift you have been given.

Smoking hides the light inside you.

Live joyously, Love deeply. It won't last forever.

Leave your mark in many hearts,

Don't let them remember you running off to smoke.


      I was reading this article this morning and I agree if I were in hospice, I would want to leave the world with the sounds of nature and a breeze on my face. Maybe I should write a directive?

Opinion | In Life’s Last Moments, Open a Window - The New York Times 

There's a reason for using "for" instead of  "at"

in the phrase

"Shoot for the moon."

Shoot at the moon sounds angry.

Shoot for the moon indicates a quest.




Turn your thoughts around, accept quitting,

and shoot for the moon, not at it.

An unarching rainbow

Without any rain

Gradient light is

Not hard to explain

A life without clouds

Doesn't mean it's a gem

For sunny days would mean

Much less without them.


"Quitting smoking likely leads to finding yourself."

      There's no reason to not give our quits that same "best we have" effort.


How do we do that? 

We do that with


  • The Decision-Without the decision, wanting means little.
  • Understanding-Learning realistically what we're up against and not building negativity in before we begin.
  • Patience-Allowing a new schedule and thought  pattern to take hold.
  • Time-No long term achievement happens in one day.


Time away from smoking is freedom's only way.

Flip Your Switch,

Sound Your Alarm And Ruin Your Quit.

Settle Down And Flow With It,

Most Craves Are Over In A Few Minutes.  



 Watch: Rascally Rat Jumps and Pulls Fire Alarm at DC Condo - NBC4 Washington 

Block the addict mindset. Question what you've been told.

What is really true is you knowing you.


      You know what's going on with your own body and how to describe what you're feeling to your Dr. allowing them to diagnose you faster than they could have without your input.  You can use that inner knowledge in your quit.


         If you're listening to your body and it's telling you you don't need nicotine replacement therapy any longer, listen to it. Test it. See how you do for a day.

How will you ever know if you can get off it if you aren't listening to your inner knowledge?





      Telling someone to continue using nicotine is no guarantee of anything except the continued use of nicotine.

C                                             Dm

Smoke doesn't happen when you don't smoke

G7                                        C

Smoke doesn't happen and you don't choke

C                               Dm

Save your lungs and save your throat

G                                            G7           C  

Smoke doesn't happen when you don't smoke


Smoke doesn't happen and burn your eyes

That's one thing that I realized

Save your lungs and save your throat

Smoke doesn't happen when you don't smoke


Life seems brighter when you don't smoke

The spirit feels lighter when you don't smoke

Save your lungs and save your throat

Smoke doesn't happen when you don't smoke


You'll live better when you don't smoke

Free and untethered when don't smoke

Save your lungs and save your throat

Smoke doesn't happen when you don't smoke


      That's what makes people smoke. That's it. They're not doing what they're used to doing. They're missing their crutch.


      Drinking alcohol just lowers the inhibitions and greases the skids. ("I wasn't myself.")


      When you put your quit in risky situations, "risking" is what you're doing.


Many come here believing this (or wanting to believe this)

Clearly, no one makes anyone else smoke. (permission comes from the smoker)

This thinking is an accidennt waiting to happen. (SO LET'S CLEAR THIS UP)


No one is going to sneak up behind you,

Jam a lit cigarette in your mouth


Squeeze you like an accordian.

      (Repetition>>that's what I tend to do here)

      In it's simplest terms repetition, is doing the same thing many many many times.

      When you add a chemical (pleasure release) to repetition, your brain retains connections to the emotions experienced during those periods of pleasure.

      Our most basic animal nature seeks pleasure. Who wants to feel bad when you can feel good?   

      Societal conditioning attempts to attain a social norm (the "I don't want to feel like a weirdo" conformity?) which helps prevent violence and helps us feel like we belong to something which validates ourselves.  Who we are is the sum parts of our experiences and resulting beliefs.


         Not too long ago smoking was accepted as a social norm, remember?


      Between using nicotine and making it part of our routine, the mental connections to the emotions experienced while we were having a cigarette is what we will learn to leave behind when we quit smoking.


       It takes considerable time to disconnect from all the old connections, but,  It doesn't have to be a fight if you understand what is going on "in the background." This is why simple phrases like "I don't do that anymore" bring you in the present and refocus you.


         Unlearning smoking by making new memories without smoking and letting those memories replace the old ones will disconnect you from smoking FOREVER.


Time Is The Healer. The Only Way Out Is Through.

You had quite a life!

Quit gone flat?

Ah yes, it surely may do that more than a few times after you're into it.

It's one of the reasons many people give up.


Now that you know this, there's no need to fear it.


Time is the healer.

Let it happen knowing it will get better.



Quitting Smoking Doesn't Kill, Smoking Does!

It was your quit, only you know



Quitting's a head game

You sharpen your skills on

But ask yourself this,

Where did it come from?

If you start out lost

And it doesn't get better

You are in charge

so you have to let it

Learn what you're up against

Drink up our knowledge

At quitting smoking

We're better than college. 


When new quitters

Are in risky situations

And partake in Libations

Many fall


Put some Vicks 

Under your nose to remind you

If you still feel temptation

Turn and walk

Without Reawakening The Nicotine Receptors,

Starting The Nicotine Addiction All Over Again.


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