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Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Jul 31, 2017

She was the widow of Henry Winchester.

After he died she began adding to their house.

Odd rooms that didn't match the rest of the home.

Stairways that went nowhere.

She continued until she died, never finishing her quest.

I liken it to someone who is convinced they cannot quit smoking,

the "cereal quitter."

and, I have the solution.

Quit before your expiration date for a better quality of life!


Exploring The Winchester Mystery House! - YouTube 

No, You're Still Smoking!

“It was wrapped around her neck and biting her nose and wouldn’t let go,” Fire Chief Tim Card told the Chronicle-Telegram. “They had to cut its head off with a knife to get it to let go of her face.” 



      This is a top view rendering of the walkway to Hoggies outside enclosed area. The two spaces did not line up so I had to angle the walkway to my window.  I wanted a landing inside that he could jump up to and get to his cat door and jump down from when he came back in. I knew I would waste as much material as I ended up with but, a full piece would not have a weak connection where it turned into the window.  (The light blue is the waste.)

Don't waste your quit by giving up too early!

Stick with it. When you glimpse the vision of yourself as a non smoker "real and within reach", let that spur you forward. That's what you're looking for.

Allow For The Unexpected.

You're Worth It!


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Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Jul 25, 2017

But I have to tell it like it is.

      They have been working on the house across the street for 7-9 months. They gutted it inside and out and put all this work into it and look how they left the entry.

      I know they intended to leave it this way because they already installed the siding around the beams. Three weeks it was stripped before they installed the siding. Lack of thinking leading to no final vision and a bad outcome.

      How will they make them disappear? Invisible paint?

      They could have gotten rid of all three beams and had a welder tuck some square tube behind that fascia and run two tubes to the ground before they poured the concrete. Total cost? Probably $800. (to redo it now? probably

$3 grand+.)


      Next time you think I'm too critical (and I try to not be) realize I might simply have a different point of view.  :-)

If you get one of those irksome craves that you think may beat you?

  • Bite into a lemon. skin and all.
  • Stick your head in the freezer and slowly count backwards from 20.
  • Pack your mouth with ice cubes and try to avoid brain freeze.


These work and any one of them will break a crave.

      Does all the counting and keeping track of your triggers before you quit really mean anything or help?

      I smoked whenever I wanted and could. Didn't you?

I wasn't a chimney at a pack a day but was a "solid smoker."


      Why would I want to focus on thinking of quitting smoking all day, everyday before I even quit when all I have to do is change my thought for a moment?

I think it bogs most people down and makes them think of quitting as "too much work."

      I believe all the conscious counting makes quitting more work than it needs to be and puts quitting in a negative light before you begin, then, when you do quit, you believe you have to think about smoking or not smoking or you're not doing something right.


      I'd rather just "tell myself to wait a little longer" when I want to smoke, which is what I did, and then let the naturalness of that action lower the amount and change my cycle of smoking automatically to prepare me to quit


Just Counting Cats

Much Less Stressful

You will understand why smoking is difficult to let go.

I'm going to give it to you in one word.


Smoking is a big part of most memories we have.

We hold onto things because we believe that will help us retain our memories.

I still have the same guitars I bought in the 60's and 70's.


Because I spent thousands of hours playing them and creating with them.

They are "old friends" but they don't suffer the ravages of time and living like we do as smokers. They don't get cancer or have heart attacks or strokes.

They get better with age. They gain value with age.

Each One Has A Story. I'm going to tell you 4 of them just for the heck of it.

If you're not interested, feel free to move on.

My first guitar worth saving was handmade by a Japanese Luthier named Kazuo Yairi. He was the premier luthier in Japan.

I spotted it at a 7 story music store in Tokyo and I took the subway 30 minutes each way daily for a month to play it. I didn't have any money to buy it so I sent a telegram (yes a telegram) to my parents and asked them to send me $100. They were reluctant but, my dads dad sent the money. We were with ABC records and when they got wind of the story, they had a limo take me to the store to buy it.  :-)     When I got home and took it to the local music store, Barbara Mandrell's

dad offered me $600 for it. No, I couldn't part with it.


My first electric guitar was a Fender Telecaster.

It was the late 60's. It was hippie time.   :-)

I had left a show group that played Vegas, Tahoe and the state fairs.

We were forming a new group with an old groups name. Our manager had been with the New Christy Minstrels and had secured the name of a group that had had a hit with "Frankie and Johnny" which she thought she could get some mileage out of. We spent 14 hours a day, 7 days a week for 6 weeks that summer learning songs and putting three 45 minute "sets" together.

The Greenwood County Singers - The New "Frankie and Johnnie" Song (1964) - YouTube 

We then took our show to Korea to play for our soldiers, tighten our show and develop our onstage interaction. We traveled all over the country including the DMZ.  Our equipment had been left out in the rain in a stopover in Fiji and all our amplifier speakers were ruined from the humidity. So, no amplifiers, no sound system. The promoter took me on an equipment hunt in Seoul and we bought one $50 amp which we ran two guitars and a bass through. I would take apart the juke boxes at each place we played and wire our vocals into the preamp section.

Another thing that humidity got was the finish on my brand new guitar.

There was deep cracking in the finish so, after I returned to Los Angeles, I called Fender and told them my story and they let me come down to their factory in Fullerton and gave me my choice of any guitar in their showroom.

This was my choice.

I used this guitar for my 1st 1 1/2 years as we toured the states. I needed a backup for when I broke a sting so I bought the red one below from the local music store when I was home on a break. I finally learned it was safest to change all strings weekly on my day off.

And while traveling through Provo, Utah, on our way to Portland Oregon I spied this, a 1955 Martin D-18 for $250 at a violin repair shop.

I didn't have but $100 so I asked them to hold it until I sent them the money in a week and they shipped it to me under a Greyhound bus in a cardboard box.

I still have the memories and the recordings I made with them.

Even though they have increased in value, it isn't their monetary value that makes me hold onto them, it's the MEMORIES CONNECTED TO THEM.

      Some have told me they had their first day in the 70's.

      From what I remember of the first site I was on, and from what people have told  me on this site, I believe it happens for the majority between days 80 and 100.

      Would you quitters in no mans land please watch for your first day and make a note of it?


      If you will have some faith in time disconnecting you from smoking, you will be looking for the positive instead of living in the negative.

      Last Tuesday, I was told I needed to get rid of a table that was deteriorating outside. One of the legs had come off due to rains that had soaked through the top. I was able to break the other legs off and get it in the refuse container.

      Now that doesn't sound like a big deal and it wasn't, because I was no longer using it and even though it had an added tile top to protect it from the elements, some of the tiles at the corners had come off in it's many moves since I tiled it in 1971 and were irreplaceable due to the tile pattern. In that way, it wasn't so hard to let go.

      The thing is, I made that table in 7th grade wood shop class. I was 12 so that puts it 5 or 6 years before I started  smoking.

      How many things do you still have from when you were 12.


      I still have the memories of making it while everyone else was still squaring up bookends. It was very advanced for a 7th grade wood shop class with a rabbetted edge concealing an inset top and tapered legs, all made of mahoghany.

It wasn't hard to let it go

Sometimes things are no longer useful

Smoking is no longer useful to me or you.


We Grow Up,

We Change, We Let Things Go

Let Smoking Go, Won't You?

The Asterisk Stores in your area

will be closing in 2 minutes.

It could be a long weekend. Make sure you have plenty.

Now get your assterisks down there!

It Makes Quitting Less Of A Struggle If You Enjoy Yourself.


One Of The Main Reasons We Elders Stick Around Is To Add Some Levity So You Can Step Away From The Rabbit Hole Of Doubt.


We Have The Answers To BOTH The What If's?  And, The What Happened's?


We Go Beyond The Book Learn-ed By Having Experienced The Same Feelings And Pangs But, Having Successfully Released Smoking's Grip On Our Lives.


There Is No Need To Panic-

Quitting Is Mostly About Unlearning Repe***ion Of Memories



We Believe You Can Do It So, Strap Yourselves In

And, Put On Your "Listening Ears."





BTW, What Happens To My Points When I Pass?   :-)

From the site upgrade in Dec 2011:


"Who cares if some fairy took another 2.5 inches from the top of my page?

Who cares that my clock and every video I had on my page was deleted? (edited)

 I regard all this as a holiday miracle"


Grin and bear it people.

That's the best way to get through.



The Core Is The Care


We Still Have Unlimited Asterisks!

(so far)



I posted this as a blog in 2012.

I didn't write it.

I believe this should be in the Best Of Ex

It's A Road Map To Finding Yourself As A Non Smoker.

You can put your higher power in the list as well, but, these are the questions we need to ask ourselves and the changes helpful to make in order to become a happy ex smoker.

Here is the link to my original blog with no advertising.

i didn't write this~~~~~way too long for my style but, it may help you "live in today" 

30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself 

If your quit feels like you are swimming upstream through this?

You Aren't Accepting The Decision You Made Or, What You Said You Want.

Time. Time Creates New Memories Between You And Smoking.

Time Is The Healer

And, It's Time To Get Out Of This Tree

Before There Is "No Mas" To See.

You Can Improve Your Future Quality Of Life

If You'll Take This In Your Hands

And, Make It Right.


truth here

Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Jul 11, 2017

Or You Can Open Them Wide In Joyful Anticipation!

Your Quit And Your Life

Are In Your Hands.

Moments later

While we are smokers, the flowers tend to blend in

After we let smoking go, there is a clarity of smokings lie.

Follow The Ones In Front Of You

Stay the Course

      My online research and being able to ask questions online of those in a quit smoking community who had been quit for awhile.

      How are you going to know how you are doing if you don't know what others have experienced?

      Once I got off the patch, I needed to know what to expect.

I needed to know if the nicotine receptors ever stopped calling my name.

      These are the same things all new quitters should want the answers to if they are serious about quitting smoking.


What To Expect In The First Four Months 


Don't let go!  Snatch it back!

Nic's A Liar

Nic's A Hack

Nic's A Figment

Don't Be His Snack!

They blame outside forces for their continued failures.

"It's not my fault I smoked."


And then they wonder why they can't quit?

It's the inside forces that are the problem.

The negative self talk, the bargaining.

Nothing makes you smoke but you.

Take Responsibility. That is your main contribution to your success.

No One Else Can Do That For You.

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