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Share your quitting journey

tough love? or deep love?

JonesCarpeDiem
2 11 32
  
   
    
     Ben Carson. Raised in poverty in Detroit, by a single mother with a third grade education.   
    
     Ben Carson on his mother   
My mother never made excuses and she never accepted excuses from us.  
If we tried to make an excuse she would say, "Do you have a brain? 
"If you do, you could have thought your way out of it. It doesn't matter what John or Mary or anyone else said or did."

It was the most powerful lesson she she taught my brother and I because

 IF YOU DON'T ACCEPT EXCUSES, PRETTY SOON PEOPLE STOP GIVING THEM.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.