We had a whiner in the Young Americans. There was nothing he couldn't whine about.
When you are on the road travelling together for weeks and months 24/7, that can get very annoying.
People avoided him like the plague. No one wanted to have a conversation with him. No one wanted to share a room with him.
Well, unavoidably, the cycle came around where he and I were assigned to share a room.
I listened to his whining for a couple days and finally said, I'd like to talk with you. We sat down and I asked him point blank, "do you know why no one wants to talk with you?" "Do you know why no one wants to be your friend?"
He replied that he didn't and I explained that everything he said was said in a whine and that people tired of it quickly.
You know what?
He stopped whining and everyone soon became his friend as he became conscious of his tone and, he was grateful.
So, pardon me for being so direct. It's not done in negativity.