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We are celebrating my Dads 90th birthday tomorrow

JonesCarpeDiem
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Sometimes it's just difficult to get things accomplished and when everyone's ideas have be considered, you wonder if the goal will ever be accomplished.

Last Sunday, my stepmom asked me if we (my two brothers and myself) would sing at the party tomorrow. I told her she should discuss it with my younger brother because he always tends to be disagreeable when it comes to these things.

I wanted to collaborate on an original song expressing our greatfulness for my dads wonderful character and the values he passed down to the three of us. My younger brother wasn't interested. as expected

Time passed and I suggested we do some Kingston Trio songs because we had played them together back when we first started singing together.

I emailed my twin and told him about our stepmom's request and mentioned the kingston trio songs. He said he hadn't sung those songs in decades (like I have?)

So we discussed some other songs and decided on 3 and I spent hours making up song sheets so everyone at the party could sing along then my younger brother says he doesn't want to rehearse and my twin won't do it without a rehearsal.

Now what I don't understand is why it was going to be such a big deal to sing in front of family and friends. What difference would it make if someone made a mistake?

So, I told them they didn't need to play and they could just sing along with the rest of us and I would do the playing.

The moral of the story is, you can't depend on anyone but yourself.

You make it happen. It's your quit.

I will play without fear because that's what I do.

and a Happy Birthday Dad.

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.