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It doesn't take rocket science to keep your quit.

It takes a decision, willingness, the understanding that it will take time, and not putting yourself in risky situations.

People who OVERTHINK QUITTING and focus on smoking, fail.

Typically, what often keeps most people awake is mind clutter. This, for me, is usually when I have a bunch of information floating back and forth that needs to be attended to and I don't want to forget so I run the same thing back and forth a million times keeping myself awake by doing so.

So, rather than do this, I learned to get up, turn on my computer,  and write down everything cluttering  my mind.This can take anywhere from 15 to 30 minutes, but, by writing it down, I can allow myself to sleep because I know I'm not going to forget something, which is what was keeping me awake.

Why not try it. What have you got to lose except sleep?

PS When your mind is uncluttered and you allow yourself to sleep you may need to set an alarm. :-)

Did you ever consider giving yourself permission to not smoke? (the decision)

We have each set our own beliefs and parameters.

One Example: I used to say, "I can't take a nap."

Now why would I believe that? Because that's what I've told myself until I believed it.

Nancy/Youngatheart has always told herself the same thing. We spoke about it and miraculously, now she can (give herself permission and) take a nap.

Do you get it? We MAKE OUR OWN RULES and we can give ourselves permission to live life differently.

Don't limit yourself by the things you've told yourself.

"My quit didn't stick" "Wish me luck" "You have to really want to quit to quit"

      I contend you don't have to want to quit if you decide to quit and you can't quit until you decide to.     
Ok, so, we've all heard it said "you have to want to quit to quit"     
       This phrase is bandied about on quit smoking sites like some kind of absolute. Actually, I see it as no more than an addicts catchphrase. An excuse to fail. An excuse for past failures. It's NOT TRUE     
      Plenty of people here have been told by their dr. that they have to quit and have been very successful. Youngatheart for one, Thomas for another. These people didn't vaccillate. They thought about what they were told and they decided and quit. A friend asked me to quit to influence his older brother.    
How many times have you said that to yourself and gone a day or a week and then smoked.   
So, consider this: Did you really want to quit if you smoked anyway? 
It's the addicts game of excuses. "I must not have really wanted to quit." "It didn't stick" 
   What kind of thinking is this? 
   I love Connie's phrase "terminal uniqueness" regarding what people tell themselves that leads to their failure. 
Don't play these games with yourself. It all gets down to deciding to quit. 

You don't have to want to quit but you do have to decide to quit..

  I didn't want to quit. Thomas didn't. Tommy didn't. Nancy didn't. Plenty of others here didn't want to quit either. What we all have in common was our decision to quit.

PS There is no luck when it comes to quitting smoking. :-)

We are behind you with the truth!

You can't quibble with your quit and expect it to stick.

                Let's compare the two             
First Comes Fear             
Then Comes Dishonesty            
Then Comes Smoking           
First Comes Calm          
Then Comes Steadfastness         
Then Comes Freedom         
         In the first scenario     
The quitter believes all the lies about how hard it is to quit and feeds their fear right up to their quit day.     
The quitter, still projecting the worst, begins talking to themselves. They tell themselves they can't do it. They tell themselves they must smoke    
The quitter smokes    
     In the second scenario 
The quitter learns about quitting from those who have done it. They learn what they are up against and   diffuse what they had previously feared. They learn about the process and what to expect when. They learn that we've all gone through what they are going to experience and survived and are happy to be free. 

The quitter changes their smokers routine to learn a new way of living.


After a time, they are free.

No one makes you frantic but you. No one makes you smoke but you.

but the fact it was let on the market without any restrictions show how powerful the tobacco lobby's are

Let's Talk! :-)

People who have failed over and over need to change their thinking. If you see a comment from an elder it is not meant to antagonize but to simplify.

We are also here for those who have never lost a quit or never tried to quit so please, keep that in mind. They have a right to not fail the first time nor be dragged down by everyone's excuses.

What we say is not meant to be harsh. We are here to help people quit smoking.
We know we can't help the arrogant ones. Some of them may get so angry they will keep their quit just to spite us. That's a win for us and them.

You see, whether you've quit 200 times or one time, everyone must get to the place of acceptance of not smoking to succeed. You can't be comfortably quit long term until you realize this.

We are simply trying to help you find it sooner.

WWgirl earlier and now, Giulia.


Are you happier not smoking than if you were still smoking?
Isn't that where someone who smoked for many years would like to be?
Isn't that what letting go of smoking is all about?
When you get to that place where you aren't thinking of whether you can smoke or not, something has to have clicked.
If you are looking for quality of life, letting go of smoking is a great place to start.

Give it time & Listen for the click. :-)

As soon as you can see yourself doing it, you are ready to begin!

             The Corn Oil Conundrum (A RECIPE FOR SUCCESS)         
First, you shouldn't have cigarettes around after you've quit but, if you do         
And if you're tempted...         
1. Pour three cups of corn oil into a large bowl and immerse your hands in it before you pick up that lighter.       
NOW, Do you think you would ever forget the experience?       
2. You could drink it down      
Now, whether you made it to the bathroom in time or not, do you think you could ever forget the experience?      
       The next time you think of smoking, corn oil will be the first thing that comes to mind.    



AND NOW, Some Less Corny examples. :-)


You can't smoke with wet hands. Ever tried?


You can't focus on anything else when your mouth is packed with ice cubes.

You can't focus on smoking when you are biting into a lemon, skin and all.

Do something but don't smoke!

Positive self talk is the most powerful tool you have to quit smoking.

Negative self talk will trip you up.

The smoker!

Wrapping yourself in new thinking!

Transitiion To Freedom!



Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Aug 6, 2015

How many of you have quit before and failed in the first 4 1/2 months again and again?

From what I've watched on two sites, this is the time most people give in and give up.

I know when I quit smoking, I had some difficult days where there was no magic.

Those days I sought out knowledge.

At about day 100, I read the results of a medical study that said if you could get through 16 weeks, there was a greater chance of long term success. Heck I was only a few weeks away.

I remembered the post from the first site I was on and did a google search but there was no author listed so I posted it as author unknown. The post so perfectly described the despair that can rear it's ugly head and drive people who are floating between smoking and not smoking  back to smoking.

Sarah refers to the no mans land blog as my blog. i never took credit for writing it but I experienced those feelings and everyone else on that site was experiencing much the same at one time or another during this period of time.

About a year and a half ago I went back to the other site to see if i could find the author. I found him and his email address happened to be on his page. We communicated back and forth and he was more than willing to let me use his post here and even post his name. He titled the post No Mans Land, not me. Thanks Ron Maxey!

Unlearning smoking is a process like potty training. It takes practice to stop messing up.

Here is the link to my blog of Ron's Post.


Don't talk yourself into smoking!

Use the energy from the good days to power you through any down days.

And you will get there



Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Aug 4, 2015

It's not the puff, it's the permission to do so

My response today is "I really like NOT SMOKING more than I liked smoking."

Since most of us started at a young age, we can't honestly remember a time when we weren't smoking so, how can we know we like smoking more than we don't like smoking?

The answer is, we can't and, we won't know until we've lived without smoking for a period of time

Nicotine IS A LIAR and,  the biggest lie is to ourselves. (and a big reason we allow ourselves to continue)

I go to the gym every day so it's ok if I smoke as soon as I get outside.

I had a hard day today so I deserve to smoke.


Any others you can think of?

You sacrificed your whole life to smoking for as long as you smoked.
You've done without things so you could smoke.
You've avoided going to places and events where you couldn't smoke.


You've given so so much to smoking.


Dying for smoking is the true sacrifice









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