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You Can Not Fight The Ocean

JonesCarpeDiem
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I go to the ocean at least every other day. It's 3 miles from where I live. Until we were 11, we lived 4 blocks from the ocean. My dad taught my twin and I how to body surf, probably when we were 5. Mark and I would walk to the pier and body surf 10 hours a day during the summer. When my dad got home from work, we would go body surf with him. It was safe and fun being a kid in California in the 50's.

I quickly learned that waves typically come in sets. Every so often you get a huge set. Very rarely there are days you get HUGE SETS one after the other after the other.

  

When you're swimming out to get into the right position to catch a wave, you often must work your way through waves that are just breaking right in your path. If you throw yourself into it with all your might and take all the punishment it can dish out you won't last more than 2 waves. You might even drown.

  

You learn to take the biggest breath possible and then go under the wave and hug the floor so you know which way is up and can push off the bottom to the surface as quickly as possible when it's force subsides.

  

Fighting to quit is like fighting the ocean. This is why many give up.

  

Let us help you keep from drowning!

  

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.