You can't smoke if you don't keep any around. (if you live with a smoker, this may not apply)
I can't tell you how many people have lost their quits because they kept cigarettes around for an "emergency."
If you have to get dressed, find your keys, walk to the car, open the door, turn on the ignition, back out of the driveway, get to a store, walk in, get out your money, ask for cigarettes................
There are a lot of steps before you can smoke if they aren't sitting in a drawer in the next room.
Every step is an opportunity to think about what you are doing and change your mind.
Well first, you have to not tie your entire quit to the belief the NRT is the only thing that's keeping you from smoking. If you can't get to that place, you need to learn more about quitting. As smokers, the nicotine makes us need another smoke but once you've not used nicotine for 72 hours, it's pretty much out of your system. It's the memories of the ritual we did so many times, that familiarity, that you are missing, even more than the drug, that becomes the tugging to smoke.
I could recommend a three day rafting trip with no nicotine available. If you don't hit your head on a rock and drown, you will be through the worst of it. :-)
My first two weeks were spent playing guitar 10 hours a day at a friends house. I had my patch for the nicotine and the dopamine from playing. I didn't turn nicotine into a big part of quitting. In my second week I stopped using the 21mg patch when I forgot to put one on two days in a row. (I didn't place my quit in it's hands, I held it's hand until I forgot I needed it.)
I joined a quit smoking site that night and just stayed on interacting, asking questions and learning. I was so busy, I didn't even notice I had gone from the 21mg patch to nothing.
Others may look at the instructions and set an approximate date to let them go.
My honest recommendation would be to listen to your body and not your addict and when you are ready to get off nicotine, plan to be real busy and distracted.
There are plenty of people here who have quit the first time with no relapses.
This is essentially saying "you can't do it" because I couldn't"? or "you can't do it because someone else couldn't"? Is that how any coach approaches winning at something, by telling people they can't do it?
If I were someone who had never tried to quit, it would surely be discouraging to me and actually give me excuses to fail. It's pretty much on the same level as the propaganda about how hard it is to quit smoking that is passed down from generation to generation. All of us who have quit know it's doable.
What did the first time successes do differently than those who relapse over and over? They thought about what they were doing instead of being overtaken with eXcuses and they learned what quitting was about and what to expect instead of stumbling blindly along.
Anyone can quit the first time and honestly., I've never figured out what the advantage is to quitting over and over and over again.
I believe common sense.dictates you begin from the only point that cannot be changed.
This one point happens to be the top hinge. You attach the top of the hinge jamb to the framing until it's plumb and level it's full length and then, you adjust the head jamb so the space in the corner above the hinge is equal to the space that the hinges create between the door and the jamb and you tack the head jamb in position. The full length of the jamb on the lock side is the last to be set and easiest to be adjusted to the edge of the door because it's only fixed point is the top corner where it meets the head jamb. It's all common sense if you stop and think about it.
In quitting smoking the top hinge is your DECISION TO NOT SMOKE.
"If you've quit and you are smoking, you're doing it wrong."
I know people inherently realize this but, until you accept it, you will repeat the cycle.
The secret to this is not letting your emotions rule your quit. Nothing makes us smoke. We make us smoke.
This means you won't have to be self conscious and try to cover up the butt smell so you don't feel like an outcast. This is a huge improvement to your self esteem as well as in a dating situation where being a smoker can often be a deal breaker.
Non smokers have good and bad days too, right? Good days and bad days whether you ever smoked or not.
No one thinks quitting smoking is going to make everything bad go away do they?
Willingness opens the door to the acceptance that smoking is not required and fuels the positive direction you have chosen.
You don't have to worry about buying cigarettes, or running out, or choosing whether you should get cigarettes or food.
You don't have to worry about who sees you trying to hide your smoking or what you smell like, or scurry around to find a place to smoke.
There are some difficult days but if you can quit 2 days, or 4 days or 2 months, doesn't that prove to you that you can quit. Doesn't that say, hey I really can quit?
I promise you that you will have more good days than bad during your first 130 days if you are not being counterproductive with negative thinking about how hard it is or how you can't do it? People talk themselves out of their quit. There is no gun to their head making them smoke.
I would venture to say that the ratio is 10 good days to 1 bad day unless you dwell and fixate on smoking. But see, it's your choice.
So if someone on the verge of success at quitting is having one of those difficult days and someone else comes on and suggests they start vaping and it restarts or continues their addiction to nicotine, I believe it's irresponsible.
I want to smoke everyday From pegrob on 12/22/2003 11:25:47 AM There isnt a day that goes by that I dont consider smoking. And if I had a lungdart here I would do it. But I dont.If I would go get cigarettes, it would be a deliberate act. People act like a slip is just something that happens to them, sounds like something PASSIVE like it "just happened to them, they couldnt help it", and they are a victim, but actually it takes ACTIVE action. You have to make a decision, get in the car, go to the store, and all this gives a person time to change their mind. I know because I have brazenly made that decision numerous times in the 45 years I smoked and tried to quit zillions of times. I miss smoking, I would like to smoke, but smoking is just not an option and I tell myself I am a grownup woman, not a baby, the answer is NO, you cannot smoke ever again. And every day that I do it I am stronger and my junkie is learning that no means no, and begging and pleading is not going to change things. Its like handling a child, you need to be very consistent because if you give in sometimes, you aren't believed.
We Don't Control Life Or Death But, We Do Control Our Quits!
When you get a considerable distance into your quit, you will realize how important having control over something as powerful as the hold smoking had over you, EMPOWERS YOU AND YOUR ACCEPTANCE OF WHAT LIFE IS!