So, figuring out the ways to get it that don't rule our life is the answer.
Exercise is one, laughing is another, music is another, hobbies are another, volunteering is another.
You need to find something you love to do, something that validates your daily life and gives you joy.
You need some time for yourself, even a half hour or an hour a day that belongs to you.
Positive self talk is highly effective when you get the urge to smoke.
"I don't do that anymore" works well to stop a crave and begin retraining your automatic smoking thoughts.