On letting it happen
A friend asked me the end of November 2006 if I would quit smoking to influence his older brother to quit. I agreed to consider it. I spent the 4 1/2 weeks before I quit learning I didn't need to smoke just because I wanted to smoke. There was no conscious plan. I didn't want to quit but I wasn't against it either.
I had no guidance. I let it happen. Again, didn't fight it and I didn't encourage it. I began by telling myself to wait a little longer when I wanted a smoke. At 4 weeks I was down from a pack a day to 5 a day.
During that time, I never stressed about quitting or not being able to smoke and I never denied myself a smoke.
I didn't set a quit date until the Friday afternoon I slapped $5 on the counter at the convenience store and decided I was buying my last pack.
The following Monday was New Years Day. I in no way wanted my quit to be tied to a resolution. I had never made resolutions and I had never seen anyone who made one keep it for long.
I wasn't worried about not having enough smokes to make it to my quit day.
My only plan was to save one cigarette for the morning after New Years so I would not have to fight off the morning urge for nicotine after a night's sleep. I had my last cigarette as planned. I didn't attach any special significance to it than any other I'd smoked. That was 7:15
I went to the pharmacy about 10am to buy a box of patches. (I felt a little anxious on the drive, especially as I drove by the store where I bought my smokes. I could have easily turned into the parking lot but I didn't. I drove 3 more blocks to the pharmacy and bought a box of patches.)
I stayed very busy my first two weeks. I was at the friends (the same one who had suggested I quit to influence his older brother to quit) playing guitar 10 hours a day.
When I forgot to wear a patch two days in a row, I had a talk with myself and stopped using the patch.
The second day without the patch, I joined a quit smoking website.
Many people come bent out of shape, anxious, and on edge. It doesn't have to be that way. I had built up no negative feelings before quitting of what I would be missing or how hard it was going to be. I just let it happen.
I had no work going because of the holidays, so, I had plenty of free time to devote to learning about my quit from the elders on that site and helping others with theirs.
I decided right then that helping others quit was as valuable a quest as any and I've been on this site since August 2008 trying to help others find themselves.
Let me help you connect the dots and be free. :-)