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Expectations Fairness Unfairness Perceptions

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎12-26-2014 07:19 AM

When were smokers, we didn't consciously think about smoking, WE JUST DID IT. Well, working our way to being a non smoker requires some emotional work.

I believe all of us may partially influence our own thinking in negative ways.

  

It's those four words in the title and their variations

  

With smoking, nicotine was our expectation so now that we don't have it along with the ritual of smoking to turn to, it's natural to feel like things are going badly. This is all part of the first two or three weeks of your quit.

  

Call it Emotional Drift..These changes can throw a quitter off track. Rest assured it's all a part of getting to the finish line of being comfortable as a non smoker.

  

Life isn't perfect.
We create our own expectations and make our own perceptions. Better to live in the moment than color life with memories or things that might not happen.

  

"The Only Way Out Is Through"

  

 

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.