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Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Nov 30, 2014

it's all connected

All those bad memories are interconnected with smoking.

Focus on your quit. Put it foremost.

If you change the smoking connection, in time, those harsh letdowns will fade because smoking will not be there to reaffirm them.

My buddy wants to send all his kids mistletoe with their gifts so he suggested making a roadtrip up to Palomar Mountain today. Last year we had some snow up there but we sort of planned it when we knew it would be happening. This year there will most likely be snow on Tuesday but he can't take the day off so no snow this time.

We are leaving in an hour.

You all please have a great smokefree day!

*There are no tobacco fields on the mountain so my quit is safe!

Glad this isn't me!

Happy Smokefree Thanksgiving!

If you'll keep turning things around when you feel like you've hit a brick wall you will succeed.

Next time you get a craving say this out loud

"I am having musings of smoking, I am having musings of smoking, I am having musings of smoking"

Seriously. MUSINGS  It's a word we don't use much and the ridiculousness of hearing yourself say this to get your thoughts off smoking is priceless. It will probably make you laugh which is exactly what you need to do and the word takes the power out of a crave and keeps you in control. Make quitting a game. Always one up the crave with something more powerful than those thoughts.

This can be right up there with "I don't do that anymore"

Biting into a lemon, rind and all.

Sticking your head in a freezer, breathing the cold air and thinking about how ridiculous you look.

Packing your mouth with ice cubes.

Don't forget. They are not cravings, they are musings, just thoughts of smoking, not commands.

until you toss that pack, you haven't learned anything you didn't know already.

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Smoking Cessation EXpert Lou Ryan:

Ryan believes the ultimate solution is to approach the problem differently. “There’s no doubt it’s time for us to end our nation’s smoking epidemic,” says Ryan, “But if we want to win that battle we need to first understand that physical nicotine addiction is not the main issue. If it was, nicotine replacement therapy wouldn’t have such dismal success rates.” To make his point, Ryan references a 2010 Penn State study that documents the success rate for nicotine replacement therapy at just six percent. “The real culprit in tobacco addiction is literally in the mind—a specific thought process that creates the urge to smoke. The underlying issues can be a bit complex, but let me explain in simple terms.”

“A smoker was not born a smoker,” continues Ryan. “They actually taught themselves to become a smoker by repeating their smoking ritual over and over again. By doing that, and without even realizing it, they embedded in their subconscious mind a powerful emotionally-charged thought process related to smoking. And now every time that thought process is triggered – perhaps in a moment of stress or boredom, perhaps by a drink or the smell of a cigarette – it creates the urge to smoke.”

“But that’s not where it ends,” Ryan adds. “The more the smoker fights the urge to smoke, the more powerful it becomes. It keeps coming back again and again, stronger and stronger each time, until eventually it becomes so intense that it’s impossible to resist. It sweeps over their entire being, completely overwhelming them to the point that they just have to light up—no matter how strong their willpower is. That’s why most smokers find it impossible to ‘stay quit’ even if they are on nicotine replacement therapy.”

Ryan says that more than three decades of feedback from former smokers have convinced him that focusing on changing the cognitive process is by far the most effective approach to smoking cessation. “That’s because when it’s done correctly it fixes the root of the problem. The result is sustained behavior change from within, without the need for willpower.” Study data support Ryan’s viewpoint. As shown in the Penn State study, most smoking cessation treatments have less than a 10 percent success rate. By comparison, Cognitive Behavior Therapeutic approaches come in at 38 percent – almost four times higher.

You can quit willingly or you can be told you must quit.

Myself, I was challenged by a  friend to quit to influence his brother to quit.

I did it. The brother was never interested or was too fearful he couldn't do it.

Either way, this place can help you change your perspective by learning how quitting works.

We all know smoking does damage. We've all lost loved ones to this curse.

Don't resent quitting. That's tantamount to saying you love killing yourself.

(and we know that's all about being controlled by nicotine and the 100,000 plus memories of putting one in your mouth,and lighting it as you inhale it)

It is the decision we make when we choose to quit that should make us also willing to quit.

If you aren't going to be a relaxed and happy person when you come out a non smoker, what's the point? Life hands us the same ups and downs whether we are smokers or non smokers.

This is about quality of life, YOUR LIFE.

We want you to have it!

"Don't get frantic. Smoking is not required"

Popcorn Turkey Recipe

Here is a turkey recipe that includes the use of uncooked popcorn as a stuffing ingredient
-- imagine that! When I found this recipe, I thought it was perfect for people like me,
who just are not sure how to tell when the turkey is thoroughly cooked, but not
dried out. Give this easy recipe a try.


8 - 15 lb. Turkey
1 cup melted butter
1 cup stuffing
1 cup un-popped popcorn
Salt/pepper to taste


Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Brush turkey well with melted butter, salt, and pepper.


Fill cavity with stuffing and popcorn. Place in baking pan making sure the neck end is toward the front of the oven, not the back. After about 4 hours listen for the popping sounds.


When the turkey's butt blows the oven door open and the bird flies across the room.... it's done.


And you thought I couldn’t cook.




It's really no worse than a bad head cold unless you turn it into more.

It will be disorienting but if you don't do the reading you may get lost. DO THE READING. GET AN UNDERSTANDING!

Once you get through that initial period and can think straight, it's time to learn your coping mechanisms to get you through the cravings from not being able to do what you've done hundreds of thousands? of times.

Smoking became automatic because we chose to let it be.

Breathing is automatic


When I was about 100 days quit, still having some rough moments, I started wondering what quitting smoking had in store for me.

I began doing a lot of research and found a medical study that said if someone who had quit smoking made it through 16 weeks, thay had cleared the major hurdle of quitting smoking.

That's 120 days

I didn't think too much about it at the time but at day 126 it hit me like a lightning bolt as I reached for  a ghost pack on the seat of my truck and laughed. Right then I knew I was free.

That was experienced on the first site I participated on.

Fast forward after many thousands of hours on here. I started seeing that within the first 4 months of a new quit on this site was the time when most people were losing their quits . 

Then I remembered the no mans land from my first site and realized that what he was saying also correlated with the feelings I and everyone I knew in those 4 months was feeling, those feelings of, "is this ever going to end?"

Then Thomas shows up with a study saying that people can have even stronger desires in the three months after the first month than in the first month.

Same first 4 months.

Do you see a pattern emerging here? The unexpected craves?

Yes, It may take some quitters a little longer to recognize they are having days they don't think about smoking.


130 days is nothing in the scope of how long we smoked. Look at all the coincidences. Put the pieces together. Promise yourself you won't smoke for the first 4 months and the first part of your quit puzzle is complete.

If you can't do 130 days, you can't get to a year.

Take the challenge. It can only help you by having a goal to aim for and by knowing there is a light at the end of the tunnel!

Congratulations Kim!

Stop by and congratulate her!

I haven't seen her around much but she understood the concept of taking responsibility and not making any excuses to smoke, and moved on to living without smoking.

I hope life is going good for you Kim

google it. Look at the history of this concept. Read the links below.

Addiction is a choice.

Yes using a substance can rewire areas of your brain but it appears that just like the nicotine receptors die off after a year, that the rewiring from other substances can be/is undone in the same way.

None of this changes the law of addiction. BUT If you use it, you choose it.

If addiction was a disease, no one would be able to successfully navigate out of it.

Stop believing this theory and those who proliferate this brainwashing.

It's just an excuse to not take responsibility for your choices.

the addiction to nicotine is what keeps you controlled. the memories of years of physical repetition just reenforce it.

ever choose to decline invitations or going places because you feared you couldn't smoke?

ever been talking with someone and have your mind suddenly blank out their words because you felt like you just had to have a smoke?

ever go to an event and leave for 10 minutes to have a smoke only to find out that you missed your son's home run? or your daughters part in the play?

ever leave your family sitting in a restaurant while you went outside to have a smoke?

ever smoke outside and then go back inside, concerned that all the people around you knew where you were and were judging you by your smell?

ever have to look for a place to hide and have a smoke?

Ever stand out in the rain or snow so you could smoke?

I did all these things.

We have allowed nicotine to make our choices since we became smokers. that is being controlled.

You have a choice, you can learn how to get through the initial discomfort and stop making excuses or you can remain enslaved.

Quitting smoking is much more than changing the delivery device but keeping the same lifestyle and remaining controlled by nicotine. Freedom is

You may have not realized what you were getting into when you originally started smoking. I doubt any of us did.


If you are still doing the same things I wrote of above, still wondering how to find a way out of this AND ARE JUST NOW considering quitting smoking~~~~~ YOU ARE AT AN IMPORTANT CROSSROAD IN YOUR LIFE ~~~~whether you understand it fully, or not.

You have the knowledge right in front of you. Choosing to remain enslaved when you know what you have given away all these years is not controlling your destiny it is remaining a slave.

You chose to smoke. UNCHOOSE IT!

....Butt's is another word for excuses.

smoking is not required.

nothing can make you smoke except you,

until you understand this, and believe it,  you will remain in the whirlpool's vortex.

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Turkey's are taking a different tact!

Lungs don't work anymore but you're still choosing to smoke?

How can we help you if you aren't willing to help yourself?

Stop deceiving yourself into thinking smoking is your friend.

Stop deceiving yourself into thinking smoking is going to make any situation better.

It's a lie.

Don't walk away this time.

Stick it out. Give it the time it takes.

You can make it!

Every smoker tells themselves they love smoking.

Did we really love it or were we blowing smoke up our ee-a$$?

I found a picture of our buddy Nic-O-Tine. From all appearances he looks friendly, doesn't he?

Autumn is here! Unfortunately, this also ushers in a much less pleasant season for a large number of people: Seasonal Affective Disorder, otherwise known as SAD.

I have a mild form of SAD and know that it impacts me in a few ways, so I'm on a mission to help others since many people don't even realize they have this issue and even those who do realize this might not know there are simple treatment options. Let's see how many people we can help together!

What is SAD?

SAD is a form of depression that happens at the same time each year (typically fall/winter) and is thought to be associated with a lack of sunlight.

Several days last week were cloudy in my area and I could feel the effects from my mild form of SAD. The best way to describe my symptoms is that it feels like a slight "heaviness" descends upon me and affects my energy levels and concentration. I'm sure other people have different symptoms that are worse than mine. I immediately pulled out my lightbox discussed below and made sure to get outside for some sunshine.

I have become a fan of integrative medicine for some issues, which some people like and others don't. But it's important to note that SAD is not an alternative/integrative health concept -- instead it's very much accepted by mainstream medicine (though there can then be some different approaches to SAD treatments.)

I wanted to show this to my own family, so I decided to point them to the Mayo Clinic as a great source. Then, I decided to share this with my SparkPeople family :).

Top Points About SAD

Here are some notes I took from the Mayo Clinic's pages about SAD and other sources:

1) As mentioned by the Mayo Clinic, WEBMD, and many others, SAD is a form of depression. So, it's not "just the winter blues". If you have more than mild symptoms when the seasons change, it could be worth asking your doctor about this.

2) Serotonin levels. A possible cause of SAD is low serotonin levels. The Mayo Clinic says, "A drop in serotonin, a brain chemical (neurotransmitter) that affects mood, might play a role in SAD. Reduced sunlight can cause a drop in serotonin that may trigger depression." I have had my serotonin levels tested and they were lower than they should be.

3) Sunshine and Vitamin D3. Sunshine is a very important treatment for SAD. Unfortunately, unlike sunlight, light therapy boxes don't appear to stimulate the production of Vitamin D so it's still far more important to get as much sunshine as possible in the fall/winter. Another possible treatment if recommended by your doctor/practitioner is to supplement with high quality vitamin D3.

4) Family History. The Mayo Clinic lists family history as a risk factor, stating "People with SAD may be more likely to have blood relatives with SAD or another form of depression."

5) Light Therapy. The Mayo Clinic also says, "Light therapy is one of the first-line treatments for fall-onset SAD. It generally starts working in a few days to two weeks and causes few side effects. Research on light therapy is limited, but it appears to be effective for most people in relieving SAD symptoms." I am not a super-expert at these devices, but below is the light therapy product I use. It is currently the #1 rated light therapy product sold on Amazon. For only $70, don't expect this to be the most rugged device ever, but I've had mine for a couple of years with no issues and have recommended it to others like a family member in cloudy Oregon who likes it. Link to Lightbox on Amazon

6) Diet and Exercise. The SparkPeople program of a good diet and consistent exercise is very helpful with the treatment of SAD. Exercise in particular can help you deal with stress, which can help with SAD.

Visualize this sunshine and then go grab your own sunshine!

Let's all work together to stay happy this fall/winter instead of being sad.

He got the tour of the beaches in Oceanside, met Hoggie, I even played him a song,. We had Chile Relleno's as "big as your hand" and it was just wonderful meeting him.

Thanks for making the effort to drive 3 hours each way brother Mike!

Here's a couple pictures to whet your appetite and a slideshow of the surfers taken while we were standing on the pier enjoying 82 degree weather.

It was sort of funny. He called me when he got to a rest stop North of town and I told him a place to meet me. Well he happened to drive past it and called me just as I was pulling in. I had come the back way and happened to go past the rear entrance of my cousins restaurant and asked him when it was open. He was unloading groceries told me 11. When Mike called me, he said he was parked right in front of the restaurant and he didn't even know that was my cousins place. LOL He must have been wearing his Chile Relleno Magnetometer.

Thanks again Mike! It was a great time.

did you ever realize you can't/don't smoke when you sleep?

so.....if you sleep every night whilst not  smoking, why would you think it impossible to quit?

you can't smoke while you're asleep unless your house is on fire!

Didn't get a lot of pictures that weren't out of focus but, I will post a few. (We'll have to hire a professional photographer next time. LOL)

Dinner was excellent. We went back to my place so Sky could see Hoggie. (I don't have those pictures)

Then we went and got a couple of mini hot fudge sundaes and walked out  on the pier where we sat and visited while the waves rolled in beneath us.

It was a full moon but nothing strange was going on (except for those vampire bats that flew over)



Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Nov 6, 2014

Tell me you found joy in smoking and I'll tell you it's a lie
All you found was a dopamine high, a physical rush, the joy was a lie.
Tell me you've found the freedom from the slavery of smoking
and i'd say, "there's a joy worth looking to find."

Skygirl has a layover in San Diego tomorrow and she will be coming North to Oceanside to have some time with me. It's Chile Relleno time! WOO HOO!

If that wasn't enough, Mikein@lanta is coming to visit on Saturday morning.

I'm so looking forward to seeing Sky again and meeting Mike for the first time.

I got my biopsy results yesterday from the last endoscopy and there is no cancer and it appears to be healing fairly well even though there are still small areas of Barretts Esophagus with both high and low grade displasias.

And finally, I met with a guy I used to play my music with on Monday, and he would like to get together a morning or two each week to play some music together.

Four great things to be happy about

What makes you happy?

Hoggie starts yelling at me to go out at 6:3o now.

He used to start yelling at 7:30.

I'd like to break his insubordination but when I say NOPE, he's not listening?

Any suggestions?

*someone wrote fake it 'til you make it  on here the other day.

You have the roadmap and a team of mechanics. Why don't you just decide to do it?

Get an attitude of willingness, realize it's going to be something special finding this new normal because you are in uncharted territory, it may be uncomfortable but you've got to give it time and, fake it 'til you make it! 'til that person who doesn't think of smoking shows up.

What happens when you smoke after you've quit smoking?
When you quit ingesting nicotine, the pleasure receptors in your brain that have been sensitized to it and release endorphins/dopamine begin to die off. The total process takes around a year. So, if you ingest nicotine, doesn't it make sense that you would be giving the ones that were dying off a "fillup" and/or sensitizing new ones that had never been exposed to nicotine?
Don't get stuck in the physical circle of slavery by overusing the nicotine aids. Once you are off of it and comfortable, 


It's a prison and will never let you go until you let it go.

Quitting is a tough thing.

It is so dam familiar that it's hard to let go. That and missing the dopamine release makes us think we can't go without it.

I had never experienced depression or anxiety to any extent until after I quit smoking.

I had a real rough time during the 50's (days 54/55/56 as I recall)

I felt hopeless. (Now I know I was in No Man's Land)

What did I learn?

I learned I didn't want to go through that again.

I learned "The only way out is through"

If you feel like you just can't do it, perhaps you might go to your dr and get an RX for a mild anti-depressant that you can get off of when you feel you don't need it any longer. Many of these take a month to begin working so use good judgement. They also take a few weeks to get off of.


start learning what other things release dopamine right up front.





and CHOCOLATE among other things.

Volunteering or a hobby that holds your interest are a couple of other helpful long term distractions.

"Quits don't stick unless you stick to them."

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