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did any of you go to the theater and see it?

They had an advance crew come before the movie opened and fix some of the theater seats to "tingle". At the end of the movie they would announced the "tingler" was loose in the theater and flip the switch on those seats.


I liked stingers with my cigarettes. (the bartender counted 22 one night-I wasn't much of a drinker)

I think now I may have one margarita a year.

ps> a stinger is brandy and white creme de menthe. I was a singer and it soothed my throat.

Did you have a favorite alcoholic drink when you were out as a smoker?

(I normally don't post pictures of myself but I'm making an exception for halloween. Have a happy one by the way)

PS If you drink and then smoke this weekend you'll have me to answer to! LOL

By the time I decided to quit smoking, I pretty much bought cigarettes exclusively from one convenience store 2 blocks from my house.

Buying smokes was part of my preparation for the next day. I would go after work and fight through the 30 school kids getting their snacks before they were bussed back to who knows where because I was already off to work before the store was open in the morning.

The guy at the register would always pull two packs down from the rack when he saw me walk in the door no matter how many high schoolers filled his store. Addicts rights??? LOL. I'd put my money on the counter and off I'd go.

When I quit, I knew I should probably just avoid that store. The day I bought my last pack, I told the owner I was quitting smoking. His jaw dropped like I'd just denied his kids their college education. I don't think he believed me but, we lived in that neighborhood well over two years after I quit smoking and I never went into that store again.

I like to call it COMMON SENSE.

I knew two packs would be put on the counter if I ever walked through that door again.

I'm sure many quits have been lost simply by doing what I avoided doing.

You must make some changes to avoid temptation after you quit.

If you are new to quitting I suggest you "smarten up" and consider where your temptations are before they slap you in the face and ruin your quit!

You cannot quit and remain the same. It just don't work that way. :-)

Smoking won't go away without some effort to change on your part so, get off your butt and do something about it!

There are plenty of temptations in life!

Might I suggest the maple bar and the apple fritters as prime examples?

Of course I wouldn't tell you to substitute doughnuts for cigarettes. But these pictures will provide the dopamine so gaze deeply. LOL

The word temptation suggests that what you are being tempted to do has not yet happened and it is still a choice!

You are learning to KEEP IT THAT WAY!

Give it the time it takes

for what is freedom until you know what you've kept stuffed down and covered up since you were young?

smoking is a great pacifier and the greatest LIAR.

Stay Willing!

Onward and Upward

Perfumes used to be made from natural sources.

Many people are becoming supersensitized to these synthesized perfumes in very bad ways.

A friend was just told she had emphysema and sent me this link.

please read it and watch what you are putting on your body.  It isn't what you think it is.

These people are in it for the money just like the tobacco companies and couldn't give a rats butt about you or me.

when you have a blog history, and you write a new blog, we can quickly go back and read your other blogs so we know where you've come from and how to best help you.

Many people tend to put on some weight when they quit smoking.

There are two reasons for this.

1. Nicotine actually speeds up our metabolism. So, you need to eat 100-200 less calories a day or exercise more.

2. Nicotine causes a dopamine release as does food so you are trying to replace the dopamine feel good feeling with food..

Recent Studies Say:


Looking at pictures of food releases as much dopamine as actually eating the food.


Thinking of the food before you eat it is when the dopamine is actually released, not after you've eaten it.


Put this realization into practice and there is no need to be so concerned.
Look at pictures of foods you think you are craving and instead of eating them, munch on some cardboard. (I'm kidding about the cardboard)

Nothing puts a cigarette in your mouth and lights it but you.

You are the one who let's this self talk leading to you smoking get started.

You are the only one who can stop that thinking before it snowballs into you smoking.

"I don't do that anymore" "I don't do that anymore"  "I don't do that anymore"



Yep, they are going down my throat and burning off more precancerous cells in my esophagus,

My biggest concern is how the last two procedures healed. The last time I was there, the dr said the first procedure didn't look too good. I won't know how the first two procedures healed until I speak with him after this one.

They'll put me under with propofal and intubate me and burn burn burn.

I just hope the dr isn't doing selfies with me during the process. LOL

If all goes well, I should be home by 1pm PST.

No Smoking, Keep the faith!

(PS: Smoking weakens the valve between your esophagus and your stomach over time and lets the acid get through and sit in your esophagus and damage it. If you have acid reflux, do not let it go untreated.)

And what held you captive is loosening it's grip on your daily life.

That's what unlearning smoking is all about!






Bernice doen mess 'round!

My focus for you is to get you through No Mans Land before you give up on yourself.

After almost eight years of participation, I long ago realized that the first 4 months is the time most go back to smoking.

Why? Because they think the craves should be over after the first month.

There is a study stating that people actually get stronger craves/cues to smoke in the 3 month period after their first month quit than they had in their first week.

Craves after the first month are often UNEXPECTED and can persist over a few days. Add to that a bout of depression or a few drinks and people often go back to smoking.

When you get a crave say "I don't do that anymore" and say it out loud.

Don't give up on yourself too early. You smoked longer than 130 days. Give it the time it takes to unlearn it.

It stymies me when people say "I did this and I did that for my last successful quit?"

I'm thinking. "Uhhh. Was that your temporary successful quit?"

It's like saying driving a race car around a track and running it off the road is successful (and it may be just as catastrophic depending upon how much more smoking damage you've done)


A successful quit is when YOU DON'T START SMOKING AGAIN, EVER.

They or the responses may be just what you need to hold onto your quit!

Until you admit and understand that there is going to be stress in life whether you smoke or not, you are just making stress an excuse to smoke.

Stop Bullshi**ing yourself!


Mess wid me an I'll mess you up with stuffing, mashed potatoes and gravy.



Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Oct 12, 2014

If you are serious about quitting smoking you will plan your life in order to avoid situations before you are smack in the middle of them and overwhelmed by the desire to smoke.

I suggest being highly aware of risky situations that would trigger your desire to smoke for at least the first 4+ months and have an escape plan if it was imperative that you be in that situation at all.

Smoking isn't natural. We weren't born with a cigarette and a lighter.
It's something we chose to do. YOU MUST UNCHOOSE IT IF YOU WANT TO BE FREE.

If you aren't going to give your quit 100%, why waste your time fighting yourself and being uncomfortable going through withdrawal over and over and over?

Realize the first two to three weeks are a difficult and uneasy time for everyone.
Are you unwilling to give yourself that small amount of time to show yourself you don't need to smoke just because you thought you did?

"If you've quit smoking and you're still smoking,you're doing it wrong."

right click on the members tab and choose open in another tab.

at the very top of the list I see a member with no user name and no avatar.

If I right click on it and choose open in another tab, it shows my page with no avatar.

Is it the same for you?

PS this is tonight's sunset from Carlsbad, CA and Palomar Mountain in CA

That's what I was asking myself this morning.

I came to my desk and hit the power button on my laptop and it came up as unable to boot.

Then some file fixer from windows came up and said it was going to attempt to fix it and it might shut down a few times during the process. (Not off but restart)

So I come back awhile later and push the power button and NOTHING!

I could've freaked out because this is the computer I save all my important files on. My original music files,  my finances,  You know, the stuff that is irreplaceable?

FYI: If you unplug a laptop and remove the battery too, it will usualy reset the system and fix the reason it would not boot when you put the power supply and the battery back in? (yes I tried this first)

I've had a number of harddrives fail over the years so a few months ago I bought this dock that you can hookup to a USB port and slide both sizes of harddrives in without any other wires needed. So I take the back off the laptop and remove the harddrive.

I let the dock install and then tried to get to the OS drive but it would only give me access to the secondary partition which is mainly just a storage area. So I start thinking "Hmmm, you need a password when the computer turns on and because this is just in a dock, how will I ever get to a place to do that?" (Are you getting all this?)

So I email the harrdrives manufacturer and explain the problem.

No answer from them but I got access to the OS drive and am backing up the files on another drive. It says 9 hours. DO I CARE?


1. The thought. We have thoughts all day long that we don't follow through on. If we followed through on every thought that crossed our minds, the jails would not be big enough and we'd all be wearing electronic ankle bracelets.

2. Consideration. That time period between a passing thought and taking action on that thought.

3. Deciding to do what you were thinking of and initiating action.

So, when it comes to not smoking, at which stage do we need to stop the process to avoid smoking? (the answer is stage one, the "passing thought" stage. Once you start considering, you may talk yourself into smoking-This is why we stress distracting yourself and teach you distractions)

If you have quit smoking and don't have any cigarettes around there are many steps that must be taken before you actually light one up and smoke.
1. Get dressed to go to the store.
2. Find the car keys.
3. Get in your car.
4. Drive to the store.
5. Get out of your car and walk in.
6. Ask for the cigarettes
7. Get out your money or card.
8. Get matches or a lighter
9. Open the pack of cigarettes.
10. Trash the top wrappings.
11. Tap the pack to get one to come out.
12. Put the pack away.
13. Put one in your mouth.
14. Light it and inhale.

You could choose to stop at any of the first 13 steps so there are no excuses.

You don't have to hate smoking to quit smoking (But you can if you want!)

I love the smell of cigarette smoke wafting on the breeze on a summer day. I loved it before I ever smoked and I'll probably love it until I die. That smell does not make me a slave to cigarettes. It does bring back memories of smelling it on the beach long before I was a teen and of what I was doing enjoying the sunshine, body surfing 10 hours a day by the pier and then going body surfing at short street (Oceanside Blvd now) with our dad after he got home from work. What I'm saying is you don't have to hate smoking to quit smoking.

Why should I disconnect the enjoyment of memories the smell of cigarette smoke on the beach as a youth stirs up, just because I smoked for 40 years?

Quitting doesn't require hating smoking. You can pick and choose what stirs those memories and let the ones you don't want go back in the vault.


*another quitting myth debunked

Would you do it?

With the Understanding that  You can accept quitting smoking for yourself OR fight yourself?

With the Understanding that life will keep knocking us down whether we smoke or not and that smoking cannot change this?

With the Understanding that you can decide to quit smoking and then relax and let it happen, accepting that there will be some initial discomfort but it will pass?

With the Understanding that the psychological addiction (the habit/reaching/inhaling) is stuck in your mind and you aren't used to functioning without that repetition so it must be unlearned?

With the Understanding that there is no need to fight because you are simply choosing to change your behavior?

With the Understanding that you don't need to make it into something it isn't. and that most who create and magnify negativity from simple discomfort, will fail and talk themselves into smoking?

People don't die because they quit smoking. They die because they don't stop.

around here she was known as Berta the flogger

Stay calm! Don't let your quit get to this point.!

I've decommissioned smoking. You can too!

Just make the decision and follow through.

We all know how to smoke or we wouldn't be here.

That makes the most important goal for success unlearning smoking.

This is all about getting to a place you are not thinking of smoking constantly or reaching for something that isn't there. (the ghost pack)

So, let's focus on what happens when. (there are links to studies that back this up on my page)

AND please,  put your own experiences in the mix. Look back at your prior attempts and try to recall when you gave in and what follows may begin to make sense.

1. The first 3 days without nicotine is usually the toughest because your brain is still demanding it.

2. The first 14-21 days are the time your body is trying to adjust back to a normal state, running without nicotine.

3. The 100 days AFTER the first month is when most people give in and smoke. This is the time period that smoking is still close to the surface. You're dang tired of trying not to smoke. Your memories know nothing else so it's very natural that it is difficult to let go. During the time you continue adding to your toolbox and using what you've learned to subvert those thoughts. This is unlearning the hand to mouth and inhale motion and the time necessary to put some distance between the old smoker and the new normal. THIS IS THE MOST CRITICAL TIME OF YOUR QUIT.

4. When you get through those 130 days, (approximately) you should be having realizations that you aren't thinking of cigarettes or smoking continuously. (This typically begins happening right around 100 days) These realizations should be life affirming because you have been through the worst and know how to handle some situations and avoid others.

5. There are things that life will throw at us that we just can't experience in 130 days. Relationships, losses, work, finances. Memories will float up from decades past that may be painful. You see, we've buried reality with smoking to the point that we've never faced it without a cigarette and most of us began smoking before we were fully functioning adults.

6. Your first year is the second major success after the first 130 days. You've experienced every holiday and season change once. However, another year is the solidifying force because once again, we just don't experience all the situations and memories in one year. Someone may have died close to a holiday and that loss may not have been triggered in the first year.

So, take it one day at a time if you must, but,  realize the thoughts of smoking will come to an end if you don't dwell on it or put yourself in risky situations. Keep this timeline in your head. There are statistics that back this up. At two years, the relapse rate drops from 94% to 4%. (Again, more info is on my page)

Have a GREAT Weekend

It's not honorable, not to be envied, not glorius nor respected.

Smokers don't "get to" smoke.


(Until they decide not to)


Hang On!

Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Oct 2, 2014

You are simply fighting the desire to smoke. The desire to smoke is not an order from some higher up. You build that desire by talking it up in your head. It's much easier to overcome if you accept that you've quit instead of talking up some need to smoke in your head.

We never really enjoyed every cigarette every day. We may have enjoyed one or two. The rest were mindless repetition

You have the power to overcome the desire to smoke by remembering what you say you want for yourself. A good positive statement is "I don't do that anymore". Say it out loud before the thoughts of smoking take over. Say it more than once.

If you aren't here to quit smoking and be free of it, why you are here? Make a plan and put it in gear!

Onward and Upward!

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