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It's how you approach it

JonesCarpeDiem
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If you approach it defeated, you will be defeated.

Hoggie needed a pill last night. The last time I gave him one, I cut a straw in half and was able to gently blow it into the back of his mouth.

I have been trying to pill him for the past two days without success.

So I tried again last night and he clawed the crap out of me.

I yelled at him and he went out to "his place" for a timeout.

He came in and came up to me wanting to make up. I said "I'm not talking to you. You clawed the crap out of me"

So he went back out to his place.

I went to my desk and he came in a few minutes later and got in my desk drawer (His place when I'm at the desk)

By now, the capsule was beginning to show signs of disintegration and becoming misshapen from about 6 prior attempts. (failed attempts) 

So, he had some wet food on a plate on the desk and I stood that pill up in plain view right in the top of his food, drew his attention to it and, explained to him that I couldn't help him with his misery if he didn't take the pill.

I went back to what I was doing. Five minutes later I looked over and it was gone.

All I needed to explain was that he was the one that would be helped by taking it.

Isn't that what we try to do here?

We are not here primarily for us. We are here for you.

We want you to have what we have. It is as attainable for you at it was for us.

So please listen.

It's nearly as frustrating for us to see you go in circles as it is for you.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.