you are going to find out alot about what is good and what is not so good in your life.
perhaps you are carrying 80 percent in your relationships. perhaps you just didn't want to face unhappiness or discomfort. it was just easier to light up and hide those feelings away. to keep the status quo at any cost.
be prepared for some big surprises.
finding the truth instead of smoking your life away is life changing and goes beyond your smoking or not smoking.
it's gonna take some time to make some changes for the better and those around you may not understand where this is coming from.
be gentle on them. be gentle on yourself. every change takes some time but it's worth it.
you will have negative thoughts, we all do whether we are smokers or non smokers, but, you don't have to make them stronger by speaking them, let them pass right by.
learn the process of quitting, the ways to break free. use some common sense. there is no need to be fearful
start changing things up. we are such creatures of habit. drink your coffee with the opposite hand. sing on the toilet instead of in the shower. wear the red shirt when it's an obvious blue shirt day. the simplest term to describe this would be behavior modification
you can't change anything until you change your mind. make that your mantra
focus on the goal, not the process.
you will have good and bad days, more good days than bad after the first three weeks
focus on the good days when you have the bad days. this will carry you through those bad days.
we can help you through. we can tell you pretty much exactly how you are going to feel and when.
we can pull you out of your funks but, your attitude has to be positive and your outlook bright.
I had surgery yesterday morning and was put in a bed in pain, unable to move. I lay in one position for 13 hours tied to the leg compression device, IV's and, a catheter.
The 14th hour I woke up and felt trapped. My back was sweating and itching from a lack of blood from being so long in the same position.
I wanted out of that bed. I wanted to find a stairwell where I could get some real air. (think of this as the crave...the desire to smoke at any cost)
I knew if I called the nurses, they would not be able to react in time to help me. Could i even explain the level of panic I had reached?
That scared me even more. I was trapped. Nothing could get me out of the mind funk I was in.
Liken this as the worst crave you could ever experience people. FULL BLOWN PANIC.
I tried to think of something to break the focus on the negative and you know what I came up with?
I put on my glasses...
I had not had them on all day and everything had been out of focus. Putting them on cleared my mind and calmed me down. I was then able to call the nurses to explain that I had not moved for 14 hours and I was itching to the point of going crazy. One nurse got me on my side but the itching persisted. Another nurse came in, saw my back and asked me if i had been scratching? My back was bloody from my fingernails. She washed my back and put on some powder. In 20 minutes the itching had subsided. when I got home today, I felt the scratches burning on my back and buttocks and those reminded me of the bad place I had been and prompted this comparison to a crave.
So....all this talk of distracting your focus....
Biting into a lemon, letting an ice cube melt in your mouth, laughing out loud, sticking your head in the freezer for 20 seconds and breathing the cold air ands, couting backwards from 20, etc... this is how you do it,
Changing your perspective for just that moment is all it takes...then, you are still going forward instead of backwards.