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Delay VS Deny

JonesCarpeDiem
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A person wrote to me last night saying,  "I understand your teaching deny, deny deny"

What I recommend is delay not deny.

As long as you feel you are giving up something. you are going to feel like you are missing something.

You never delay to the point of torture. Let yourself get slightly uncomfortable, not manic.

You're still addicted to nicotine. Those negative feelings of fear and trepididation arise when you deny.

 

INSTEAD Delay, delay, delay. THIS IS  YOU PROVING TO YOURSELF

You don't have to smoke every time you want to smoke.

In the beginning, it may be only 10 minutes after your original thought of lighting up but it will increase as you continue to test yourself.

You won't even be consciously thinking of the actual delay time after awhile. it got to 3-4 hours for me after 4 weeks. I noticed i had cash in my wallet. i was buying 2 packs every eight days instead of every two days by the time i actually chose to quit.

This puts your head in the right place to quit. This empowers your confidence to start.

I went from 20 a day to 5 a day in 4 weeks and never felt any pressure or fear delaying.

It is what you make it folks. Make it yours.

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.