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"Desperation" ~~~~Nothing To Do With Smoking Or Not Smoking

JonesCarpeDiem
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I am nearly in my mid 60's I am noticing certain friends my age going from relationship to relationship.

It's funny because it's the ones who were never married.

I believe they are so desparate from never having been in a long term committed relationship that they see the near future when they aren't  as healthy as the time they will lose their ability to socialize and they will be alone.

So they chose to be alone their whole lives and now they think they are going to magically find someone to commit to a relationship with them?

Well they just might. After all, there are plenty of people who have been married and have been divorced for a long time who are looking for companionship.

so, with that in mind, please to join "slipshodmingle" where you can desparately seek Susan or Sally or Billy or Willy in Tucson Or Cali Or Vegas Or Philly

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.