Granted, in the beginning it's mainly about not smoking.
You may begin thinking maybe everything in your life isn't as groovy as you thought it to be when you smoked your way through.
no more autopilot.
This is where the rubber meets the road.
Were we so blind we couldn't see clearly because our desire for a cigarette often overshadowed all other thoughts and we didn't even realize it?
NOW is the wakeup call.
Quitting smoking is your chance to to work on making your life what it could be.
Start turning that thinking about smoking or not smoking into positive thoughts of change and put them into action. Do fun things you liked when you were growing up or something you always wanted to do. Be kind to yourself and the ones around you.
these pics are from today. the ones at the beginning and the end are an unused freeway off ramp i want to use as a set/backdrop for a video of the band doing one of my songs. the ones in the middle are just the beach trip today. enjoy....
We didn't know there was no excuse. If you never choose to quit, how would you know if you could do it or not?
maybe the seeds planted in our heads as children.
As a child. I was told it was difficult to quit smoking by people who weren't even smokers. That "difficulty in quitting thought" possibly became an accepted rule of thumb for generations because of this conveyance of "empathy/understanding/kindness" by a mother to her children.
Well, we now know better. A lot more study has been done. A lot more progress. A lot more knowledge.
And alot more people having success at quitting because so many others have done it.
We aren't equipped here to handle every other problem individuals may have.
We are here to help you quit smoking.
We know how and we are just passing it on because we appreciate those who went before us.
The only way to remain smoke free is not to smoke. This is not judgement, this is a fact.
because you are making a point of taking something away from yourself by so much everyday. That eventually makes smoking a prize you don't want to give up. Start taking the power away from smoking by not thinking about smoking or not smoking all the time.
I cut down, but I didn't count. Counting puts stress on you because if you go up instead of down, you now have a negative in your head like you didn't do something right.
Also, If you don't sit around counting how many cigarettes you have left, you aren't constantly thinking about smoking or not smoking all the time.
You want to catch yourself just as you think of smoking and say "I'm going to wait awhile longer (and not watch the clock) and figure out something to get your mind busy so you aren't focused on smoking
because That's what you're going to have to do when you quit.
In four weeks I was down from a pack a day to 5 a day without ever counting.
Counting stresses you out. Seeing yourself go 3 or 5 hours without a smoke is proving to your psyche that you have some control over smoking.
That's what empowers you to actually begin your quit, seeing yourself in charge.
That's when you know you're ready. It's not so overwhelming when you take control instead of letting it control you.
Forcing yourself to stop smoking for a certain amount of time may keep you quit for that amount of time
If you are not enjoying your progress as you quit and not genuinely noticing the positives in your physical being and mental attitude toward life in general, when your willpower runs out, so may your quit.
This is not about denial with willpower until you can't do it anymore, this is a lifestyle change.
Quitting smoking is not a negative. If all you think about is what you are giving up by not smoking, you may only remain quit for so long.
there is one place everyone's head has to be to succeed!
You don't look at quitting as a negative thing or something that is bad. You look at it as the best thing you will ever do for yourself. Sucessfully quitting involves a freedom of spirit and unbelievable boost in your self esteem. You will wonder why you didn't do it before. It will make you realize that most anything is attainable and give you a new outlook on life which will affect everyone around you.
You are missing nothing and gaining everything by quitting.
You must get a positive attitude.
You can do this by reading how others have been successful and by self talking.
Yes you heard me. You talk to yourself and you say, "I can do this" "Nothing can stop me from doing this."
"I will control this" "I will not fail because nothing and no one can make me smoke again"
Laugh when a craving comes. Seriously. Laugh out loud. You can't dwell on the negative feelings if you hear yourself laugh, even if you feel it is forced because, it will shift your thinking immediately. And, it releases dopamine so, LAUGH HARD!
You have to forget about past attempts.
You have to believe you can do it. How do you think this will get accomplished if you don't believe you can do it? We believe you can do it. You must believe just as hard as we do.
The more time you spend here, the more involved you will be with your quit and the less chance to be overcome by your own thinking and go back to smoking.
You decide. The negative fail. The positive succeed.
And then we have to plan so we don't put ourselves in harms way.
If I went back to the store where I bought my smokes I knew the owner would put two packs on the counter when he saw me come through the door. He doesn't care for my health. If i quit, he doesn't get my money anymore.
So, why would I put myself in that position to rethink my decision to quit?
You have to think ahead and avoid the simplest paths that would take you back to smoking.
Think of the obvious ones and then plan to avoid them.
This isn't rocket science but, you do have to plan ahead somewhat as to how you are going to unlearn smoking or you will be right back to it.
has been through everything you are going through that is actually related to quitting smoking.
the same physical withdrawal miseries: sleeplessness, lightheadeness, cramping, nervousness, constipation, tiredness, anxiety, anger, panic attacks and depression.
the people who went before us and taught us all did too.
the emotional rollercoasters: like finding out you can no longer live with someone after 33 years. losing a parent. having people cheat you in business. being in construction when the economy tanked. serious health concerns. all devastating experiences.
through all the trials you need something to hold onto. that is this place. no one is trying to treat anyone badly.
we aren't asking you to do anything we haven't done. and we certainly aren't asking for ourselves.
Did you ever stop to realize that when you use nicotine, the need to use it again comes from the fact that you used it in the first place?
How do you expect to ever break the cycle and become free?
Oh, ok. You don't care that something controls you, that you are just being used by a substance and don't choose to use it but you must use it.
Not everyone wants their life controlled by their need for nicotine. That's why most of us are here.
Smoking is the nasty part but the nicotine is what keeps you coming back for more.
Vapers are people looking for an easy way out.
Have you ever gotten your head around the idea that quitting not only smoking but also nicotine might be good for you and let that revelation push you forward or did you only focus on the difficulty and the boo hoo?
Those purple ecigs surely are beautiful. I would really like to have them sitting on every available surface in my house. Maybe I could build a shrine? Maybe a bunch of shrines?
We all like to say we’re fine pretend we have no cares Then there is the other side that we guard like a bear Our lives unravel constantly just as each day is long So if you’ve tried your best and you’re still up against the wall There is hope In the smile of a child Don’t give up… it gets better in awhile… Just hang on for a moment more And I’ll throw you a rope The one thing you can’t give up on is hope You’re hurting kinda flirting with disaster every day Your world is falling down you’re not the master anyway Everything is closing in much tighter than before Your friends will stand beside you so don’t you slam the door ‘cause There is hope In the smile of a child Don’t give up… it gets better in awhile… Just hang on for a moment more And I’ll throw you a rope The one thing you can’t give up on is hope Maybe it’s the love you lost get over it today how much have you let it cost? can you really say? Broken hearts will heal my friend and hurt again and feel again Sometimes we gotta float to really know There is hope In the smile of a child Don’t give up… it gets better in awhile… Just hang on for a moment more And I’ll throw you a rope The one thing you can’t give up on is hope There is hope In the smile of a child Don’t give up… it gets better in awhile… Just hang on for a moment more And I’ll throw you a rope The one thing you can’t give up on , The one thing you can’t give up on, The one thing you can’t give up on is hope
Well, the person with "vaper" as the last portion of her user name came again last night and posted on my message board to "correct my thinking." I don't know why she only posts on my page. Must be a love hate relationship. LOL
It's my opinion that anyone who wants to pretend they are smoking the rest of their life is never far from a cigarette, nicotine or not.
They will do a rollback into smoking
~When they realize the ecig just doesn't deliver the goods as well as the real thing.
~Because they never let smoking go.
I commented back but she erased my comments. Go figure.
PS I'll keep you informed if she ever convinces me otherwise.
I used the patch for the first two weeks so I could unlearn the habit part and know what to expect when I couldn't smoke.
once I had experienced those urges and got my head around the fact i wasn't dying, I knew i could deal without the patch.
its really about how much you are going to limit yourself or look for excuses.
I didn't have the roadmap I am giving you when I quit. No site that I know of watches and keeps track of what people experience during their quit and when. I use general terms to describe the emotional things we experience because they can vary but, I am more concerned with giving you a timeline because that's what I wish I would have had.
once you have the roadmap and a couple weeks under your belt, it all becomes clearer and not so fearful.
After those first two weeks on the patch (5 years and 8 months ago), I joined a website.
I learned everything i could. I asked questions. I watched peoples successes and failures.
I feel the most important thing about this roadmap is knowing about the unexpected craving in the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th months. This is the time most people give up and their unpreparedness for these unexpected attacks is why. I watched it over and over and over.
Starting with the patch may work for you or you may have your own plan, or, you can stumble around defeating yourself until you get tired of that.
Whatever you choose, please, think about logically guiding your quit instead of taking the "whatever happens, happens" approach.
Yes, you will experience some strange things physically and emotionally.
Nicotine is a powerful drug and generates changes in the body. These have to be undone.
But, if you get your head around this and ask and listen, we've watchedt for years and we can help you through the easiest way.