Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them. Problems will not disappear unless you take action. Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done. It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch. These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
Start being honest with yourself about everything. – Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. Be honest with every aspect of your life, always. Because you are the one person you can forever count on. Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are. Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there. Read The Road Less Traveled.
Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Be yourself. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
Start noticing and living in the present. – Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future. Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past. Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening. Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you. – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress. If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning. Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again. Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving. Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You must love who you are or no one else will.
Start enjoying the things you already have. – The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc. Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind. You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now. So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.
Start creating your own happiness. – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out. Smile because you can. Choose happiness. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow. Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it. If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it. But if you constantly look for something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
Start giving your ideas and dreams a chance. – In life, it’s rarely about getting a chance; it’s about taking a chance. You’ll never be 100% sure it will work, but you can always be 100% sure doing nothing won’t work. Most of the time you just have to go for it! And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should be. Either you succeed or you learn something. Win-Win.
Start believing that you’re ready for the next step. – You are ready! Think about it. You have everything you need right now to take the next small, realistic step forward. So embrace the opportunities that come your way, and accept the challenges – they’re gifts that will help you to grow.
Start entering new relationships for the right reasons. – Enter new relationships with dependable, honest people who reflect the person you are and the person you want to be. Choose friends you are proud to know, people you admire, who show you love and respect – people who reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words or how others represent them.
Start giving new people you meet a chance. – It sounds harsh, but you cannot keep every friend you’ve ever made. People and priorities change. As some relationships fade others will grow. Appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
Start competing against an earlier version of yourself. – Be inspired by others, appreciate others, learn from others, but know that competing against them is a waste of time. You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself. You are competing to be the best you can be. Aim to break your own personal records.
Start cheering for other people’s victories. – Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. – When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope. Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times. And remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right. Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.
Start forgiving yourself and others. – We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others. And while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over and have a hard time letting go. Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.
Start helping those around you. – Care about people. Guide them if you know a better way. The more you help others, the more they will want to help you. Love and kindness begets love and kindness. And so on and so forth.
Start listening to your own inner voice. – If it helps, discuss your ideas with those closest to you, but give yourself enough room to follow your own intuition. Be true to yourself. Say what you need to say. Do what you know in your heart is right.
Start being attentive to your stress level and take short breaks. – Slow down. Breathe. Give yourself permission to pause, regroup and move forward with clarity and purpose. When you’re at your busiest, a brief recess can rejuvenate your mind and increase your productivity. These short breaks will help you regain your sanity and reflect on your recent actions so you can be sure they’re in line with your goals.
Start noticing the beauty of small moments. – Instead of waiting for the big things to happen – marriage, kids, big promotion, winning the lottery – find happiness in the small things that happen every day. Little things like having a quiet cup of coffee in the early morning, or the delicious taste and smell of a homemade meal, or the pleasure of sharing something you enjoy with someone else, or holding hands with your partner. Noticing these small pleasures on a daily basis makes a big difference in the quality of your life.
Start accepting things when they are less than perfect. – Remember, ‘perfect’ is the enemy of ‘good.’ One of the biggest challenges for people who want to improve themselves and improve the world is learning to accept things as they are. Sometimes it’s better to accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are, rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal. No, you shouldn’t accept a life of mediocrity, but learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect.
Start working toward your goals every single day. – Remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Whatever it is you dream about, start taking small, logical steps every day to make it happen. Get out there and DO something! The harder you work the luckier you will become. While many of us decide at some point during the course of our lives that we want to answer our calling, only an astute few of us actually work on it. By ‘working on it,’ I mean consistently devoting oneself to the end result. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
Start being more open about how you feel. – If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, but be open about it. Talk to those closest to you. Tell them the truth about how you feel. Let them listen. The simple act of getting things off your chest and into the open is your first step toward feeling good again.
Start taking full accountability for your own life. – Own your choices and mistakes, and be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Either you take accountability for your life or someone else will. And when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams instead of a pioneer of your own. You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. And no, it won’t always be easy. Every person has a stack of obstacles in front of them. But you must take accountability for your situation and overcome these obstacles. Choosing not to is choosing a lifetime of mere existence.
Start actively nurturing your most important relationships. – Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.
Start concentrating on the things you can control. – You can’t change everything, but you can always change something. Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control is a recipe for frustration, misery and stagnation. Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.
Start focusing on the possibility of positive outcomes. – The mind must believe it CAN do something before it is capable of actually doing it. The way to overcome negative thoughts and destructive emotions is to develop opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on what you DO WANT to happen, and then take the next positive step forward. No, you can’t control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you react to things. Everyone’s life has positive and negative aspects – whether or not you’re happy and successful in the long run depends greatly on which aspects you focus on. Read The How of Happiness.
Start noticing how wealthy you are right now. – Henry David Thoreau once said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night. You didn’t go to sleep outside. You had a choice of what clothes to wear this morning. You hardly broke a sweat today. You didn’t spend a minute in fear. You have access to clean drinking water. You have access to medical care. You have access to the Internet. You can read. Some might say you are incredibly wealthy, so remember to be grateful for all the things you do have.
so i'm sitting here waiting for a call to see if the dr is going to check me into the hospital and climb down my throat to cauterize them or ?
i've been doing well keeping the acid reflux out of my throat but i have no way of telling if the area with the lesions has been acid free because it's right above where the esophagus meets the stomach.
obviously something happened.
the chips at the mexican restaurant Saturday?
maybe i should've taken the bones out of the chicken?
i have a friend who i started playing music with about 46 years ago when i first learned to play guitar.
he dropped by yesterday and called from outside to see if i wanted to go for a ride.
he had repaired a guitar for someone about 35 miles away and wanted to return it and get his which he had loaned to her.
so it was a gorgeous day and a great trip. after we dropped off the guitar we stopped at the biggest music store in san diego county and played a bunch of guitars.
the freeway is being worked on and traffic was slow coming the return direction so we decided to take the old road back.
i haven't been that far east in nearly 50 years so it was fun to see how much everything had changed.
i mentioned i was really craving a chile relleno and we found a mexican restaurant in one of the smaller towns on the way home. i left my diet in the car. figured i blew about 4500 calories on that meal. lol.
later, after i was home awhile i went through my diet plan and added up what i had in the meal and with all the walking around i was still under my daily calorie count. UNBELIEVABLE
I'm feeling slightly better each day considering my body still needs to make up for half the blood loss.
ps (a neat aside) my friend fixes peoples guitars for free. it's his way of giving back for 50 years of pleasure that playing music has given him.
i went to rehearsal and while waiting for the drummer to show up, i got real dizzy my body felt flush and my ears started ringing, the room started spinning and i knew if i didn't get to the floor soon, i was going to end up there anyway.
evidently i blacked out and was having convulsions and vomiting all over myself. i layed there for about 30 minutes after i came to and then moved to a more comfortable place for another hour before i could sit up.
they called 911 while it was happening but i told them to cancel it.
when i was able to sit up i had them hand me my guitar to see if i had normal function and could keep time so i would know if i had had a stroke and needed to go to the hospital. everything was ok.
anyway, they drove me home yesterday and my dad took me over to get my truck this morning
i just now got back from my primary dr.
i have felt extremely weak and light headed for the past three weeks since i left the hospital
evidently the heart medicine the cardiologist prescribed has a blood pressure medication in it and caused
my blood pressure to be too low because i was already taking a blood pressure medication twice a day.
my hemoglobin was 7.4 when they sent me to the hospital for a transfusion 3 weeks ago. now its 9.6 and its supposed to be 11.4.
so, i got a ways to go.
on Tuesday the gastro doctor told me the biopsies from the endoscopy show i have Barret's Esophagus.
guess what one of the major contributing factors is?
If you or a loved one is among the 9 percent of Americans struggling with depression, you know that it can be a complicated condition. Finding a path to healing — and turning negative thinking to positive thinking — often takes more than just medication.
Depression can be so challenging, in part, because it alters your general way of thinking. Although a person who doesn't have depression will have a normal mix of positive and negative thinking each day, having depression tends to make you filter the world through negative thoughts to the point that it distorts reality and your overall outlook on life. Instead of seeing the glass as half full, you may see it as empty.
This type of negative thinking can be overwhelming. The problem is that people with depression get caught in a dangerous spiral, where depression leads to negative thinking, and negative thinking makes them even more depressed.
And putting a stop to negative thinking isn't as simple as just shutting off a switch. Over time, these patterns get so ingrained that they become your normal, everyday way of thinking. And negative thinking often becomes a defense mechanism to rationalize feelings of depression.
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here we have a spammer who has posted a blog about writing essays with a live link to an external site offering essays for a price denying "she's" a spammer. A blog comprised of poor sentence structure, repetition and grammatical errors. reminds me of our far east friend who loads this place up with spam every chance they can.
No one can stop you from smoking after you've smoked!
You will never win this battle until you have something more powerful than your smoking memories to turn to when times get tough. That could be anything from your improved self esteem to religion or art or music.
Are you building a new life without smoking or are you just trying not to smoke? There is a difference!
Drinking alcohol is playing Russian roulette with your quit.
I'm starting to get into the losing weight program.
my food scale should be here today or tomorrow. it goes from 1/2 gram to 16lbs for when i want that BIG PIECE OF MEAT.
i bought something really cool today. i won't name it but it handles keeping track of how many calories you are burning through movement. with my lack of being able to exercise normally due to my severed foot and umbilical hernia, it's probably my only way to track it.
its about the size of a volkswagon bluetooth. you put it in your pocket, any pocket. or on your belt. It has a wrist sleeve to tuck it in when you are sleeping to track how much sleep you are actually getting
it has 3D tracking capabilities and it can tell if you are climbing a step or any motion whatsoever.
when you get within 15 feet of the base/charging station, it wifi's your info to the website and incorporates your exercise with your diet plan and keeps everything charted and orderly.
IS THAT COOL OR WHAT?
it's just under $100. if anyone wants to know the name of it, let me know
well, after getting out of the hospital after a 4 day stay i feel weak and dizzy.
They think i have a 20% loss of blood flow to the bottom of my heart
we had a fun party for 6 birthdays and some graduations yesterday late afternoon into evening.
i tasted the best cheese i've ever tasted. (english cheddar with carmelized onions)
But for the first time i really considered everything on my plate. maybe the hospital diet.
I HAVE BEEN GIVEN FAIR WARNING
IT'S NOW IN MY BALLPARK. ALWAYS WAS
JUST LIKE QUITTING SMOKING
TO BE CONTINUED
ever had a blog your were writing dissapear before you've posted it?
i lost 18 pounds in a week.
so at the party i really practiced restraint on everything that passed through my lips
and also portions.
you need to know that nothing even remotely considered diet or nonfat is not part of my eating vocabulary or has ever touched my hands or lips
compound that with the fact that 12 years ago i severed my right foot with an 80 place fracture then smoked and it didn't heal right
to be continued
or that i was carrying lifting and installing an 8 foot tall cabinet alone over a newly finished wood bathroom floor WHICH CAUSED AN UMBILICAL HERNIA
both of those pretty much eliminated any thoughts of being able to exercise
I am whipped today. exhausted. at least i wasn't awakened and poked every hour last night
i went out to walmart this morning to get my new rx's and while they were being filled i honestly committed the ultimate sin and bout a bunch of nonfat food. ....again, nothing diet has ever touched my lips...that 20% loss of bloodflow to the bottom of my heart. thats probably where all the fat is hanging. i lost 18 lbs in a week........i'm going for it...I 'm going to lose my excess pounds.
I'VE BEEN WARNED
SO HAVE YOU
I bought a little wedge of that cheese (just to know I have it. LOL)
someone broke into a local little league snack bar last night and stole a whole lot of those little bags of snacks but then left a trail of empty bags the entire 4 blocks from the snack bar right to their front door.