Have you ever thought that all the years we smoked we maybe didn't process all that was going on around us correctly? That maybe as soon as there was conflict, pressure or negativity, we started thinking of having a smoke instead of dealing with the situation?
Living life without smoking we can see our past mistakes, face situations differently and perhaps, heal.
Picking up those pieces we left out on their own that still need answers might be the true fear of quitting, (the confidence we thought smoking bestowed upon us, lol,) but they needn't be. You will find that not being a nicotine addict is much less stressful than being one. And....... growing in that, you will be able to be comfortable and not always thinking about having a smoke.