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Don't Expect Bad Things Before You Go Through Them

JonesCarpeDiem
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I have done no research but when people use this sites recommended quit date, the date is always

2+ MONTHS DOWN THE ROAD. Personally, I could forget about wanting to quit smoking in less than one month. LOL

People come into quitting with expectations and some leave in revelation but

" its the place you put your head where you'll succeed."

If you are focusing on what you are missing, your head is in the wrong place.


if all you think about is smoking and quitting you are overthinking.

Example:

You don't have to cut back and track and count cigarettes until you are tortured.

No wonder people get frantic.

They are always thinking "ok, when is the breaking point where I really feel the withdrawal"?  When's it gonna hit.? I'm freaking out waiting for it.

Maybe I'll just create it by thinking about it? (You Can You Know)

Its easier to let it happen if, over the month before you quit. you start saying I'll wait a little longer  to smoke that next one and just flow with it until you know it is time.

If you are even a little serious about quitting, you will know when you are ready. It's much easier to stop smoking if you take control and don't get uptight about worst case possibilities that most likely you've created in your head.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.