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2011

Smoking Curse  You Won’t Take Me Down   Smoking Curse  You Won’t Beat Me Now


I won’t let you..... make me drown    I’m pushing you........... from the inside out

Because I know   what you’re about  Smoking curse Smoking curse

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Smoking curse  You did your best to beat me Smoking curse  You did your best to cheat me

With disdain...... you cause me pain     I have decided …To refrain

Smoking curse, You won’t drive my hearse   Smoking curse You won’t control my brain

 

http://s1201.photobucket.com/albums/bb341/WhoheBe/?action=view&current=SC.mp4

Don't mentally shoot yourself in the foot before you even get out of the gate!

Look at this as an adventure not torture.

Torture's for tunas.

You're not a tuna

http://youtu.be/BANkMaLJaY4

That's all a few people do there is tell people how great ecigs are but

they never gave up the nicotine addiction themselves.

Smoking is bad for your body yes but they forget nicotine is still their master.


In my opinion, you don't keep slipping on the same quit attempt.

You start over each time so you prove to yourself

it isn't ok to slip.

After all, the only way to succeed is by not smoking.

just kidding. put the guns away!

i'm mel-ting  (NOT SMOKING)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aopdD9Cu-So

Its just about relearning how to live life without tobacco.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YJ3BTKMILw

Anyone can do it.

My only warning is don't overdo it on the drinking to where you lose your inhibitions.

Unless you are tied to something in a locked room and cannot get to a smoke or the key.

If that's the case?

Have a blast.

You can choose to be anxious and fearful

to quit smoking but, it is not required.

 

     Sure, you will have some rough days in first two to three weeks experiencing the physical withdrawal symptoms and beginning to unlearn the habit part of smoking. We all did.

      You will feel "out of it" like something is missing or not right.

      The memories of smoking are strong because they are connected to every emotion and life experience.

       Quitting is a process. After being on this and another site for over 10 years an average of 10 hours a day listening and watching and helping,  I see it as a definable process.

     You can begin to understand what is happening by living smoke free but, you must continue making the choice to not smoke for a period of time in order to unlearn the psychological connections and be successful.  As you live daily without smoking the unlearning process continues as you build new memories that don't include smoking.

     This is the secret of success. You must unlearn the hand to mouth and inhale motions that are connected to the memories and emotions experienced as a smoker.

     Enjoy the process, don't bemoan it. This is the only way to be free and not desire to be a smoker ever again.

     After about 130 days you will not be thinking of you as a smoker or of smoking as often.  Be willing to give yourself that amount of time without giving up on yourselves.

Accept your new path as a non smoker. The only way out is through.

 

Here Is The Timeline Of What You Can Expect

1st week toughest. (It feels so awkward to make the change initially)

2nd week is better (some are through the worst portion after 2 weeks)

3rd week is mo' better (most are through the worst withdrawal symptoms by the end of the third week)

4th week even better.

      By the beginning of the 5th week, you think you got it licked. BUT

The next three months are the test because you will get urges out of nowhere They can be strong they can last an hour or longer and be spread over 2-3 days, but these are usually far between.

Get up! Get busy. Use the tools that got you this far.

     They typically aren't stronger than anything you've already experienced. It's because they are so unexpected and can catch you off guard that makes them dangerous.

      You've smoked for a long time.

      Promise yourself 130 days from your last puff without giving in and you will rarely think of smoking.

 

and....laugh when you crave (chuckle in church)

 

(Please read the no mans land blog that follows which describes the feelings you might  experience at one point or another in those 3+ months after the first month quit)

No Mans Land Days 30 to 130 (approximate)

 

and also, about the two sets of seasons building your new non smoking memories below.

 

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2013/12/05/the-two-sets-of-seasons

I believe we all have crisis and tribulation about as equally as one another

Perhaps with different timing in our lives.

So are we going to guess when life will be just right to quit? That might not ever happen.

People die, people cheat on their spouses. People lose jobs, their comfort zone, their security, even

themselves.

If you believe your trials are worse than everyone else you may possibly be providing yourself with future

excuses.     A ***** in your armor is how I describe it.

 

This may not be apparent at the time,  but it may build during your quit  and surface and collapse it.

 

You cannot let your circumstances affect your mindset about quitting.

What Are You Waiting For?

Had an impromptu dinner invite last night.

They were in my neck of the woods for a late night flight to Thailand.

I suggested the place and we ordered a pitcher of margaritas.

Would have been the perfect excuse to smoke before I quit.

Smoking is not even a consideration once you have unlearned it.

An Elder is someone who has already quit, often for many years.

An elder spends a lot more time onsite than the average person.

This is no longer primarily about them but a passion to help others ditch this addiction.

This translates into uncountless hours learning, watching and filing away what we all go through,

not just our own quits.

We see the anguish and the despair that we have seen thousands of times.

When we do, there is something that clicks in our minds, something that helped someone in the past.

A concept, a word. a thought  that helped someone climb out of the pit.

 

It gives us great joy to help you

with

"Practical Answers For The Insane"

 

we love you all

You chose to smoke and now you choose to quit.


Will you go in a circle with this?

It's a very painful to start over and over because  every time you fail

you believe less and less you will succeed

THE GOOD NEWS

We can tell you what is going to happen so you know ahead of time and don't shoot yourself in the foot.

There is a timeline, a defineable base of expectations that nearly everyone goes through at the appointed

times of their quit.

 

Wouldn't you like to know what that is?

Wouldn't that help you relax instead of just blindly trying to tough it out?

 

So let's get real here and I'll lay it out for you.

This is based upon my own quit as well  as observing and helping for over 15,000 hours here and on

another website.

This is what everyone goes through in the first 4 months from their last puff.

You can stumble and fall as many times as you choose but it all comes back to 130 days from your last puff.

This is not tough love this is reality.


SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO  here we go

You will have some rough days in the beginning trying to shake the addiction

and then the habits of smoking. 

 

The physical addiction is the nicotine. It keeps you coming back, rules

your waking life, and causes you to think of nothing else when your brain needs it's fix.

 

The habit part  is memory driven. Every cig you smoked was tied to a thought, an emotion, a memory.

This is definitely the hardest part of the whole process because there are a lot of memories to relive

without smoking to replace those experienced while smoking

 

You will feel "out of it". You know? like something is missing or not right?

The memories of smoking are strong because of how long we smoked.

But, as I said, it is a process,  a defineable process.

 

You begin to understand what is happening by learning each day but you must keep making the choice to not

smoke  as you daily live without smoking and you create new memories that don't include smoking.

After about 130 days you will not be thinking of you as a smoker anymore or of smoking but very rarely.

So give yourself that amount of time without giving up on yourselves.


Here Is The Timeline Of What You Can Expect

1st week toughest

second week better

third week a little better

4th week better

5th week You think you got it licked.

The next three months (No Mans Land) are the true test because you will get urges out of nowhere.

They can be strong and they can last an hour or a few days, but fortunately they are rare.

It is because they are so surprising is why they are dangerous. they aren't any stronger than anything you've

already experienced.

So

Remember that you smoked for a long time.

Once again, give yourself 130 days from your last puff without giving in and you will rarely think of smoking.

The best part of all? We are here for you before you stumble.

Do not smoke without coming here first and posting HELP in a blog. Not just on your page. POST A BLOG and

wait for responses. Then do it again if you are still craving.

 

One More Thing

When You Get A Craving? LAUGH AT IT! This will totally unfocus the crave and keep you strong.

Sounds funny, but it works!

(I just saw that posted in a blog.)

 

Did you ever think there are alot more things quitters have in common than not?

Everyone thinks their quit is different (sometimes I think) because they want it to be.

 

But why would you even use a phrase like that except as an excuse leaving yourself open to failure?

There are 2 steps to quitting that work for EVERYONE!

The first one being making the decision you will not smoke anymore

the second?

Not giving up on yourself.

That's really all it boils down to for EVERYONE.

Don't Get Into Excuse Mode!

we will never hear from them. they don't exist so they never smoked.

i call them filler. have no idea why there are hundreds every day.

click on the members tab and scroll back a few pages looking at the "names"

there are 435,000 members on this site. (NOT)

actually, its two people. one person with an email generator and another

ssslapping on a password, and you and me of course!

i'm not going to smoke over this deception.

don't you either.

that'll make two ex smokers right there.

lets keep the quit.

both of us.

You can choose to do that but it is not a required.

You will have some rough days in the beginning trying to shake the addiction

and then the habits of smoking.

You will feel "out of it". You know like something is missing or not right?

The memories of smoking are strong because of how long we smoked.

But, it is a process. After being on this and another site for 4 1/2 years an average of 10

hours a day listening and watching and helping,  I see it as a defineable process.

You begin to understand what is happening by learning and you must keep making the choice to not

smoke.  As you daily live without smoking you build new memories that don't include smoking.

After about 130 days you will not be thinking of you as a smoker anymore or of smoking but very rarely.

So give yourself that amount of time without giving up on yourselves.

 

Here Is The Timeline Of What You Can Expect

1st week toughest

second week better

third week a little better

4th week better

5th week You think you got it licked.

The next three months are the test because you will get urges out of nowhere and they can be strong

they can last an hour or a few days, but they are rare.

because they are so surprising is why they are dangerous. they aren't any stronger than anything you've

already experienced.

So

You smoked for a long time.

Give yourself 130 days without giving in and you will rarely think of smoking.

to discourage smoking. the cigarette companies have to have them on the packs

by the Fall of 2012!

 

Had a great day late Fathers Day.

Jessie took me to see the new spielberg movie at the IMAX and then we had a nice lunch and came back here.

I turned her on to the storm chasers live streaming website and we watched a couple of tornados that didn't cause

property damage. I love all that driving in the rain and the excitement as they spot and plot their way to tornados.

the cloud formations and skies are breathtaking as are the wonderful greens and browns in contrast down the rural

roads

You will feel down and up and down and up for the first 30 days

then you will feel like you got it beat. You may get apathetic and let your guard down.

But the next three months are critical because you will get hit a few times out of the blue with unexpected

thoughts of smoking. They may last for an hour or a few days

You aren't automatically going to be miserable for the whole 130 days unless you choose to.

The good days will always outnumber the bad.

I've seen this thousands of times over.

Relax into it at that point but, be vigilant and remember the benefits of doing this.

This journey isn't about quitting in the end its about learning to live without smoking.

Hundreds of thousands, millions even,  have gone before you and felt exactly as you feel and succeeded.

And every day's a heavy load

You make us really proud of you

Combine our strength and we'll get through


Well,  If you stumble n' yet you stay

We're proud of you in the same way

Because you have not given up,

YES!  YOU will have your victory!

For  some shoes and a handbag or two.

Is this the place I heard of where they sell them?

I CHALLENGE YOU NEW QUITTERS TO GO 4 MONTHS.

That may sound sound impossible right now but

you will reach a point when you are asking "how long is this going to take before I don't often think

of smoking or myself as a smoker?"

 

Well after 4 1/2 years on quit smoking sites this is my answer.

 

I can't tell you how many people send me a note after they reach this point and say

"I was so upset when you said it takes 4 months."

"It made me want to go 4 months just to prove you wrong.

But you were so right on"

 

Hey people

You smoked for a heck of a lot longer than 4 months.

Take The Challenge!!

The Gauntlet has been thrown down!!

 

This is your Life!!

Go outside someplace where you feel safe

If the sun is out turn your face to the sun and close your eyes

Just feel the breeze

the warm sun



If its nighttime it still works.

 

 

closing your eyes kind of puts you in a magical place.

the other conditions re-focus you (breeze. warmth. coolness at night

 

(See. All you have to do is break those thought patterns for a short time and the craving goes away

They wet their pants but they did not smoke!

1.  the groups died in the transition

one of the reasons
is that you used to be able to see when someone posted in a group on the main page.
that used to peak peoples interest.
now all you see is so and so posted in river annotate.

2.  we lost the ability to get to our sitemail from our own pages


anybody have any more?

until you change your mind.

you are cordially invited to smoke until you die.

we'll do the lungs.

perhaps your crematorium will give you the smokers discount .

is it the joy of finding some place to do it?

is it the peace of mind it gives you?

is it a way to spend the extra money you earn?

is it a way to make your car look and smell "lived in"?

do you just plain like to choke?

do you love "that look" people give you?

is it empowering to be "different"?

is it the thrill of getting away with something?

i bet it's the yellow finger isn't it?


are we having fun yet?

it's pretty friggin stupid and one day it will topple your whole world!

oh, you're getting away with something all right. getting away with killing yourself!

Quit or smell like *hit

 

COME HERE AND POST THE WORD "HELP" BEFORE YOU SMOKE AND WAIT FOR RESPONSES.

THEN? DO IT AGAIN!!

IT DOESN'T DO       MUCH   ANY GOOD AFTERWARDS!!!

Didn't he realize Gloria All-Red would get involved eventually??


Hoggie and i aren't smoking over it!

And why can't you put a  " captcha"  in place to keep the spammer bots from signing up and posting here?

I see 7 probable spammers onsite right this moment?

CAN SOMETHING BE DONE Besides Ignoring This?

Did I let them in?

 

NO

(((((((Marcie)))))))

Please?

It took most of yesterday to set up whats going on today.


We are shutting down the fire system on a high rise in downtown LA to add some sprinklers in a unit.

Theres a building manager

a building engineer

The fire sprinkler company

and a deputy inspector

and me

The underlined is the one doing the actual work.

Looks like a government job doesn't it? LOL

I'm not going to smoke over it and not just because the system is going to be turned off.

It's that stuff that settles on everything in an area where people smoke.

Toxic Too!

i kind of roam around the site.

i may click on members tab, and the first thing that comes up is all the

people who have signed up for the ex with the last person to sign up at the top

of the list.

some have pictures, some don't.

many of the usernames don't look like anything a human would use.

its like they are randomly generated. this is where i spot spammers.

i have never seen more than 40 people logged

in at one time and usually, its many of the same people. so, how can there be 430,000+

active members? it would seem like one hundredth of one thousandth of the members here have

ever been active. its been like this for the three years i've been here. can anyone enlighten me?

Just like In Your Quit!

Something's Going To Come Up That Is Unexpected.

You've heard the term, "expect the unexpected?"


Thats why we stay and enjoy helping you.

We're here to take you over the rough spots and every step of the way.

We know we'll never smoke again. We want you to know that too.


That said, check out the" hamdoggers "  I made last night!

 


I Got Laughing In The Video. LOL

http://s1201.photobucket.com/albums/bb341/WhoheBe/Hamdoggers/?action=view&current=Hamdoggers.mp4

BUT I'M NOT GOING TO SMOKE OVER IT!!!

 

                                                          <WEINER MOBILE PHOTO BOOTH>

                                                        [Take Off Your Shirt And Snap A few]        

HOW TO IDENTIFY A METH LAB

(DO NOT SMOKE OVER THIS)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66Hkxr5hTsM

 

I LOVE THIS MARY!! True Love!!

You're doing it each time you choose to smoke

:-)

Go to google

theres two les paul pickups and some strings. you can play the strings

the middle set of strings is the one chord

The left ones are the four chord

and the ones on the right are the five chord

a typical progression is 1-4-5 so you can play a song

they even let you record it and theres a site you can go retrieve what you recorded.

 

thanks Tam

a. I mix the can with ______________________

b. I Put It In my______________________________

b. Its all over my_______________________________

c. I have to have__________________________( this) with it

he did      n't    do it!  (ooops. he did do it)


LOL


but I won't smoke over it

 

I started at 17 and smoked a pack or more a day for 40 years. So, 4 1/2 years ago, a friend said, "you should quit smoking, it isn't good for you."

I considered the concept and my sub-conscious mind started the process of working on it during the month before I quit. I did not decide to quit in one month. It was just the way it worked out.

I began testing the waters by saying "wait a little longer" to myself between smokes. That gave me the temporary experience of how it would feel to live without smoking a cigarette when I wanted one, made me realize I didn't need to freak out, and, automatically made me cut down.

There was no weaning regimen of 20 today, 19 tomorrow, etc. Too much stress and pressure.

 

I feel people can be their own enemies when it comes to kicking this habit

I knew I would get to the point of saying, this is my last pack.

I didn't push myself to that point. I just let it happen.

There was no conscious timetable.

The Friday before my quit I bought my last pack and I knew that was it.

(I quit first thing on the next Tuesday morning, the day after New Years. See keeping the stress of New Years Resolutions out of the mix)

 

I had my last cig at 7:15am.

I chose quitting in the morning because I felt sleeping and letting the mind worry about quitting all night would make me want a smoke moreso in the morning.

I feel when we wake up in the morning, the memories of the habit kick in so I figured if I had my last one in the morning, the start of my quitting would not be ruled by those feelings and ingrained memories. I would have my last smoke and say to my body, "I am now in control, get used to it!" and have the whole day and evening to get my quit solidified.

It worked for me.

 

I got the patch and used 10 during the first 14 days. If I forgot to put one on, I didn't freak out. I just left it off and rode out the cravings and learned to laugh each time I craved. This made me realize how much control smoking used to have over me but also, broke the ingrained thinking of reaching for a smoke, and affirmed to myself that I could win each battle one at a time and with it, the war of this addiction.

There is no luck or hope, or wishing my friends, only a decision to quit.

Then, honoring that decision, NO MATTER WHAT!

 

carp

I will help people who want my help quitting smoking in the style the site is accustomed to from me

and with compassion.


The rest of the conditions are on my page

Your quit may be the best thing going for your self esteem and your future


Hold on.

You can clean out the basket as you get stronger

Seems he  was more interested in getting people to use it than helping them decrease and end their nicotine

addiction.      Go Figger!


For the new quitters:

Quitting tobacco is half of the process

The other half is eliminating the desire to get a fix every half hour ad infinitum.

Quitting tobacco saves your lungs and makes you not stink

Having to feed an addiction ahead of everything else is not freedom.

 

We want to help you with both halves and make you whole!

AIDS

CAR CRASHES

DRUGS

ALCOHOL

AND MURDER

COMBINED  !!!!

http://www.tobaccofreeca.com/emerging_high_mov.html

It is my honor to help you quit smoking every way I can.

And yes, I am now 6'2"

come on out and fight like a spam !

 

and no smoking

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