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Sometimes I Think."This Could Only Be Happening To Me"

JonesCarpeDiem
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I have a 90 year old neighbor who thinks she's normal

Sometimes even I think she's normal

when I first moved here she kind of latched onto me to be her biatch

you know be her what ever when ever guy

She never really considers the effort or expense she is asking of someone when she asks

And yet if you asked her for the same kind of favors she would have no trouble saying no

example

she had this oil string art lamp in her garage that she wanted to have cleaned (you know

the kind where it looks like it is raining

So she wants me to drive 20 miles each way to take it there and back and then do it again

when its ready.

So I tell her its going to take 2 hours twice (this is los angeles people

and 14 gallons of gas and there must be a better way to make this happen like a courier

or have these people  who do the work come get it or ???


Then she had me doing all her shopping like 4 times a week so I made an agreement with her that I didn’t mind doing it but that I didn’t want to make special trips and she had to have cash to reimburse me for the groceries because I am on a tight budget plus I didn’t want to have to make trips to the bank and stand in lines just to deposit small check reimbursements

This was fine except she wouldn’t get out to get the cash and she’d be short sometimes. I always gave her the receipts so i suggested she write me a check for $200 or so and I would just provide the receipts and keep a running tally on the advance. this never happened by the way.

So the last time I went shopping for her I broke my own rule because I didn’t intend to shop that day  She gave me a list of 10 things and said she had $30 and I said that should be doable based on her list well on the way to the store she calls me on my cell and add about 12 things that are going to push it over the cash she has on hand (which meant I couldn’t buy any groceries for me because I was spending my money on her and going to have to wait to get my own money back

so I told her that and I buy all the stuff and drop it off and put it in the kitchen and remind tell her that the extra stuff pushed it over the $30. bla bla bla

Anyway she found a large bill and I told her I was going to go out the next day and would get her $19 change and bring it then So about 4 hours later she calls and she is all worked up about her change And I said “I’m about mad enough to spend my time and my gas to go get your change so I can not deal with this weirdness ever again”

So I did and I’ve kept my distance for the past 6 months I figure “let her kids deal with it”

So I get a call from her a couple three weeks ago and she says someone has been in her garage and the door has been left open

so I tell her that there are only a few common garage door codes that are used and anyone could have opened it inadvertently and nothing had been disturbed in the garage so not to worry about it

Today I was having a nap and I get a call and I wasn’t going to pick up

Well she had called and accused me of opening her garage door and scaring her housekeeper and told me not to do it again 

Then I get a call from my roommate saying that she called to tell him I was going through her garage and she was going to call the police


I’ve tried to call her 4 or more times but she won’t pick up


WTH?

I'm not going to smoke over it 

Does anyone have bail?

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.