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2011

if you are a quitter like me who didn't cough up crap from your lungs after you quit....

while you sleep, the gunk is swept up to your throat by cilia and then you swallow it

and then....

well can you guess?  can you guess?

it comes out your zhangwan as yuhont   

 

you better keep some road tar remover next to the commode

or it will hontyu

just sayin'

I call No Man's Land that period of time between about 1 month and 3 or 4 months into your quit, or about the time from the end of your first month until you become an Elder. This is a time when many people slip and go into a full relapse and have to start over... if they can start over, that is. I have some observations that may help some of you who are literally hanging on by your fingernails... or who may find yourself there tomorrow.

The first month is an exhausting but exhilirating experience... you are locked in nearly daily struggles and you get the satisfaction of successfully beating your addiction that day. You go to bed a WINNER each night (as Troutnut would say), and you are justifiably proud of yourself. Your friends and family are also supportive as they see you struggling each day to maintain your quit. And you are being constantly supported here, whether or not you post... just being here is good for your quit. And so, the battles are won and it actually becomes easier and the battles occur less often as you finish 30 days or so.

Around 60 days, you're starting to have some really good days, with very few craves and some nice insights about yourself... but then again, you still have some bad days. Those bad days can really be depressing... you begin to wonder if you're ever gonna be able to relax. Your junkie is whispering to you, telling you that 'just one' won't hurt. You've conquered your daily triggers, but now you start trippiing over the occasional ones... a death in the family, unexpectedly bad news, money problems, health problems, going on a long car ride, a trip to the bar, or whatever. You have a strong crave and you begin to doubt your ability to keep your quit.

In addition, the 3D support that you used to get is pretty much gone... non-smokers figure you should be 'over it' by now, smokers don't like to hang around you much because they feel guilty and addicted (remember that feeling?), and people who have quit may not remember just how much love and support you need well into the first few months. They all think you should be 'over it', you think you should be 'over it'... and the temptation is to have 'just one' to see if you ARE over it.

But of course you're not over it, are you? That 'just one' whisper becomes much much louder and becomes 'just one more'... and each time you give in to that whisper, the craves come harder and sooner. The one way to guarantee that your craves will never go away is to light up, to slide that old cigarette needle into your arm and shoot up. Those craves will be back and keep coming back. But if you protect your quit, your craves will eventually weaken and become even fewer and farther between.

As you get to around 100 days or so (some will be a bit longer)... you will begin to really get a healthy perspective on your addiction. You will see the huge role that smoking played in your life, you will see clearly what that addiction really cost you. And you will understand that it was a very high price to pay... the loss of your confidence, your emotions, your self-control... your SELF. All enslaved to your addiction.

And you will begin to see that you can look forward to a non-smoking future without romanticizing your addiction. You see it clearly for the life-stealing evil it was... and is. You see a much different future for yourself than your past has been. And it no longer scares the crap out of you to think that you are done smoking... in fact, you embrace that thought with joy every day.

But you have to get out of No Man's Land first. How can you help yourself? And how can those of us who have been through it help you?

First of all, you need to understand that you aren't alone. If you haven't already done so, make a pinky-finger promise with 2 or 3 good quitbuds and exchange phone numbers with them. Promise to call them if you're ever in trouble, and make them promise the same. These are your 'life and death' quitbuddies... you are literally trusting each other with your lives. Then call them... often. Just to see how they are doing, and to tell them you're doing well too. Be totally honest with them, this is life and death.

Second, understand that you're going to have some unexpectedly bad days... but they are going to be further apart. Shrug them off, laugh your way through them, call your quitbuddies... whatever it takes to get through them without smoking. Some battles will be easy, some will be hard. Come here and post, send qmail, exercise, learn to cook, take up a new hobby. Whatever it takes, keep going to bed a WINNER each night.

Third, ask some of the older qsters to keep an eye on you... to contact you to see how you're doing. I have been asked to do that for several of you recently and I am happy to do that, as I am sure that others are too. We know that you just need to hold on a little bit longer and change your focus just a little to make that breakthrough. And then you will OWN your quit, and it will be a very comfortable thing.

Last, take a deep and honest look at your past life... your life as a smoker and compare it to what your life is like now... and what it will be like in the future. You have to develop that vision of your future, of the person that you are going to BECOME now that you have freed yourself. You have to believe in yourself. You have to love yourself enough to deny yourself your addiction.

No Man's Land doesn't have to be so lonely and scary and dangerous. You need some company and some courage and some faith in yourself. And when you emerge from it, you will not be the same person that entered it.

Never never never question your decision to quit! This is the most loving thing that you will ever do for yourself. A few days of discomfort in exchange for a lifetime of freedom. You will never find another deal like it.

 

i didn't write this but it helped me to understand what I was experiencing when i was in no man's land

(For Those Just Starting This Adventure)

It takes about 4 months of not smoking and relearning your responses when you

would have chosen to smoke to get you to 90% of where you need to be to not think of yourself

as a smoker.

 

 

 

Will you give it 4 months to break free of tobacco?
 

Matt is feeling really bad and they are taking him to the hospital.

evidently the drugs that killed his MRSA infection a few months ago completely wipes out your immune system

If you're the praying kind please send them up would you?


thanks

I'm too exy for my shirt, with all those cherry burns, and stinky nasty smell

Always smoking when I drank, often I got tanked, and had to use a pail

Now I'm not weaving around, not driving upside down, now I drink ginger ale

(try singing this to the tune of the old grey mare for now)

 

I’d like to go fishin’ (why?)    Just for the Halibut

 I won't be smoking over it   Only lemon butter it

 Then put it on the grill (why?) Just for the halibut

 No other reason than that

 

I’ll make a nice pilaf  (why?) Just for the halibut

 I won't be smoking over it   Be makin' some asparagus

 Might even make a salad (why?) Just for the Halibut

 No other reason than that

 

How ‘bout Gewurstraminer (why) just for the halibut

 Just for the Halibut  I won't be smoking over it!

 and then I’ll make dessert (why?) just for the Halibut

 No other reason than that

 

I think I’ll take a nap  (why?) Just for the Halibut

 I won't be smoking over it, I got a Little sleepy but

 then I’ll take a *rap   (why?)  Just for the Halibut

 No other reason than that

The beginning of Nessie,
The end of unicorn,
The start of nothing,
And the finish of man.

What is it?



The following riddle is for Giulia  (PS-The answer is B)

the beginning of Bessie

the end of unicorb

the start of bothing

And the finish of mab


what is it Giulia?

AND, NO SMOKING!

And I doubt he even told his wife?


It's a bouncing baby FULL-TERM QUIT!


This is what happens with unprotected success people!


Congratulations George!

A scruffy Alabama terrier mix named Mason was whisked away by fierce twisters last month, prompting his owners, who lost their home in the storm, to fear the worst. But the redoubtable mutt apparently crawled back to his home  with two broken legs in a remarkable tale of survival.

Local news outlet WBRC reports that mason was blown from the garage in Birmingham where he was hiding on April 27. His owners looked for him everywhere but couldn't find him. Twenty three days later they found Mason waiting for them on their front porch when they returned to the house to look through the debris.

Find your way back to where you were before you smoked

Doesn't that just about cover it?

to add the recipients names and get the file to the recipients.

if anyone would like to help in this way, please pm me or post on my message board

 

thanks

dale

 

ps the template is in word

Boredom Stress Finances Relationships Restlessness Insecurity

These are some of the reasons that make us feel we can't give up smoking.

NOW IT'S JUST THE FEAR OF FAILURE

If we are open and honest with ourselves and put our integrity into it

we can be free forever.

 

This Is No Idle Talk

 

That's what it's going to take  Nothing less

 

We know all about it and we are here to help you EVERY STEP OF THE WAY

http://www.kfor.com/news/livestreaming/

 

Peggy Is Asking For Prayers. They are due to hit her area any time now

After 4 months or so, you have been through a major life issue or two and you learned you could get through

them without smoking.

You've worked through the daily triggers the first two months and the sneaky ones the last two months.

So here you are.

At this stage in your quit you should know in your gut  that smoking is unnecessary to live your life.

You can now reach for a pack and laugh when you realize its just a  memory, a ghost pack.

there will still be some seasonal triggers you haven't experienced yet and maybe something tragic will

happen, but you've done the work and now..

 

You have to be true to yourself.    You have worked too hard to be free.

Nothing and no one can make you smoke....but, silly us...we still have free will

So we are right back at the beginning...The decision not to smoke.

But now, you have the power!!  You are in control!

And this is right where you want to be!!

the end of the world has been "reset" to October 21st*

Pipcorn Please

 

*let's go camping Harold

Harold Camping, who predicted that 200 million Christians would be taken to heaven Saturday before catastrophe struck the planet, apologized Monday evening for not having the dates "worked out as accurately as I could have."  (LOL)

He spoke to the media at the Oakland headquarters of his Family Radio International, which spent millions of dollars_ some of it from donations made by followers — on more than 5,000 billboards and 20 RVs plastered with the Judgment Day message.

It was not the first time Camping was forced to explain when his prediction didn't come to pass. The 89-year-old retired civil engineer also prophesied the Apocalypse would come in 1994, but said later that didn't happen then because of a mathematical error.

reminder

this falls on a Friday. Get all your drinking done on Thursday people!


All candy manufacturers- We will be celebrating "end of the world" and not halloween this year.

redesign your packaging and get it  on the shelves by labor day.

Horrible Disaster

Worst Tornado In The United States Since 1953

"the ability to move spontaneously and actively, consuming energy in the process"

(hint-it's not tearing the house apart looking for a smoke or looking for butts in the garage)

Pip had a good finale       What about the rest of you?

Did you break any No Years Resolutions?

Just went through a stack of credit card offers and credit card correspondence over a foot high

You can't toss it because it has internet activation codes and your address on it.

 

Why do these people think we want this crap? there's like 20 from each company?

Orchard Bank is the worst. They probably have their ATM's in an orchard somewhere.

And there is so much filler. 3  pages and the envelopes?

My poor shredder has a stroke about every 10 entries.

I have to cool it off and pray to the confetti God that it keeps working.

What a way to spend a Sunday!

But, I'm not smoking.

Just Venting

Put a little sugar on your quit and then, put some on someone elses.

It'll make your quit and someone else's day sparkle

It was wonderful to not wake up to 12 spam posts this morning

and I wanted to thank you before the world ends


Well I have 1600 tobacco free days in another hour.

Do you think I'm gonna smoke over it?

I doubt it.

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Put on your Magma Hoppers People

When the earth breaks open it's going to be hot!

 

(PS Hoggie just fawted. Something is amiss)

But I won't smoke over it

 

evidently most followers in the church sold everything they had?

what will they do with the money? you can't take it with you!

and the church staff is hoping they have jobs on Monday. LOL

I think I'll write a song about handbags and shoes.

Two of my favorite things

The trend that manufacturers are using to beat the recession and us?

They are giving us less but charging us more.

Remember when a half gallon of ice cream meant two quarts?

Now they give us 1 1/2 quarts and charge the same or more.

Remember when a half gallon of orange juice was 64oz. Now they are packaging in in 59oz bottles.


Now, Cigarette companies are adding more nicotine to give us more bang for our buck.

Don't you think we should be praising big tobacco for doing everything in their power to keep us hooked?


Praise Big Tobacco!!!

And hold it like a cigarette

and put it to our mouths like a cigarette

and inhale like we're having a cigarette

 

AND PRACTICE NOT SMOKING!

5% of people who try to quit smoking make it a year.

you might get "lucky" and be one of them

or

you might ask them how much "luck" had to do with thier success?

or

ask them how easy life was for them that made it possible for them to succeed?

obviously, they couldn't possibly have the same kind of problems in life that you have or

they could not have succeeded.


and, just why do people who have tried to quit smoking a "thousand" times fail?

do you think it might be because they keep doing the same thing expecting a different result?


People there are some tried and true things THAT WORK!!!


You don't tell people to do what they want or they just keep going in circles.

this is why so many people don't make it!

there were three eggs and 3 cups of water in that measuring cup!

It sounded like a shotgun blast

But, i'm not going to smoke over it!

(yes I did do a thorough cleaning of the oven-well it looked good to me until i saw this picture. LOL)

Just saw this on the news.


testers made jello in three different colors but only one flavor and did taste testing.

the red one was always associated by test subjects with what we  would normally think.

(Cherry, strawberry, watermelon)

the blue color was connected to blueberry

the yellow was lemon

when the test subjects were asked if they believed all the colors were only one flaver they said NO.

what this affirms to me is how our minds can be fooled and brainwashed.


If you think you can not quit smoking?

Change your mind and change your outcome!

What do you think?

(did I mention these are self cleaning?)

all over the friggin carpet...

and i'll cut the whole side off in one swipe and put my lips to the delicious flesh

then I will turn it over and do the other side.

mmmmmmmmmmmm

The seeds are not a problem to spot!

what am I eating and what am I not???

Its super admin

faster than a speeding  spammer

able to crush their blogs in a single bound


look out

its a bird

its a plane

Its Super Admin, Got Rid Of Our Pain!!

Reruns

 

they must be trying to save on dna tests.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYgOlqinH7A


Ooo Eee Oooo Ah Ah

Big bang better butter them Tam

My Neighbor, CONTINUED

about a year ago,  my "neighbor"  found some termite droppings around a couple of her windows and

decided to have her  house fumigated. But who of the many people she called would do it?

she wanted me to meet with each of them at her home when they did their walkthroughs and then she

wanted me to go through their written estimates and help her choose someone.

Well I told her, we could just get someone to tent her home and I could do the repairs.

(I am a general contractor and a carpenter by trade)

So after I spend a bunch of time trying to help her weed through these people, her son says he will make the

decision.   So, all my time was wasted and she had someone else make the repairs.

Of course I received nothing for my time.


Then there was last Thanksgiving

My daughter and I were cooking together and the plan was to let her take the majority of the food home for

her BF and  her after.

This "neighbor" had already told me her grand daughter was coming and they were going out for

thanksgiving.  (She didn't invite herself over thank God)

So, the day after thanksgiving, she calls me and says, "We never got out. Would you cook

Thanksgiving  dinner for us? I'll pay you."

Well I was already burned out from cooking the day before and  I really didn't want to do it but I did.

I went out and spent $22 on the stuff I needed and then spent 6 hours cooking. They enjoyed it immensely

and the next day she gave me $30 for my efforts. (which included the $22 I spent out of pocket)


You want to hear more about "user" neighbors?

Abusive Neighbors "R" Us

if you're gonna sell a steak don't do it in Chickenese

 

If you're going to sell a shoe, do it in shoechuan AND HOLD THE RICE!!

 

Where's the friggin fortune cookie?

I have a 90 year old neighbor who thinks she's normal

Sometimes even I think she's normal

when I first moved here she kind of latched onto me to be her ******

you know be her what ever when ever guy

She never really considers the effort or expense she is asking of someone when she asks

And yet if you asked her for the same kind of favors she would have no trouble saying no

example

she had this oil string art lamp in her garage that she wanted to have cleaned (you know

the kind where it looks like it is raining

So she wants me to drive 20 miles each way to take it there and back and then do it again

when its ready.

So I tell her its going to take 2 hours twice (this is los angeles people

and 14 gallons of gas and there must be a better way to make this happen like a courier

or have these people  who do the work come get it or ???


Then she had me doing all her shopping like 4 times a week so I made an agreement with her that I didn’t mind doing it but that I didn’t want to make special trips and she had to have cash to reimburse me for the groceries because I am on a tight budget plus I didn’t want to have to make trips to the bank and stand in lines just to deposit small check reimbursements

This was fine except she wouldn’t get out to get the cash and she’d be short sometimes. I always gave her the receipts so i suggested she write me a check for $200 or so and I would just provide the receipts and keep a running tally on the advance. this never happened by the way.

So the last time I went shopping for her I broke my own rule because I didn’t intend to shop that day  She gave me a list of 10 things and said she had $30 and I said that should be doable based on her list well on the way to the store she calls me on my cell and add about 12 things that are going to push it over the cash she has on hand (which meant I couldn’t buy any groceries for me because I was spending my money on her and going to have to wait to get my own money back

so I told her that and I buy all the stuff and drop it off and put it in the kitchen and remind tell her that the extra stuff pushed it over the $30. bla bla bla

Anyway she found a large bill and I told her I was going to go out the next day and would get her $19 change and bring it then So about 4 hours later she calls and she is all worked up about her change And I said “I’m about mad enough to spend my time and my gas to go get your change so I can not deal with this weirdness ever again”

So I did and I’ve kept my distance for the past 6 months I figure “let her kids deal with it”

So I get a call from her a couple three weeks ago and she says someone has been in her garage and the door has been left open

so I tell her that there are only a few common garage door codes that are used and anyone could have opened it inadvertently and nothing had been disturbed in the garage so not to worry about it

Today I was having a nap and I get a call and I wasn’t going to pick up

Well she had called and accused me of opening her garage door and scaring her housekeeper and told me not to do it again 

Then I get a call from my roommate saying that she called to tell him I was going through her garage and she was going to call the police


I’ve tried to call her 4 or more times but she won’t pick up


WTH?

I'm not going to smoke over it 

Does anyone have bail?

can you get your head around the fact you are putting tobacco in first place in your life and you don't even

know it?

are you afraid to quit?

are you afraid of what you'll find or something bad happening because you quit?

We are always afraid of the unknown.

the worst rarely happens.

quitting smoking is never as bad as what people make it to be in their own heads before they start.

How come I have to take out a loan

to buy butter?

or bacon?

or chicken wings?

the people i meet here.

its much like the love you see going on here every day

i love to laugh and i find so much joy interacting with some of you whether in emails

or a phone call.

so i say, yes there are some weirdos online pretending they are someone they are not

but there are also people who can just be themselves and share the joy of living without

pretense and, i find that beauty in the internet. A freedom and a lack of judgement

that is refreshing and often lacking in 3d and a childlike playfulness that most of us gave

up at some point in our lives that is rekindled.

anyway, i'm not going to smoke over it. why would  I?

jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007

the fight

Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 May 14, 2011

I hate to see people call quitting a fight and yet it can be the fight of our lives


I'd prefer to see an assured controlled outcome


I'd prefer to see someone assured with the knowledge they will never smoke again settle into quitting and


watch life  get better every day


It honestly is what we make it


that final decision that assures success is your first step

you see, final is FINAL

Don't be afraid to jump in!

QUITTING SMOKING AND LUCK DO NOT BELONG IN THE SAME SENTENCE

BUT

FRIDAY THE 13TH AND LUCK DO!!!

SO

GOOD LUCK!

Its Called COPD

Its one serious result of smoking cigarettes

Can you live with it?

Not well!

Well, since luck has nothing to do with quitting, I say NO EXCUSES !

 

(Unless you meet up with Freddie K before breakfast. LOL)

It means there have been others who have gone before and marked the trail.

it means we all share that road and it's our duty to keep those markers polished

for those who follow.

it means this is a process and people no different than you or me "made it"

follow the signs to freedom from tobacco my friends!

dale

I had more hair when I was 2!   Anyone own a time machine?

I call No Man's Land that period of time between about 1 month and 3 or 4 months into your quit, or about the time from the end of your first month until you become an Elder. This is a time when many people slip and go into a full relapse and have to start over... if they can start over, that is. I have some observations that may help some of you who are literally hanging on by your fingernails... or who may find yourself there tomorrow.

The first month is an exhausting but exhilirating experience... you are locked in nearly daily struggles and you get the satisfaction of successfully beating your addiction that day. You go to bed a WINNER each night (as Troutnut would say), and you are justifiably proud of yourself. Your friends and family are also supportive as they see you struggling each day to maintain your quit. And you are being constantly supported here, whether or not you post... just being here is good for your quit. And so, the battles are won and it actually becomes easier and the battles occur less often as you finish 30 days or so.

Around 60 days, you're starting to have some really good days, with very few craves and some nice insights about yourself... but then again, you still have some bad days. Those bad days can really be depressing... you begin to wonder if you're ever gonna be able to relax. Your junkie is whispering to you, telling you that 'just one' won't hurt. You've conquered your daily triggers, but now you start trippiing over the occasional ones... a death in the family, unexpectedly bad news, money problems, health problems, going on a long car ride, a trip to the bar, or whatever. You have a strong crave and you begin to doubt your ability to keep your quit.

In addition, the 3D support that you used to get is pretty much gone... non-smokers figure you should be 'over it' by now, smokers don't like to hang around you much because they feel guilty and addicted (remember that feeling?), and people who have quit may not remember just how much love and support you need well into the first few months. They all think you should be 'over it', you think you should be 'over it'... and the temptation is to have 'just one' to see if you ARE over it.

But of course you're not over it, are you? That 'just one' whisper becomes much much louder and becomes 'just one more'... and each time you give in to that whisper, the craves come harder and sooner. The one way to guarantee that your craves will never go away is to light up, to slide that old cigarette needle into your arm and shoot up. Those craves will be back and keep coming back. But if you protect your quit, your craves will eventually weaken and become even fewer and farther between.

As you get to around 100 days or so (some will be a bit longer)... you will begin to really get a healthy perspective on your addiction. You will see the huge role that smoking played in your life, you will see clearly what that addiction really cost you. And you will understand that it was a very high price to pay... the loss of your confidence, your emotions, your self-control... your SELF. All enslaved to your addiction.

And you will begin to see that you can look forward to a non-smoking future without romanticizing your addiction. You see it clearly for the life-stealing evil it was... and is. You see a much different future for yourself than your past has been. And it no longer scares the crap out of you to think that you are done smoking... in fact, you embrace that thought with joy every day.

But you have to get out of No Man's Land first. How can you help yourself? And how can those of us who have been through it help you?

First of all, you need to understand that you aren't alone. If you haven't already done so, make a pinky-finger promise with 2 or 3 good quitbuds and exchange phone numbers with them. Promise to call them if you're ever in trouble, and make them promise the same. These are your 'life and death' quitbuddies... you are literally trusting each other with your lives. Then call them... often. Just to see how they are doing, and to tell them you're doing well too. Be totally honest with them, this is life and death.

Second, understand that you're going to have some unexpectedly bad days... but they are going to be further apart. Shrug them off, laugh your way through them, call your quitbuddies... whatever it takes to get through them without smoking. Some battles will be easy, some will be hard. Come here and post, send qmail, exercise, learn to cook, take up a new hobby. Whatever it takes, keep going to bed a WINNER each night.

Third, ask some of the older qsters to keep an eye on you... to contact you to see how you're doing. I have been asked to do that for several of you recently and I am happy to do that, as I am sure that others are too. We know that you just need to hold on a little bit longer and change your focus just a little to make that breakthrough. And then you will OWN your quit, and it will be a very comfortable thing.

Last, take a deep and honest look at your past life... your life as a smoker and compare it to what your life is like now... and what it will be like in the future. You have to develop that vision of your future, of the person that you are going to BECOME now that you have freed yourself. You have to believe in yourself. You have to love yourself enough to deny yourself your addiction.

No Man's Land doesn't have to be so lonely and scary and dangerous. You need some company and some courage and some faith in yourself. And when you emerge from it, you will not be the same person that entered it.

Never never never question your decision to quit! This is the most loving thing that you will ever do for yourself. A few days of discomfort in exchange for a lifetime of freedom. You will never find another deal like it.

 

i didn't write this but it helped me to understand what I was experiencing when i was in no man's land

After 4 months or so, you have been through a major life issue or two and you learned you could get through

them without smoking.

You've worked through the daily triggers the first two months and the sneaky ones the last two months.

So here you are.

At this stage in your quit you should know in your gut  that smoking is not required to live your life.

You can now reach for a pack and laugh when you realize its just a  memory, a ghost pack.

there will still be some seasonal triggers you haven't experienced yet and maybe something tragic will

happen, but you've done the work and now..

 

You have to be true to yourself.    You have worked too hard to be free.

Nothing and no one can make you smoke....but, silly us...we still have free will

So we are right back at the beginning...The decision not to smoke.

But now, you have the power!!  You are in control!

And this is right where you want to be!!

WOOOO

 

 

 

HOOO !!!!

You have one hour

the site will be down for three hours beginning an hour from now

A friends 15 year old daughter has "fallen in love" online with a 20 year old boy in England.

Now she won't go to school so she can visit with him, physically attacks her mother for trying to end it

by cutting off the internet and shutting down her iphone, and has threatened suicide if this is done.


See, her brain releases dopamine when she is thinking of this guy and can't  stand to think of not getting that

fix. She doesn't even understand what's happening. She doesn't understand they will most likely never

meet. She doesn't understand that she is not there and he can do any damn thing he likes and she will

never know it but be just as jealous when he doesn't meet her at the designated time. She doesn't

understand that he may be older than he says and possibly a pervert. It's a sick addiction.


Same kind of addiction as when we smoked.

The nicotine causes a release of dopamine in your brain.


So parents, watch your kids. This could happen to them in their formative years and ruin their lives.


And, break that smoking habit.    We're all doing it here!

Here’s how I post a picture or graphic

you need a free photobucket account (Flickr or Picassa Web May work also
then,
you need to upload your pictures from your pc that you want to use in order to obtain link codes which are the whole secret to this

If you want to get a picture from google or some other site, you need to download it by right clicking and then choosing save while you are hovered over it.

That downloads it to your desktop or temp files folder or your downloads folder.
then  upload it to photo bucket same as before
you then hover over the top edge of the picture in photobucket and there will be a dropdown list

You select share then more options and then get link code. I use the second one down (direct link for layout pages] and left click holding down will highlight it in blue then you right click over it and choose save

That puts it on you pc's temporary clipboard. then you open the little icon on the right above the text area of your blog and paste it into the top open white space by right clicking and choosing paste.

then you size it so it doesn't take up the whole page where it says height and width. put your mouse in the top one of those two and it will show you the original size of the photo example 1024 x768.
you type the size you want in the upper of the two boxes say 400 x 400
and that will adjust the bottom number automatically,

then you choose save. Voila you see your picture in the message box
if it isn't the right size choose edit and hit the backspace button to erase that attempt. recopy the link from photobucket to the photo icon and try the sizing again.  then you add any text you want and choose publish.

 

If you want to add a picture on someone's message board or your own page,  you choose the third line down on photobucket not the second and copy and paste that code (html code) in the message text box on their page.




if you want a clock on your page, find one you like the style of on someone elses page, you can usually change the background but not the style, then double left click or look on their clock (hover) till you see something like create your own. then go to that site and look for countup/countdown clocks. add your date info and right click the code at the bottom of the page and choose copy.

open edit profile olick on your site page and right click and choose paste in the mobile phone space on your profile.

then choose save at the bottom of the edit profile page.

When I was but a baby, long before I learned to walk, While lying in my cradle, I would try my best to talk; It wasn't long before I spoke and all the neighbors heard, My folks were very proud of me for "Mother" was the word. Although I'll never lay a claim to fame, I'm satisfied that I can spell the name:

"M" is for the mercy she possesses

"O" means that I owe her all I own

"T" is for her tender, sweet caresses

"H" is for her hands that made a home

"E" means ev'rything she's done to help me

"R" means real and regular, you see

Put them all together they spell MOTHER,

a word that means the world to me.

It's difficult to substitute 20 chocolate eclairs for a pack of cigarettes. I Know!

And Honestly, they don't light or draw the same way either!

just sayin!

No Carp In This Lake

I Won't Smoke Over It

I call No Man's Land that period of time between about 1 month and 3 or 4 months into your quit, or about the time from the end of your first month until you become an Elder. This is a time when many people slip and go into a full relapse and have to start over... if they can start over, that is. I have some observations that may help some of you who are literally hanging on by your fingernails... or who may find yourself there tomorrow.

The first month is an exhausting but exhilirating experience... you are locked in nearly daily struggles and you get the satisfaction of successfully beating your addiction that day. You go to bed a WINNER each night (as Troutnut would say), and you are justifiably proud of yourself. Your friends and family are also supportive as they see you struggling each day to maintain your quit. And you are being constantly supported here, whether or not you post... just being here is good for your quit. And so, the battles are won and it actually becomes easier and the battles occur less often as you finish 30 days or so.

Around 60 days, you're starting to have some really good days, with very few craves and some nice insights about yourself... but then again, you still have some bad days. Those bad days can really be depressing... you begin to wonder if you're ever gonna be able to relax. Your junkie is whispering to you, telling you that 'just one' won't hurt. You've conquered your daily triggers, but now you start trippiing over the occasional ones... a death in the family, unexpectedly bad news, money problems, health problems, going on a long car ride, a trip to the bar, or whatever. You have a strong crave and you begin to doubt your ability to keep your quit.

In addition, the 3D support that you used to get is pretty much gone... non-smokers figure you should be 'over it' by now, smokers don't like to hang around you much because they feel guilty and addicted (remember that feeling?), and people who have quit may not remember just how much love and support you need well into the first few months. They all think you should be 'over it', you think you should be 'over it'... and the temptation is to have 'just one' to see if you ARE over it.

But of course you're not over it, are you? That 'just one' whisper becomes much much louder and becomes 'just one more'... and each time you give in to that whisper, the craves come harder and sooner. The one way to guarantee that your craves will never go away is to light up, to slide that old cigarette needle into your arm and shoot up. Those craves will be back and keep coming back. But if you protect your quit, your craves will eventually weaken and become even fewer and farther between.

As you get to around 100 days or so (some will be a bit longer)... you will begin to really get a healthy perspective on your addiction. You will see the huge role that smoking played in your life, you will see clearly what that addiction really cost you. And you will understand that it was a very high price to pay... the loss of your confidence, your emotions, your self-control... your SELF. All enslaved to your addiction.

And you will begin to see that you can look forward to a non-smoking future without romanticizing your addiction. You see it clearly for the life-stealing evil it was... and is. You see a much different future for yourself than your past has been. And it no longer scares the crap out of you to think that you are done smoking... in fact, you embrace that thought with joy every day.

But you have to get out of No Man's Land first. How can you help yourself? And how can those of us who have been through it help you?

First of all, you need to understand that you aren't alone. If you haven't already done so, make a pinky-finger promise with 2 or 3 good quitbuds and exchange phone numbers with them. Promise to call them if you're ever in trouble, and make them promise the same. These are your 'life and death' quitbuddies... you are literally trusting each other with your lives. Then call them... often. Just to see how they are doing, and to tell them you're doing well too. Be totally honest with them, this is life and death.

Second, understand that you're going to have some unexpectedly bad days... but they are going to be further apart. Shrug them off, laugh your way through them, call your quitbuddies... whatever it takes to get through them without smoking. Some battles will be easy, some will be hard. Come here and post, send qmail, exercise, learn to cook, take up a new hobby. Whatever it takes, keep going to bed a WINNER each night.

Third, ask some of the older qsters to keep an eye on you... to contact you to see how you're doing. I have been asked to do that for several of you recently and I am happy to do that, as I am sure that others are too. We know that you just need to hold on a little bit longer and change your focus just a little to make that breakthrough. And then you will OWN your quit, and it will be a very comfortable thing.

Last, take a deep and honest look at your past life... your life as a smoker and compare it to what your life is like now... and what it will be like in the future. You have to develop that vision of your future, of the person that you are going to BECOME now that you have freed yourself. You have to believe in yourself. You have to love yourself enough to deny yourself your addiction.

No Man's Land doesn't have to be so lonely and scary and dangerous. You need some company and some courage and some faith in yourself. And when you emerge from it, you will not be the same person that entered it.

Never never never question your decision to quit! This is the most loving thing that you will ever do for yourself. A few days of discomfort in exchange for a lifetime of freedom. You will never find another deal like it.

 

i didn't write this but it helped me to understand what I was experiencing when i was in no man's land

Put a straw to your lips and do your breathing through it only. No cheating.

See if you can do it for even 5 minutes without panicing.

This is what you may be saving yourself from by quitting smoking today.



You don't want to go down this road believe me.  Nuff said?

Authorities removed a 4 foot alligator from the apartment a man in Chicago.

He said he kept it as a "chick magnet"

I've never known a woman yet who was excited in a good way by an alligator in the room.

How about you?

http://games.yahoo.com/braingames/brain-teasers

 

I had coffee with an exer from Hawaii this morning...Any Guesses??

18 hour days

She wanted me to wish you all the best and tell you she's fine

Wouldn't it be nice to talk with someone before you actually quit?

you could get your questions answered and your fears allayed and get off on the right foot?

(or the left if necessary)

you might pm an elder here and arrange to speak with them

or

call a free quit smoking hotline in your state.

reading is wonderful and you can go at your own pace but hearing a voice might

help calm you and give you a great head start with the hardest part of ths journey.


just sayin'

dale

LOOK OUT FOR THAT FAN!!!!!

 

If This Looks Bad, Think About Your Lungs!

 

(nothing to do with the accidental homocide of irritating people)


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