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Share your quitting journey

Now that I'm sandwiched between the mother daughter team I want some answers

JonesCarpeDiem
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I could care less about anyone's quit clock.

what i do care about is someone lying to themselves in the beginning of their quit.

there is no such thing as a slip.

You made a choice to smoke. You picked it up, lit it and inhaled it.

So I'm a believer in saying that people who don't understand this are on the wrong road.

Nothing more.

It is never my intention to hurt anyone's quit.

Now, onto the subject of respect.

People who post blogs and get responses they dont agree with and delete them, do not have my respect.

Its asking for approval that you smoked and saying F U when people don't agree.

It is like taking the ball and going home. I posted something much milder stating the same fact on this persons

page and i got a very nasty response on my page. Way beyond any kind of reasonable comment. (The Chip)

No one is out to get anyone here.

Now I see posts on my friends blogs saying I called this person a bitch. I'd like to see that. It never happened.

I also saw a post on the mothers blog adding words to what I said and making it look like my intention was

completely different than it was. I was sincere when I emailed her and said "I think you're mad enough to quit

now and I wish you success"

I never called her any names, I never used anything vile or demeaning.

So if you only see one side of a situation posted

just realize that the person posting that is probably posting it out of context to try and make their side look good.

plus, i thought posting private emails was against site rules.

anyway once again I hope you make it for your sake.

my quit is 3 1/2 years so I'm not too worried about it.

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.