He worked at a paper I ran an ad in and as such was the first to see the ad in my search for an apprentice.
In the first 2 years, he learned my way of doing things and more important the level of quality and results I expected. He was sharp, always thinking, a body builder, and wanna be actor. Good heart. Didn't smoke or drink.
After a couple years of working together, I sometimes had to meet with prospective clients, stand an inspection at another job site, or get materials.
After I had trained him I could turn him loose and had no problem letting him do it his way because he always achieved the results I expected.
I try to lay out quitting in the same way for you as I taught him the building trades. He got his general contractors license and went out on his own.
We can get you started and walk you through the hardest part of quitting but our joy is when we know you're going to make it and we know it's okay to turn you loose.
Most quitters who quit for a month are up from doing it and have an excitement they were able to get that far. That excitement can dwindle the next few months.
I was having a heck of a time around day 100. I wondered if the physical need for nicotine would ever go away
I was thinking, "if the physical need never goes away, what's the point?"
So, I did some research.
10 Years ago around day I00, I found a medical study that said, people who went 16 weeks without smoking were in the best place to succeed. I also read the no mans land blog by Ron Maxey on the site I quit on and I was seeing all the people who quit the same time as I begin dropping like flies and disappearing off the site.
I did learn the nicotine receptors normalize and do not require feeding for life.. Back then, the only information I could get was "in the first year." Now, it's months. That knowledge was the logic I needed to stay with it..
On day 126, while driving to a jobsite I had smoked on months before, I reached for a ghost pack on my truck seat and I laughed. I knew I was done in that moment.
I'm asking you to aim for 4 months.
For some of you it may be a little longer but here's my point,
You can't make a year unless you make four months and once you've made four months, you should have more confidence in yourself that you don't need to smoke just because you have a thought of smoking.
My dad took his car in this morning to get the airbag recall done. They ran errands with the other car and when they got home about noon, he said, "You may have to take me to get my car later." This was about 5 hours ago.
The dealership is a long ways away and traffic is horrible that time of day and there's no easy back roads because everyone is already on them. Stoplights can take 3 or 4 times to get through and the freeway is stop and go.
And, you know how those car guys never get things done until quitting time?
So in the last few hours I've gone from "I wonder when they're going to call" to "I wish he'd just leave it there until tomorrow."
Time was getting close to go pick up the car and within a few minutes, I had cleared all the angst away and put myself in a place where I was willingly and happily ready to do it.
And then, he tells me they called and he's leaving it there until tomorrow. :-)
I tell you this because these are the kind of moods we put ourselves into and we have the ability to pull ourselves out of it, You Do. I Do, We Do... Get inside your own head and put yourself in a better place. It's yours to do.