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We're here to show you other ways of thinking

To teach you the things we've learned the we wished we knew

When we started our quits.

Things that will lighten your load

And keep you on the smoke free road.


Common sense and Logic count for a lot

There are reasons things work the way they do


Here's an example:

If you're nailing near the end of a piece of wood and trying not to split it, you clip the pointed tip off the nail so it shears the fibers as it penetrates instead of splitting them.


Think Things Through

Your Outcome

Is Up To You

      I didn't plan to quit in any normal sense.  I didn't want to quit.

Someone asked me to quit to influence their brother. I felt like I was being cornered and was hesitant but still, I agreed to at least consider quitting.



      I started telling myself to wait a little longer when  wanted to smoke and in 4 weeks went from a pack a day to 5 a day without once ever denying myself a smoke. I had proven I didn't need to smoke just because I normally would have.


         I used 11 patches in my first two weeks and played guitar at my friends house 10 hours a day for dopamine. When I forgot the patch two days in a row, I realized I didn't need them. I put one in my wallet with a promise that I would put it on rather than smoke.




It was a quick single thread site, and, IT WAS FAST.


      I asked questions of the long term quitters and learned all I could.

I had my three hardest days in the 50's. People were dropping away from the site like flies in the first 4 months. It was contagious.

      The more I watched, the more curious I became. I began doing research. I began to worry when I heard about the nicotine receptors. I wondered, "How is it going to be possible to forever quit smoking if those nicotine receptors were always clamoring for nicotine?" 

      Through my research, I found those receptors are replaced with one's that have never known nicotine and thus had not become addicted to nicotine and that this happens within a year.  Near the end of my first hundred days, I found a medical study that said if you quit for 16 weeks, there was a greater chance you would succeed.

      I had my breakthrough at 128 days when I was driving up the hill to a job I had done when I was a smoker. I reached for a ghost pack on my truck seat. It actually made me laugh and I knew at that moment, I WOULD NEVER SMOKE A CIGARETTE AGAIN.

Get Through The First 4 Months And You'll Have A Better Chance Of Success

And, Hopefully Be More Willing To Accept Life As A Non Smoker When

You Are Not Thinking Of It Constantly.

   The Only Way Out Is Through



Posted by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Jun 12, 2018

      I admit, the last time I really sat down and played guitar and sang full voice for 40 minutes has been a couple years.

      Singing and playing when you are focused, take a ton of energy. By focused,I mean everything flowing perfectly.

      The words rolling off the tongue, the guitar subtly supporting the other space.

I used to do five 45 minute sets a night when I was on the road.

I was in my teens and twenties then.

      So two days ago, I picked up my acoustic electric bass and took it outside when I took Hoggie out for his morning adventure. (eating grass and throwing up) and I was sitting in my chair playing it and the thought that came to me was

"Gee my arm is tired! Gee this neck is long."

      It's kind of like when you're young in your quit and you hit the wall and are ready to give up.

      I've lost my touch of picking up a bass on the spur of the moment to play with other musicians and all the excitement and dopamine that brings.

       How can I get it back?  I know what I had. I know what I want. I want to play bass the way I want to anytime I want.


      Have you thought about how much you want to be a non smoker?

You have to look ahead, past the drug, past the thinking of smoking and back to what life was, before you needed to smoke.


      I know that's hard to remember that far back to when smoking took over. Most of us started in our teens.


      I know I can get my "bass back" if I'm willing to invest the time and energy to strengthen my arm so it can stay in playing position for a length of time.

I believe it's possible.


Do you believe your quit is in your hands?

It is, you know.



Onward and Upward.

Quitting Smoking Will Tell You Because

This Is About Letting Go And Changing, Not Fighting.

You Will Find Out So Much About Yourself

If You'll Let It Go And See It Through.

Get Ready To Rumble!

We can help you learn your way around

and away from being a smoker,

but, you have to be willing to change.

Changing your thinking, and, changing your routine,

Will Change your outcome.


PS most of us were huggers but we learned to change.

You can go from this...

To This!

To This!

Congratulations to all on the journey!

You Can Unchoose It

This Is Not About Willpower Or Determination.

It's Simply Making A Choice Then, Accepting It.

Making A Choice To Not Smoke Each Time

Just Because You Thought Of Smoking.

Not Letting Situations Throw You Off Your Game.

You Do This For Awhile, You Give It The Time It Takes,

You Will Distance Yourself From The Memories Connected To Smoking

And You're Free!

You Give Up Nothing

You Let It Go.

Nothing Can Make You Smoke But You.

      Ellen just texted me. She's at the Dr. with Mike for a scheduled visit and couldn't post.

      Missy is on her way to the hospital in excruciating pain. Thinks it may be a kidney stone.

Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers.

      My stepmom gave me the project of rebuilding a legless broken ended redwood bench that she would like to be freestanding against a wall and outside a gate. 

      The bench is only 11 inches wide. This is many inches less deep than most chairs (not much to sit on) and if I build the legs straight down, it would likely tip over if someone sat on it. Plus, if it was right against the wall only part of your legs and bottom would be supported meaning you would be trying not to slide off the bench.

      So, what to do? I don't want to make the bench itself any wider and, I want it to be sturdy and not tip over. (now, the pictures)


Here's what I came up with.

I put the kicker in the back and will put this brace in the middle so you don't see that knot hole from the ends.

It's much easier to solve a problem if you think it through rather than

just go at it willy nilly.

As a carpenter, I had to have the ability to visualize the finished product

before I bought materials or started cutting.


This is why we tell you to learn what you are up against and make a plan

that addresses the problems you will face ahead of time.


Make Your Plan, Then,

Make Your Quit Work


(Yes, it needs a lot of work and to be finished. Finished pictures when I get it put together)

It's EXtremely salid to sit on.

And, what you see from the fron

From The Front

And From The Back. This Side Will Sit Against The Wall.

Just Keep Telling Yourself You'll Always Be A Smoker.


You Could Realize Smoking Was And Is A Choice And

Not A Life Sentence.

I believe the "you'll always be an addict" way of thinking is a self fulfilling prophecy that can actually become an excuse for afterwards.

I won't live in that trap myself.

DooDah DooDah

All her staples went away 

Oh Doo Dah Day

Swimming in two weeks

Still feeling weak

But she is recovering

Somebody give her a YAY!

First Thing!

I burned my (ex-smoking) fingers this morning. 

      I don't think it's bad but it hurts and I can't tell how bad it is until some hours pass.

      My coffeemaker sits in a cubbie above my desk. The basket and water access is special in that you don't have to open the top to get to either. I make a pot with 4 bottles of drinking water, have a fresh 16oz and the rest goes into a carafe and gets reheated the next three days, then, the cycle repeats.

      I normally don't sit and watch it while it makes the coffee because it has a special "aroma" setting that slows the brewing but I got up to check it, it was overflowing the pot, my desk, and pooling on the carpet.

      The only thing I can think of is there was still coffee in the pot itself and I must not have noticed because the coffeemaker only holds 4 bottles of water and it would have overflowed when I was putting in the water if it had two bottles of water still in it.

   While I was taking the pot into the next room it spilled all over my fingers that were holding the pot which made me set the pot down very fast, making another big mess.


Live and burn

but not cigarettes

      I knew he was getting married today and asked him what time. He said 4pm so I said I would take some pictures from our deck to get a different point of view for them. Here's a few. Don't worry, they had a real photographer there too. 

And their wedding day Sunrise

How are you going to quit smoking if you won't allow it to happen?

It Isn't.

You have to accept the fact that you can quit smoking

and your life will go on.

Then, you have to allow the time for it to happen.

There is no three week process that will free you

from all the memories and emotions you've connected to smoking.

Time Away From Smoking Puts The Distance Between You And Smoking.


Time Is The Healer 

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