I remember the beginning very well. I went from the blubbering idiot to the raging psycho all in the matter of one minute. The blubbering idiot never comes around anymore. And if it does, it only stays for a short time. Now the raging psycho likes to sit a spell and wreak havoc all ova the place. I'm still working on that. I have a lot of pent up anger that I need to resolve. I never thought of myself as having a hair-trigger anger problem, but I guess I do. Out of all of the emotions that came swirling around the drain as I exited NML, anger stuck around the longest. The rest of the entourage, sadness, self-pity, etc., seemed to have died off eventually. They do show their head once in a while but I know that those emotions are what dragged me into the addictive thinking. We're getting that parsed out slowly but surely. But I am liking this whole new patience thing going on. I'll just take it in sections, it's all good. It's been almost a year, but I'll figure it out. Maybe I'll have an ephany one day. Who knows.
I may not be able to visit these sites myself personally on a daily basis. This is just a helpful suggestion for those of you new to this site. Give yourself a break once in a while. Be gentle with yourself. We all know life is full of stress, frustration, but you know what, that's just the way it is. It's important to learn how to react differently to the actions that we did for so many years, light up and puff our problems away. It's also important to look on the positive side instead of the negative. Check out Positive Affirmations for Success: You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. When you click the Group Button just to the right of the Blog button and when that window comes up look for the featured group button we are the first group listed Also we are on the Home Page under Featured Groups or just click this link https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/positive-affirmations-and-support
But don't miss the daily interactive discussion called Love Yourself. Whether you're dropping in to say hello, offer love and support to your friends or need a place where you will truly feel listened to, we are there - every single day! Take a look and feel free to join us! ALL are welcome!
Sometimes we just need a laugh to get our minds back on track. Be sure to visit https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/laughter-is-the-best-medicine to bring a smile to your face daily or just a pleasant distraction. Sometimes that little hit of dopamine from laughter is the trick.
At times it helps to reaffirm our quit by pledging with others to not smoke for that day. Be sure to join others by going to: https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/daily-pledge/ to virtually hold hands with other members and pledge not to smoke for that day. “That day” adds up to 30 days, 60 days, for the rest of your life.
We'd love to have you join us!