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We all get the feeling of the tower is crumbling.  Just last night after a very stressful day, I had the overwhelming urge to smoke.  Mind you, this was after being smoke free for seven months.  But I realized my trigger and the reason for smoking.  I used it in that time and space for relaxation.  So I just simply did my deep breathing exercises and calmed myself down.  I acknowledged the urge.  I recognized the trigger.  And I chose to not act on it.  As you get further along and the cravings are less and less and it all becomes a head game, you simply have to choose not to smoke and above all love yourself !!!!

 

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I've had quite a few pets in my day, but this is by far my favorite.  what are some of yours?

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There was a really interesting article that I read a while back http://www.achoice2live.com/quitting-smoking-gets-easier/  explains a little bit about what's going on up there and why it just seems to never want to let go. When you relapse or have a slip-up or just feeling like you can't bear it any longer, give yourself a big hug and trust in the process and learn to let it go.  In the meantime....... ( and someday I'll get this font figured out), 

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You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

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Remember when you were a kid and your mother would tell you don't scratch that, it will leave a scar or it will make it worse.  Well, that itching desire to just have one is just like that.  A person speaking from having survived NML and finally broke through, I too had that strong urge to just try one to see if it fit, to see if it wouldn't take again.  Something in the back of my mind kept telling me that it will be okay.  I've gone 4 months, 5 months without one, one puff ain't going to hurt.

Well, my favorite saying of STOP, DROP and ROLL.  Respect that addiction and don't give it the power that it can have on you.  Acknowledge that it's there and put it in its place.  Because I'm going to tell you, my friends, it will always be there, it's just not going to have the power over you like it once had.  You'll never be rid of it because it can pop up in times of stress, loneliness, frustration, sadness, etc.  You must learn different ways of dealing with those times, recognizing those times, remembering what you did to overcome them, then it gets so much easier.............

Just sharing something I wrote a very long time ago for those newbies     https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/crazymama_Lori-blog/2016/03/15/acronyms-acronyms-oh-my

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The depression was the worst part of NML.  I'll tell you what I've learned for myself is that NML (130 days) clock started for me when I had my last dose of nicotine.  Which meant that I wasn't clean until March 20th even though I quit on January 25th.  I used the patch until then and notice at around day 190 or so, take a little before, the gate seemed to open for me and I was finally free.

 

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You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

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200 days

Posted by crazymama_Lori Aug 12, 2016

Unbelieveable, who would have thought I'd make it this far.  Well, it's because of all of your support and encouragement that got me here and my undying devotion to staying quit.  It's all about team work, isn't it........

 

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Found this from another website.  I just love more and more info

Summer is finally here! With the warmer weather and longer days, it’s a great time to get outdoors and embrace your smokefree life. 

Over the last decade, a wave of laws have passed at the state and local levels making public spaces and workplaces smokefree. For those quitting smoking, that means one less trigger to worry about when enjoying your favorite activities. Planning fun outings with your family and friends is a great way to stay positive and focused on your quit journey. So grab your sunscreen and shorts, and get ready for some smokefree summer fun. Here are five suggestions:

1. Catch a baseball game

On opening day 2016, several Major League Baseball stadiums around the country went smokefree. These new policies add to the growing number of baseball stadiums that have instituted smokefree policies. So sit back, enjoy the game and appreciate that your new smokefree lifestyle means you won’t be missing any homeruns hit during a smoke break.

2. Explore a national park

On the 100th birthday of the National Parks Service, plan a trip to one of our great national parks for hiking, camping and wildlife spotting. You don’t have to go to the Grand Canyon to enjoy our park system – chances are, there is a smaller site near you.  Nature is sweeter smelling now that you are smokefree!

3. Get your thrills at a theme park

Many of the nation’s major theme parks are smokefree, including many local and state fairs. So whether you're braving a roller coaster or grabbing a snow cone at the state fair, you’ll be able to enjoy that moment with your family without having to leave for a smokebreak. 

4. Soak up the sun and sand at the beach

Unwind with the sound of crashing waves and feel the sand between your toes. Many beaches around the country have become smokefree in recent years, you can build a sandcastle or take a stroll along the waterfront without worrying about the sight of cigarette butts.

5. Dine al fresco while watching the sunset

Nearly 400 municipalities across the country have passed laws making outdoor dining and patio spaces smokefree. Invite your loved ones out for alight summer meal – such as grilled vegetables and chicken or seafood – and you’ve got yourself a perfect summer evening.

here's some helpful tips for those just starting or thinking about starting:  https://www.quitterscircle.com/story/stay-smokefree-with-the-four-d%E2%80%99s

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In the very, very beginning, I remember the panic feeling of thinking I was going to quit smoking.  I was actually going to stop doing something I've been doing repeatedly for 43 years. I did this every single day, usually every hour on the hour at least 35 to 40 times. Now, let that sink in for a moment. You did this without even thinking sometimes over and over again.

 

I remember in the first 30 days the very first time I reached over for that pack of cigarettes without even thinking about it when I was trying to figure out something or I was becoming very frustrated with something that just wasn't working out just right. I thought wow, how automatic that was because those things haven't been around for a month.

 

Then a month later something very stressful happened and the thought just jumped in my head of screw this, I'm buying a pack, this is just too damn hard. I didn't, but I made a mental note of when it became really, really difficult for me and when I really thought I needed to smoke. I had that hole in my stomach feeling like I was missing something, lost something. I knew I was never going back but I had to understand for myself what is it in my life individually that would make me go back to smoking.

 

I've had some very traumatic things happen in my life. Smoking didn't make them any better. Didn't solve any problems. Certainly didn't make them go away. I thought back then that for those 5 to 10 minutes they went away, but they never did. The world really does revolve and evolve whether you smoke or not.

 

I think back now when I first quit back in December and how I was just clinging on to that one cigarette like it was a buoy in the ocean. Why did I believe that that thing was going to save me from anything, do everything for me. I'd quit for 3 days and go back. I'd quit for 4 days and go back. I think the final straw was when I finally made it to 7 days and thought, see, I can do this. I did make the women know at my local grocery store that I quit smoking where I always bought my cigarettes. I figured if I let them know about it, that would make me accountable. At 57, I had to have someone or something make me feel accountable, silly. Well, actually no, it wasn't. Those women were very proud of me and encouraged me and cheered me on. I was like a very insecure little kid looking for someone to motivate me and give me the confidence that I can do this. Of course, I had it in me all along. But at that time that's just what I needed, exactly what I needed.

 

So sit back and think of your reasons for smoking if you haven't already done so (it's one of the steps you should take on this site), think back on points in your life where you've smoked the most, death of a family member, a fur baby, accident, so on and so forth. Develop a game plan for what you are going to do in these situations (toolbox). This is doable. Just take it one step at a time............

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We can have a helping hand, a gentle nudge, but you are the one who is giving yourself this wonderful gift, a smoke free, addiction free life.

Check out Positive Affirmations for Success:

 

You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

When you click the Group Button just to the right of the Blog button and when that window comes up look for the featured group button we are the first group listed   Also for awhile we are on the Home Page under Featured Groups.

OR just click this link

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But don't miss the Daily interactive Discussion called Love Yourself:

Whether you're dropping in to say Hello, offer Love and Support to your Friends or need a place where you will truly feel listened to, we are there - every single Day!

Take a Look and feel Free to join us!

ALL are Welcome!

Look under the Latest Discussion in red letters just after the member line. You will see Love Yourself with 1276 posts!

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https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/3533-love-yourself

 

Click on the last page which today is page 26. That's where you'll see the last comment entered. However you can enter your comment on any page and it will follow the last entry no matter what page you were on when you submitted.

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Our perserverance and dilligence in keeping our quits going can sometimes be the only thing that is a tribute to what we are doing here and in our lives.  We should always live by setting an example for others.  Spread that good feeling and healthy living.  I'm still working on the healthy living part.  I'm thrilled when I can help someone along with the mountain climb to the no smoking section.  If you need help along the way, be sure to reach out to anyone on this site or just blog the word help.  Give it a few minutes and you'll see people filtering in to help you along the way.  Sometimes just blogging a question that you have or an observation you have made along the way.  You may just need a simple reassurance that it's normal or just a bump in the road and it's okay.  Just remember, we're here for each other ;-)

I have things disappearing, not working, not posting, gesh..... Had one hellofa day yesterday, but I didn't smoke over it.  Dogs weren't cooperating.  I was thinking I was Shera lugging up a 110 pound treadmill up the steps to the the second floor.  Made it up to the landing and that's where it's going to stay for the time being because this old lady strained her back a touch yesterday.  I'm not 30 anymore.  Well, okay, 40 either.  THEN you add on top of that two family men being in the hospital.  AND a drama queen daughter (not involved with the men in the hospital) AND a client that cannot get her act together, mix that all together and there you have it, my day yesterday.  Oh, boy, can't wait to see what today brings ;-)