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Alcohol is a proven quit killer; take the advice of one of our site members:


"I had a quit that ended when I went to the bar with friends. We don't want to do anything that weakens our commitment, and alcohol does just that!"


You really don't know what amount of alcohol influence might lead you to decide that "just one won't hurt."  PLEASE don't chance it. 


A quit is a terrible thing to lose.





Update:  Went to the University of Maryland Dental School and met with the professor who is  head of it (I have connections) for my dire dental problems (the underlying teeth that were all capped have failed).  In discussing implants, I asked about bone health and Prolia or the other shots in particular.  His eyes got really BIG and he said "NO!  You don't need jaw necrosis!" So - that ended that!!!  Going back on Fosamax so at least I am doing SOMETHING!


Went to the rheumatologist yesterday for another bone scan.  They continue to soften.  He said it doesn't matter what you eat, the supplements you take, the sunshine you gather, the exercise you do, if you are a petite woman, your chances of osteoporosis are 100%.   If you are a petite woman who smokes, your bones will begin to deteriorate earlier and worsen faster.  FACT!

He wanted me to give myself a daily injection - and not the auto kind - I mean a 1/2 NEEDLE every DAY for two years.  I told him I might get my nerve up to do it once a month, but it simply was not going to happen every day.  Will do the Prolia shot every six months, and hope that helps.

The lesson?



("Love and Marriage" Verse Two)


Drinkin' and smokin'

Drinkin' and smokin'

Go together like Jersey

And Hoboken


This I tell you, brother

It's hard to have one without the other!


If you are quitting smoking, it's not a good idea to indulge in alcohol .  You REALLY don't know how much it takes to skew your thinking about your commitment.  You might believe that "just one will be OK."  It won't be!

A quit is a terrible thing to lose.


So, this morning I fixed my Inn Room Coffee and went out on the balcony to drink it.   You can no longer smoke in the rooms here, on the balconies OR the beach.  Happy about that - funny to think  how angry I would have been when I still smoked!


But then THE thought crossed my mind...."something is missing."  It wasn't a crave exactly, but a passing memory of the days when a cup of coffee and a smoke on the balcony hearing the waves crashing, with sunlight over the water and gulls calling, was always part of my ocean experience.  I guess I haven't  repeated this association enough times to relearn it.

Just shows how powerful this addiction is - and how long it stays with you until you repeat situations/emotions a number of times.  It's been almost 6 years - but, with health issues, I haven't been able to visit the beach that often over that time.  I know there will come a time when this won't come to mind - but it isn't yet.

THIS is the time to be extra cautious.  I know there is no such thing as "just one" to an addict, so I won't believe differently.

But it's a cautionary tale, I think.  Stay committed, quitters!


My daughter left today to drive across the country - by herself.  She and her bf have mostly been with me for about 18 months.  I hated it when my Mom would cry when I left, so I vowed I would not do that to Emmers.  I didn't know HOW I was going to do it - but I made up my mind.

Then I remembered my quit smoking mantra - "change your mind's direction."  So - instead of feeling sorry for myself that I am all alone, that she is gone and it will be quite awhile before I see her again, I changed my thinking.  I thought about how wonderful the trip to Europe that she planned for me had been, how much I appreciated her help after my knee surgery, and how lucky I was to have had her with me for all that time.

And I got my 'frig back!