I was thinking about the terrible, horrible no good rotten day I blogged about here, (I Would Rather Be Moderated! ) and thought I would share my “AHA” moment about it.
Had I simply stopped and thought before acting, I could have avoided ALL of it. Reminds me of one of my favorite sayings, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”
At the gas station, had I stopped and used my BRAIN, I would have spent a moment and realized there was ANOTHER pump handle (albeit hidden on the side of the pump) or realized that the reason the nozzle didn't fit into the fill hole was because that nozzle WAS for diesel and that is the reason that one kept lighting up.
At Sears, if I had stopped and THOUGHT about it when I first couldn't locate my truck, I would have retraced my entry route, realized there were TWO entrances with cement columns, and that it was possible both of them led to the appliance department.
At the spa, I might have sat in my car a moment and asked myself if I had all I needed BEFORE limp/dragging my way there.....
Just like making that decision to light a cigarette after you have quit. Take a moment FIRST, think it through. Think about WHY you are giving up and what you can do about it. Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired (HALT)? If so – take care of THAT first. What else can you do? Come here and blog “HELP?” Go for a walk? Call a friend?
THINK before you act. Only you can prevent bad days (or lost quits!!!)
Today was, to put it mildly, a challenge. To begin, it was 94 degrees and humid when I began about Noon. I pulled a little close to the gas station pump and there wasn't room to maneuver, so I couldn't get out my crutches - so I limp/.dragged in to pay my $10.00. I tried to put the nozzle in my tank and it wouldn't go - THEN I notice the light is flashing over "Diesel!." I figured I must have hit it by mistake, so back in the office I go. She cancels the transaction out, puts it back in and back outside to the pump I go. (I figure some reading this have already figured it out!!!) I repeated this process, canceling the transaction, going back in, coming back out, about five times (all without crutches) when I notice the nozzle on the OTHER side of the pump! Gee, perhaps the attendant could have mentioned something about this BEFORE my many limp/drags back and forth??
Then I get to Kohl's and make that return easy peasy.
Next to Sears to return a Lands End purchase. I park at the entrance where I know a register is right inside. When I get there, I am sent to the Lands End counter at the OTHER end of the store ----- but at least they have AC....so I limp/drag my way across the store. I take note of the entrance to the appliance section of the store with concrete columns over the doors. When I leave, I go back through the appliances, out the door ----- and cannot find my CRV. In the heat (but WITH my crutches at least), I scour that lot hither and yon - getting hotter and more desperate as time goes by. I finally find a spot of shade and decide to think about it LOGICALLY. I then retrace my route into the lot and realize there are TWO entrances with cement columns, both emanating from the appliance department and.....I find my truck.
On to the spa for a pedicure. AFTER I parked and limp/dragged the three blocks, in the heat, I realized I left my flip flops IN THE TRUCK...so back I go.....limp/drag/limp/drag!
I am FINALLY home.....and I am not going to smoke over ANY of it.....but I guarantee I ain't movin' an inch this evening!
I did something special for ME today (and for someone else). I saw this lady in the story with a gaggle of young'uns , a cart full of school supplies and not looking as though she could afford it all. I had just been to the bank machine, so I had some cash in my possession, and shared some with her. I was happy to be able to do that (since I quit smoking, I have saved a LOT in five years!); it made ME feel wonderful, and she was very, very grateful.
It's just not a good idea to take a chance and drink alcohol early in your quit. Over my years here I have seen many a quit lost when someone's addled brain thinks, "just one will be OK." There is no such thing as "just one" to an addict.
A quit is a terrible thing to lose. Please don't chance it!