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It's the weekend - and time for doing some bar hopping, imbibing with friends.  Be warned, though  fellow, quitters.  There will be a high probability of a lost quit from brain addlement brought on by alcohol.  Please stick to one drink if you must join in.  You really don't know how many drinks it takes for the addict within to tell you it's OK to have just one - and it sounds reasonable,

A  quit is a terrible thing to lose.



Did 30 minutes of water walking.  Maaaaaaaaa-velous!

Hip seemed to do fine.......knee is not cooperating with swim kicks so will have to check on that with my PT --- but this is PROGRESS!  Color me happy (whatever color THAT is!)





Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Jun 11, 2018

If anyone doubts how tenacious this nicotine addiction is, I offer my latest experience.  Having quite a nice dream (for a change) last night about being at the beach.  I walk up to one of those round aluminum tables where a woman my age is sitting, relaxing and smoking.  I pull up a chair, get out a cigarette, light it, and start a conversation:  "Gosh, I quit smoking years ago and started back up. I don't remember why."  Puffing away.........

HUH?  I quit smoking almost six years ago - and STILL these smokemares occur. 

Be vigilant, my friends, the addiction is STILL lurking somewhere in your subconscious!

(not to worry - these are easy to dismiss and don't constitute a crave - just one example of what a powerful addiction this is)




Alcohol is a proven quit killer; take the advice of one of our site members:


"I had a quit that ended when I went to the bar with friends. We don't want to do anything that weakens our commitment, and alcohol does just that!"


You really don't know what amount of alcohol influence might lead you to decide that "just one won't hurt."  PLEASE don't chance it. 


A quit is a terrible thing to lose.





Update:  Went to the University of Maryland Dental School and met with the professor who is  head of it (I have connections) for my dire dental problems (the underlying teeth that were all capped have failed).  In discussing implants, I asked about bone health and Prolia or the other shots in particular.  His eyes got really BIG and he said "NO!  You don't need jaw necrosis!" So - that ended that!!!  Going back on Fosamax so at least I am doing SOMETHING!


Went to the rheumatologist yesterday for another bone scan.  They continue to soften.  He said it doesn't matter what you eat, the supplements you take, the sunshine you gather, the exercise you do, if you are a petite woman, your chances of osteoporosis are 100%.   If you are a petite woman who smokes, your bones will begin to deteriorate earlier and worsen faster.  FACT!

He wanted me to give myself a daily injection - and not the auto kind - I mean a 1/2 NEEDLE every DAY for two years.  I told him I might get my nerve up to do it once a month, but it simply was not going to happen every day.  Will do the Prolia shot every six months, and hope that helps.

The lesson?



("Love and Marriage" Verse Two)


Drinkin' and smokin'

Drinkin' and smokin'

Go together like Jersey

And Hoboken


This I tell you, brother

It's hard to have one without the other!


If you are quitting smoking, it's not a good idea to indulge in alcohol .  You REALLY don't know how much it takes to skew your thinking about your commitment.  You might believe that "just one will be OK."  It won't be!

A quit is a terrible thing to lose.


So, this morning I fixed my Inn Room Coffee and went out on the balcony to drink it.   You can no longer smoke in the rooms here, on the balconies OR the beach.  Happy about that - funny to think  how angry I would have been when I still smoked!


But then THE thought crossed my mind...."something is missing."  It wasn't a crave exactly, but a passing memory of the days when a cup of coffee and a smoke on the balcony hearing the waves crashing, with sunlight over the water and gulls calling, was always part of my ocean experience.  I guess I haven't  repeated this association enough times to relearn it.

Just shows how powerful this addiction is - and how long it stays with you until you repeat situations/emotions a number of times.  It's been almost 6 years - but, with health issues, I haven't been able to visit the beach that often over that time.  I know there will come a time when this won't come to mind - but it isn't yet.

THIS is the time to be extra cautious.  I know there is no such thing as "just one" to an addict, so I won't believe differently.

But it's a cautionary tale, I think.  Stay committed, quitters!


My daughter left today to drive across the country - by herself.  She and her bf have mostly been with me for about 18 months.  I hated it when my Mom would cry when I left, so I vowed I would not do that to Emmers.  I didn't know HOW I was going to do it - but I made up my mind.

Then I remembered my quit smoking mantra - "change your mind's direction."  So - instead of feeling sorry for myself that I am all alone, that she is gone and it will be quite awhile before I see her again, I changed my thinking.  I thought about how wonderful the trip to Europe that she planned for me had been, how much I appreciated her help after my knee surgery, and how lucky I was to have had her with me for all that time.

And I got my 'frig back!


You might spend a minute just  gazing at the glory of a Dogwood blossom with water being blown about it in the birdbath.

This birdbath is at least 60 years old....

Breathe in, breathe OUT - s l o w l y !



Happy Birthday!

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Apr 29, 2018

POPS Pops 


BONNIE Bonnie 





Kool & The Gang - Celebration - YouTube 



Enjoy your special day!



It's Raining

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Apr 27, 2018

Dale's  touring

The bartender's pouring


If you are quitting smoking, sparkling water and cranberry juice is a good choice.  Alcohol and smoking just naturally go together.

.And a quit is a terrible thing to lose!



(NOT a poet - you know it - but need to stretch to come up with yet another idea for my Friday blog!)


Planned Down Time

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Apr 26, 2018

"On Friday 4/27/2018 at 9pm Eastern/6pm Pacific we'll have a scheduled maintenance period that may last up to 6 hours on the EX Community. During this time the EX community will not be available.  We'll have our Chatzy room open during this time for EX Community members to converse. will still be available.


Mark and the EX Team"


It's not a bad idea to ask the elder of your choice for their private e-mail.  Hopefully you won't need to use it, but it's good insurance to have.  You might also save the link to the Chatzy Room  I'd hate to see a quit lost in the wilderness!



Happy Earth Day!

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Apr 22, 2018

We who have quit have already reduced cigarette butt pollution and air pollution, but we can also stop using plastic straws:


plant a tree, start using cloth bags for groceries (maybe work to outlaw the plastic ones), and use a refillable water bottle.  I also use the sun to dry my clothes, and grow plants that are butterfly and bee supportive.

What ways are YOU improving the environment?

Happy Earth Day! 


Hand in Hand

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Apr 20, 2018

Drinking and smoking go hand in hand.

Drinking while quitting smoking can lead to a bad decision.  Drinking alcohol lessens your ability to think clearly enough sometimes to accept that  there is no such thing as "just one."

Please don't chance it.

A quit is a terrible thing to lose.