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I keep seeing that people are learning this lesson AFTER they have decided to have "just one" after they quit, so I decided maybe a blog with the title might help someone not to make this tragic mistake.

The Law of Addiction (from states: 

"Administration of a drug to an addict will cause re-establishment
of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance."

It may not happen right away, but it will always lead you back to smoking.  ALWAYS!

Cigarettes travel in packs.  It is not now, nor will ever be, possible to smoke even just one.  As an addict, it just cannot be.....period!

PLEASE don't think you can be an exception!

A quit is a terrible thing to lose.


The teachers in our County during this pandemic have been going above and beyond for months, learning how to teach virtually, spending hour upon hour preparing, and,  in some cases,  trying to keep THEIR kids on target......and now THIS.

Are there really people who are this low down, this greedy, this despicable?

Baltimore County Public Schools Closed Due To ‘Ransomware Cyber Attack’ – CBS Baltimore 

I guess we are finding out.....




(but we all KNOW I'm not gonna' smoke over it!!!!)

If you are quitting smoking, it's a BAD idea!  Drinking alcohol can reduce your self control, and allow the thought that "just one won't hurt" to seem reasonable.  There is NEVER going to be "just one" to an addict.  Never.

Please don't chance it.  A quit is a terrible thing to lose.


The Calendar

Frog looked at Toad’s calendar. The April page was on top.

“Toad,” said Frog, “do you think it is still April?”

“No,” said Toad, “I know it is November. But my brain feels stuck in April.”

“Mine too,” said Frog.

Frog ripped off the April page.

“Toad,” said Frog, “I do not understand time anymore.”

“Time means nothing now,” said Toad. “It is just the thing that happens between snacks.”


Off to get a snack!!!



They weren't able to do the procedure because elvan 's  blood pressure was too low.  I will let her tell you the rest when she is able.  She is resting.


I know any and all prayers will be appreciated




Update on Skygirl

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Nov 15, 2020

Skygirl was an active and treasured member of our community after she quit in 2012.  If you want to get a glimpse into her experience, you might read her early blogs.  She wrote some EXcellent ones.  She embraced the lemon as her quit aid more actively than anyone I have seen since. A photo of her oft bitten fruit became the stuff of legends.   She was the creator of the "Paper Plate Awards" given at the site get togethers, and a guiding force initially for those gatherings.


Since March of 2017, Skygirl (Nancy)'s husband, Jeff, has been General Manager of the Rockaway Beach Resort, a homeowners association of condominiums.    They lived in Cape Meares for ten years and bought a home in Rockaway Beach to be closer to Jeff’s job about three years ago.. As a former retail site, it needed a lot of modifications!  In March, 2019, during the middle of working on the house, Jeff was diagnosed with ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), also known as Lou Gehrig's disease.   ALS is always fatal.  Life expectancy is usually two to five years.


Despite the devastating news, Jeff and Nancy have strived to keep life as normal as possible.  Jeff started treatment that is hoped to slow progression of the disease.  As his disease progressed, Nancy took a long leave from her job as a flight attendant to be home, caring for Jeff.  Ultimately she was furloughed from United Airlines because of COVID-19.  She began working at the Resort to assist Jeff.


Work eventually came to a complete stop on the house, as Jeff’s disease progressed.  Currently, the “kitchen” has only a few tables used as countertops and a laundry sink. 


At the end of October, Jeff and Nancy were let go by the brand-new president of the Resort Board.    Jeff has applied for Social Security disability, but has been told that, even if it is fast-tracked, it will be 5-6 months before any payments are received.  Nancy needs to provide his care, so she is not able to work. 
A resident of Rockaway has created a GoFundMe page for them.  If you have not already been contacted and wish to support them, let me know and I will send you a link.  Any and all help will be most appreciated.
While we were both active, I became "The Other" Nancy, so I will end this with that as my tip of the hat to her.
"The Other" Nancy


 "I had a few drinks and said what the heck I can handle one puff. The next day I was like wow, look at that,  I had one puff of a cig and I feel great today;  no cravings at all. And a little voice in my head said, " see you can handle an occasional cigarette!"That voice was oh,  so wrong. The next couple of  times I'd hang out with friends who smoked I would take a drag which would turn into two, which would turn into a whole cigarette. Before I knew it I bought myself a pack (just for the occasional use of course). And that's how it started and here I am now disappointed in myself.  I bought a Juul (which has way more nicotine then my system is used to) and now I need to quit again."


Please don't let this be you.  A crypt is a scary place to be, just like having to face another Day One.  Alcohol can fuzzy your decision making. 


Just don't chance it!  A quit is a terrible thing to lose.





Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Nov 12, 2020


There IS one positive thing about your day today.  You either aren't smoking or are getting ready to quit.  And THAT'S a GOOD THING!


George didn't want to take the spotlight away from the one directed on our deserving veterans, but he did want to pay his respects!

and he joins us in honoring them!



A Red Fox!

Posted by Youngatheart.7.4.12 Nov 11, 2020

I was drinking my coffee, looking out my kitchen window this morning when I saw a fox very much like this one, taking a drink from my birdbath.  He was really large, really red,  had defined black "socks" and the bushiest tail I have ever seen!  He was STUNNING - so healthy and so magnificent! I live in an established village, so this sight is not a regular one.


I couldn't get my phone on in time to capture the moment, but I know one thing.  Had I still been smoking, I would not have been at that window with my coffee.  I would have been out back, puffing away.


Yet ANOTHER benefit of quitting!!!



If you practice this one simple exercise - say "No!" to alcohol when you are quitting smoking (or have quit!) - you probably won't believe your addiction when it tries to tell you that just one will be OK.   It won't be OK - ever!


So, please don't.   A quit is a terrible thing to lose!



I could go on and on, and post studies, articles and tales from the Crypt of Lost Quits to support this post....but I've done that......for almost seven years.


SOOOOOO - I will just answer NO!

Your thinking may become impaired and you might think "just one" will be OK.  It won't be  now - or ever.


Decision is up to you.  Make the right one. 


A quit is a terrible thing to lose!



first it's Friday night, then Saturday night!


Here's your  reminder for the weekend that it's a bad idea to drink alcohol while you are quitting smoking.  It clouds your thinking and can lessen your commitment not to smoke.


Please just don't.   A quit is a terrible thing to lose.



Ladybug--7-3-12 reminded me that the seasons changing might surprise you with thoughts of smoking.  If you have quit in the past two years (and sometimes even if it's been longer), you might be surprised by a random thought that you want to smoke.  You have to get through two years of seasons changing, holidays, family gatherings and celebrations.  You don't yet have a lot of practice relearning these events as an ex-smoker, so it stands to reason you might think about smoking when you experience them.


Be prepared, not alarmed!  Perfectly normal in the course of your quit.  Just a shake of the head and maybe a deep breath is all that is required to stay quit for the long haul.



What a tenacious addiction this is!   Here I am more than eight years quit.  I am doing my Manic Fall Housecleaning, and have been working on my bedroom.  I came downstairs to get something to drink and to take a break.  As I'm coming down the steps with a bucket of dirty water and some things to put in the dryer to freshen up, the thought invades, "Gee..."  Easy to dismiss; not a crave, but I am STILL astounded that I even had the thought.  I have found, though, that the "reward" association is the last to leave me, I guess because I have only had eight years of Fall Housecleaning to relearn it.  I am now here reading and responding on the site, enjoying a gingerale over crushed ice,....and creating a NEW association.


Tenacious, though!


Be careful out there!






P.S.  Of COURSE I didn't smoke!!!