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What can be more EXciting than that?

Miss Penelope now 10 Months old is learning Spanish which my Wife and I are using exclusively when we have playdays at our home! 

It takes her a few minutes to switch gears but soon she's in the groove - listening to what we have to say and I'm convinced - figuring out what we're getting at!

For Halloween, we have our unique Mexican take on Dia de los Muertos with dancing skeletons and festive decor.


Little by little, Penny is picking up on the flavor of authentic Mexican culture and customs!

Here at becomeanEX we have a whole culture as well! When I first got here it kind of threw me off because this site is much different from other Quit Smoking sites with it's own language of N.O.P.E., willingness, S.I.N.A.O., N.E.F. and so much more that I had to learn along with a new perspective and way of thinking! It took time to catch on but was richly worth it!

There were also many cultural differences such as bonfires and Freedom Train, Daily Pledge and more. I explored all corners of the website with curiosity and absorbed the culture and the meaning behind it all just as Penny is absorbing my culture and it's meaning!

My belief is that my Quit Journey benefitted greatly from this EXperience!

I hope you who are new here will be very snoopy - look around, READ READ READ! Pick up a culture and language centered around Smoking Cessation and Recovery for a Life of FREEDOM from Nicotine!

You will learn so much just by taking it all in!

Happy Halloween, Everybody!

Have you "tried your best to fight the craves and can't seem to win?" Are you sitting there scratching your head about what went wrong and feeling like you can "never win?" I'll tell you something I learned Thanks to the Elders who helped me launch the adventure of my lifetime - Smoke FREE Living! 

I came here like most of us not knowing anything about Nicotine Addiction and was told to read and I did! It really helped but there was this guy who I thought was goofy (Thank Goodness I now know that he was spot on!) His name is James and his moniker is the Happy Quitter! ....Say what? What's there to be happy about? Strong, yes! Determined, yes! Stubborn, fierce, a fighter! But happy??? As I thought about it, something really clicked and the light bulb came on! 


I had been fighting the Nico-Demon with willpower! What could be more effective than that? But I was missing the essential...The Nico-Demon is ME!!!!!


So when I was fighting myself, how could I win without losing??? And guess what, the loser had been the part that wanted to be FREE! You can't be FREE when you're fighting!!!! 

This fellow James had something - something I really, really wanted! He was not just Quit - He was Happy being Quit! 

So how do you handle the craves if you don't fight??? What do you do instead? 

There's a fellow here named Tommy who repeatedly told me to use Focus and Determination. Could I combine these 2 great pieces of advice? Think about Focus for a minute...


When you focus with determination instead of fighting with determination, the whole picture changes! I had changed my perspective! The Nico-demon became more blurry, less important and the object of my Focus increased in POWER - the POWER to WIN! And what was that very important object of my FOCUS?



FREEDOM from the Chains of Addiction! 

FREEDOM to be the ME that my Creator made me to be!

FREEDOM from pain, suffering, illness, devastation!

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize and ignore the Nico-Demon - but don't fight Him because HE IS ME! Just Focus on the Prize! Will He scream for attention? Oh yea! But when you ignore him long enough, he loses energy - your Energy is on your Prize! And he gets weaker....and weaker...and weaker...and becomes a little bitty gnat that once in a great while bugs you but you easily have the POWER to swat him back into his place tiny! So worthless! 




A Smoking Robot?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 28, 2016


What does smoking do to the cells of your airways? It baffles even the EXperts in COPD Research. Now Scientists from Harvard University have created a smoking robot made up of an Airway on a Chip! 


I have long said that Science will sooner or later catch up to this disease - as complex as it is!

Our job is to take the very Best Care of ourselves while these technologies become practice and that may take a good long while! 

COPD is at this time an incurable, progressive smoking-related illness that can be managed! It takes work - a lot of work! We will have to change just about everything in our environments based on our illness including lifestyle, smoke exposure of all kinds including Sickerette Smoke, cleanliness, reduced exposure to chemicals and processed everything, avoidance of pullution in all forms, regular use of medicine and developing a Health Management Team and a Plan that we faithfully adhere to.

Of all of these changes nothing is more important than Smoking Cessation!

It's a tall order but what is possible is not only Quantity of Life but a Quality that you will benefit from immediately! The more you seek these solutions the better the Life you can live while buying time for R & D to find and intitiate a cure!

Yes, I believe that in my lifetime there will be a cure! And I expect to be at the front of the line to use it!

You have the same decision to make! It's your LIFE!

For those of us who have COPD, anybody around you and yes, the rest of the planet - get your flu shot! 

Influenza kills more than 36,000 people a year!

Influenza is a virus for which antibiotics don't work and can lead to bacterial pneumonia.Speaking of which, folks with COPD need a pneumonia vaccine every five years. There are different forms of both so ask your doctor which is best for you. You don't need a doctor's appointment if you can't afford it. A phone call will do. 

I got my influenza and pneuonia vaccines at my local grocery store and had no out-of-pocket copay. 

If you say, well the flu shot makes me sick - I would have to agree in spite of all of the reassurances that it can't! But I'd rather schedule my sick days and know that they are limited and non-life-threatening than to play russian roulette. 

It is important to note that the vaccine takes a couple of weeks to become effective, so you can still contract the flu if you are exposed to the flu right before or after you are vaccinated. If you have a fever, you should hold off on getting the vaccine until your fever has passed. But don't forget!

Get your vaccinations! Don't smoke! If do those 2 simple things you increase your survival rates more than all of the other treatments put together! And it doesn't cost a dime!


Nicotine like all Addictions plays a deadly dance of Self destruction. You have an inner voice often referred to as the Nico-Demon or as I call it, your Addictive Voice. But what is it really?

Nico-Demon is simply a destructive thought process that both seduces you into smoking just one more Sickerette and then after indulging, this deceptively soothing inner voice transforms into a cruel enemy, tearing you apart! Because this demon is you, it knows exactly what to say!

 Smoking represents a direct assault against your physical health and emotional well-being, and it limits your ability to pursue meaningful personal goals in your Life. 

Awaiting those who recover is a very different dance  - the Dance with Life itself that offers all of the joys and sorrows of authentic Life full of Growth and Self Awareness!

But how can we get from one to the other? How do we become an EX?

First we have to find a way to let go of the seduction. Second, we have to learn to quiet the critical punishing voice that literally tears us apart.

Identify - It is vital to identify the thoughts that get you into trouble and lure you into destructive behavior. Even though these thoughts may seem friendly or calming, they should be recognized as an enemy.

By identifying the internal and external triggers, people can become more conscious and self-aware. They can pause to reflect and resist acting on thoughts that go against their own self-interest

Reflect – Once you know what the thoughts are and when they come up, you can start asking why.  Where do the “voices” come from? Do they sound familiar? Do they remind you of someone or something from your past? Did anyone from your past influence you by engaging in similar behavior?  Did your parents or other influential figures use any destructive means to deal with their feelings or to soothe themselves?

Plan – Knowing what triggers you orients you toward action. You can then define a plan of what to do in moments when you feel compelled to smoke. You can visualize yourself saying no. You can think of actions you can take that have worked in the past to distract or help you. You can seek out a certain person to talk to, a certain friend to hang out with, or a certain activity to engage in during moments of temptantion

Have compassion – We all face struggles and make mistakes. To deal with Nicotine Addiction is a sign of strength, not weakness, and you must not allow your critical inner voice to beat you up for any mistakes. Remember that the urge to self-punish is a strong part of what draws a person to smoke. Listening to that inner voice will only work against you, even when you experience a setback – especially when you experience a setback!

Feel – Addiction numbs a person from joy as well as pain. Its purpose is to bury emotions that you are resistant to feeling or don’t believe you can tolerate. Naturally, when you break an addiction, emotions will arise that the addiction was helping you to avoid. Feeling these emotions and getting through them will make you stronger. It will also reduce your perceived “need” for a Sickerette that was driving your addiction.

 Initially, the critical inner voices will get louder, as you stop listening to their instructions. However, when you persevere in your actions, they lessen and eventually fade. Throughout this process, you must be resilient, open, and compassionate.

When you combat an addiction by challenging your destructive inner voices, you strengthen your true self. You achieve a better balance that leaves you stronger in the face of destructive temptations and hurtful behaviors. Most importantly, you break free from any internal chains that hold you back from experiencing who you are at your fullest potential and actively pursuing what you aim to accomplish in your life.

By pursuing genuine wants, desires, and goals, you strengthen your real self, a process that enables you to achieve freedom from addictive, self-destructive behaviors.

 You have begun the healthy natural Dance with Life!


Confidence on the outside begins by living with  integrity on  the inside.          

Brian  Tracy


Just in case you're new here today and haven't heard, we are JUNKIES! I am and YOU ARE, Too! Here's the difference between us and those guys jonesing for a fix!

When you have QUIT SMOKING you break the cycle of dishonesty that says anything to "justify"  my next hit! You know, "Oh I don't smoke much, everybody deserves a vice!", or "just one won't hurt!", or (I love this one!)" I can quit any time I want!" (and here's the other half!) "I can't quit - I've tried a dozen times!"

There are an infinite number of LIES that we tell ourselves in order to give in to that next craving and keep the Monster happy!

 Now, once you stay quit for a good while,that smoke cloud rises and you are left standing there in all your natural beauty! The REAL YOU! The Rose with thorns!

You have to learn to live with yourself just as God intends for you to be! You have to become INTEGRATED!

You can't run for a cig and hide behind the smoke any more! This is YOU! And it's a Great Opportunity to look at yourself - really take a good look! - and say "I like what I see!"

There's a person with so much courage (s)he kicked the addiction for LIFE! There's a person who had FOCUS, who had DETERMINATION, who RESPECTS themself, who HONORS their DECISIONS!

That's a darn AWESOME PERSON!

You set a Goal and made it happen even though you were afraid, anxious, upset, disoriented! You made it happen! YOU DID THAT! WOW!

If you could do that you can do all kinds of things! You have EXcellent reason to be CONFIDENT because you have INTEGRITY!

Now, seriously, folks, how many people do you know who can say that? Feel PROUD of YOURSELF! 


Who's the Boss?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 24, 2016
  Your Addictive Self is a part of   YOU! That being said there is another part of you that is being dragged down with it - the part that knows that what you're doing is wrong and contradictory to your every moral value!   Your Addictive Self  won’t stop smoking, and you can’t stop forking over the time and money that make the sickerettes possible.
  Of course you can easily see the problem from the outside. Why would an Addict stop smoking when they can squeeze thousands of dollars a month out of you and keep right on doing what they’ve done their whole lives? And how can you say no when your Addiction seems impossible to break? Besides, it’s a disease, isn’t it? How can you deny your sick addiction?
  You probably already know that that’s how the daily cycle continues for years and years, and how it’s apt to go on until you get very, very sick or  die or the money runs out. The Addict within will continue to manipulate you, and you will continue to feel guilty and wonder what you did to cause your decision to smoke that first sickerette and go down the Addict road.
   Nicotine Addiction  is a Choice, not a Disease
  Of course you've always known that the promise of tobacco never really came to fruition. You weren't really cooler, more rebellious, more popular, sexier, calmer and whatever else the commercials depicted just because you smoked your cancer sticks. Even when your childhood quest for those things played a role, it doesn’t excuse ongoing childishness. Searching for the current problems’ beginnings, even finding them, does nothing to fix the mess. As you’ve probably noticed, everyone just stays trapped in the swirl of emotions, habit, myth, and despair.
    There is an Alternative
    This time I have a different  suggestion. Instead of pouring on battles and willpower, I recommend a carefully planned disengagement. No threats, no expectation that your addictive self  will change - just a gradual change in your internal dynamics that will, over the course of time, result in your Addictive Self being isolated. 
    Concentrate on YOU! What values do you have? What activities would you like to do if you "had the time." Imagine your perfect self in line with your values and then decide on one activity that brings you closer to becoming that person and do it. You are the part of yourself who wants things to change - so ignore your Addictive Self who obviously has a vested interest in things staying the same.  
    It works because you are focusing on that part of you who wants to change rather than to force change onto your Addictive Self. Success means working with the part of you that is motivated; skipping labels and self-justifying EXcuses; focusing on the present and future, not the past; and actively instituting new behaviors.  
      The Temper Tantrum  
     Your Addictive Self will certainly protest, especially if it got it's fix by carrying on loud enough or long enough! But just as you wouldn't given in to a two-year-old throwing a temper tantrum, that's obviously not the solution here either.   
     But you can defuse the tantrum using similar methods as good parenting skills. You can acknowledge that your Addictive Self is frustrated. You can let it know you feel it's pain, too! Even just saying "I know you're upset," you're telling it you're there to help it feel better. That might be enough to calm it down so you can add, "I wish we could have a cigarette, too. It's too bad we can't right now."   
     Be silly. Laughter can be a great tantrum buster. If your Addictive Self starts to pitch a fit about walking past a temptation, try singing a goofy song  -- anything to make yourself giggle.   
      Try a distraction. Give yourself something else to think about. There are several lists of 100 things to do instead. Get busy and if it's an activity for which you're passionate, like art or music, even better!     
         Ignore it. Sometimes, tantrums escalate because your Addictive Self  thinks it will get what it wants if it screams loud enough. If you don't react, it will give up.       
          Leave the scene. When all else fails, get out of public and let yourself have the meltdown, tears and all - just keep those sickerettes away from your face! But do it without making a fuss  -- you'll be proving to yourself that even when you don't feel calm you can display calm behavior. It may be inconvenient, but it shows who's the boss:         

Embrace Quititude!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 23, 2016

If there’s one thing that drives me crazy it’s when people say, “Don’t do that!” It’s so frustrating because I’m left with a negative! What I really want to know is “What shall I do instead?” It’s like “Don’t imagine a purple Zebra!” Now what? But if I say imagine a green Giraffe then I can do that! And the other image fades away…

It’s the same way with Smoking Cessation! Even the name reminds me of what I want to not think about!  But what if I focus on what I want in LIFE? It is not enough to “just say no”—as the 1980s slogan suggested. Instead, you can protect (and heal) yourself from addiction by saying “yes” to other things.” That truly makes all the difference!

We have all kinds of short “instead” lists such as this one Blogged repeatedly over the Years:

That’s a good starting point where you can add your own ideas. When you choose something near to your heart it’s even better!

Then there’s the long haul! To make it the distance you need what I call Quititude! Quititude doesn’t just come naturally – it’s a learned behavior! That’s good news! If I can learn it, I can acquire it! Some of us learn at different rates or in different ways but we all have the ability to learn!

Actually one of the most Addictive aspects of Smoking is that our Brains learned that we could get a dopamine rush with a Sickerette long after we no longer get the same rush anymore! So relearning Addiction FREE LIFE counteracts those memories!

Here are some suggestions that might help you with your Quititude:

As often as possible throughout your day, take a moment to Celebrate an activity or a thought related to your new smoke FREE status such as, " I love how delicious my food is tasting," "I love how wonderful the air is smelling," "I love the compliments and support I get from the people in my life," or "I love this brand new day of smoke FREE living." These sincere reflections of appreciation immediately will bring you into perfect alignment with the Creator of your Being and enhance your Values.

When you acknowledge these gifts and EXpress your Appreciation for Smoke FREEDOM, you will begin to change energetically, and it will influence every aspect of your Quit Journey. By practicing Quititude, you begin to have a relationship with the true essence of who you are and everyone who is within your sphere will benefit from your appreciation, even the naysayers! As you accept support graciously, more support comes your way!

By living with an awareness of Quititude, you are open to appreciating the element of Love in all things beginning with your Divine Source and yourself. As it touches every area of your Smoke FREE LIFE, it cultivates well-being and happiness, and when expressed around others, it brings about an increased level of peace, optimism, confidence and empathy. Quititude is not only a great virtue for successful Addiction Recovery, but the person who exhibits Quititude will benefit many people around them.

How do you cultivate a sense of appreciation every day? Just by saying the words “Thank You” out loud, you fortify and grow more Quititude! Work at practicing and remembering to give thanks and gratitude as often as possible and even plan it into your daily routine. Every morning, before getting out of bed, Thank God for another Smoke FREE Day! While going about preparations for the day send out an intentional thought of Gratitude for Recovery. Let the Universe know that you are grateful and appreciative for letting you have another opportunity to learn, understand and perhaps influence another person and hopefully change a life for the better.

How can you grow by incorporating Quititude into your daily agenda? First, it enables you to acknowledge the positive aspects of your quit, whether it is clean living, health or even opportunities to view something from a different point of view. It can assist you in putting things in perspective. When you have a negative thought such as "I really wish I could smoke right now," Quititude can spin that thought into "I am happy that I don’t have to smoke in order to deal with life on life’s terms." Whenever you look at quitting as hard and difficult, instead think of it as exciting and challenging. Start to perceive obstacles as opportunities to learn and grow, and change and improve.

When you emanate an Attitude of Quititude, it is the same vibration as the energy of Love. When you practice a mindset of appreciation, you will let go of doubt and fear and live in the presence of everything that feels right and good. The act of giving thanks will make you feel good, and this feeling is your soul's way of letting you know that Abundant Smoke FREE Living  is how you really are meant to live. As you live with Quittitude, your view of the World and yourself will completely change and your circumstances, situations and relationships are forever positivelyaltered.

When you practice Quititude, you see everything in your life as a miracle and you become aware of how many opportunities and possibilities are before you. You look at the things that are rich and positive instead of poor and fearful. It strengthens your body, mind and soul, and you will begin to attract those situations and people into your life that are also positive and soul-enriching.

When we have gratitude for Smoke FREE Living nobody and nothing can convince us to let that go! It is our armor against temptation and the seed of our Success! We don't just Quit Smoking - We live a New Smoke FREE LIFE abundantly!

 It's not about what I don't have - it's about what I want more of in my LIFE!




The Push and Pull

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 22, 2016


  What do we do if an urge pushes us in one direction and our values pull us in another? We don't want to struggle with that urge because then it's hard to focus on effective action. So rather than try to resist, control, or suppress it, the aim is to make room for it, to give it enough time and space to expend all it's energy. And one marvelously useful technique for this is known as "urge surfing."
  Have you ever sat on the beach and watched the waves? Just noticed them coming and going? A wave starts off small and builds gently. Then gradually it gathers speed and grows bigger. It continues to grow and move forward until it reaches a peak, known as a crest. Then, once the wave has crested, it gradually subsides. The same happens with urges in your body. They start off small and then steadily increase in size.
  All too often we get into a struggle with our urges; that's why we talk of "resisting" them. In urge surfing, though, we don't try to resist our urges - we just give them space. If you give an ocean wave enough space, it will reach a crest and then harmlessly subside. But what happens if that wave encounters resistance? Ever seen a wave crash onto the beach or smash against the rocks? It's loud, messy, and potentially destructive.
  So urge surfing is a simple but effective technique in which we treat our urges like waves and "surf" them until they dissipate. The term coined back in the 1980s by psychologists Alan Marlatt and Judith Gordon is part of their groundbreaking work with drug addiction. 


Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 21, 2016

Our fears are more numerous than our dangers,

and we suffer more in our imagination than in reality.


I was so afraid to quit! I was afraid that I would miss my constant companion. I was afraid that I would never "get" to smoke again! I was afraid that I would "try" and fail! I was afraid that I would become one of those EX - smokers who hate anything closely related to tobacco!!!!


HA! The whole time I was afraid of all the wrong things! I SHOULD HAVE been afraid of Smoking Related Illness! But you know what? It never really crossed my mind ......until! Yep! Too late! Now I have the BIG Smoke Related Illness - COPD!


What did I imagine a quit would look like? Well, I thought that I would have that skin crawlly feeling forever! I thought that I'd always wish I had a Sickerette! I thought that I would have to be Super-Human depriving myself the one kick-back relax my-time activity I allowed myself to indulge in!


Little did I know that I was about to embark on the most Spiritually Expansive, Personally Maturing, Physically Renewing journey of self-exploration that I could ever imagine! Oh, how I wish I had known before I got sick! But I'm GRATEFUL every day for this journey! And YES, I'm PROUD to be one of those EXers who HATES the ENEMY - Addiction! Now I kick back and relax naturally - not because I NEED MY FIX! But because I'M ABUNDANTLY ADDICTION FREE!


So NEWBIE! Will you change? ABSOLUTELY - you will discover the NEW YOU - so much better than you could ever imagine! There's only one rule: keep those Sickerettes away from your face! All the rest will happen naturally!


Blind Faith!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 19, 2016

Well I went to the opthamologist today. More challenges lie ahead for me. I have gross cataracts in my left eye leaving me essentially blind and I also have cataracts in the right  eye but can still see 20/25 with that one. 

After overcoming my bewilderment and shock I scheduled the surgery for Friday, Nov 4. The surgeon will remove my left cataract and replace my lens with plastic. Does it make anybody else shudder like it does me? Last night I had nightmares of watching a scalpel coming toward my eye! Creepy!

But it has to be done! 

Good news is these guys do dozens of these surgeries every day. They're very good at it! I'm to expect to be out of commission for just a couple of days before my sight is restored. Then in 2-4 weeks I go back under the knife for the right eye. I hope it's not so creepy that I have to force myself to do the second surgery!

I'm very grateful that I'm a solid EX-smoker. It will make the whole process easier and safer. I can't imagine letting Sickerette smoke float up into my eye after cutting my eye up! When I went in there was an older gentleman standing right at the door smoking a Sickerette. I felt so sorry for him I even forgot to get mad about the second hand smoke! 

Anyway I'm getting ready for the show tonight hoping that my future will allow me the blessing of sight! I love to read and would not cope well with it's loss!

I'm rambling and still shuddering so I'll just add

Smoke FREE is the only Way to BE!


If you could just see yourself in a few short Weeks of Smoke FREEDOM you would embrace your Quit so enthusiastically!

Life gets better on every single Level of your Being so quickly!

I know those first Days, Hours, Minutes drag on interminably! But if you can keep yourself distracted with the activities you Love Passionately, before you know it all of that Roller Coaster smoothes out and you're riding the Wave with glee!

Imagine it for yourself and it will happen just this way!

Become a Happy Quitter - not because you "have to" 

Because isn't that what you'd really rather have?

YOU have the Power to make it happen!

It's right between your ears!

I think my vision of Recovery has radically changed as I learned about Nicotine Addiction and Recovery.

At first, I thought it would be Day One over and over again every single day of my Life!

Then I recognized that it would get better but my Brain was going to drive me crazy on a regular basis.

With time, I thought I would only need to be vigilant during particularly stressful Days and situations.

But there came a time when I expected that I would “live happily ever after!”

Although it’s possible (likely) that my Quit Journey will continue to evolve

I have now rejected ALL of the above!

Temptation doesn’t drill you down constantly nor does it pop up only during

Terrible Horrible No Good Very Bad Days!

Those rare temptations can be something so simple as parking in front of a Tobacco Store in a Mall or enjoying beautiful weather!

Or Wonderful Days of Celebration (even Smoking Cessation Anniversaries) can set off Addictive Thoughts!

But even when you achieve so much detachment from smoking that these occasions never or very rarely happen you continue to grow in your Recovery or  you become Complacent! There will never be the Day when you say “been there – done that! Now let’s move on happily ever after”

Because Life still happens! Think of the folks you know who never smoked. They continue to have the highs and lows of Life – the whole range of emotions that I once hoped I would “get over!” Why should I be any different?

Now, if you’re thinking  - Gee, Thomas says that Recovery will always be a burden! That’s too much to think about!

On the Contrary! I’m saying that Recovery is a privilege! Privilege means a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group of people, in this case Folks in Recovery!

We have an Advantage, Folks!

We know what a treasure FREEDOM is! We know how gifted we are to feel our feelings and have all of our thoughts accessible to us yet to choose our actions based not only on thoughts or feelings but upon Decision!

Recovery has given me more opportunity for growth and Self Exploration than I would have had as a Never-Smoker!

Celebrate your Recovery! Celebrate LIFE! Celebrate YOU!

And No Matter What Keep Them Away From Your Face!






Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 14, 2016

Whether you have 24 hours, 24 Days, 240 Days or 2400 Day we all do this Recovery the same -

One day at a time!

Today is the most important Day of my recovery!

Fortunately, it gets easier and better as it goes along!

My goal at this point is to find a balanced awareness between vigilance and detachment while learning to Live Life on Life's terms!

I find N.O.P.E. so all encompassing! I still use it as my guiding light!

How did I get 2400 days? One at a time!

It's only natural! We've all heard and read about how we can win the Smoking Cessation with Willpower. Fight! Fight! Fight! And then fight some more! Be strong! Be tough!

Actuallly, you are fighting your Addictive Brain and that's YOU! 

Now how can you win by fighting yourself?

It doesn't work!

So what's a Successful Quitter to do?

Dale shows us daily all kinds of distractions.

Tommy shared a formula that I also along with many many quitters used:

Focus and Determination.

James showed me how to become a Happy Quitter!

Sheri shares our Self Esteem building.

Smorgy demonstrates Self Love.

MikeCity tells us how exercise enhances his Quit Journey.

Pops talks about Commitment.

We have dozens of people who have shown us all very good options that actuallu work!

Willpower isn't one of them because it just doesn't work!

Put your energy where it works!

Stop fighting yourself!




Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 11, 2016


No matter how you dress it up

Smoking is just plain spooky!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 11, 2016


This stuff clears my lungs and helps me Breathe! Only I don't look near this good doing it! *sigh!*



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 10, 2016

Well, here it is!

I took a PFT today in order to find out where I stand on lung capacity. Although I did lose some capacity, I am still within the moderate COPD range. A sort of measured good news.

I am off the Oxygen for now. and building my Oxygen Sats up to low 90s. My goal is 95-97 and my plan for reaching it is a combination of resistance training, treadmill, and yoga - using the tools I learned in Pulmonary Rehab. My pulmonologist has given me the green light as long as I keep very close tabs on my sats while I work out.

I spent the Weekend with Penelope and her parents while Mom and Dad made a new goat pen. Pesky goats love to jump the fence! Fresh farm air did my lungs good and the October weather so far has been at it's Colorado Best!

So many blessings to count!

Thank You, becomeanEX Community for always having my Best Interest in mind. Your prayers and thoughts have kept my spirits up and God willing I will be able to return to work soon!

Protect your Quit! Protect your Lungs! You don't get a second chance!


We are all very Special Unique people with different problems, solutions, blessings, struggles, stories.

We all have different tools in our Quit Smoking Tool Boxes.

Some of mine arenn't helpful to you and some of yours aren't useful to me and that's OK!

But we have one premise in common here that is nonnegotiable:

N.O.P.E. Not One Puff Ever! I don't do that anymore (even a little!)

It isn't based on some random dogma.

It is based on the nature of Addiction and Recovery!

Once you truly accept the Law of Addiction you can see that there is no other alternative!

 "Adminstration of a drug to an addict will cause re-establishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance" 

It's that simple! We don't promise it is easy but it is doable!


COPD:  What Actually Happens When You Smoke: Why You Should Quit

If you have COPD, you know that smoking is bad for your health. You’ve probably been told by loved ones that smoking will only cause your breathing to worsen, and your medical professionals have told you that quitting is one way to help ease your breathing. However, why exactly do you need to quit? What happens when you smoke that causes all of these problems? Here, we will explain everything that happens to your body when you smoke and the physiological reasons why your breathing will improve if you quit.

There are several reasons why smoking is bad for you. One of those reasons is carbon monoxide. Carbon monoxide is found in cigarette smoke and is an odorless, tasteless, poisonous gas. Your body has a hard time telling the difference between oxygen and carbon monoxide, which is why sometimes it’s absorbed into the bloodstream.

 In eight hours: The carbon monoxide levels in your blood reduce by half. Carbon monoxide is the same fume pumped out by a car exhaust! In high doses it can be fatal, but at low levels - such as those found in cigarettes - it causes shortness of breath and increased heart rate. Your oxygen levels will also have returned to normal, helping replenish dried-out skin and hair caused by smoking.


In 24 hours: Carbon monoxide will be completely eliminated from your body and your lungs will start to clear out excess mucus and any other smoking 'debris'. You may notice you have a cough or sore throat as new lung tissue starts to grow.

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Tar is also a part of cigarette smoke which is harmful to the body. Tar remains inside your lungs as you inhale smoke, and is a sticky brown substance. Tar is full of chemicals which are ultimately harmful to your system. With this sticky residue in your lungs, your lungs can’t perform to their full potential and can’t sweep things like dirt and germs out of your system.

 In 1 - 9 Months: The cilia inside your lungs will begin to repair. The cilia are the tiny, hair-like structures that push mucus, tar and other toxins out of the lungs. Once the cilia are able to do their job efficiently, they can fight off infection and clear the lungs more easily. With improved functioning lungs, your coughing and shortness of breath will continue to decrease dramatically.

Smoking isn’t just linked to COPD—it is also linked to several different types of cancer and is thought to be generally harmful to every organ in the body. Despite all of these reasons, though, many people find it hard to quit smoking because of the addictive substance nicotine. Nicotine is the drug which is released during smoking that has many people coming back. It has been said to cause relaxation and calmness during stressful situations. However, the health effects of cigarettes outweigh the benefits of nicotine.

In 10 Years:  It may take 10 years, but if you quit, eventually your risk of dying from lung cancer will drop to half that of a smoker’s. Ten years after quitting, your risk of getting other types of cancer also decreases.

These include:

·         oral cancer

·         throat cancer

·         esophageal cancer

·         lung cancer

·         kidney cancer

·         pancreatic cancer

Does Ten Years sound like an eternity? There are folks right here who have already reached that goal and beyond. They are just like you! They had their Day One and couldn’t begin to imagine 10 Years Smoke Free yet here they are! It’s all about taking it one Day at a Time starting today.

Smoking cessation is the only proven way of slowing down disease progression in COPD.  Smoking cessation among COPD patients has been shown to lead within 2 months to an increase in patient self rated quality of life in a significant number of health domains. Smoking cessation leads to a significant reduction in COPD symptoms such as cough and shortness of breath as well as an increased physical endurance (such as walking up a flight of stairs). Fewer sick days and hospitalizations have been reported. Quitters also experience less depression and anxiety which are concomitant with COPD.

Even though it’s hard, the studies and evidence support the idea that the smoking will negatively affect your health while quitting will enhance the quality of your daily living. If you have been diagnosed with COPD, talk to your doctor about steps you could take to kick your smoking addiction

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Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 6, 2016

Ever say to yourself:

At least I don't drink in excess or use drugs!

Take a look at this chart:


Smoking is Suicide with every puff you take!


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Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 5, 2016

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It's my daily sanctuary that gives me the strength and courage to Live Life on Life's Terms!

We'd love to see you there! Extra baggage welcome!



Today I will not smoke for any reason under any circumstances NO MATTER WHAT!

It's really that simple! Not easy but doable!

Have a Wonderful Smoke FREE Day!


Hanging Out

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 3, 2016

About 15 Years ago I had a Year of smobriety and worked in a restaurant. I would purposefully choose to hang out in the smoking section and actually thought it made my quit stronger. I also hung out on breaks with the smokers at the picnic bench in back (next to the garbage.)

Every Friday a group of guys would come to my house for some card games, chain smoking and a botlle of bourbon. When I quit I never changed any of this even though I have never been much of a drinker.

I thought I had this quitting thing down! 

I remember when things started to break down. The guys would challenge me to take a puff but stay smokeless.Me believing myself cool and macho of course, took up the challenge. And won - the first time!

But there came a day when I said "to hell with it! I already proved that I can quit whenever I want and I'll do it again - just not today!" I smoked about a pack that night.

Those "not today's" lastest for 9 more Years!

Don't believe that you can continue with the same lifestyle! You can't!

That;s the difference between being smober (for awhile)and being Smoke FREE for Life!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 2, 2016

So my goal for today was to walk down the stairs for meals and back up afterwards and  I made it!

Oxygen Sats are staying strong with Oxygen Therapy 2Liters. Still sleeping 14 - 16 hours/day which I guess is OK. I miss normal living stuff like working, shopping, exercise, all that! It's boring for a person used to being active but I'm doing my best to accept my new normal. The Family have been incredibly supportive and that makes all the difference.

I really am apprehensive about seeing the Dr because I want to get off the oxygen & prednisone and don't want to hear that I lost a lot of lung capacity. Only time will tell.

If you smoke - QUIT NOW! If you have already begun your Quit Journey - protect you Quit as if your Life depends on it - because it does (and I'm not just talking Quantity - Quality is very important too!)

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