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Play Fair!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 29, 2016

If Nicotine Addiction played fair I might even be willing to make a deal with it! 

Had Nicotine kept it's word to relieve my stress, anxiety, and depression for the number of days listed on my quit smoking meter I might consider the trade-off!

The meter says that I could have traded 11 Weeks and 4 Days for 6 Years worth of smoking. First of all, I don't for a second believe my meter! I think it's a whole lot more than 3 months worth! Another thing it doesn't measure is Quality of life and I promise you, many a Dr has told me I would have been very impaired had I not quit when I did!How much impairment would I be paying for those Sickerettes? Who knows but I'm convinced it's a bunch!

But even more insidious is that smoking never really relieved my stress! All it did was stop the withdrawal that it started in the first place!

It never really kept me from being depressed! What it really did was hide my depression from myself while heaping self contempt for being an addict in the first place! 

Smoking never really helped me with anxiety - I felt more anxiety that I might run out of my smokes or not have a lighter or not get enough smoke breaks at work or might smell bad to my Wife and Kids or...or..or!

Don't you see? They were all Nico-Lies! Every single promise that Nicotine made me was a blatant Lie that I believed because Nicotine robbed me of my Brain! 

It's not fair to me or to you and you can't negotiate a fair deal with Addiction!

But you can get a Fair Deal with Quitting! The promises are the Truth! 

It isn't easy but it is simple!

It is absoluetely worth it! And I'm glad to have my 3 Months back. I'm glad to have my Quality of Life back. I'm glad to feel less stress, less anxiety, less depression! I'd do it again in a heartbeat! Only sooner if I had known the TRUTH!

Thomas3.20.2010

Did I Miss Something?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 29, 2016

I don't recall seeing here that "slips" are a normal part of the process and to be expected.

I don't recall reading that as long as I "bum" a Sickerette and don't purchase it doesn't count.

I don't recall that "you're doing good!" is the effective response to only having XXX Sickerettes this Month.

Am I reading something different from others here?

What I recall is N.O.P.E. = Not One Puff EVER! Not as a goal to reach but as a daily principle of serious quitting starting from Day One.

What I recall is the Law of Addiction:

 "Administration of a drug to an addict will cause
re-establishment 
of chemical dependence
upon the addictive substance."

 

I understand that to mean that were I to decide to take that puff, I risk my whole Quit going down the tubes. I have read here that the nicotine receptors are lit up again. I also read that the more "slips" one has the more permission our Addicted Brains gives us to "slip" and that it makes the next craving or temptation that much harder to overcome without giving in.

Maybe I'm wrong here but I doubt it! Are we reading the same stuff?

It only takes three days to overcome the physical part of tobacco addiction. The rest is in your head.  Make no mistake the mental part of kicking any addiction including tobacco is not easy. Remember it takes time... It took time for you to become mentally dependant on tobacco, it will take time to become independent.

Addiction to tobacco begins by choosing to use, recovery begins the same way -- choose to quit. Addicts must take responsibility for their recovery. Own it. Having a self-inflicted tobacco addiction does not absolve you of your behavior.

 

The physical part of addiction recovery is not very important. What is important is dealing with the compulsion, the craving, that happens even when you know you're going to destroy yourself.

 

As Addicts we all have addictive thoughts. I very rarely still have an addictive thought but I still have them. Being able to recognize them is very important especially at the beginning of our quit journey! That can be challenging because we have 60,000 thoughts a day and because we don’t necessarily recognize them when they pass through our minds.

Some folks personify addictive thoughts and refer to the Nico-Demon! I have no problem with that as long as you know that the Nico-Demon is YOU! You are generating these thoughts! Nobody knows what motivates you like you and most addictive thoughts are motivational.  What do they want you to do?

“I need my next FIX!”

That’s it! These thoughts may look very different from that but that is their motivation! Here are some Examples:

·         I need my sickerettes!

·         I’ll never be happy as an Exer!

·         Sickerettes are my best friend!

·         Sickerettes calm me down!

·         Life is too stressful to quit!

·         I’ll quit someday just not today!

·         I don’t smoke that much!

·         I’m a social smoker!

·         I’ve smoked too much for too long! I can’t quit!

·         Just one won’t hurt!

·         I’ve failed at quitting so many times, I can’t imagine success!

·         I like smoking! It smells good! It tastes good!

·         Smoking is my only vice!

·         At least I don’t XXX [drink, do drugs, etc…]

·         Some people smoke their entire lives and are healthy!

·         Smoking is hereditary! Everybody in my ancestry smoked!

 

I could keep going indefinitely! But it really comes down to one concept! If this thought gives you a “reason”, i.e. EXcuse to smoke even one more Sickerette – it is an addictive thought!

Nothing is forcing you to smoke. Your genes, your personality, your awful past, your family -- nothing. Abusing tobacco is voluntary, purposeful behavior. The only cause of your addiction -- both physical and mental is the thoughts that you habitually think that tell you in a thousand different ways 'Have a smoke' and the belief that thoughts command you to act.

 

Here’s the empowering part! YOU get to decide! You don’t have to follow that thought!

 

 Imagine thoughts as cars on a highway – they rush by and you can focus on only red cars or you can focus on just blue cars or you can decide to put your focus elsewhere!

 

 Not all thoughts are addictive thoughts, are they? It may seem like that at first but you had enough Freedom loving thoughts to find this website and sign up!

 

 Let go of your addictive thoughts! They will happen! That’s the nature of addiction. But you don’t have to latch onto them! That’s what we call romancing the Sickerette! Call it out and then focus on the Freedom loving thoughts!

 

I’m sure most of us have played the game: Don’t think of a purple zebra. Just mentioning purple zebras makes you think of them! Telling your mind to STOP thinking about them just doesn’t work! On the highway in your mind those blue cars are going to pass! So let them pass by!

 

When you stop paying attention to addictive thoughts, at first they pout, and then they scream, wave their hands, flail around, and throw a tantrum! That’s a good sign, actually as long as you continue to focus elsewhere! It means they're scared that you are serious about FREEDOM! They will say this is too scary, stressful, ugly, whatever! They will bring out every temptation they can muster so you will give in! BUT You still have the choice! YOU DECIDE!

 

 

You can decide to add red cars to your mind highway!

 

READ, READ, READ! When you read you are stimulating many more Freedom loving thoughts! The fastest and most effective smoking cessation method to change your thoughts is by using affirmations. You can get pages of affirmations right here:

 

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/positive-affirmations-and-support

 

 

 Do you want relief from tobacco? Do you want your life back again? Include affirmations in your smoking cessation routine. Have you heard that saying, "Don't feed the Monster?" Well, I have a saying, too! Feed your FREEDOM LOVING Voice!

 

Think of those cars on the highway! The more you read the more the traffic on the highway in your mind has helpful red cars!

Distract yourself with other stuff! Then you are filling that highway with even another kind of car – green cars, Get involved with something you’re passionate about. Borrow from the list called 100 things to do instead of smoking and then make your own list:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoke

 

Then decide!

Take control of those thoughts by choosing your focus!

Pretty soon you won’t notice those blue cars so much! Thoughts thrive on attention! The blue cars in your mind highway will take the off ramp! Your attention is sometimes on those red cars, other times on those green cars, and they will seem to multiply on your highway.

Eventually these blue car thoughts become less frequent and only once in a very blue moon will they show up! You will go hours, then days, then months, even years without these thoughts! And by then when they do show up, it’s a little whisper you can easily choose to dismiss!

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 It gets better very soon so don’t be discouraged! What’s 4 Months compared to a lifetime of Freedom?

 Participate! We know how to do this and we can show you how!

 

DECISION is the Ultimate POWER!

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The first casualty of addiction is the truth. First I lied to myself about my addiction, then I began to lie to others. Sometimes I even knew in my heart of hearts that I was lying.  Lying, evasion, deception, manipulation, spinning and other techniques for avoiding or distorting the truth became natural.

So how does a person who values honesty do that, you ask? One of the most effective ways I managed to reconcile that was personal exceptionalism which permitted me to  reference the unique, special considerations that at least in my own mind- happened to apply to my particular case.

The form of logic for this personal exceptionalism is:

      
  • Under ordinary circumstances and for most people smoking is undesirable/irrational;
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  • My circumstances are not ordinary and I am different from most people;
  •   
  • Therefore smoking is not undesirable/irrational in my case - or not as undesirable/irrational as it would be in other cases.

Armed with this powerful tool of personal exceptionalism that is a virtual "Open Sesame" for every difficult ethical conundrum I faced, I was free to take whatever measures were required for the preservation and progress of my addiction, while simultaneously maintaining my allegiance to the principles that would certainly apply if only my case were not a special one. This is the basic mindset of "I can quit whenever I wish. I’ve done it dozens of times" and "If you had the problems I do you’d smoke, too!" plus  “ I don’t smoke that much and it’s my only vice!”

My personal exceptionalism, along with my willingness to lie both by commission and omission in the protection and furtherance of my addiction, placed a severe strain upon my relationships with the people I cared about the most - my Wife and my Sons. It didn’t take them long to conclude that I simply could not be believed in matters pertaining to my addiction. I may have sworn that I was Smober and intended to stay that way when in fact I was planning to smoke at my first opportunity; I minimized and concealed the amount of Sickerettes consumed; and I made up all manner of excuses and alibis whose usually transparent purpose was to provide me the room it required to continue smoking.

Is it any wonder that my Family who first responded to my sincere sounding promises of reform with relief, hope and at times even joy soon became disillusioned and bitter? I managed to consider myself the victim of the unfairness and unreasonableness of those  who were forever harping on my addiction and the consequences that flow from it. "Leave me alone," I would snap. "I’m not hurting anybody but myself!" I had become almost totally blind to how my addictive behavior did in fact harm those around me who care about me; and I had grown so confused that hurting only myself had begun to sound like a rational, even a virtuous thing to do!

As the addictive process claimed more of my Self and my World my addiction became my primary relationship to the detriment of all others. Strange as it sounds to speak of a dead leaf as a love object, this is precisely what happened.  When my Family sensed their own secondary "less than" status in relation to the addiction - and despite my passionate and indignant denials of this reality, they were right: I did indeed loved my addiction more than I loved them!

The day I came to BecomeanEx I was desperate! I had virtually no computer skills, no experience with such things as My Space or Facebook, no knowledge of what I might find or if it would even help! All I knew is that I had a chronic, progressive, incurable smoking related illness. The thought that I might need education on Nicotine Addiction struck me as ironic! Who might know more about Nicotine than me, an Addict? And I already had decided what Recovery meant to me.

Recovery meant life-long deprivation. I envisioned year after year of desperately wanting but being unable to smoke. It ought to be no surprise to anyone that I chose to pass up the chance to embrace it. Thanks - but no thanks! Had I not been diagnosed with COPD I might still be lying to myself about Nicotine Addiction and Recovery.

It turned out that I had a lot to learn! First I had to learn to be brutally honest with myself. I had to admit that I would say or do just about anything just to get to that next puff! In other words, I had to admit that I am a hard core Addict!

I became aware that taking away isn’t the answer. The more important question is, “What will you do instead?”

I had to know that I wasn’t “hopelessly addicted” nor was I “able to quit (for awhile) whenever I want!” I had to make the tough knowledgeable decision that the physical withdrawal was just the beginning – the deepest hook was/is the psychological withdrawal and that doesn’t happen in a few days – it takes ….however long it takes!

As for personal exceptionalism, Yes, I am EXceptional but my Addiction is not. In fact, it’s rather ordinary, routine, predictable. You may even relate to most or all of it. And like all Addicts I have to follow the one governing Law of Addiction:

 “Administration of a drug to an Addict will cause reestablishment of chemical dependence upon the addictive substance.”

I can be blindly led by this Law like the Law of Gravity which allows me to sit in this chair and type this Blog or I can learn to honor it in all of it’s complex ramifications.

I had to admit that I had put Sickerettes first before my Wife, before my Sons! I had to make amends – and sincerely mean it! No more “What they don’t know won’t hurt them” lies! I learned that if Sickerettes are my Best Friend, then people can’t be, now can they?

And little by little I reclaimed myself – one TRUTH at a time.

For awhile there, maybe even a long while, I thought of Tobacco as my Enemy. I don’t think that way anymore. Tobacco isn’t my Friend and it isn’t my Enemy. It’s simply a dead leaf wrapped in paper and dipped in thousands of chemicals. PERIOD. Nothing to Romance and Nothing to Fear! Nothing of Value whatsoever!

Here it is 6 1/2 Years later and I’m still learning because of the tender mercy of our God, With which the Sunrise from on high will visit us,TO SHINE UPON THOSE WHO SIT IN DARKNESS AND THE SHADOW OF DEATH, To guide our feet into the way of peace. ( Luke 1 78-79) Recovery is truly the Gift from on High that gives more and more each Day, each Month, each Year – as long as we say, “Yes, Lord, Here I am!”

We all know the saying, The TRUTH will set you FREE! (John 8:32) And that’s EXactly what happened! Little by little I shined the light of Truth on all of those deceptions and replaced them with a fresh way of living. Recovery became nothing more or less than the recovery of LIFE itself. It is about reclaiming my God-given Self, not merely giving up Sickerettes. Addiction by its very nature is a form of bondage, even slaveryRecovery is the recovery of life, MY LIFE, and of freedom.

“FOR THE HEART OF THIS PEOPLE HAS BECOME DULL, WITH THEIR EARS THEY SCARCELY HEAR, AND THEY HAVE CLOSED THEIR EYES, OTHERWISE THEY WOULD SEE WITH THEIR EYES, HEAR WITH THEIR EARS, AND UNDERSTAND WITH THEIR HEART AND RETURN, AND I WOULD HEAL THEM.' "But blessed are your eyes, because they see; and your ears, because they hear.” (Matt 13:15-16) 

I have been truly Blessed!

Who needs a Dead Leaf?

Thomas3.20.2010

Addiction Recovery

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 19, 2016

When we realize that we are dealing with an addiction, we have opened our eyes to the quit journey!

Quitting is more than just not smoking - it is recovery from addiction!

Recovery means the process of reclaiming something lost! So what did we lose when we got hooked on nicotine? I would surmise that we lost our true God-given Selves!

No pill, patch, e-cig, or other device can give that back to us! Only we can get that back by going to the source of our being - Our Creator!

We must forgive ourselves and ask HIS forgiveness for the sacrifices we have made for the sake of our drug - Nicotine! I sacrificed my body, my mind, my spirit, my soul to a dried up dead leaf wrapped in paper and dipped in thousands of deadly chemicals!

One by one, I have to reclaim each of these! That takes time!

I didn't just wake up one day and say, "I think I'll forfeit all that makes me special to an addictive substance!"

NO! It took time - little by little giving up more and more of myself! And I won't get all of that back overnight, either!

I need to be diligent, careful, focused, determined! And I need to be PATIENT!

In the end, I will be recovering/reclaiming LIFE ITSELF!

So what if I'm grumpy for a few days!

What's at stake is ME! And my Family and True Friends can only want that for me and more than willingly put up with my rascibility!

The GIFT is Abundantly Truthful Living! I can't let myself settle for anything less!

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There are a lot of "reasons" popping up these days for why some of us did not keep our promises to ourselves and protect our quits. Among them two of the more sympathetic ones I've seen lately are Mental and Physical Disabilities. So I'd like to kindly address these issues today.

Let's start with Physical Disabilities.

Some of these, ironically, are smoking related disabilities! Smoke Related Disabilities deprive not just you but your entire family of income as well as the significant medical cost! The underlying cause of about two-thirds of disabilities is non-communicable disease such as cardiovascular disease, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease and cancer.  Women over 45 who have smoked within the last 20 years are at very high risk of developing P. A. D. Peripheral Artery Disease causes serious discomfort, even disability and is closely related to atherosclerosis. Whether your disability is smoke related or not, it makes your quit journey more challenging because folks can't use exercise to get dopamine and relieve stress; speaking of stress, these folks have way more stress than some others of us; immobility means more tiredness and loneliness - 2 of the HALT warning signs for craving; these folks can't look forward to feeling so fabulously as somebody who doesn't have these illnesses - better, yes - fabulous, less likely! At the same time, it's just that much more important that you make the commitment and make it happen! Just because you have one disability doesn't protect you from getting another one, like COPD!!! Then you will really be in BIG TROUBLE!  it's very important that if you have a disability to not smoke or if you are smoking, to quit smoking TODAY! The risk you are taking with Quality and Quantity of LIFE is cut short by your addiction! This is one thing that YOU CAN do for yourself! Quit Smoking TODAY! We're here to help! We have many Great Quitters who also have disabilities and can relate to your struggles! Reach Out! Never Give Up!

Then there is Mental Illness.

A study done by The Harvard School of Public Health reported that Americans with mental illness are nearly twice as likely to smoke cigarettes as people with no mental illness.  People with diagnosable mental illness comprise nearly 45% of the total tobacco market in the United States.  Nearly 1/3 of smokers with mental illness were able to quit smoking.  If they refrained from using alcohol and drugs, they had a cessation rate equal to people without mental illness.

Mental illness in this instance was defined as one of the following: major depression, bipolar disorder, agoraphobia, social and simple phobia, generalized anxiety disorder, alcohol abuse and dependence, antisocial personality, conduct disorder, non-affective psychosis (including schizophrenia).So you can see the people in the study were at varying degress of severity in their illness.

Smoking has been shown to interfere with successful outcome in the naturalistic treatment of Bipolar patients, for example.Nicotine dependence has also been found to be a risk factor for depressive symptoms, as reported in a recent article in the British Journal of Psychiatry.

In addition to these direct effects on mental health, smoking is also a major risk factor for cardiovascular disease when combined with the presence of any three of the five primary risk factors that constitute the metabolic syndrome. (These five factors are: increased waist circumference, high blood pressure, increased cholesterol, increased triglycerides, and insulin resistance or elevated fasting blood glucose.) Cardiovascular disease co-occurs with mental illness at a high rate and is one of the major causes of decreased life expectancy in those with inadequately treated illness.

Now here's the true shocker: persons with serious mental illnesses die up to 25 years earlier, often from tobacco related diseases. 

Because smoking is a powerful risk factor for comorbid illnesses such as heart attack and stroke and is itself associated with a poor clinical outcome in the treatment of mental illness, every effort should be made to help patients with smoking cessation. Many of the treatment strategies that work for smokers without behavioral health issues (e.g., cessation pharmacotherapy and behavioral counseling) can work for this clientele as well. If you suffer from any of these disorders, do not think that quitting is impossible.You are not alone here! Reach out! Speak up! The life you save is your own! Yes it's harder but it IS doable! We CAN help!

Just in case you think I don't know what I'm saying, I have COPD, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety and yes, I know what it's like! My name is Thomas and I have 77 Months Smoke FREE!

YOU CAN, TOO!

Thomas3.20.2010

You're #One!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 17, 2016

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Self Love leads to Success! 

You can help yourself on the Journey to Success when you find out more about loving yourself!

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You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

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24 Hours

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 16, 2016

That's all it takes! Just 24 Hours of N.O.P.E.! No Matter What! 

You can do that, right?

Now do the same thing tomorrow and stack those Days!

That's how I got to 2341!

You can, too! One Day at a time!

Simple, not Easy!

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Thomas3.20.2010

Find your Happy!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 11, 2016

When I decided to Quit Smoking I told myself, “Buck up, Thomas! You’re going to be miserable but you have to do this no matter what!” I was doing the white knuckle quit! And guess what? I was miserable!

Then I joined BecomeanEX and started to read the Blogs by a guy named James, The Happy Quitter! I couldn’t believe my eyes!  Happy?  Quitting? Isn’t that an oxymoron?

James said that he decided to be a Happy Quitter and behold, his cravings were easier, didn’t last as long and his whole Quit was much more doable!

So who wouldn’t want that?

I began to realize with practice that thoughts are just thoughts. We have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts a day. And as so many of us pointed out yesterday -

“Thoughts are not Commands!”

I also learned that feelings are a choice.  We can make choices about how to feel, when we know why we feel our feelings. I had unwittingly decided to be miserable because I was told that I would be miserable! Could I decide to be happy?

So where do you get started?

I chose to “fake it till you make it!”

I stopped being miserable long enough to imagine what it might be like to be a Happy Quitter.

Then a put a smile on my face even when I didn’t feel like smiling!

 I read more inspirational Blogs from Dale’s unique jokes to Sheri’s inspirational words.

I simply made happiness a goal and tried!

 Then I looked for glimmers of happiness throughout each day, paid attention and acknowledge that it was happening with gratitude!

I  practiced!

And not right off but soon, I became a Happy Quitter!

I believe it made my whole Quit Journey more doable, I know it was more fun!

Being a Quitter isn’t about self-sacrifice and deprivation! It’s about becoming a New You and best of all, you get to decide who that person is!

I choose be be a Happy Quitter!

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Powerful

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 11, 2016

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

- Marianne Wiiliamson

Discover a bit more power each day by visiting us at Positive Affirmations for Success!

You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

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Acquiring Quititude

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 9, 2016

We have discussed the two parts of quitting: Physical withdrawal and psychological withdrawal. Both are important to understand and address especially in those first Days and Weeks. I want to dsicuss the psychological part and the solution.

Psychological withdrawal is more than breaking a bad habit althoug it is every bit of that! You have to literally retrain your Brain. Now, there is a physical aspect of this as you reclaim the neurons in your nervous system but there's also a need for willingness to learn about yourself and to become positive about your quit and yourself!

We refer to this Positive Attitude as Quititude!

Quititude won't just come to you naturally! You have to seek it! And the reason that we seek it is that iit makes our chances of joining the 6% who succeed for a whole Year and 98% after 2 Years that much better! It's the glue that holds those Smoke FREE Days together!

Quititude comes from looking upon all of the Great Qualities of your Quit while challenging the thoughts of Sickerettes that you do have. You can decide to seek it in every Smoke FREE Day while you keep them away from your face! 

Quititude is about reclaiming your Smoke FREE personality which most of us gave up in our adolescence even before it was fully developed! So we don't even know our authentic Selves without it!

Quititude brings about abundant Addiction FREE Living and brings us back to who we really are!

It's the ultimate gift of Recovery! It's the other bigger part of Smoking Cessation! Don't miss it by grumping your way through a miserable Quit!

It's waiting for you to Claim as your God given Right! But you have to say Yes and you have to reach for it!

And it's totally worth it!

Choose to claim your Quititude Today!

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Today is the Day

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 8, 2016

Today is the day you can love yourself totally with no expectations.

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“Love is something we can choose, the same way we choose anger, or hate, or sadness. We can choose to forgive someone who has hurt us and begin to finally heal. We can choose to be grateful for what we have. We can choose love. It’s always a choice within us.

Let’s begin right now in this moment to choose love.

It’s the most powerful healing force there is.”

-       Louise Hay

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You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

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Reality Check

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 6, 2016

350 people start using heroin every day. In contrast, the surgeon general estimates that more than 2,500 kids try their first cigarette each day and there are more than 42 million addicted smokers in the United States. There are almost 500,000 deaths each year from tobacco use — more than from alcohol, car accidents, illegal drugs, murders, suicides and AIDS combined.

 

I find it interesting that when dealers of illegal drugs are apprehended, they generally are sent to prison, whereas the tobacco industry purveys its addictive product with impunity.

John O’ Hara, Bowie

Source:https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/the-deadliness-of-heroin-and-tobacco-are-easily-underestimated/2016/08/05/234caeea-58e8-11e6-8b48-0cb344221131_story.html

Today isa Great Day to Live Smoke FREE!

N.O.P.E.

S.I.N.A.O.

N.E.F.

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Oh, yes! Quitting smoking is stressful for a short while! BUT after you get through the first 3 Days it already gets better! Then as you work your recovery and learn stress coping skills it gets better and better! Before you know it you are more calm in times of stress than you have been since you started smoking (if you can even remember that far back! I couldn’t!)

And the only way out is through!

So meanwhile we need every stress management tool we can get our hands on so we can protect our Quits!

Here’s some articles you can read to begin to build your stress management skills:

http://www.webmd.com/smoking-cessation/features/10-ways-reduce-stress-while-you-quit

https://smokefree.gov/stress-and-smoking

https://www.verywell.com/quitting-smoking-10-stress-coping-hints-2825276

I could give you all kinds of serotonin and dopamine reasons of why stress is better when you have quit but I’d rather talk about how it feels to me!

When I was smoking, stress kept my nerves tight as a live wire - always in fight/flight mode! Now I am feeling stress in a very different way!  Each episode is important but I don't anticipate it with a constant vigilance and I don't fiddle with it afterwards trying to decide if I could have done things better! 

 I remember getting up and checking my cig supply, getting off work and figuring if I have enough for tomorrow, etc, - always in a state of anticipation.  When I was smoking that "dealing with stress"  cig, I was toying with how I could deal with things differently.   It's sort of jumping into the future or living in the past and somehow missing the present.  Dealing with stress in the present makes it a lot less burdensome and MORE EFFECTIVE!

In fact 95% of Exsmokers report being happier since they quit smoking!

Don’t let the temporary stress of quitting block you from having true Freedom from stress!

You deserve Freedom!

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You may feel insecure, believe you’re not worthy or it might be a habit to put yourself down. You could be used to saying “I can’t,” “I don’t have talent,” “I’m ugly,” “I’m stupid” or “I’m useless.” You might have been put down by others in the past and continue to put yourself down. Alternatively you may believe it’s better to put yourself down before anyone else does.

Putting anyone down, including yourself, is emotional bullying. Most of us consider bullying from others as a bad thing, so why bully yourself? It seems like we have a double standard and treat others better than we treat ourselves. It’s not okay to put anyone down and that includes yourself.

 

To build your self-esteem, it’s important to talk about yourself in a healthy manner.  Believe you are worthy and quit the self-bullying. Treat yourself as you would a good friend and respect yourself. Replace negative words with positive words. For example you could say “I’m capable” or “I’m learning” instead of “I’m useless” or “I’m stupid.” Words can make a big difference.

Two words that I recommend avoiding are “can’t” and “should.” They are disempowering and it’s better to use alternatives when you can. For example, “can” is a good alternative to “can’t” and “could” is an alternative for “should.” Using affirmations helps.in amazing ways.

 

When we feel bad about ourselves it’s really hard to quit smoking and to stay quit. We may feel like we don’t deserve Freedom or can’t achieve it! But those are just lies! I believe that becoming a strong Person helps us to maintain our Quits and is integral to Nicotine Recovery!

Well, there's a group right here that can help you! 

Check out Positive Affirmations for Success:

 

You can take what you want and leave the rest. And you can always find and contribute your own. 

 

When you click the Group Button just to the right of the Blog button and when that window comes up look for the featured group button we are the first group listed   Also for awhile we are on the Home Page under Featured Groups.

OR just click this link

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/positive-affirmations-and-support

 

 

But don't miss the Daily interactive Discussion called Love Yourself:

Whether you're dropping in to say Hello, offer Love and Support to your Friends or need a place where you will truly feel listened to, we are there - every single Day!

Take a Look and feel Free to join us!

ALL are Welcome!

Look under the Latest Discussion in red letters just after the member line. You will see Love Yourself with 1276 posts!

OR just click here once you have become a member of the group:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/3533-love-yourself

 

Click on the last page which today is page 26. That's where you'll see the last comment entered. However you can enter your comment on any page and it will follow the last entry no matter what page you were on when you submitted.

I know it's not user friendly but WE ARE!

We'd love to have you join us!

Thomas3.20.2010

We Want You....

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 2, 2016

to join us for Positive Affirmations for Success! and for the Discussion called Love Yourself!

Maybe you are dealing with a lot in your Life and need some support from your Friends. Or maybe you just want to continue to grow as a Person and continue your feel good emotions toward yourself and others.  Either way I believe that becoming a strong Person helps us to maintain our Quits and is integral to Nicotine Recovery!

Well, there's a group right here that can help you! 

Check out Positive Affirmations for Success:

 

When you click the Group Button just to the right of the Blog button and when that window comes up look for the featured group button we are the first group listed   Also for awhile we are on the Home Page under Featured Groups.

OR just click this link

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/positive-affirmations-and-support

 

 

But don't miss the Daily interactive Discussion called Love Yourself:

Whether you're dropping in to say Hello, offer Love and Support to your Friends or need a place where you will truly feel listened to, we are there - every single Day!

Take a Look and feel Free to join us!

ALL are Welcome!

Look under the Latest Discussion in red letters just after the member line. You will see Love Yourself with 1251 posts!

OR just click here once you have become a member of the group:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/3533-love-yourself

 

Click on the last page which today is page 26. That's where you'll see the last comment entered. However you can enter your comment on any page and it will follow the last entry no matter what page you were on when you submitted.

I know it's not user friendly but WE ARE!

We'd love to have you join us!

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Thomas3.20.2010

Need a Lift?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Aug 1, 2016

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Maybe you are dealing with a lot in your Life and need some support from your Friends. Or maybe you just want to continue to grow as a Person and continue your feel good emotions. Either way I believe that becoming a strong Person helps us to maintain our Quits and is integral to Nicotine Recovery!

Well, there's a group right here that can help you! 

Check out Positive Affirmations for Success:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/positive-affirmations-and-support

But don't miss the Daily interactive Discussion called Love Yourself:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/3533-love-yourself

Whether you're dropping in to say Hello, offer Love and Support to your Friends or need a place where you will truly feel listened to, we are there - every single Day!

Take a Look and feel Free to join us!

ALL are Welcome!