Does the way we see ourselves effect how we speak or does how we speak effect the way we see ourselves? Yes and yes. It's called psycho linguistics! It is proving that when you change your mind, your brain becomes neurologically wired in a different way.
For example, Mexicans have many ways of saying corn since corn is central to their culture. Milpa is a corn plant or crop, elote refers to corn on the cob, olote says corn cob without the corn, huitlacoche means corn ****, maize means ground corn, etc….I'll bet you didn't even know there might be a reason to have so many names!
That's just one example of how language changes our way of thinking and actually our brains!
The need to smoke exists only in the mind. When we say craving or "I crave a cig" it brings back all kinds of brain connections both mental and physical. To break the cycle we have to break the language pattern. If I no longer say "crave" the energy of that word is taken away. So I had an inkling or a fuzzy moment or a drat but I don't say that four (yea I know I can't count) letter word! I don't say try ( another miscounted 4 letter word) or slip or luck. They cease to be in my vocabulary and cease to have power!
Another method of addressing smoking thoughts are the simple changes in Exer language such as referring to you-know-what as sickerettes! The yuk factor turns you off, not on! Quititude is another favorite of mine because that’s a word I want to embellish with power! As you read the blogs you’ll spot other uniquely Exer language all constructed to draw power from smoking and to fortify the quit journey!
Something else that helps is to put a substitution in place. It's called an affirmation! An affirmation is a thought that I choose to make a belief. N.O.P.E. is an affirmation. I choose health and life is an affirmation. I don't do that anymore is an affirmation. Don't feed the monster is an affirmation.
When I read an affirmation I am engaging my eyes and brain. When I hear an affirmation I am engaging my ears, my eyes and my brain. When I read an affirmation out loud I am using many organs ( eyes, ears, throat, mouth etc) and my brain - a VERY effective way to rewire an unspoken thought! Every day when I get up the first thing I do is read WITH MY VOICE the message next to my bed -- I, Thomas, pledge to myself to NOT ONE PUFF EVER NO MATTER WHAT beginning with today! I credit this to having very few drats a day and of much less intensity than they might have been!
Today I don't remember even one drat moment! I also see much more of the positive side of the QUIT than I might have because I BELIEVE I am having a positive quit (Why? Affirmations say that it's true!) I absolutely know that this quit is for life because I KNOW that SMOKING IS NOT AN OPTION! There is no - but...
If you don't think this helps just give it a try for one day - for 1 day I'll try Thomas' crazy idea! I'm sure that you will find that it makes a difference! It sure won't make things worse!
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