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Beating the Odds!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 31, 2012

"What's wrong with the occasional cigarette as long as your lungs don't look like down town L.A.? After all, a cigarette once in a while can't be all bad - it may be a vice but it's a legal vice and it doesn't hurt anybody - at least not like alcohol or drugs! besides nobody's perfect! Look, I just smoke a pack a week! Yea, I know about Cancer and such, but surely that's people who smoked 2 or 3 packs for 40 or 50 years not me! Heck, I was over 30 when I started smoking and I've quit now and then just to give my body a break, so I'll be O.K. Everything in moderation ain't all that bad! "

That was me talking 3 years ago, completely confident that I had successfully dodged the silver bullet by carefully playing the odds! I would be the last person on Earth to get sick from smoking-related illness! But guess what? I was wrong! Boy, was I ever wrong! Holy Smokes!!! ( pun intended)

When I woke up that beautiful Spring morning with a fever of 102 there is absolutely no way I would have predicted the path that my life was about to take! That trip to the Emergency Room (it would have to be on a Sunday!) changed my life forever! I, Thomas, was diagnosed not just with a lung infection but with Emphysema!!! The guy who was so careful to beat the odds just lost the game of poker and there's no going back! Emphysema is chronic, permanent, and progressive! Most likely, although only Our Creator knows for sure, it will be my cause of Death! How does a young (relatively) healthy (usually) active fella like me get Emphysema, for crying out loud?

What I didn't know was way more than what I did know about Emphysema and COPD!!! Oh, I'd seen the pictures of the happy retired folks puttering around in their gardens or playing with their grandkids because they were smart enough to take Advair or Spiriva! That's about it! My Grandma who lived in another State died of Emphysema when she was in her nineties but we all have to die of something, don't we? Eventually! But heck, I was 52 and had never really been sick much at all my entire adult life! I worked 60 to 80 hours a week and never thought anything of it - hard physical labor, not a desk job!

Here are some facts that I have since learned about COPD: it is an auto-immune illness. it doesn't care if you are 20 or 80 years old! It doesn't care if you smoke 2 or 3 cigs a day or 2 or 3 packs! Just one cigarette will trigger your body's defense mechanism and there you have it! About half of the folks who have COPD don't even know it! Meanwhile the damage that they are doing to their lungs can NEVER be repaired! Your body creates all kinds of mucus in your lungs and bronchials that is a perfect breeding ground for any kind of bacteria or virus you cross paths with like pneumonia! Every time you get a lung infection a bit more irreparable damage will have been done and your condition deteriorates. Because your lungs don't work so well you can inhale fairly well, but you can't exhale so well at all. What people exhale is Carbon Dioxide - you know, poison! That CO2 stays in your system and makes your whole body in a constant state of being poisoned! Because your body wants Oxygen and not CO2 your heart overworks itself trying to get enough Oxygen to where it's needed. Eventually, the heart deforms itself from working overtime! Then you have Congestive Heart Failure! Don't forget, you're still getting those lung infections from time to time! The toxins make your limbs feel like wet spaghetti so that such things as getting dressed or washing dishes become monumental tasks! When you cross a room you huff and puff like the Big Bad Wolf! And know you can't even blow out a candle - let alone blow down a house! This is my reality! Oh you remember that part about not hurting anybody but myself? What do you suppose my Family and Loved Ones are feeling knowing that I did this to myself?

Now, do you still want that occasional cigarette? You still think it won't happen to you? Do you know that people die of smoke related illnesses in their TEENS? Check out Brian's Story at www.whyquit.com! Do you know that one single cigarette can not only trigger COPD it can cause a life-altering Stroke? Do you know that one single cigarette can change your DNA permanently setting you up for Cancer? ONE CIGARETTE! Do you believe it? I am testimonial that in this business you can't beat the Odds - the Odds can beat YOU - down! Forever! Get Smart! Be honest, at least with yourself! Smoking KILLS! Every time you light a cig you are committing the little suicide! You are spitting on the Gift of LIFE that your Creator bestowed on you! Enough is enough! Stop playing the Odds! TODAY is the Right Day to becomeanEX  and to protect your Quit - Smoke FREE for LIFE!

Smoking health infographic. For a text-version of the information displayed on the infographic, use the link after the image.

 

Remember all of those resolutions to start the New Year a non-smoker?  Year after year, many smokers take this vow and keep it until January 1, 10:00 a.m.  Well, this year you can make the resolution with confidence.  Once you have quit smoking for an appreciable period of time, maintenance becomes much easier than quitting.  Simply remember - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

 

Although urges for cigarettes still occur, and may increase with the preparations and pressures of the holiday season, they are usually not intense or long in duration.  Many people get only one urge a day, a week or even a month.  They last only seconds.  In essence, the cravings last only 20 seconds a week while the other 10,060 seconds ex-smokers are overjoyed by the fact that they quit. 

 

When you now get an urge for a cigarette, it is literally for one cigarette, not for smoking at your old level.  Instead of feeling deprived of one cigarette it is better to remember your pleasure in no longer consuming thousands of cigarettes a year.  No longer are you spending hundreds of dollars on a chemical dependency which was making you feel ill, smell bad, seem like a social outcast, burning holes in your valuable furniture and clothing, affecting other peoples’ opinion of you and possibly killing you.

 

The potential threat of that first puff is restarting the whole withdrawal cycle.  One puff has sent many ex-smokers back to full-fledged addiction, which only the day before they had considered one of the most disgusting of human behaviors.  So, when you get the urge, sit back, take a few deep breaths, and consider the alternatives.  The urge will pass and you can then pat yourself on the back for overcoming it.  Always remember - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

 

 

 

Joel

  

I'm absolutely fascinated by the Blogs I've seen these last few days! I hear people talking about how they "can't"because it's just "too hard!"I can't help but remember my first days of my quit journey 1012 days ago! I had just been diagnosed with a chronic progressive illness that's incurable. My life expectancy just went waaaaaay down with one little word. What's more I was convinced that my Quality of Life would really be looooow. In other words, don't expect much from life except pain, suffering, and early death. Talk about STRESS! Please Newbie, don't tell me about stress!!!! And do you know the worst part of it? The personal knowledge that I had done this to myself......with yes, smoking! So I was diagnosed with COPD/Emphysema on March 14 and had my last puff March 19! That's all the preparation time I gave myself! Not weeks.....not Months....not NRTs.....not chantix.... just one tool you folks would be smart to use - KNOWLEDGE! So where did I acquire this knowledge so fast? Right here at BecomeanEX. I didn't join to fool around with slips and relapses. I didn't come here with an "I already know it all" ATTITUDE! I didn't come here with a line about how we are all different and nobody understands me!!!! I came here to be included in the 6% who SUCCEED in their first year of quitting!!! I came here to listen to those who had already achieved what I wanted! I didn't blame them for being too harsh! I listened! Because they had something that I not only wanted - but something I needed!I had a clear cut choice: QUIT or DIE!!! Simple! I humbly asked questions and accepted advice. I did my homework without hesitation! I made friends and exposed my ADDICTIVE SELF to these EXers with integrity and honesty! I let that smoke cloud of distorted thinking lift because FIRST and most important - I kept them away from my face!!!! So my issue was never to smoke or not to smoke!!! My issue was "What do I do instead?" 

Folks, do you really want to wait until you have a smoke related illness before you quit? Or worse, continue to smoke knowing that you are literally killing yourself????Are you even aware that HALF of all smokers will DIE of smoke related illness????? Or do you want to pay attention and follow the road map that has been put right in front of you and shows you each and every step to take if you really want to be in the 6%? No excuses! Keep them away from your face and listen!

In Excelsis Deo! Peace, Love and Joy for ALL!

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Have you "tried your best to fight the craves and can't seem to win?" Are you sitting there scratching your head about what went wrong and feeling like you can "never win?" I'll tell you something I learned Thanks to the Elders who helped me launch the adventure of my lifetime - Smoke FREE Living! 

I came here like most of us not knowing anything about Nicotine Addiction and was told to read and I did! It really helped but there was this guy who I thought was goofy (Thank Goodness I now know that he was spot on!) His name is James and his moniker is theHappy Quitter! ....Say what? what's there to be happy about? Strong, yes! Determined, yes! Stubborn, fierce, a fighter! But happy??? As I thought about it, something really clicked and the light bulb came on! 

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I had been fighting the Nico-Demon with willpower! What could be more effective than that? But I was missing the essential...The Nico-Demon is ME!!!!!

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So when I was fighting myself, how could I win without losing??? And guess what, the loser had been the part that wanted to be FREE! You can't be FREE when you're fighting!!!! 

 

This fellow James had something - something I really, really wanted! he was not just Quit - He was Happy being Quit! 

So how do you handle the craves if you don't fight??? What do you do instead? 

There's a fellow here named Tommy who repeatedly told me to use Focus and Determination. Could I combine these 2 great pieces of advice? Think about Focus for a minute....

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When you focus with determination instead of fighting with determination, the whole picture changes! I had changed my perspective! The Nico-demon became more blurry, less important and the object of my Focus increased in POWER - the POWER to WIN! And what was that very important object of my FOCUS?

 

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KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE! FREEDOM!

FREEDOM from the Chains of Addiction! 

FREEDOM to be the ME that my Creator made me to be!

FREEDOM from pain, suffering, illness, devastation!

Keep Your Eyes on the Prize and ignore the Nico-Demon - but don't fight Him because HE IS ME! Just Focus on the Prize! Will He scream for attention? Oh yea! But when you ignore Him long enough, He loses energy - you Energy is on your Prize! And He gets weaker....and weaker...and weaker...and becomes a little bitty gnat that once in a great while bugs you but you easily have the POWER to swat Him back into His place ...so tiny! So worthless! 

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AND YOU WIN!

God Bless my BecomeanEX Family with Peace and Joy!

WELCOME, Newbies! You're in the right place! 

Today is my 1010th day Smoke FREE and I'm here to tell you:

(1) It can be done!

(2) We know how to get it done!

(3) We're here to share with you - YOU have just joined our Family of Quitters for LIFE!

All we ask is that you listen, learn and participate!

Today is Monday and from the article I just read, most of us begin looking for support on Mondays! 

http://www.newswise.com/articles/monday-messages-can-help-smokers-stick-to-new-year-s-resolution

I came here, listened. learned, particpated and QUIT! I did it One Day at a Time. I used N.O.P.E. I asked for help before I had a chance to relapse, I made friends and spoke honestly about my fears and anxieties, my life highs and lows, about No Man's Land and all the Stages of the Quit Journey, and to celebrate my Successes while boosting others in their hour of need. 

But most important of all, I kept them away from my face - NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!

Do it for YOU!

Do it for your Family!

Do it for your pets!

Do it for LOVE!

Do it for LIFE!

Successful Quitters never regret quitting but 70% of smokers regret every single sickerette they light up! I suspect the other 30% do too - they just aren't ready to admit it!

How did I do it?

I kept them away from my face!

One Day at a Time!

It really is that simple!

And Yes, you can do it, too!

Thomas3.20.2010

What's in a number?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 12, 2012

Take a look at these numbers! 

 

 

Today is 12-12-12

Tomorrow is 999!

Friday is 1000!

Saturday is 55! 

 

Tis a Season to remember!

I'll be celebrating all week!

Please join me!

Thomas3.20.2010

Thank You!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 11, 2012

A heartfelt Thank You for all the messages of condolence and support for the loss of my anchor, my Godfather, Don Lucas Paez - May he rest in Peace! I'm humbled and moved by your concern and demonstrations of love and commiseration!

Have a Blessed Day!

Thomas3.20.2010

Life Goes On: Part II

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 11, 2012

I'm struck by the Title of my short BLOG saying, My Godfather passes away....and yes, in the Mexican culture that's representative our point of view - his body has stopped functioning and his Soul is what we celebrate and pray for on his way to Heaven. Death for us is a journey, not an event! So inadvertently I spoke my truth when I wrote that quick note! As we say Goodbye, we have every expectation that we will see him again in his new home and reunite with our Family members gone before us.

 

 Goodbye, Don Lucas, my spiritual Father, mi Maestrito(my Teacher), my Guide! I look forward to the day when I will join you and am glad that you finally will be beside your dear Wife of 62 years, my Godmother, Angelita, after these nearly 2 long years! 

 

While reflecting on the recent loss, funeral and burial of my Beloved Godfather, I reread the BLOG I wrote when his Wife of 62 years passed away in January, 2011. At that time, I was just 10 Months started on my own new journey - the journey of Addiction FREE Living! I was proud of my accomplishment and determined to stay strong while under stress, surrounded by temptation, and filled with grief and loss. I contentedly reported upon my return that I had respected the memory of my Godmother, Angela, and respected myself, by honoring my pledge to protect my quit and continue the journey I had embarked on. I came back stronger than ever, having turned my challenge into Victory and my victory into deeper commitment! 

 

And who taught me the importance of being true to myself, of keeping my word - to me? My Godparents! Don Lucas had a word of wisdom for me that day when he was himself saying, "In a little while, my Love! Soon I will be with you - when God commands!" He took me aside and said, "Hijo, the best way to be true to yourself, is to be yourself - just as you are! What that means to your fellow man is not what counts! It's between simply you and your Creator! If you give Him your BEST each day, He will know and He will honor that! He knows all our fallacies as well as our Blessings and only expects us to be REAL! You have chosen to stay away from alcohol and tobacco! it's up to you to follow through!" 

 

So my Godparents are perhaps far away, in some people's point of view but, for me, they are right here, right inside me, in my heart, my mind, my thoughts - even now, guiding me, showing me how to be a Man! How to be ME! And I am forever grateful to the Almighty that He chose these 2 beautiful, insightful, wise people to take my hand and show me toward the Light of Love, Truth, Strength, Mercy and Justice!

 

ALL is GOOD and Life Goes On!

My name is Thomas and TODAY I celebrate 2 Years 8 Months 3 Weeks 3 Hours 16 Minutes and counting of Nicotine Addiction FREE Living! Thanks be to my Creator, my Godparents, my Family, my Friends and my second Family here at BecomeanEX! 

May you ALL have a Blessed and Smoke FREE Christmas!

I'll be in Mexico and off line for a few more days!

I'll let you know when I get back. :-(

Confidence on the outside begins by living with  integrity on  the inside.          

Brian  Tracy

 

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Just in case you're new here today and haven't heard, we are JUNKIES! I am and YOU ARE, Too! Here's the difference between us and those guys jonesing for a fix! When you have QUIT SMOKING you break the cycle of dishonesty that says anything to "justify"  my next hit! You know, "Oh I don't smoke much, everybody deserves a vice!", or "just one won't hurt!", or (I love this one!)" I can quit any time I want!" (and here's the other half!) "I can't quit - I've tried a dozen times!" There are an infinite number of LIES that we tell ourselves in order to give in to that next craving and keep the Monster happy!

 Now, once you stay quit for a good while,that smoke cloud rises and you are left standing there in all your natural beauty! The REAL YOU! The Rose with thorns! You have to learn to live with yourself just as God intends for you to be! You have to become INTEGRATED! You can't run for a cig and hide behind the smoke any more! This is YOU! And it's a Great Opportunity to look at yourself - really take a good look! - and say "I like what I see!" There's a person with so much courage (s)he kicked the addiction for LIFE! There's a person who had FOCUS, who had DETERMINATION, who RESPECTS themself, who HONORS their DECISIONS! That's a darn AWESOME PERSON! You set a Goal and made it happen even though you were afraid, anxious, upset, disoriented! You made it happen! YOU DID THAT! WOW! If you could do that you can do all kinds of things! You have EXcellent reason to be CONFIDENT because you have INTEGRITY! Now, seriously, folks, how many people do you know who can say that? Feel PROUD of YOURSELF! 

Thomas3.20.2010

Just found this!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 5, 2012

YOU HAVE COPD/EMPHYSEMA (COPD - Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary [Lung] Disease). 
You’ve gone through kicking yourself repeatedly for having ever smoked. You wish you would have quit years ago. In fact, you wish you’d never smoked at all, but you did. There’s no point looking back, because what could have happened did. It’s official; you have been given the diagnosis. You have seen the TV commercials of what smoking can do to you, but let me tell you what having emphysema is really like. You don’t just startwalking up the stairs, get puffed halfway through, as depicted in one of Australia’s recent TV commercials, then get to the top of he stairs and find the picture of a completely disabled woman, hunched over in a wheelchair, the oxygen cannula stuck up her nose. She’s wearing the ridiculous and uncomfortable hospital gown, for it’s much easier to get on and off than it is to wear your favorite pajamas, or any pajamas for that matter. The gown is practical, for you can no longer wash yourself, and you’re left completely dependent on nurses and paid carers, often strangers, for your every need. You need to be washed, fed, medicated, and be wheeled from your bed and back. Another TV commercial depicts a motorcyclist who tells you how tough it is; that having emphysema is “hell.” If you blink, you would miss the canister of oxygen he has in the side-car of his motorbike. Riding a motorcycle with emphysema? Not possible! If you want to get on that bike and ride with the wind, you’d last 2 minutes, and that’s just climbing up and into the seat. Wind in one’s face will certainly take your breath away. You can’t ride a motor cycle, or a push-bike. It’s even difficult to drive a car when you’re in the 3rd then 4th and final stage. Emphysema robs you of practically everything you used to enjoy. You can’t go out because it’s too cold. You can’t go out because it’s too hot. You can’t go out because it’s windy. Sounds like “Goldilocks” all over again and its exactly what it’s like. Want to enjoy some time with your friends? Those who haven’t given up on you? And they will. They don’t understand what it means to have emphysema. Talking makes you breathless and creates pain. Laughing is even worse. Not only will socializing with your friends leave you breathless, it shall leave you in pain; enormous pain. This pain lasts for days on end, usually longer. It is an isolating, depressing disease and it takes your life away bit by bit, year after year. You barely notice your limitations in the beginning, but, being the deteriorative disease it is, you will begin to notice, and once that starts, your symptoms shall become worse and worse with time. I am portraying some nasty facts about what it’s like to have emphysema, particularly as, had you never taken up smoking, it could have been avoided. There are, sadly, many people who have never smoked, who suffer from this illness. There are people who have been born with an “alpha-1 antitrypsin deficiency,” resulting in COPD, and they must endure it no matter how healthy their lifestyle has been. There are others who have never smoked, but have had partners who did. Passive smoke will do it. Passing by a smoker in the street, the smell of smoke on a person’s clothes; this induces coughing. I’ve no doubt this has happened to you. I feel so very sad for those people born with that gene, or cystic fibrosis, another genetic factor which causes COPD. Many people can smoke and not get a lung disease. Most smokers, however, will get some form of lung disease. It may be bronchitis, asthma, lung cancer; there are many other forms of lung damage which will take your life away, slowly and insidiously. It is a painful, insufferable way to die. Smokers, you are the ones I am writing to and about, because you are the ones who can avoid getting sick. 

S Perlman AKA Ziggy Baitz November 2012 

Thomas3.20.2010

Quititude!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Dec 4, 2012

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Does the way we see ourselves effect how we speak or does how we speak effect the way we see ourselves? Yes and yes.  It's called psycho linguistics!  It is proving that when you change your mind, your brain becomes neurologically wired in a different way.  Like cussing - people who cuss see themselves differently than people who don't.  People who no longer cuss actually change how they think of themselves. That's just one example of how language changes our brains.  The need to  smoke exists only in the mind.  When we say craving or "i crave a cig" it brings back all kinds of brain connections both mental and physical.  To break the cycle we have to break the language pattern.  If i no longer say "crave"  the energy of that word is taken away.  So I had an inkling or a fuzzy moment or a drat but I don't say  that four (yea I know I can't count) letter word!  I don't say try ( another miscounted 4 letter word) or slip or luck.  They cease to be in my vocabulary and cease to have power!  

Now I put a substitution in place.  It's called an affirmation!  An affirmation is a thought that I choose to make a belief. N.O.P.E. is an affirmation. I choose health and life is an affirmation.  I don't do that anymore is an affirmation. Don't feed the monster is an affirmation.   When I read an affirmation I am engaging my eyes and brain.  When I hear an affirmation I am engaging my ears, my eyes and my brain.  When I read an affirmation out loud I am using many organs ( eyes, ears, throat, mouth etc) and my brain - a VERY effective way to rewire an unspoken thought!  Every day when I get up the first thing I do is read WITH MY VOICE the message next to my bed -- I, Thomas, pledge to myself to NOT ONE PUFF EVER NO MATTER WHAT beginning with today!  I credit this to having very few drats a day and of much less intensity than they might have been!  Today I don't remember even one drat moment!  I also see much more of the positive side of the QUIT than I might have because I BELIEVE I am having a positive quit (Why? Affirmations say that it's true!)   I absolutely know that this quit is for life because I KNOW that SMOKING IS NOT AN OPTION! There is no -  but...If you don't think this helps just give it a try for one day - for 1 day I'll try Thomas' crazy idea!  I'm sure that you will find that it makes a difference!  It sure won't make things worse!  

 Along these lines I have  a  Group which is based on Affirmations!  It's called Positive Affirmations for Success! If you have an Affirmation, Scripture Verse, Inspirational saying, please join the 121 members and post your contributions. That way newbies have a single place where they can make their sticky notes and 3X5 cards that will begin the process of QUITITUDE!!

 

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/positive-affirmations-and-support

All kids really want this Christmas is for their parents to stop smoking

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More than half of children with a parent who smokes say that their one wish for Christmas is that their mom or dad give up smoking.

Kids say they would go without Christmas presents, give up their pocket money and complete their homework every night, if it meant their parents would quit their smoking habit.

Almost 98% of children with a smoking parent wish that they would quit, with three quarters worrying about their parents dying.

Young people are so against smoking they’ve labelled it “stupid”, say they will never try a cigarette and that they wish nobody in the world smoked.

Almost a third of children surveyed admitted to hiding their parents’ cigarettes in a desperate attempt to help them quit smoking.

 

The youth research company Dubit asked 400 children aged 11-15, all with smoking parents, to list the aspects of life that worried them most.

 

Unsurprisingly, school work and exams came top – cited by 63% of the sample. Their parents' smoking habit was the second biggest worry, more significant than fear of falling out with friends (45%), looking good at school (27%), or having a boyfriend/girlfriend (16%).

 

The survey finds that teenagers are feeling increasingly responsible for their parents' health. Almost nine in 10 said they were concerned about the damage parents were doing to their health by smoking and 43% said they understood the risks of smoking better than their parents did.

 

Other findings included:

 

• 29% of teenagers feel they are the health experts in the family;

 

• 75% have asked or told their parents to stop smoking;

 

• 43% are angry that their parents won't listen to them;

 

• 29% feel frustrated that their parents don't know how bad smoking is for them.

 

Parents should think twice about the emotional distress their smoking has on their children."

 

A Child's Cry

 

 

Mom, I love you! Would you please stop smoking so that you will not get cancer and die!

 

Dad, I love you too! Would you please stop smoking so that you will not get cancer and die!

 

Do you love me, your baby, your child? Then would you please stop smoking so I can breath clean air and live a long, healthy and full life? After all I am your child! I have to breath the smoke you are making with cigarettes!

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jdMcDPtHzBY

 

Children and Smoking: A Message to Parents  

American Heart Association

http://rtips.cancer.gov/rtips/viewProduct.do?viewMode=product&productId=190514

 

54 per cent of children with parents who smoke would ask for them to give up as their one Christmas wish.

 

Of all the children polled, 98 per cent said they would like their parents to quit smoking; with 37 per cent even claiming they would go without Christmas presents to see their parents give it up.

 

What some kids say

"Some people start smoking because they think it looks cool, but it's dangerous and it smells." Alex

"People who smoke smell like an ashtray." Greg

"Cigarette smoke makes me cough and my eyes feel sore. Vera

"My dad is trying to give up. He gets grumpy but we try not to mind. We want him to give up smoking - then he'll feel better." Dylan

"If you smoke, people around you think that you're disgusting." Rowan

"I'm never going to smoke because I don't want yellow teeth." Jacob

"My granddad has bad lungs because of smokes. You can hear him breathe from a long way away." Mike

"Say "Look at the pictures on cigarette boxes. That could happen to you if you smoke." Aisha

 

 

 

Parents who smoke are causing huge emotional distress to their teenage children, a poll for the Department of Health reveals today.

 

46% of secondary school pupils with smoking parents said one of their main worries was their parents' inability or unwillingness to kick the habit.

 

This compared with 37% who were worried about money, 29% about bullying and 17% about the possibility of divorce.

 

Children whose parents smoked are twice as likely to begin smoking between 13 and 21.

Children whose parents quit smoking are less likely to become daily smokers than children whose parents keep smoking. Perhaps watching a parent quit smoking changes children’s smoking-related beliefs in beneficial ways. For example, children who see their parents quit smoking might have stronger beliefs that they can avoid smoking. 

Children with at least one parent who quit smoking reported widespread healthier beliefs about smoking when they were in ninth grade.

Children with healthier smoking-related beliefs in ninth grade were less likely to be daily smokers in twelfth grade

Children with at least one parent who quit smoking were 30% less likely to be daily smokers in twelfth grade (odds ratio = 0.70, 95% confidence interval = 0.58-0.84)

As predicted, children whose parents had quit smoking by the time children were in third grade were less likely to be daily smokers during the twelfth grade. Children’s healthier cognitions during the ninth grade appear to mediate this effect. These results have some implications for anti-smoking campaigns. First, smoking cessation programs targeted to parents should emphasize the role that parents can play in promoting negative attitudes toward smoking and increasing children’s confidence in their ability to refuse tobacco. In addition, these results highlight the importance of smoking-related cognitions among all children, even those whose parents continue to smoke. 

 

http://www.basisonline.org/2011/05/ashes-vol-74-when-the-parents-stop-smoking-what-does-the-child-think-.html

 

Smoking in Cars:

News Review From Harvard Medical School -- Most Smoker Parents Allow Smoking in Cars

In a new survey, about 2 out of 3 smoking parents who don't allow smoking at home said they do allow it in the car. Among those who don't have a no-smoking policy in the car, half allow smoking even when children are riding.. Researchers were surprised by the results. They said it shows people don't realize that smoke in the car, and even the residue of past smoking, can harm children. Researchers interviewed about 800 smokers who had brought their children to a doctor's office. About 3 out of 4 said that someone had smoked in their car in the last 3 months. About 1 out of 4 said they had a strict no-smoking policy for the car. Only about 12% said their child's doctor had urged them not to allow smoking in the car. The journal Pediatrics published the study online. HealthDay News wrote about it November 12.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QydwQeaZBvU

When you come up to shake somebody's hand and they take a step back from the overwhelming smell of tobacco, look at your yellow teeth, sallow complexion and pre-age wrinkles - I wonder what their thinking?

So I took a look through the search engine world. Here's a little of what is running through that person's head:

 

1. Smokers are weak willed. After seeing someone dieing from emphasema I don't know why people don't stop smoking. Its like driving into a brick wall, you see the wall and hit the brakes. I know a few people who have quit smoking, those guys are strong willed. They realised the problem with smoking and stopped.

 

2. Some smokers don't care about where their smoke go. In fact I've met about 1 smoker who actually cared about the people he was with and made a point of watching where his smoke would go.

 

3. Smoking is definitly a bad habit. How is it not?

 

4. You do smoke in our restaurants. You do smoke in our trains and our busses. How do I know? Because I have to put up with the smoke.

 

5. Smoking is a disgusting habit that you spend way too much time trying to justify.

 

I think it's very hard for non-smokers to not get "angry" about smoking because it seems so pointless. In this day and age, it's hard to grasp that someone can hear all the negatives of smoking, the impact on your health, the amount of money you'd spend on cigarettes, the amount of people who've died from it, the physical effects (bad breath, yellow fingers, yellow teeth etc) that a lot of smokers get - and still keep smoking. For me, yes, I understand the urge to impress a love interest, but I would never do anything detrimental to my health to do it. To me, it seems like there are so many negatives with smoking and you only hear one positive - destressing or giving a head rush. Neither of which seem to outweigh all the bad parts. (And you can destress in healthier ways - lie down with a book/tv... have a bath, get a massage etc) People say they love smoking - it seems more likely they like the social aspect - hanging out with other smokers, making friends with smokers, impressing someone, being "cool" - and the actual act is not great. It only feels good because you're addicted. It just baffles me that something so pointless and over-all bad for you can still be considered cool - buying into that seems silly. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to know you because you don't smoke? It's also funny to me that smokers say the same things in defense - "it's my body. let me do what I want with it" - fair call, but we look out for each other. We encourage people to wear seatbelts and protective gear when necessary to help them live longer, if we know someone on drugs we want to get them help. It's their life, but why is it so bad to not want other human beings to die horrible deaths? (And lung or throat cancer is an awful way to die - seen it) or die young because of something so unnecessary and avoidable? Yes, you want us to bugger off and leave you to it, and I don't hassle smokers, but the sentiment behind those who do is one I can relate to. It's a frustration. You see someone doing something "stupid", and it's very hard not to say WHYYYYYY?? SO POINTLESS! STOP THAT.Kinda the same urge I get when I see someone telling their kid that god created the earth 6000 years ago... you just want to jump in and tell them to stop ignoring facts. 

 

What do NON-smokers think about smokers?

Not what you think about smoking, but your image of the PEOPLE that smoke. 

Do you think smokers are gross? They have no will power? Please tell me your thoughts on people that smoke cigarettes.

 

Best Answer - Chosen by Voters

 

It depends on their age and how they look.

But generally when I seen a teen smoke (I'm a teen myself) I see them as disgusting and irresponsible. 

However when I see adults smoke, I still see it as gross and disgusting, but I see them differently. I wouldn't see them as trying to 'fit in' as i would for teens.

 

Either the smoker isn't educated enough to know it's bad for them, or they are and just don't have enough common sense to care. Either way it's a very big turn off and looks trashy or uneducated

 

When i see a smoker I think of them as a loser and a addicted disgusting cigarette smoking nasty. Smokers are disgusting!

Did you hear the joke about the man who smoked his whole life? It's gonna kill ya

 

Gross dumb

 

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Just for entertainment:

Revenge of the Non-Smokers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=8QbhkYSSvYw

   Sorry! I don't inbed!
  
   Think about it! Your Family, Friends, Business Associates, CoWorkers, Boss, ....KNOW that you smoke! Do you really think they can't tell?????????????

I'm absolutely fascinated by the Blogs I've seen these last few days! I hear people talking about how they "can't"because it's just "too hard!"I can't help but remember my first days of my quit journey 989 days ago! I had just been diagnosed with a chronic progressive illness that's incurable. My life expectancy just went waaaaaay down with one little word. What's more I was convinced that my Quality of Life would really be looooow. In other words, don't expect much from life except pain, suffering, and early death. Talk about STRESS! Please Newbie, don't tell me about stress!!!! And do you know the worst part of it? The personal knowledge that I had done this to myself......with yes, smoking! So I was diagnosed with COPD/Emphysema on March 14 and had my last puff March 19! That's all the preparation time I gave myself! Not weeks.....not Months....not NRTs.....not chantix.... just one tool you folks would be smart to use - KNOWLEDGE! So where did I acquire this knowledge so fast? Right here at BecomeanEX. I didn't join to fool around with slips and relapses. I didn't come here with an "I already know it all" ATTITUDE! I didn't come here with a line about how we are all different and nobody understands me!!!! I came here to be included in the 6% who SUCCEED in their first year of quitting!!! I came here to listen to those who had already achieved what I wanted! I didn't blame them for being too harsh! I listened! Because they had something that I not only wanted - but something I needed!I had a clear cut choice: QUIT or DIE!!! Simple! I humbly asked questions and accepted advice. I did my homework without hesitation! I made friends and exposed my ADDICTIVE SELF to these EXers with integrity and honesty! I let that smoke cloud of distorted thinking lift because FIRST and most important - I kept them away from my face!!!! So my issue was never to smoke or not to smoke!!! My issue was "What do I do instead?" 

Folks, do you really want to wait until you have a smoke related illness before you quit? Or worse, continue to smoke knowing that you are literally killing yourself????Are you even aware that HALF of all smokers will DIE of smoke related illness????? Or do you want to pay attention and follow the road map that has been put right in front of you and shows you each and every step to take if you really want to be in the 6%? No excuses! Keep them away from your face and listen!

Smoking changes us, and those changes happen gradually, over a long period of time. In fact, the personality shifts we experience due to nicotine addiction are so subtle; most of us don't realize our cigarettes are responsible for them.

Anxiety is a common problem among smokers. I had my fair share of it throughout the last few years I smoked. I thought my tension was the result of my increased pressures and responsibilities. I thought it was a "natural" part of aging, in fact. It wasn't until I quit smoking that I began to understand just how much addiction had influenced my belief in myself and self-esteem.

Nicotine addiction taught me a lot of things, none of them good. It taught me to avoid dealing with life by hiding behind a smoke screen. When something stressful happened, what did I do? I lit a cigarette so I could think it over, of course. By the end of the cigarette, I often decided to let go of whatever it was, which sometimes was not a good choice. Smoking taught me to avoid, and avoidance breeds tension. I was teaching myself to settle for less by not dealing with life head on.

Smoking taught me that I was weak. I felt powerless to quit. As much as I hated smoking, I thought I couldn't live without my cigarettes. And there was that nagging worry in the back of my mind that I was killing myself, one cigarette at a time. I was in a constant state of subtle turmoil. It was such an awful way to live, but I settled for it for a long time. Nicotine addiction does that to a person.

The blinders finally came off and I quit smoking. Why? The tension in my life created by smoking had become unbearable. That's what it took for me to quit and to stick with the recovery process until I was free. And so I began my journey to freedom.

That journey has taught me a boatload of lessons, some of them hard, but worthwhile nonetheless. One that stands out at the top of the list sounds simple, but the impact on our lives if we take it to heart is profound. It is this:

Don't settle for less in your life.

Smoking is a way of settling for so much less than you deserve. It's self-destructive behavior that tends to trickle to other areas of your life. Once you quit smoking, positive changes start to happen.

When I smoked, it didn't seem to make much difference whether I was exercising and eating a healthy diet or not. I knew I was poisoning myself 20 times a day. Now, making the most of what I have by living healthfully has become a positive focus in my life. I won't settle for less.

Relationships have shifted somewhat as well...some have been let go and others I nurture more. As a smoker, I tolerated more than was good for me at times, but not anymore. Life is too short, and I just won't settle for less.

Quit meters show us the amount of life saved, but they can't properly indicate the quality of life saved. You have to read between the lines of your quit meter to see that one, but it is there, and it's one of the best benefits of quitting. It's proof of a new way of living...of not settling for less.

Smoking cessation brings the value of our lives into sharp focus. It has given me the tools and the belief in myself to make changes successfully in any area of my life that I choose.

One day at a time...it works. Persistence and patience and time -- they're your path to a smoke free future and a better way of life.

Don't settle for anything less.

http://quitsmoking.about.com/od/whyquitsmoking/a/dontsettle.htm

Good Morning, Fellow EXers! Today there is a lot of don't miss information! I have broken it into 3 major categories:

Smoking and your Family

Smoking and the Law

and

Smoking Cessation

BUT there is a lot of overlap! For EXample, what would you do if every time you reached for a sickerette, you had to see this:

 

Cancer Replaces Crests as Australia Cigarette Law Begins

Well, I know what I would do! QUIT! 

And what would you do if you knew that you were EXposing your Family to hearing loss, breast cancer, lung cancer, and more?

I know what I would do! QUIT TODAY!

And how would I quit? 

For one thing, I would take the advice of the American Lung Association and find FREE Group Support right here at BecomeanEX often, even several times a day, if that's what it takes to quit and stay quit! 

How about YOU???

 

SMOKING AND YOUR FAMILY

Home: Last bastion for secondhand smoke

http://www.philly.com/philly/blogs/public_health/Secondhand-smoke-at-home-With-the-kids.html

 

How to quit smoking when you are pregnant

http://www.foxnews.com/health/2012/11/13/how-to-quit-smoking-when-are-pregnant/#ixzz2DzOYIaBS

 

Passive Smoking Can Cause Breast Cancer

http://www.foodconsumer.org/newsite/Non-food/Lifestyle/passive_smoking_breast_cancer_1117120101.html

 

Pay attention to the threat of lung cancer

http://billingsgazette.com/news/opinion/mailbag/pay-attention-to-the-threat-of-lung-cancer/article_87d88609-fb91-5a84-bd27-78471c2cfb7c.html#ixzz2DzUIqSEd

 

Hidden Hearing Respond to a Connection between Passive Smoking and Hearing Loss

http://www.prweb.com/releases/2012/11/prweb10100161.htm

 

SMOKING AND THE LAW

Australians Face Gangrene Photos as Tobacco Brands Vanish

http://www.businessweek.com/news/2012-12-02/australians-face-gangrene-photos-as-tobacco-brands-vanish

 

License to smoke

http://www.philly.com/philly/opinion/inquirer/20121203_License_to_smoke.html

 

American Lung Association Report Says U.S. At Tipping Point For Policies That Help Smokers Quit

http://www.sacbee.com/2012/12/03/5026440/american-lung-association-report.html

 

When it comes to policies that help smokers quit, the United States now finds itself at a tipping 

point. As federal and state governments work to implement the Patient Protection and 

Affordable Care Act (ACA), there is huge potential to provide millions more smokers with the 

help they need to quit. The ACA makes major changes to the health insurance market and also 

puts more focus on prevention in healthcare, which includes 

tobacco cessation. The law has major implications for states, 

which are tasked with implementing many of the ACA’s 

most transformative initiatives, including health insurance 

exchanges and a significant expansion of Medicaid. As major 

changes are being made to how healthcare is delivered 

and paid for in this country, there is a great opportunity 

to incorporate tobacco cessation treatment as a key to 

preventing deadly disease and rapidly rising healthcare costs. 

Several provisions in the ACA, discussed in the coming pages, 

specifically address prevention and tobacco cessation. The opportunities in the ACA for smokers 

who want to quit are very exciting.

However, with great opportunity to do the right thing also comes the opportunity to make 

misguided decisions that will have lasting effects. The federal government has missed several 

opportunities since the enactment of the ACA to grant smokers access to more cessation 

treatments. Now, as states are beginning implementation of state exchanges and Medicaid 

expansions, state policymakers have the opportunity to stand up for smokers in their states who 

want to quit. Unfortunately, a number of states are choosing otherwise. One troubling example is 

Maine, whose governor shortsightedly cut Medicaid coverage of tobacco cessation medications as 

part of larger efforts to change the Medicaid program and cut costs. 

In the coming years, policymakers at all levels have the potential to encourage and help many 

smokers to quit. The American Lung Association urges policymakers to take advantage of the 

opportunities detailed in the following pages—to save both lives and money.

 

ARE YOU PASSIVE TO the ISSUE OF SMOKING?

http://www.nation.lk/edition/undo/item/12994-are-you-passive-to-the-issue-of-smoking?.html

 

Taxing cigarettes saves lives

http://www.baltimoresun.com/news/opinion/editorial/bs-ed-cigarette-tax-20121126,0,5986884.story

 

Cigarette firms must run ads saying they lied

http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2012/11/27/judge-orders-tobacco-ads-declaring-deception/1730211/

 

SMOKING AND YOUR INSURANCE

Why wouldn't insurers cover smoking cessation?

http://www.fiercehealthpayer.com/story/why-wouldnt-insurers-cover-smoking-cessation/2012-11-30

 

Some insurers are already flouting Obamacare’s provisions to help smokers quit

http://medcitynews.com/2012/11/some-insurers-are-already-flouting-obamacares-provisions-to-help-smokers-quit/#ixzz2DzRdXwSO

 

Tobacco industry uses trade pacts to try to snuff out anti-smoking laws

http://openchannel.nbcnews.com/_news/2012/11/29/15519194-tobacco-industry-uses-trade-pacts-to-try-to-snuff-out-anti-smoking-laws

 

 

SMOKING CESSATION

Barcelona launch unique anti-smoking campaign with the European Commission

http://www.goal.com/en-gb/news/3266/spain/2012/12/03/3562505/barcelona-launch-unique-anti-smoking-campaign-with-the

 

Want to Quit? Afraid of Weight Gain?

http://www.dailyrx.com/smoking-cessation-often-gets-put-fear-weight-gain

 

Evidence builds for SMS smoking cessation

http://mobihealthnews.com/19120/evidence-builds-for-sms-smoking-cessation/

 

Smokers given genetic test to help them quit

http://www.deadlinenews.co.uk/2012/12/02/smokers-given-genetic-test-to-help-them-quit/

   

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