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Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 31, 2012

Welcome my new friend  Jcouhig! 



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 30, 2012

.I wonder what a Spammer really looks like?






I hope and pray that all our EX Family are safe and healthy this AM after the Hurricane Sandy! Thank God the worst is over but I know there will be a long recovery to put life back to normal! 

This morning I found this list which I find so useful because often folks come to us at the end of Week 1 and ask, "Is this normal? How long will it last?" 


These symptoms surface after three-five days of quitting smoking and linger for approximately two weeks.


Emotional withdrawal





-Mood swing


Physical withdrawal

-Bowel discomfort

-Nasal and throat problems

-Increase in appetite


-Lack of sleep

-Restlessness/lack of concentration

-Weight gain


-Sweating and shaky hands and feet

-Skin trouble


Instead of losing motivation, after reading these withdrawal symptoms, the one thought any quitter must focus on is this: The fact that your body is changing so much when quitting, simply showcases how much it is continuously changed and affected while you still smoke. Avoid poor health and dangerous diseases - quit smoking today.

Another Article: Smoking: A Deadly Exercise reminds us of this Bible Verse:


“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov 4:23 NIV). 

  There are a lot of gems in today's reading, so make yourself comfortable and fortify your Quititude by Knowing your Enemy!
    Pre-pregnancy Weight, Smoking Status Tied to Heavy Kids
    Women who smoke during pregnancy put future grandchildren at asthma risk
    When parents smoke, the risk to children is great
    House fire in KCK may be related to smoking near oxygen
     Smoking: A Deadly Exercise 
     Heart attack declines due to smoke free workplace laws 
     Hospitals turn away applicants who smoke 
     Smoking bans cut number of heart attacks, strokes 
    Smoking and ADHD Risk Are Influenced by the Very Same Gene
    Smoking: A Deadly Exercise
    Withdrawal symptoms of quitting smoking

What's your reason for quitting? 


We all have many reasons for quitting:






-self respect




Whatever our original reasons, many of us have found that there is a plethora of blessings and benefits from our quit journey - and a surprising number of unexpected challenges! 


The obvious reason for my quit is health, having quit cold turkey 6 days after being diagnosed with COPD/emphysema. It certainly wasn't my first "quit!" I had "quit" for several months in a row many times with the uneducated purpose of "clearing out my lungs." I already knew how to do that!


But this is my Quit Journey - my Forever Quit! It's a whole different ball game! That made it entirely different from those other months of smobriety! I had to learn a whole different way of living - a New Normal - a NEW ME!


What part of me hasn't been changed or radically adjusted by my Quit Journey? Looking at the list above I see all of those changes and more! I see an integrated ME! I no longer lie to myself so I can no longer hide behind a smoke cloud! I have to deal with my mental, intellectual, physical, spiritual, emotional well being! And each task that I accomplish along those lines feeds my SUCCESS as an EXer for LIFE! 


Consider this list written on Day 75 of my quit:


That's when I was just beginning to realize that this Quit business was a lot bigger than "just" health! 


EXamine your quit journey, look closely at your total self and find ways to honor the NEW Smoke FREE YOU in every way!

Praying for all those of us who are in Hurricane Sandy's path! May God protect you! There's lots of great articles today to read and reading in my humble opinion helps us all reinforce our Quititudes! Read Patrick Reynold's position on the tobacco industry - yes, I said Reynolds! Or read about "inhale less!" So grab a cup of coffee, sit back and enjoy today's Know Your Enemy!


Women may add 10 years by quitting smoking


Tobacco heir speaks on danger of smoking



Secondhand Smoke: All It Takes Is 20 Minutes



Churches urged to take steps to fight tobacco consumption


Vegan 'Twilight' star Nikki Reed quits smoking: It's my greatest accomplishment



‘Man with no face' lectures kids on tobacco


Westwood doctor seeking to raise the smoking age


Candy Flavored Tobacco: Trick or Treat?



Smoking bans around the world


Smoking will 'kill up to a billion people worldwide this century'



Worksite wellness column: Smoking bans are an effective tool for the workplace



Protecting your pets and your health



Problems quitting smoking? 'Inhale less' advise NICE


Need to Stay Busy?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 24, 2012

Why not join the 114 Members of Our Positive Affirmation Group?

- You can sort through the 46 pages of affirmations and make a list of the ones you like the most!

- You can find and add affirmations of your own to add to the collection!

- You can share with other members and quit buddies the affirmations that struck a cord with you!

- You can print out or copy some of your favorites and post them on your fridge, front door, bathroom mirror, bedroom night stand, TV screen, computer work area, etc.....

You will stay very busy and you will be enhancing your Quititude all at the same time! 

Have Fun!


Overcoming Fear

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 24, 2012

If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed. David Viscott




Are you a bit afraid of quitting? There's nothing more natural in the World! I was afraid of the cravings, afraid of the weight gain, afraid of the mood changes, afraid of the temptation, afraid of failure, AFRAID! We live in a society that unfortunately plays on our fears for political, comercial, and personal reasons! The comercials tell you that "Quitting sucks!" The politicians, pharmaceuticals and yes, even Doctors,  tell you that it's hard to quit (but we'll be happy to sell you NRTS!) The tobacco industry lies about how safe - er their sickorettes are! Our smoking friends are glad to tell you horror stories of their unsuccessful "quits!" FEAR is an industry in our times!


Then there is BecomeanEx Community (not to be confused with BecomeanEx admin!) who tell you that it really makes no difference if you can afford NRTs and Chantix although if you do find them helpful by all means use them!  it 's not necessary to let this be a huge deprivation full of sacrifice, mood changes, and weight gain! You don't have to be miserable, grumpy, impossible to live with!


What are we "selling?" Actually nothing at all! Yet, we are not disinterested! We sincerely CARE! And we have found and are sharing SUCCESS! But it's not success that you can buy! It's FREE! We are sharing ATTITUDE! You see, we found out that when you overcome those fears, when you make that leap of faith in yourself, when you expect success, you can not only have a successful quit - YOU CAN have a Happy Quit! When I started reading here, I'll be honest, I was sceptical! Oh come on! It can't be that easy - or so I thought! But I was intrigued! I kept reading and the more I read, the more I wanted to read! What do you mean not giving up anything? Am I not giving up my best friend, my faithful and constant companion? Well, I see now that my best friend was interested in only one thing - killing me while robbing me of all my money and of my dignity and self-respect! Jeepers! With friends like that, who needs enemies???!!! 


Are you going to believe the "common wisdom" that quitting is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do?" Or are you willing to look at the possibility that quitting smoking is the very best decision you can possibly make for your health and happiness? Quitting is not an event, but a way of life - living abundantly addiction FREE! Quitting is about regaining your integrity, about returning to the real you that your Creator intends for you to be! Quitting renews your health, your self-respect, your relationships, your LIFE! Rather than the end of your "favorite vice" it is the beginning of a new way of thinking and relishing all that life has to offer!


Having quit over 2 years ago, I can assure you that I take better care of all aspects of my health today! I take much better care of my emotional health as well! I make better career and practical choices about subjects that seemingly have nothing whatsoever to do with tobacco! I navigate my relationships both social and family with more honesty and patience, with more compassion for others, with more generosity of self! Yes, I AM Happier!


Honestly, yes! There were some rough moments! There were some very challenging days! There still are some occasional temptations! That's the nature of the addictive mind! But you couldn't make me go back to smoking and give up this FREEDOM and wellbeing for anything, for any reason NO MATTER WHAT!


So consider this - make that leap! Put aside your fears! You CAN do this and you have a whole Community of sincere people here to help you! They have all been exactly where you are today! And THEY SUCCEEDED! YOU CAN TOO!


Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.

-William Shakespeare


One who fears failure limits his activities. 

Failure is only the opportunity to more 

intelligently begin again.

-Henry Ford


What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?

-Vincent van Gogh

This Week is National Respiratory Care Week which is a great opportunity to remind folks to be aware of your breathing! Do you have a wheezing or shortness of breath? Perhaps you attribute it to getting older or being out of shape? Do you have a cough or cold symptoms that just doesn't seem to go away? It's probably a good idea for you, especially, but honestly, for all smokers and ex-smokers to get tested for COPD/ Emphysema. 12 Million people who have COPD don't even know that they have it! Might you be one of these folks?

If you think you might want to be tested, ask your Doctor to give you a Spirometry Test. It's a simple breathing test, noninvasive, only takes a few minutes and you get immediate results! The cost of this test is minimal and most doctors have the spirometry machine right in their office. All you have to do is ask! Doctors have been found to test mostly white men over 50 when folks with COPD can be as young as 20 (and of course, female or of any race!) Get your results and ask your doctor to explain the numbers not just say "Oh, you're alright!" The number most pertinent is called FEV1%. It indicates your lung capacity. 

Next Month is National COPD Awareness Month so get ready! I'll be nagging you all Month long to get tested! If you don't have COPD, you will sleep better! If you do have it, early diagnosis makes a world of difference in your ability to manage the disease and reclaim your Quality and Quantity of LIFE - beginning with living Smoke FREE!


Chronic Cough or Cold Could Be COPD: Learn More, Breathe Better


Lower levels of a key lung protein increase the risk of developing cigarette-smoke-induced emphysema


Cigar Versus Cigarette Smoking: Which Is Worse?


Smokers beware: Smoking causes depression


Pro-smoking apps may boost teenage smoking risk


58 percent workers think 'smoking breaks' are unfair

Good Morning, Folks! I remember the last "quit attempt" I had - I was quit for a little over a year and had the attitude that I'm not going to avoid being around smoke! After all, smoke and smoking are an integral part of modern life, right! All my friends smoke and why should I give up my friends or change my lifestyle just because I decided to quit smoking??? I'll just hang out during smoke breaks and chat and enjoy the cameraderie of "smoke break" but without the cigarette!  

Anybody see what went wrong with my "quit plan?" It isn't at all amazing that I relapsed! It's amazing that I did this for Months on end telling myself how liberal and compassionate I was! 

Balogna! I was constantly inhaling Second hand smoke! I was even then damaging my lungs! I was stimulating my Addictive Brain! 

Please pay attention, People! It doesn't work! Second hand smoke is dangerous for quitters to be around and deadly to everybody adult and child, exposed to it! A couple of weeks ago I published an article about Second hand smoke saying only 26% of current smokers believe that Second hand smoke is even dangerous! INCREDIBLE!  Read more about Second hand smoke in todays articles! 



Smokers, alcoholic men beware of osteoporosis



Whoopi Goldberg And Other Celebrities Who Have Quit Smoking



Fresh setback for Nabi's smoking-cessation vaccine



Secondhand smoke in cars, bars impairs breathing within 20 minutes



Letter: SIDS awareness month under way


Smoking in the car exceeds toxic limits



On the Call: Philip Morris Int'l CFO Olczak



Who Smokes Most: A surprising map of smoking rates by country



Team support for cessation in the workplace helped motivate cigarette smokers to quit


JAMA: Director of tobacco research suggests most benefits outweigh risks when considering cessation


Smoking cessation programs must be made available for current active-duty war fighters


Chronic Disease Management Could Help Cigarette Smokers Kick The Habit


What’s the formula for success to quit smoking? 


Pursed Lip Breathing

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 20, 2012

Do you folks want to know what to tell a COPDer when they are out of breath? First, you have to understand the problem a little. Take a breath in and don't exhale, take another breath in, and another.... See what I mean? it feels like you can't breathe in, when the truth is that you aren't breathing out enough! So the trick is to breathe out the most effectively possible. One great way to breathe out is called pursed lip breathing. It's what you do when you blow out a candle or blow dandelion seeds around the yard! 

Here's a description of pursed lip breathing:


Pursed lip breathing is one of the simplest ways to control shortness of breath. It provides a quick and easy way to slow your pace of breathing, making each breath more effective.

What does pursed lip breathing do?
Pursed lip breathing:

  • Improves ventilation
  • Releases trapped air in the lungs
  • Keeps the airways open longer and decreases the work of breathing
  • Prolongs exhalation to slow the breathing rate
  • Improves breathing patterns by moving old air out of the lungs and allowing for new air to enter the lungs
  • Relieves shortness of breath
  • Causes general relaxation

When should I use this technique?
Use this technique during the difficult part of any activity, such as bending, lifting or stair climbing.

Practice this technique 4-5 times a day at first so you can get the correct breathing pattern.

imagePursed lip breathing technique

1. Relax your neck and shoulder muscles. (figure to right)
2. Breathe in (inhale) slowly through your nose for two counts, keeping your mouth closed. Don't take a deep breath; a normal breath will do. imageIt may help to count to yourself: inhale, one, two.(figure to right)

3. Pucker or "purse" your lips as if you were going to whistle or gently flicker the flame of a candle. (figure to left)

image4. Breathe out (exhale) slowly and gently through your pursed lips while counting to four. It may help to count to yourself: exhale, one, two, three, four. (figure to right)

With regular practice, this technique will seem natural to you. 

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YOU vs. YOU!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 15, 2012

I was rummaging around in the FORUMS and look at this gem I came across! You will not want to miss lsiyening to this discussion!


Thank YOU, Miss Magdelene, and WELCOME!

Good Morning! Is everybody enjoying the beautiful colors and aromas of Autumn? When we quit smoking, our sense of smell improves and our Focus changes from that bit of dead leaves wrapped in paper and dipped in over 4000 chemicals! We actually look around! There's no question that our Society is changing! Take, for example, the sanitization of Santa in the Classic Poem The Night Before Christmas! Read more in the articles listed below....




Smoking may lead to age-related cataract


Veterans That Smoke Are At A Higher Risk Of Alcohol Abuse Relapse



We must stub out smoking for teens in poor regions


Smoking and Adolescent Brain Development



Hooked on Hookah: Inside the hottest trend in smoking


Blessed are the smokers for they are welcome in heaven


Santa doesn’t smoke a pipe in PC rewrite of 'Twas the Night'



Secondhand smoke a deadly nuisance



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 15, 2012

"Success is a state of mind. 
If you want success, start thinking 
of yourself as a success." 
- Dr. Joyce Brothers

Success is not a pill, a patch, a gum, a spray, etc. Pharmeceuticals are tools that you can use, but TRUE SUCCESS is all in your head! 

READ, Participate, Learn, and Listen!

You have to Retrain your Brain!

Smoking is not an option any more!

-Make a decision to not smoke Today and respect yourself enough to honor that decision for one day!

-READ,, The Easy Way by Allen Carr, and successsful long term quitters' blogs here!

-Don't keep secrets! Tell your family and friends that you are quitting!

- Celebrate your milestones!

-Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually!

-BE HAPPY! HAVE FUN! Enjoy and embrace your smoke free lifestyle!

-Never ever forget! Protect your quit!

-TODAY is the Most Important Day of my Quit Journey!

I listened and they were right! There is nothing special or different about me. My name is Thomas and I am 54 years old! I smoked for over 20 years. I have 2 Years 6 Months 3 Weeks and 1 Day  smoke free today which means I didn't smoke 9370 sickerettes  costing $2108!  If I can do it you can too! Listen to your BecomeanEx Friends! 


The Turning Point!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 10, 2012

I can't say what day it happened. Yet I know that there WAS a point where the war between I want a cigarette( IWC) and I don't want a cigarette (IDWC) was over!  Of course the battle has been fierce especially during the first week when the IWC found out that IDWC was life and death serious and not just playing around with an entertaining idea! I followed James' advice and most of the time was able to ignore the war which is probably why I can't point to an AHHH moment!  Thus, the war went on and I went on a semi-Happy Quitter (I'm not as good at it as James - wish I was!) Inevitably the war was over and the winner IDWC was declared and I looked up and knew IWC doesn't have a chance! I AM TRULY A HAPPY QUITTER! I decided to QUIT SMOKING and I decided to ignore the battle but most importantly I didn't let a cigarette near my face NO MATTER WHAT! I have said N.O.P.E. each and every morning! And some days several times an hour  - whatever it takes because this was for me the single most important thing I could do for myself to improve my HEALTH and LIFE!  Then I found that I was changing!  I became a more confident, concerned person!  I'm concerned about LIFE but I'm also concerned about QUALITY OF LIFE!  That means not only not dying but LIVING ABUNDANTLY!  Those of you that know me well have seen these motifs rising one by one to the surface of my blogs and comments and by no means do I think that I am done growing and changing! I feel that at 52 years old that I am in many ways just beginning to LIVE - to LIVE ABUNDANTLY the way my Creator  intended! This is the gift I want for those of you out there who are just beginning this journey ! Give your QUIT a chance and all that sense of loss, deprivation, sadness, regret, suffering and self sacrifice WILL turn around 360 degrees and it will be the cigarette that is the obvious source of the suffering and you will KNOW in your total being that you have made the absolute BEST DECISION in your entire LIFE! Best Wishes!  

Check out the article called "Time to Quit!" You've got plenty of time to save that money by not smoking! 2 Family gifts in ONE!

There's lots of good reading today that will help you KNOW THE ENEMY!

I'm really fortifying my Quititude after having suffered a trauma Friday night of holding a dying man's hand as he gave up his soul from the smoking related illness COPD. Isn't the Nico-Demon (the sick, twisted Addictive ME!) incredible that an incident like this can challenge my 935 days of Quit Journey??? NO WAY would I give in! It makes me nauseous that such a thought would even deign to play with my emotions like that!

N.O.P.E. EVER means EVER! 



Cigarette smoking, active or otherwise, boosts breast cancer risk



Keeping Lungs Healthy Can Protect the Brain


ONCOLOGY: Heavy smoking, alcohol may set stage for early cancer



Oklahoma lawmakers shouldn't be promoting tobacco products


Feds seek full court review of cigarette warnings


Missouri to vote on raising lowest tobacco taxes in the US



Crofton Teen Sees No Limits In Fight Against Tobacco


Oklahoma program targets tobacco use in black population


Study: Graphic, emotional anti-smoking ads effective


Join growing ranks of non-smokers now



Why Are You Still Buying U.S. Tobacco?


Time to quit



The nut cracks

Kate recently wrote about feeling like the new kid on the block, so I wanted to address all beginners who participate in the Blogs whether writing or commenting or lurking! 

We are a diverse group of people.  The strength, resilience, and richness of BecomeanEX are based on the diversity of it members (all spammers EXcluded, of course!) Everyone is equal in worth, and is entitled to the same privileges and opportunities. Each of us has our own unique background and talents.We all contribute  different experiences, lifestyles, backgrounds, perspectives, and ideas. A diverse Community:

*recognizes and values talent.

*eliminates barriers and ensures that all members are treated fairly and have the chance to reach their maximum potential.

*encourages the exchange of ideas which not only broadens the scope of problem solving, but also improves the possibility that the problems will be solved.


Each contact I have with a new member is based on my own experience. I bring to the table my diagnosis of COPD (even when I don't memtion it!), my SUCCESS, my personality! It can hardly be otherwise. It's for the Newbie to take what is useful to them and leave the rest from all the comments and advice they receive!  We all have equal opportunity to add our own input.I most often center on folks with COPD and then on other members who I feel are open to the Fantastic Change which is necessary to become a true EX. That's because my quits in the past have been for Months even Years but not sincere! I was just borrowing time, "cleaning out my lungs so I can smoke some more!" So I know the difference! I Know that's just not good enough! 


I learn and grow from you, the beginner, too! You keep me EXcited about my Quit Journey! You show me where I've been and contribute new, fresh ideas and perspective that hasn't yet been cooked into the "accepted wisdom!" You remind me to Never Ever Forget:

-Never forget what it was like to be smoking and want to quit;

-never forget what it was like to change my perspective and become determined and focused - 100% committed;

-never forget the discomfort of withdrawal, both physical and emotional;

-never forget when one day, one hour, one minute was an accomplishment'

-never forget that break through that made me a "Happy Quitter!"

So you see, you are helping me Protect my Quit! You are giving me one of my most useful tools! Yaya often says, I'm here more for me than for you! And that's the beauty of BecomeanEX! We all becume more successful at Addiction FREE Living Together.

You bring your own talents, experience and personality to your Comments! Each of us contributes something that may help that individual make the ultimate decision - to live addiction FREE! I would like to remind you so you don't get depressed that as you see folks come and go, remember that you have no idea how many mustard seeds you are planting on the way! Maybe that person will come back later or maybe somebody else read that Comment to So-and-So and took it to heart! I think we'd all be surprised at how many people are lurking, reading everything but choose to remain out of the limelight! Finally, contribute what you have and respect that other contributor, too! We all make this Community a Great Place to be and most important SUCCESSFUL!


Together We're BETTER!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 8, 2012

"We inhabit ourselves without valuing ourselves, unable to see that here,
now, this very moment is sacred; but once it's gone its value is
incontestable."  --Joyce Carol Oates




Hello, fellow Exers and wannabes! When was the last time you thought about that Breath that you're taking right now and remembered to Thank your Creator that you were given that chance? Now is a Good Time! Take a nice long breath all the way down into your belly, purse your lips and very sloooowly exhale! As you exhale just think in your mind Thank You Father for this Breath of Life!  We are so fortunate to have the Gift of LIFE! It's our responsibility to guard and Protect that Gift! We do that each and every day that we DECIDE to live Smoke FREE!!! We honor Our Creator by choosing to live the way He intends for us to be - Addiction FREE!  That's how Valuable YOU and I are to Him! Choose Breath not Death! Just for today live Smoke FREE with GRATITUDE!



It is one of life’s laws that as soon as one door closes another opens. But
 the tragedy is we look at the closed door and disregard the open one.

-Andre  Gide


When I first found out that I had Emphysema, it was very hard to imagine a door opening in front of me! My eyes were focused on the door that was being slammed behind me - smoking! The minute I heard the word Emphysema I knew my smoking days were going to have to come to a complete and abrupt halt! In the following days I had my share of fantasies about how wonderful a cigarette would taste, smell, feel - how all my stress would go away - how everything would be alright again if I could just have my fix, -er, friend back! Even knowing that all the above was a lie didn't take away my intense longing for the imaginary past I played with in my mind! I wasn't looking forward to giving up my constant companion! 

Fortunately, I came on this site and began to read not just here but also at and because I knew that the initial quitting is not my issue - I've done that many times before! But (see how devious the addictive mind works) only for awhile till my cough got a bit better and "my lungs cleared out!" Little did I know that the cough was Chronic Bronchitis and I was well on my way to COPD!!! My real issue even to this day is how not to be lured back into the addiction through Nostalgia! And one guy impressed me more than anybody else! His moniker is The Happy Quitter and his name is James! He doesn't write so often anymore so keep an eye out for him and you'll meet a true EXample! Happy Quitter! You gotta be pulling my leg! We quit because we're more scared to smoke than we are to quit which is scared crazy, right???? James made a breakthrough in my junkie mind and then, not really believing, but as AA says Fake it till you Make it - I filled my mind not with nostalgia but with anticipation! 

Now what on this amazing Planet is there to look forward to when you quit smoking (besides not dying quite so fast, of course!) ??? Well, I kept looking around at other quitters on this site and some did talk about being tough, fighting the good fight, struggling through another day - just what I expected! But A LOT of EXers spoke of FREEDOM and excitement, of amazing changes that were happening to them!Guess who had been here the longest? The folks who weren't talking the fight language but were talking the FREEDOM language - They gave me something to Anticipate! The quit was no longer couched in words of FEAR but of Liberation from Addiction! Abundant Living! Clean, Pure, Fresh, NEW! the NEW ME! Or as my Friend Rose puts it - Metamorphosis! 


When I stopped looking at that door behind me with Nostalgia and began looking at the Open Door in front of me with Anticipation then my whole outlook changed! I got it! I got excited about my quit! This was the first and last time that I could look at my Quit with PRIDE and a True sense of Accomplishment! Emphysema closed one door and opened another and the Exers told me to KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE!

Good Morning! Happy Stoptober, Everybody! 

Today, there are a wide variety of articles to share with you,so grab your coffee, get comfortable (I sit on one of those pilates ball things) and READ about the ENEMY! Knowledge is POWER and knowing your ENEMY will help fortify your Commitment to LIVE Smoke FREE! 

TODAY is an EXcellent day to LIVE Smoke FREE!




Officials declare 'war on kitchen fires'



Teen smoking tied to earlier death,77097.asp


Research emphasizes importance of smoking cessation for people with stroke or TIA



Kids Strapped in for Secondhand Smoke


Secondhand smoke linked to heart and lung disease


Despite program, more needs to be done to curb smoking: doctor



Altoona Regional takes aim at Tobacco


Delray Beach, Florida Bans Hiring Of Smokers Or Tobacco Users To Save On Health Insurance


To smoke on stage or not to smoke





Michigan smoking ban fight to continue


Cigarette Price Increases Don't Burden Low-Income New Yorkers, Smoking Does



Growers demand alternative to tobacco before cut in crop area


Marlboro Box Defaced in Australia Where Future Is Now

Cancer Replaces Crests as Australia Cigarette Law Begins


Smokeless tobacco sold in Manzini shops



Local program to help pregnant women quit smoking


Goodbye smoking, hello savings,-hello-savings/


Getting paid to quit may work for some smokers


Join growing ranks of non-smokers now


Elmira anti-smoking center will target efforts at poor, less educated, those with mental issues


Good Grief!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 7, 2012

The psychological recovery process is very similar to the grief cycle, how someone feels when a loved one dies. Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross did research on death and dying. She found that anytime we experience a major change in life, we grieve for the old in order to make room for the new. She also found that there are usually five stages to a person’s grieving process. Think about how these stages of grieving relates to quitting for you:

Denial & Isolation

Denial and isolation are the mind’s first way of protecting us from a sudden change or loss. People who lose a friend or family member say they feel numb. This is called a psychological defense mechanism. What this means is that although you know the importance of quitting, you may not want to believe it. The denial phase probably happened before you even found this program. 


Have you ever said any of these statements?

I know I should quit, but I’m not sure I want to. 

Cigarettes don’t affect my health like they do others. I’m not huffing and puffing. 

I can quit anytime I want to. 

I’m not addicted. 


I’ll switch to a low-tar cigarette. 

Cigarettes haven’t been proven harmful. 

My parents both smoked and they’re fine. 

These are denial statements. What are some other denial statements that perhaps you have used in the past?


When we begin to accept a loss, we often feel anger. If you perceived comfort from smoking you are likely to feel angry about the change. You may be angry about the loss of your “friend.” You might be angry about many things, or everything.

Some typical feelings or statements made during this phase include:

Why me? I’m mad I started, I’m mad I quit. I’m mad cigarettes are harmful. I’m mad it’s so hard. I’m mad that things aren’t going my way. 

You might be angry with me, your Facilitator, and other participants on the Message Boards. You might find yourself reacting angrily to things that normally wouldn’t bother you. 

Your anger may be directed toward family members, friends, nonsmokers or coworkers. In fact, a lot of people avoid quitting because they feel so irritable during the recovery process. 

Remember that anger is part of the process. Don’t try to resist it. Accept it, safely vent it, and take some time to feel it. You may feel angry and testy. You don’t have to have a reason to feel that way, you just do. It will subside. Sometimes naming the feeling lowers the intensity of your anger.


This is the stage where participants feel tempted to postpone the inevitable. You might try to switch brands, smoke only at home or only at work. You might also try to make deals and empty promises. This is a risky phase because a lot of people slip or relapse at this point, so be careful!

Some typical comments made during the bargaining phase are:

I think I have the worst licked. If I just have one cigarette, I’ll get right back on track afterward and I won’t do it again. 


I’ll just smoke on vacation. 

I’ll just light your cigarette. 

I’ll quit as long as my weight stays down. 

I’ll try, but I’m not making any promises. 


Do these statements sound familiar? Everyone is tempted to bargain. Realizing that it is a natural part of the process of quitting sometimes helps to move past it. Laugh it off and have a heart-to-heart talk with your inner self. Make a strong commitment to be in control of the cigarette. If you give in to bargaining, the cigarette is once again in control. Say out loud, “Nothing or no one controls me.” Put that statement on a sticky note and put it in a place where you’ll be reminded to think about it and repeat it often.

When participants acknowledge and accept the loss of their “friend,” the cigarette, it’s natural to experience some sadness. This is especially true when no one else seems to know or understand this loss. People often experience this in one of two ways. They either feel a deep sense of sadness or a deep sense of deprivation.


Some typical comments during the depression stage are:

I feel so emotional. I cry all the time. 

I feel so deprived. 

Why can’t I have this one little pleasure? 

Life without cigarettes is awful. 

I feel lonely. 

This is the “ain’t it awful” stage. You may feel like you’ve lost your best friend. Don’t resist this stage or think it’s crazy to mourn the loss of a cigarette. Be as direct with this stage as we suggest with the anger stage. Accept it. Talk about it. Take some time to just feel sad. Then move on and focus on the benefits of what you’re doing. 


A healthy person who has suffered a loss eventually accepts its reality and goes on living life. In this stage, you begin to realize that your former smoking lifestyle is over. You are finally resolving your sense of loss or grief. You can get on with living your new found, healthier lifestyle. A new and better life begins.

Some typical comments during the acceptance phase are:

I think I’m going to actually be successful. I still don’t like it a lot but I think it will stick. 

I’d still like to smoke but I choose not to. 

I am going to teach myself to like my new nonsmoking lifestyle. I’ll do it gradually and positively. 

I am living a smokefree life. 

I am an ex-smoker! 

The key to moving through the psychological recovery is your attitude toward quitting. Continue to look at these symptoms as part of the process. Move through them with a sense of challenge, expectation and excitement over what lies ahead for you. You will make discoveries about yourself. Reject the feeling that you have given something up. It’s quite the opposite. You've gained something: your freedom and self-mastery. 

This is not an exercise in self-denial, but self-determination. You are giving a precious gift to yourself and to those around you.



Today I held a Friend in my hands as he died of COPD. I watched his Soul slip from his body and travel to a better place where he now is FREE to Breathe Easy as Our Creator intends! He is at Peace! However, I'm not! I will have to travel through these steps one by one! I know this and I will be patient with myself! 


Be patient with yourself, too! But stay on track! Move forward and keep them away from your face! You didn't become addicted overnight - you won't heal overnight, either! Smoking is never the solution to your grief!


Hey, YOU! Lurker....

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 6, 2012

I see you peeking in on us!  ;~)



"The secret of getting started is breaking 
your complex, overwhelming tasks into 
small manageable tasks, and then 
starting on the first one."
- Mark Twain

The First Task is to READ, READ, READ! Read the BLOGS, Read on people's pages, Read about Nicotine Addiction at:


Allen Carr’s Ebook, The Easy Way to Stop Smoking





You aren't making any commitment or even decision - you're just Reading!


What do you have to lose???? 

THE INTERESTING history of smoking tells us a lot about man, about ourselves as a people, as a nation, and about human beings on planet Earth in general.

The original form of tobacco was native only to the Americas, which they started growing as early as 6000 BC, but it was in 1000 BC when people started chewing and smoking tobacco. The first recorded smoker in Europe was Rodrigo de Jerez in 1493 AD, a fellow explorer of Christopher Columbus, who enjoyed the New World version of the Cuban cigar. When de Jerez returned home and smoked in public, he was jailed for three years by the Spanish Inquisition, the first victim of the anti-smoking law at the time.

Obviously, the Spanish people then were much ahead of their time (more than 3000 plus years ahead of us today) in the campaign against the killer tobacco.

The most probable individuals who brought tobacco to England were Sir john Hawkins, first English slave trader (1532-1595), and Sir Francis Drake (1541-1596), the first sea captain to sail around the globe. Although he popularized tobacco in the court of Queen Elizabeth I, Sir Walter Raleigh (1552-1618) was mistakenly thought to have been the first one to introduce this substance to England. It was approximately in 1565 when the first shipment of tobacco reached England. Commercial production of tobacco in the United States started in the 17th century.

In his treatise, King James I (1566-1625) described the tobacco plants as “an invention of Satan.” In Russia, Michael Feodorovich (1596-1645), the first Romnov Czar “declared the use of tobacco a deadly sin in Russia and forbade possession for any purpose…usual punishment were slitting of the lips or a terrible and sometimes fatal flogging. … and in Turkey, Persia, and India, the death penalty was prescribed as a cure for the habit.”

In the 1600, “although banned by His Holiness Pope Clement VIII, who threatened anyone who smoked in a holy place with excommunication,” smoking continued to become popular.

More than 300 years later, in 1912, Dr. Isaac Adler observed a significant increase in lung cancers among smokers. Ten years later, “15 states in the USA had banned the sale, manufacture, possession, advertising, and/or use of cigarettes….In 1927, Kansas became the last state to repeal its ban,” after the tobacco companies used physicians in their advertisement to counteract the grave concerns over the health risks.

Today, it sounds absurd that the Journal of the American Medical Association allowed in 1933 Ligget & Myers tobacco company to advertise in this medical publication. That went on for the next two decades, proclaiming the health benefits of their brands. The last two companies to run Ads in the JAMA were Philip Morris and R.J. Reynolds in 1953.

It was 48 years after the link between tobacco and lung cancer was noted by Dr. Adler that the “Journal of the American Medical Association, in 1950, published the results of the first major study of Dr. Morton Levin definitely linking smoking to lung cancer.”

Since 1918, American soldier’s daily rations included cigarettes, until it was stopped in 1975.

Surgeon General Luther L. Terry on January 11, 1964, “released the report of a national committee aided by more than 150 consultants that concluded cigarette smoking was responsible for a 70 percent increase in the mortality rate of smokers over nonsmokers.” Most of these were from cancer of the lung. At that time, more than 42 percent of Americans were smokers. In 2009, this has decreased to 21 percent (about 46 million), which is still 21 percent too many.

In 1987, the United States congress banned smoking on airline flights of less than 2 hours. On April 5, 2000, a law was passed in the United States banning smoking on all flights to and from the USA.

In 1998, 46 states accepted $206-billion settlement with cigarette companies over health costs for treating sick smokers. In 2000, punitive damages of about $145 billion against tobacco firms was awarded by a jury in a class action suit in Florida.

The family of smoking victim Jesse Williams was awarded $81 million in punitive damages by the jury in Portland, Oregon, against Philip Morris, but this was reduced by a judge to $32 million in 2002.

On March 31, 2003, New York City has banned smoking in all public places. Most of the states have now banned smoking in public places in one form or another. Many major cities around the world have followed suit.

Worldwide, a billion people will die from smoking this century, according to the World Health Organization.

“Smoking kills. It is that plain and simple. There is no more doubt today that tobacco (cigarette smoking) is the predominant cause of lung cancer, besides other malignancies and cardiovascular diseases that maim, kill men and women and hurt our society, especially our children. In the United States alone, almost half a million die each year from smoking-related illnesses. These are preventable deaths! Demographic studies have shown that smokers are about 10 times more prone to die premature deaths than non-smokers. This unnecessary loss of lives is at an immense direct cost for non-smokers in terms of increased health risks from passive smoking, in higher health insurance premiums and taxes, not to mention personal and family tragedies in all shapes and forms.”

As we have alluded to before, secondhand smoke is even more dangerous. Innocent bystanders are forced to inhale cigarette smoke at their workplaces or in public places, thus increasing their health risk. In one stick of cigarette, there are about 4000 chemicals and 200 of them cancerous. The Environmental Protection Agency engineers have shown that even the best available ventilation and air-moving equipment were unable to reduce carcinogenic (cancer-causing) air contamination to a safe level for a non-smoker sharing work space with a habitual smoker. Physical isolation of the tobacco addict is most essential as shown by these scientific studies.”

We have likewise stated in another article that smoking a puff or two, or inhaling secondhand smoke, will instantly, within minutes not years,

damage part of our DNA. It is, indeed, very scary, since news about non-smokers who developed lung cancer and died from it is very common.

But, as I have critically pointed out in the past,

designating a smoking section in a restaurant, casino, or of any public building is like providing a urinating area in a section of a swimming pool. A smoking area must be a separate building with a dedicated ventilation and exhaust system of its own.

To those who smoke, it is never too late to quit.

Giving up cigarettes is very tough but getting cancer is a lot tougher.



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 2, 2012

Bible Scenes 1.0


The greatest gift you will ever receive is the gift of loving  and
believing in yourself. Guard this gift with your life. It is the  only
thing that will ever truly be  yours.            Tiffany  Loren Rowe



Believe in yourself and know that you have within you the POWER to decide to quit for one day, TODAY! Then respect yourself enough to honor that decision for the next 24 hours! Love yourself enough to be stronger than that dead leaf wrapped in paper and dipped in 4000+ deadly chemicals! You are a Creature of the Almighty and He has good judgment, that cig is a creation of man and well, not all men make wise decisions but you CAN! Love yourself, trust yourself, Believe in YOU! Choose Breath not Death! N.O.P.E. Not One Puff Ever just for TODAY NO MATTER WHAT! It IS possible!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 2, 2012

Yes, I know! I just posted yesterday, but there just so happens to be lots of news about the ENEMY today, as well! So grab your Java, take a long deep BREATH and Thank GOD for another Smoke FREE Day! 


Happy Birthday, Mahatma Gandhi!




Many smokers: Secondhand smoke not harmful


Smoking: The Truth About Risk


Baby helps dad quit cigarettes



Tobacco becomes a banned product in Himachal Pradesh


Tori the Chain-Smoking Orangutan Gives Birth




Freedom to Breathe law marks fifth year


Secondhand smoke would be prevented by ban



Smoking, Heavy Drinking Linked To Earlier Onset Of Pancreatic Cancer


Smoking clouds the brain after stroke


Smoking the most common cause of emphysema



Stoptober Challenge For Smokers


Smokers trying to quit the habit in Stoptober: Plus handy tips to giving up


Douse the smoke; adopt an exercise habit


Kicking the Habit: A variety of choices available to those wanting to quit

0% of SUCCESSFUL QUITTERS want to smoke EVER! 

If you wish to Become a SUCCESSFUL QUITTER, you are in the right place! We know how to do it! 


Not One Puff Ever! 



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Oct 1, 2012


So today begins STOPTOBER - a Graet Month to Quit Smoking!!! A quick reminder to Everybody to Get Your Flu Shot!!!!! The CDC is recommending that EVERYBODY get a flu shot! Even if you don't get sick, you might be carrying those flu germs to somebody with a delecate condition. If you have Lung illness such as COPD, PLEASE get a pneumonia vaccine evry 5 years as well!  We have some very interesting articles about smoking and smoking vessation in the news today! So grab a cup of coffee and read about the Enemy! 





Teens are still smoking


Smoking on the Rise in Youth Movies


Teen anti-smoking groups seeing growth



Find a way to upend statistics on smoking


How to quit smoking for good


Poor smokers need more help to kick expensive habit



Why Smokers Shouldn't Be Scared Of The WHO's Global Recommendations For Cigarette Taxes




Lillian Kaplan Dies Battling Big Tobacco


That's what that old fantasy cigarette was like!


  I thought it was my best friend - turned out it was a wolf in sheep's clothing! 



I thought I loved that come hither smell - turned out that it was stinkin thinkin!



 I thought I loved that ahhhh taste - turned out I was consuming arsenic - literally!



 I thought I was relaxing and relieving stress - turned out I was stealing life from myself like Dorian Grey! 




 I thought I was staying in shape by not being overweight - turned out I was killing myself from the inside out with every puff!



 I thought I was getting high on dopamine - turned out that I wasn't getting high on LIFE!





 Oh that wonderful fabulous smoky life before I quit! NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


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