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Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Apr 29, 2011

Are you a bit afraid of quitting? There's nothing more natural in the World! I was afraid of the cravings, afraid of the weight gain, afraid of the mood changes, afraid of the temptation, afraid of failure, AFRAID! We live in a society that unfortunately plays on our fears for political, comercial, and personal reasons! The comercials tell you that "Quitting sucks!" The politicians, pharmaceuticals and yes, even Doctors,  tell you that it's hard to quit (but we'll be happy to sell you NRTS!) The tobacco industry lies about how safe - er their sickorettes are! Our smoking friends are glad to tell you horror stories of their unsuccessful "quits!" FEAR is an industry in our times!


Then there is BecomeanEx Community (not to be confused with BecomeanEx admin!) who tell you that it really makes no difference if you can afford NRTs and Chantix although if you do find them helpful by all means use them!  it 's not necessary to let this be a huge deprivation full of sacrifice, mood changes, and weight gain! You don't have to be miserable, grumpy, impossible to live with!


What are we "selling?" Actually nothing at all! Yet, we are not disinterested! We sincerely CARE! And we have found and are sharing SUCCESS! But it's not success that you can buy! It's FREE! We are sharing ATTITUDE! You see, we found out that when you overcome those fears, when you make that leap of faith in yourself, when you expect success, you can not only have a successful quit - YOU CAN have a Happy Quit! When I started reading here, I'll be honest, I was sceptical! Oh come on! It can't be that easy - or so I thought! But I was intrigued! I kept reading and the more I read, the more I wanted to read! What do you mean not giving up anything? Am I not giving up my best friend, my faithful and constant companion? Well, I see now that my best friend was interested in only one thing - killing me while robbing me of all my money and of my dignity and self-respect! Jeepers! With friends like that, who needs enemies???!!! 


Are you going to believe the "common wisdom" that quitting is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do?" Or are you willing to look at the possibility that quitting smoking is the very best decision you can possibly make for your health and happiness? Quitting is not an event, but a way of life - living abundantly addiction FREE! Quitting is about regaining your integrity, about returning to the real you that your Creator intends for you to be! Quitting renews your health, your self-respect, your relationships, your LIFE! Rather than the end of your "favorite vice" it is the beginning of a new way of thinking and relishing all that life has to offer!


Having quit over a year ago, I can assure you that I take better care of all aspects of my health today! I take much better care of my emotional health as well! I make better career and practical choices about subjects that seemingly have nothing whatsoever to do with tobacco! I navigate my relationships both social and family with more honesty and patience, with more compassion for others, with more generosity of self! Yes, I AM Happier!


Honestly, yes! There were some rough moments! There were some very challenging days! There still are some occasional temptations! That's the nature of the addictive mind! But you couldn't make me go back to smoking and give up this FREEDOM and wellbeing for anything, for any reason NO MATTER WHAT!


So consider this - make that leap! Put aside your fears! You CAN do this and you have a whole Community of sincere people here to help you! They have all been exactly where you are today! And THEY SUCCEEDED! YOU CAN TOO!


Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.
William Shakespeare

One who fears failure limits his activities. 
Failure is only the opportunity to more 
intelligently begin again.
Henry Ford

What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?
Vincent van Gogh


Guess what?

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Apr 27, 2011

One Year One Month One Week One Day! Cool! Just had to share!


A Friendly Reminder!

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Apr 27, 2011

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind
word, a  listening ear, an honest accomplishment, or the smallest act
of caring, all  of which have the potential to turn a life  around.


One of the special aspects of this particular site is the kind generosity of its' members - what Tommy has labeled Collateral Kindness! When we treat each of our members with respect even if we feel compelled to disagree with them or to gently help them change their perspective about smoking and quitting, we potentially could turn their life around - it's not an exaggeration to say that we could potentially save lives because smoking is deadly! When you write a comment, please read it with fresh eyes and see if you have expressed yourself in a kind and truly supportive manner or if maybe you are striving a bit too hard to be "right!" I know that we are a very diverse Community with only the goal of not smoking in common but that should compel us even more to be sensitive to and respectful of that very diversity! As one human being to another I wish you each a very successful and joyous Smoke FREE journey!!! Wasn't it Spock who said "Live long and prosper!"  ?

I so much appreciate your Wonderful support yesterday and although I wasn't able to be with you most of the day I have been uplifted by your support and much needed prayers! I'm so Happy to be Celebrating 400+ Smoke FREE Days and had been especially looking forward to this milestone falling on the Greatest day of the Christian Calender! I hope everybody had a Blessed Easter! Mine was indeed blessed although I spent most of it very ill with an Emphysema exacerbation! I woke up Saturday morning after a 2 hour nap completely breathless and choking! I was running a fever of 102 and completely crushed but overly optimistic that I'd feel better after some meds and some sleep! Unfortunately,  I couldn't keep the meds in my stomach! Well, it wasn't meant to be and I finally had to go to urgent care (these things never seem to happen during doctor's hours!) Four hours later, most of which was meaningless waiting, I came out having had a special breathing treatment with nebulizers and oxygen. At home remedies and bed rest have gotten my numbers back but left me feeling like wet spaghetti! Those of you who know recognize this as fairly mild in terms of what I have to look forward to as this illness gets worse! In spite of all, I Thank the Lord that I am FREE from addiction! No matter what, the single most efficient and effective treament for COPD and emphysema is - YES, smoking cessation! So every single breath I take reminds me of exactly why I will protect my quit! Please do me a favor, folks, today as you breathe, remember to give Thanks to your Creator! You can Breathe - you have the Gift of Life! Live LIFE abundantly, Protect Your Quit, and know that Love reigns over all!

In addition to gearing up for the release of his upcomingalbum, I'm American, Cyrus is also using his famous voice to educate people about Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD), in honor of his grandfather who battled symptoms of the disease.

Cyrus talked to about his connection to the health initiative. Plus, his biggest hope for his famous daughter as she looks to shed her teen queen image.

Raising awareness of COPD, or chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.
"I was stunned to find out that COPD is the fourth leading cause of death in America and actually kills more people each year than breast cancer and diabetes combined -- that really stood out to me. I was shocked, and the more I learned about it, the more I realized I had connections to the disease. My grandfather suffered from symptoms of COPD and I just realized that this was a very worthy cause. Prevention and awareness can sometimes be the best way to fight this disease." 


If you suffer from COPD or Emphysema, please contact me and join our New Support Group! There is HOPE for all of us! We're finally beginning to receive the attention we deserve! You do not have to go through this chronic illness alone!

Just as the theme of Passover is FREEDOM from captivity and the theme of Easter is the Resurrection - the beginning of a NEW LIFE in Christ, we Exers have so much to Celebrate because we have freed ourselves from the captivity of ADDICTION and are beginning our NEW ADDICTION FREE LIFE! It never ceases to amaze me that Our Creator has given us the Beautiful Gift of FREE WILL! What a wise decision that is! We can choose to live up to our potential by just saying YES! I value LIFE and want to make the most of the one I've been given! I CHOOSE to live ADDICTION FREE! It isn't easy but most things of precious value rarely are! But it is Doable and I have been given through FREE WILL the POWER to DECIDE! I CAN live smoke FREE! And this Easter Sunday I will have chosen another Smoke FREE Day for the 400th time in a row! I respected my LIFE enough to stop the destructive behavior that robbed me of my Health but couldn't rob me of my FREE WILL and my Spirit! That was given to me by a POWER Greater than all things! It was my DECISION that was missing before! Now I will make the DECISION I KNOW to be the Very BEST for my Health and Happiness- I will choose  to maintain my quit and pledge N.O.P.E. each and every day W.I.T. and to Never Ever Forget! Will YOU Pledge along with me? 

I, Thomas, pledge by the power of my free will to not take even one puff TODAY under any circumstances. Whatever it takes, I will Protect my Quit, my Breath, MY LIFE!

Together we CAN do this! Have a Great Easter Weekend! N.O.P.E.!


Self Love

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Apr 21, 2011

The greatest gift you will ever receive is the gift of loving  and
believing in yourself. Guard this gift with your life. It is the  only
thing that will ever truly be  yours.            Tiffany  Loren Rowe

Believe in yourself and know that you have within you the POWER to decide to quit for one day, TODAY! Then respect yourself enough to honor that decision for the next 24 hours! Love yourself enough to be stronger than that dead leaf wrapped in paper and dipped in 4000+ deadly chemicals! You are a Creature of the Almighty and He has good judgment, that cig is a creation of man and well, not all men make wise decisions but you CAN! Love yourself, trust yourself, Believe in YOU! Choose Breath not Death! N.O.P.E. Not One Puff Ever just for TODAY NO MATTER WHAT! It IS possible!

Have you ever gone back to the way earlier blogs and just read for a while to see how things have changed? Well, I have! I was looking for the formula of WHY? Why do some people make it from the very beginning? Why do some people become chronic restarters? Why do some people restart several times and then find the missing element and from that point on are sailing free? Is it genetics, or gender, or life circumstances or support systems or NRTs or "stress"? Why this person succeeds with "ease" and that person battles for their life has kept me searching for answers. Well, I think I've got it but don't take my word for it  - take a look for yourself! Over and over again people say, "Get educated, Read, Read, Read!" Some folks take that advice and some don't and yes, those who do their homework do have better success, by far! So why did she read and he just trudge along slogging it out? Why did she read and nothing changed while he read the same material and reported a life-altering WOW! moment? Lots of questions, right? But it comes down to a fundamental ATTITUDE that makes the difference! If you believe that smoking cessation is an EVENT then you soon become impatient waiting for things to "get back to normal!" Some folks do manage to stay quit for a considerable time but their attitude is brittle - they could still relapse remarkably easily! Others can't stand the "not normal" and just give in and relapse back into their comfort zone!  Then there are those who even before they quit smoking realize that they are choosing a life altering way of life! They are looking at not an event but at a LIFE JOURNEY - the path of abundant addiction FREE living! They recognize the quit as a choice that you don't just make once but that you dedicate yourself to each and every day! They are open to a NEW NORMAL! There is no going back - ever! They welcome these changes and collateral changes that come with it - whatever they might be! They know that they will evolve and mature in ways they could never have anticipated! And they say, YES! That's where I want to go! I don't see the entire staircase, but I accept the direction as life affirming! I will take the next step up - the simple decision that I won't smoke TODAY ! Just for today I pledge N.O.P.E. no matter what and  I'll do whatever it takes to maintain my quit because I respect myself! Tomorrow is another day! The key to SUCCESS is within you but you must realize that you will change! Your relationships will change! Your PERSPECTIVE will change! Your future choices will change! And it's all for the BEST!

News) -- Many patients diagnosed with lung cancer -- as well as their family caregivers -- continue to smoke even though doing so may jeopardize their recovery and long-term health outcome, says a study sponsored by the U.S. National Cancer Institute.

Researchers report that nearly one in five recently diagnosed lung cancer patients continues to light up, which can make them feel guilty or socially stigmatized.

"The biggest obstacle is fatalism, the belief that it is too late to quit smoking so why bother," said Kathryn E. Weaver, study lead author and assistant professor of social sciences and health policy at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center in Winston-Salem, N.C.

"There are benefits to be gained by quitting that have important implications for survival, response to treatments, and quality of life," she said.

The findings point to the need for family support, counseling and medication to help patients and/or family caregivers overcome their addiction and adopt healthy lifestyle choices, said Weaver.

The study was recently published in Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers & Prevention.

The researchers looked at 742 cancer patients and caregivers at multiple sites and found that 18 percent of smokers with lung cancer failed to quit after their diagnosis. Smoking is the leading cause of lung cancer.

Among a subset of smokers with colorectal cancer, which is not strongly associated with tobacco use, 12 percent of the patients continued smoking.

An even higher proportion of the patients' family caregivers also kept on smoking -- 25 percent of those caring for lung cancer patients and 20 percent of those caring for colorectal cancer patients, the researchers found.

Most of the caregivers were middle-aged females and were often spouses of the patients. In some cases, both the patient and the caregiver continued smoking.

If family caregivers see the cancer patient quit, they're more likely to quit themselves, Weaver said. But if either the patient or caregiver continues to smoke, it can trigger issues of guilt, stigma or blame, she added.

Continued smoking increases the likelihood of developing a secondary cancer and can interfere with treatment, the researchers say.

Another clinical reason to stop smoking, said Dr. Norman H. Edelman, chief medical officer of the American Lung Association, is that chronic obstructive pulmonary disorder (COPD) usually accompanies lung cancer, making it more difficult to breathe. Continued smoking exacerbates COPD, he said.

Also, research has suggested that nicotine may be a co-promoter in generating lung cancer, so continual exposure to nicotine might work against chemotherapy treatments, Edelman said.

Given that more than 80 percent of some 200,000 lung cancer cases diagnosed annually in the United States are smoking-related, he said the complex dynamics of why so many smokers don't quit needs to be better understood.

Even patients highly motivated to stop for good often need substantial support, he added.

Weaver said the stressful period following diagnosis of lung cancer can create a "teachable moment" for physicians, nurses and other health care professionals to discuss smoking cessation with the patient and family members, and offer encouragement and resources to quit.

"My long term goal is to develop more effective interventions that can be delivered in the oncology setting, said Weaver.

Janine Cataldo, an assistant professor and researcher in physiological nursing and gerontology at the University of California San Francisco, is developing tools that measure the quality of life and impact of social stigma on lung cancer patients who continue smoking.

"For a smoker to have lung cancer and be unable to quit speaks to the power of nicotine addiction," said Cataldo. The average lung cancer patient is 55 years old and typically has tried and failed to quit smoking several times, she added.

Continued smoking has serious repercussions for lung cancer patients, she said. Patients may develop appetite loss, fatigue, cough or coughing up of blood, pain and poor sleep, said Cataldo. Self-esteem suffers too, and anxiety and depression may also develop, she said.

Cataldo is developing a six-month intervention that focuses on three key components: nicotine replacement therapy to ease withdrawal symptoms; a computerized calling system for monthly phone counseling and weekly follow-up; and creation of a smoke-free home environment.

"The immediate benefits of quitting smoking are easier breathing, increased circulation and improved efficacy of cancer treatments," said Cataldo. "People find that once they quit, they have an increased joy of life, no matter how much they believed in the myth that they would miss cigarettes."

This is somewhat a confession and it took me awhile to decide to tell you all! But it really happened and I know you'll be as taken by surprise as I was! Yesterday was Day 383 of my quit and also my "Friday" . I got off a 10 hour shift at work, not different than any other work day, in other words, the most mundane of circumstances and I get to the first stop light at the corner and ZAP! There I am thinking, "Man, if I had a cigarette right now, I would smoke it and enjoy it - A LOT!" Of course, I wasn't even done with the thought which was maybe a whole minute at the most when I'm coughing uncontrolably from COPD! How BIZARRE! I know I wouldn't enjoy it  - I know I hate it for stealing my health - I know that I do NOT miss anything about smoking at all 99.9999% of the time and here I am - romancing the cig! Oh bother! So I snapped out of it with N.O.P.E.! Don't get me wrong, it hasn't happened in Months but it sure might happen to anyone under the most unexpected circumstances! But with N.O.P.E. which is a very powerful mindset, you can eventually battle this thought instantly! I attribute my success at extinguishing this mental fire to staying close to BecomeanEx, offering "pay forward', pledging N.O.P.E. each and every day, and being as my friend Williewookie put it, "cautiously optimistic"! You and I are a puff away from a pack a day each and every day but N.O.P.E. and BecomeanEx really work whether you are on day one or day 383!

After Marcie's recent trauma with her husband this article came across my desk and I felt it is important to share with the Community!! You should know that you can get MRSA in any public setting you are in especially if you have any open sores! A good example is Grocery Carts!So WASH YOUR HANDS!

"A new bacteria has emerged in CA and has already been back east.  It is
called CRKP.  You can google it for more info, but just some general info:
it is being spread mostly in hospitals and rest homes and among the elderly
and those on ventilators.  It is drug resistant.  It has pneumonia in the
name, but causes many other infections.  This is a reminder to be very
cautious and conscientious about hand-washing when in hospital settings.
Don't overuse antibiotics and when you do use them, finish the Rx."

The National Institute of Health reports:



 Primary care physicians and NPs/PAs working in primary care


continue to report lack of awareness and use of COPD guidelines, as well as


correct information related to COPD epidemiology or potential benefits of


available treatments including pulmonary rehabilitation. It is unlikely that


diagnosis and management of COPD will improve in primary care until these


knowledge gaps and discrepancies with published efficacy of therapy issues


are addressed. 


Please take the lead! Advocate for yourself and specifically request a Spirometry Test at your next physical! Over HALF of the population with COPD are undiagnosed! Early diagnosis can increase the quality of your life in every way! We exers can't keep our heads in the sand!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Apr 1, 2011

Trials, temptations, disappointments -- all these are helps instead
of  hindrances, if one uses them rightly. They not only test the fibre
of a  character, but strengthen it. Every conquered temptation
represents a new  fund of moral energy. Every trial endured and
weathered in the right spirit  makes a soul nobler and stronger than
it was before.  James  Buckham

My goodness, I opened the spammers floodgates!!!! I can't believe these creeps are back with a vengence! Here's my message:



Please people! We don't want your junk! We don't care about your meaningless stories! We only want you to get out and leave us to OUR business!!!! How difficult is that to understand????

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