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Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Feb 28, 2011

Faith is taking the first step, even if you don't see the whole staircase!!! - Martin Luther King

You CAN do this!  Today is a Great Day to Quit!

I remember the emptiness I felt when I first stopped smoking! It was ...sadness, ...ah, loneliness,...I don't know maybe ... boredom!  I want to understand the feeling that we often label as "craving" because we don't know how else to describe that feeling. You may have heard of H.A.L.T. It stands for Hungry, angry,lonely, tired and tells us of warning signs of when we might be tempted.

I've come to the point of thinking of filling the hole. Something is missing and my brain automatically says "cigarette" but that is the addiction talking. Since cigarettes are no longer an option for me no matter what - well, then what is missing? Am I hungry, thirsty, tired? Does my BODY need something to feel more comfortable and cared for? Am I lonely, angry, frustrated, depressed? Do my emotions need attention? Am I spiritually depleted from the harsh living that we all have to endure? Maybe I need time with my GOD so I can reinforce my love and trust in Him! Very often I find one or more of these factors contributing to my feeling of emptiness. 

When I fill the hole with good food, rest, exercise for the body, with support from my friends to talk out my emotions, and with God time in my daily life then the emptiness ceases to exist and my brain stops even groping for that thing which is not a cigarette but we would use a cigarette to feel better! Next time you think you want a cigarette - maybe you can ask yourself - What is it I really need? After all, when you put out the smoke - the hole is still there! When you fill the hole you FEEL WHOLE!

Happy abundant living everyone! Thank you for your friendship and support! Enjoy your NEW Smoke FREE LIVING! It's a WHOLESOME Adventure!

If you suffer from COPD with emphysema as one component then I just want to tell you about a new support group that was launched at! I'm very excited about this group because we will provide ideas, info, advice and mostly support for those who have emphysema or their family members! Aunt Dee is also helping  launch this group and anybody who is interested - I hope you will check it out!!! It's OUR GROUP so we can develop it any way we want to! I for one hope to bring the same positive attitude and reinforcement there as I've experienced here at BecomeanEx!!! Don't worry BecomeanEx family - I'm not going away! This is just to topic specific for our great site here!!! I hope to see you COPDers there soon!

Chapter One: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost...I am hopeless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter Two: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I'm in the same place. But it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. Chapter Three: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. Chapter Four: I walk down the same street. There is a hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Chapter Five: I walk down another street. Are you tired of climbing out of that hole yet?

Why are you smoking 2 or 3 cigarettes a day????

If you're going to smoke at all - you might just as well smoke up a storm!

If you're going to quit - Not One Puff Ever!

There is no 3rd If!

Which are you with your cravings? Do you Battle that craving with all you have? Take That, you nico-demon! Rot in Hell!!! OR Do you let the cravings do their best while you passively go about your business of living, riding out those craves like a surfer facing a wave?

Early in my quit I had the all out WAR attitude! Then I read what JonesCarp and James were saying and it had nothing to do with feistiness! They talked about how you could actually ignore the nicodemon altogether and Voila! he shrinks into virtual nothingness!! WOW! Just ignore that junkie monkey and he'll give up because you're no FUN to play with any more!!! You see, he wants you thinking about Him! It doesn't matter what you think as long as you focus on HIM! He knows that if you keep playing that game he can make you so miserable about your quit that you'll relinquish responsibility and your quit will collapse!!! But if you get on with living LIFE Abundantly and deprive HIM of Energy instead of visa-versa HE is the one to run out of steam!!!

So I thought what the heck - I've "quit" dozens of times and I never even thought of this strategy!!! I'll give it a try and we'll see!!! Believe me, it didn't happen overnight! I was so used to coming to the frey ready to do BATTLE, it was hard to just passively walk away from the competition! Besides, it's a bit counter-intuitive,isn't it? But you know what? I kept practicing and FOCUSING on COLLATERAL KINDNESS and it really DID work!!! 

So all I'm saying is instead of fighting those craves, just change the channel!!! Laugh, Count your Blessings, Help other people, have FUN!!! You'll drive that NicoDemon Bananas and steal back the POWER he stole from you!

She is a great friend who loves taking care of her friends and her beautiful little dogs! Her Avatar is an Angel and I think that is appropriate! CONGRATULATIONS Quit Partner! I can't wait for your Anniversary!

I'm talking about March 14 - March 20! And no truer statement can be made! On March 14 I went to the Hospital with a temperature of 102! My teeth were clacking in my head. I radiated heat off my feverish body for yards. I was literally delerious and then I was given the news, "Your lungs are inflated." What do you mean, my lungs are inflated? How can that be and why? "You have Emphysema." That's not possible! I hardly smoke at all! "Emphysema is chronic, progressive and incurable." Whoa, hold on here! I haven't smoked that much!"If you don't quit smoking now you will get a lot worse very quickly."YIKES! I guess my smoking days are over! Smoking just isn't an option for me anymore!

On March 19th I took my last puff! I just couldn't make myself "waste" those cigs I already had! On March 20th I made the Best DECISION I had ever made in my entire life! FREE! ADDICTION FREE!!! Of course, I didn't know that! I wasn't all that happy about quitting but to me nothing is more disgusting than watching somebody on Oxygen smoke! That sure as heck wasn't gonna be me! Well. I also came to BecomeanEx that week and Read, Read, and Read some more and listened to the long timers to find out what they were doing right and I followed their lead! I was as surprised as anybody about how much easier my quit was than I thought it would be! It all had to do with the basic question. I know, you think the question is to smoke or not to smoke! NO! The question for me was, "Since smoking isn't an option then what can I do in this situation?" What can I do when I drink my coffee? What can I do when I'm driving to work? What can I do when it's break time? What can I do while I'm reading my favorite book? What can I do after dinner? etc.,etc.,etc...Before you know it, I found some AMAZING answers!!! I was transforming before my very eyes!!! I became stronger and more confident and more assertive than I ever imagined! And it just keeps getting better and better! WOW! If I had known that I sure as heck would have quit before I had COPD!!!! But regrets never help the situation! So I do my best to help others see what I see before they get the E-Word dropped in their laps! 

That's why I say that it was the Best of Times! Because the NEW Thomas was being formed by a simple DECISION! What to do instead! If I can do this you can too! And you will never ever regret THAT!




Thomas is not available right now, and if you leave a message he won't get back to you!!!!

I'm too busy counting my Blessings because I'm an Exer!!!

Fill your mind with Positive Thoughts and there won't be time to listen to those lying whispers!

If I can do it you can too!

It isn't a bit harder for you than it is for any one of us, we just changed our perspective!!!

COPD Learn More Breathe Better Campaign is for men and women over age 45, especiallly those who smoke or have smoked, and those with risk associated with genetics or environmental exposures. Find out more:


Food for Thought

Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Feb 11, 2011

If we wait for the moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready,
we shall never begin. - Ivan Turgenev

Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I'll show you
someone who has overcome adversity. - Lou  Holtz

Every man stamps his value on himself... man is made great or small
by  his own will.            J.C.F. von Schiller

Nothing will ever be attempted, if all possible objections must first
be  overcome.         Samuel Johnson  (1709-1784) English Author

The one common experience of all humanity is the challenge of problems. -
R. Buckminster Fuller

You can't change the past,  But  you can ruin the present
By worrying over the future  !

Don't wait for your "ship to come in" and feel angry and cheated when
it  doesn't. Get going with something small.  Irene  Kassorla

No matter who says what, you should accept it with a smile and do
your  own work.    Mother Teresa (1910-1997) Albanian  Missionary

The world is moved not only by the mighty shoves of the heroes, but
also  by the aggregate of the tiny pushes of each honest worker.Helen

Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be  done
without hope and confidence. Helen Keller (1880-1968) American  Writer

Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a
thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. - William Jennings


Over the last 20 years I never smoked more than 10 cigarettes a day and I often quit for periods of several months to even years.  My idea wasn't to quit for all time! I was thoroughly convinced that I LIKED smoking so much that I was willing to "clean out my lungs from time to time" so I wouldn't have to give up my "friend" or my health! I kept saying "look at George Burns!" - I hardly smoke at all and not all the time.


Then on March 14 I was diagnosed with COPD after going to a clinic for an upper respiratory infection! ME! The guy who played all the right angles and thought he was avoiding the risks! COPD is incurable and will get worse over time! If you or anyone out there reading this thinks that they can play an odds game with cigarettes, I'm here to tell you that IT ISN'T WORTH IT! That's why we say and repeat every day N.O.P.E. - because cigarette smoking is an addiction that won't be satisfied until it kills you! The only way out is to accept that we are addicts and  to QUIT for LIFE one day at a time! 


One Year Smoke FREE!!! You're AWESOME!!! CONGRATULATIONS! Get Well Soon!

Our Very Own INDIN GRL has ONE MONTH Quit TODAY!!!! CONGRATULATIONS INDIN GRL!!!! Keep your eyes on the PRIZE!!! You know how to beat those triggers - just Protect Your Quit! N.O.P.E. Just for Today NO MATTER WHAT!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Feb 4, 2011

DRIVE4COPD today announced
that it achieved its goal of screening 1 million Americans to determine
their risk for chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) in its first
year. The health awareness campaign aims to make a fundamental change in how
COPD is addressed in this country and an important part of this effort is to
find the millions who may be at risk for COPD and do not know it.
COPD, a progressive disease that includes chronic bronchitis, emphysema or
both, is the fourth leading cause of death in the United States. Over time,
it damages the lungs and makes it harder to breathe. This damage is
permanent, but if identified, COPD can be managed. Of the estimated 24
million Americans who may have COPD, half don't know it. The validated COPD
Population Screener™ offered by DRIVE4COPD is an important first step for
those who might be at risk.
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If you have been a smoker and have not been screened - PLEASE get screened! Don't wait until you are Stage 4 to find out!

Last night 25 below and today 5 above zero! That's 30 degrees improvement in one day! YEA! And I'm not outside making excuse to myself about why I deserve a smoke break!



Posted by Thomas3.20.2010 Feb 2, 2011

-just sayin,,,

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