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I came to EX because I kinda, sorta, maybe wanted to quit smoking. Not for just a while. FOREVER. I wasn't sure I was ready. I wasn't sure I had what it would take... Because being a smoker was part of my identity; my life revolved around when I could smoke, where I could smoke, how many cigarettes I had left, where I could buy another pack...(I KNOW this sounds familiar to you!)


But I came to EX and I opened my mind... I listened (even to the things I didn't want to hear...)


I recognized that many of the people here had already achieved the exact thing that I wanted to achieve: Happily living a life without nicotine.

So I read what they told me to read. I read Allen Carr's book. I did the Tracking and the Delaying exercises. I went to the other sites that were recommended. I was scared and not sure, but I DID all the things that all these successful EXers had to tell me... And I set a date. A Quit Date. A day that I would do whatever it took to start living my life without being a slave to my nicotine addiction.

I was a STUDENT and I learned how I could stop being a nicotine addict. It wasn't easy. But I spent a LOT of time here on EX and got to know people and accepted the support and friendship they were so happy to give to me.

It was like a lightbulb went on in my head on the day that I GOT it. Poof!

I understood COMMITMENT instead of "trying", "attempting", "hoping".

I understood taking PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY instead of wishing for "luck", and blaming "stress", "weakness" or "being around smokers".

I understood seeing quitting as FREEDOM instead of seeing it as "sacrifice", "giving up", "suffering through" or "losing" something.

I understood that the feeling of so-called "enjoyment" and "need" was no more than my physical addiction calling out to me...and that I didn't have to listen to it!

When I quit, it wasn't "EASY". Sorry, Allen Carr, it wasn't. But I had a whole new way of thinking about it and that made it EASIER.

I've been here for a while now. I have about four and a half years of freedom from nicotine. I still can't belive it's been that long when I see it in writing. But I have more than that.  I have the knowledge, the understanding, the thinking, the confidence and the TOOLS to know that I will never ever smoke again.

And I have all that because I LISTENED to the people here and I FOLLOWED their advice.

To all the new folks who have just joined us here: Whether you stumbled in here by accident while browsing or if you researched carefully in order to find a great stop-smoking doesn't matter.

Because your addiction to nicotine is no stronger nor harder to beat than our addiction was. You CAN quit. If we could do it, so can YOU.

Leave all your assumptions at the door. Be a student here on EX. You won't ever regret it. We promise.


xxxooo,  Sky


About Day Three...

Posted by SkyGirl Mar 2, 2017

Day 3 is the hardest day in your first week.
This is the day that the last of the drug nicotine is leaving your body. Nicotine's half-life is about two hours and it takes about 72 hours before all of it is out of your system.
Your brain realizes that this is happening. Your brain starts to scream louder than on Day1 and Day 2. Your brain will yell at you: "Give me nicotine! You know I love it! You know we NEED it to be okay!!"
This is GOOD. While your brain is screaming at you, it is very hard to see that this is a good thing. The louder your brain screams "We are almost out of nicotine!! We MUST have nicotine!!", the more evidence you have that that you are about to be nicotine-free.
After Day 3, the physical withdrawal from the chemical nicotine is over. But the brain takes a much longer time for the receptors to heal and return to a pre-nicotine condition.
Your brain has memory. It will continue to hound you: "Where is that nicotine we love so much? You'll feel so much better if we get some nicotine! C'mon, c' won't hurt to have one".
How your journey goes from now on is up to you.
You will get a million suggestions and tons of advice on how to keep your Quit.
Take what resonates with you. And leave the rest.
There is no perfect way to quit. There is no magic formula. Do what works for YOU.
There is only one inviolate rule: Do not put any nicotine into your body.
As long as you follow that rule, you are victorious over the nicotine.
It's simple, right? But it's not "easy". Sorry, Allen Carr, but it is NOT easy. But you can do it. And it is easiER if you understand what is happening in your brain when you stop feeding it nicotine.
Today, you are an ex-smoker. You can be an ex-smoker tomorrow. And everyday thereafter.
And that makes you victorious. Congratulations!!!
xxxooo, Sky