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Let me tell you what smoking does NOT do for you.

Smoking does not ease your stress.

Smoking does not calm you down.

Smoking does not make you feel more relaxed.

Smoking does not make you feel happier.

Smoking does not make you more able to cope.

Lastly, you do NOT enjoy smoking.

"But, wait!" you say, "Smoking DOES do these things for me!"

No. It doesn't. But it DOES do something. Here's what it does:

Smoking a cigarette will relieve the beginnings of withdrawal (which started quietly when you put out your last cigarette.)

Smoking a cigarette will raise the levels of nicotine in your body so that you mistake the feeling of feeding your nicotine addiction for a sense of calm.

Smoking a cigarette tops off the nicotine in your system, making your body less worried about maintaining the level of nicotine in your body. You mistake that rising level of nicotine in your bloodstream for relaxation.

Smoking a cigarette feeds your existing nicotine addiction. You mistake that sense of momentary relief for happiness.

Smoking a cigarette does the same thing for your body that you see on those police shows when a scary heroin addict finally tightens the band around his arm and shoots up. He's not less stressed, calmed down, more relaxed, happier or more able to cope with life...he's just upped the drug in his body to the point where he's not in withdrawal anymore. That "aaahhhh" he emits means his body had avoided withdrawal, not actuallly experienced something GOOD.

These are true and real and serious parallels, my friends. The ONLY difference between a nicotine addiction and an illegal drug addiction is that nicotine is legal, somewhat socially-acceptable and the addiction has fewer real life rock-bottoms (losing your job, your spouse, your car, your credit).

No, you may not ever be in danger of losing the important things in your life because of your smoking. Unless you die from smoking. And people do die from smoking, you know. And those folks lose EVERYTHING. And the people who love them lose EVERYTHING, too.

Please let us help you quit. We have so many tricks up our sleeves that help get you through!

xxxooo, Sky


I'm totally lost here...

Posted by SkyGirl Feb 23, 2017

I am totally intimidated by this new site.  I read the advice on how to use it, but I can't figure it out.  And I'm not stupid.


Do I have an Inbox anymore?  If so, where is it?  How do I contact people privately?


I somehow clicked on something called "authored" and got a ramshackle, disorderly list of blogs I had written as far back as September of 2012, yet all were shown with dates of January of 2017.  Huh?


Do I have my own page anymore?  If so, where is it?  If we do have individual pages, how do I find my friends' pages?  Or see pages of new folks so that I can get to know about them?  Did our "Friends List" carry over?  If so, where is it?


Is there ANYTHING that resembles the way the old blogs were posted in real time?  If so, where is it and what is it called?


Is there a way to tell who is currently on EX at any given moment?  


What is the EX Cafe?  I've seen people mention it, but where is it?  What is its purpose?


I have come here several times and tried to look around a bit.  I don't even remember if I logged in or not...either way, I have sensed my level of frustration rising (and it takes a LOT to get me frustrated, as my friends here well know!) so I throw up my virtual hands in realtime despair.  And just leave this site.  WHY does this new site have to be so complicated to learn to use?  In the times I've been here, I've felt completely alone.  Completely.  I get NO sense of community at all.  I feel like this is a huge building that I'm running around in, down hallways, opening doors, yelling...and can't find anything or anyone.  


If I were new to EX, didn't know anyone here, and was scared and nervous about quitting smoking...well, I'd be gone from here real fast.  But since I know that my old friends are SOMEWHERE around here and that there MUST be some new stuff here that works well and is user-friendly, I'm going to trust that there is also a tutorial or a new user page or a "manual" of some kind.  Where is it, please?   And, hello, can anyone see this?  I don't even know where it will be posted?


xxxooo,   Sky