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The Five "D"s

SkyGirl
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Hi, everyone!   Before you smoke...

   THE FIVE "D"s
  
   DETERMINE:   Determine what's going on in your head.  Are you bored? Upset? Sad? (This part of The Five "D"s is similar to "HALT".)    WHY am I thinking that smoking right now is a good idea? What do I think will be improved if I choose to smoke right now?
  
   DELAY:    Delay your response to your craving by making yourself take the time to actually imagine the ramifications of picking up a cigarette right now.  Don't light up right NOW.  Take a little time to consider the whole idea of lighting up at this point.  How many days of freedom will you be giving up?  How will you feel about yourself after you smoke right now?  Just a few minutes of delaying can be the difference between keeping your Quit or throwing away your Quit.  (And, by the way, nobody "loses" their Quit.  No, indeed.  Example: You don't go out to walk your dog and, while you are bending down to pick up your dog's mess, your Quit just turns left and meanders off down the wrong street!  You don't go to the grocery store and, while you are checking out the price of cauliflower, your Quit just wanders away down the canned soup aisle!  Quits don't get "lost"; they get  thrown away because you didn't use the tools you have been taught/given that would help you keep your Quit intact during rough moments.) 
  
   DISTRACT:    Distract yourself from the sensation of a craving by doing something else for at least ten (10) minutes.  Do ANYTHING that will make your brain think about something other than the craving.  (This doesn't have to be calculus, for heaven's sake!  My favorite distraction was to bite into whole lemons.  My second favorite distraction was to clean my toilets.  No, I don't   like cleaning toilets.  I HATE cleaning toilets.  But the smell of the toilet bowl cleaner and the act of scrubbing/flushing was enough to get me through a bad crave.  Find your own favorite distraction.) 
  
   DISTANCE:    Distance yourself from temptation.  Remove yourself from your current situation.  At the least, CHANGE your current situation if you can't physically leave the scene of the craving.  (Now, the obvious thing is to NOT HAVE ANY CIGARETTES where you can get your paws on them.  And I'm always surprised at the number of EXers who keep a pack around "just in case".  In case WHAT? But that's an entirely different blog, I guess. Back to how to distance yourself from temptation...  Temptation comes in a lot of different forms for different people.  All you need to know in order to successfully distance yourself is to be able to recognize the danger signs in your thinking.  If you can do that, then you can either RUN AWAY ((that's figuratively for most of us! Hah!)) or immediately FLIP YOUR THINKING around so that you are at least emotionally distancing yourself from the idea of smoking.)  
  
   DECIDE:    Make a conscious decision about what you are going to do.  Am I willing to take on the consequences that smoking right now will create?  Am I being honest with myself about how I will actually FEEL after I smoke right now?  Is smoking right now more important to me that the pride I feel about my x days of freedom? Am I willing to give up all that I have accomplished and gone through to get to where I am today?  (This is the Moment Of Truth in a craving.  You must THINK hard.  You must DECIDE if this is the action you really want to take.  Don't let the nicotine addiction make this decision for you!) 
  
Copy and print out   The Five "D"s. Keep it with you in your purse, wallet or pocket.  When you have a craving, take it out and work your way down these five steps.  Make yourself imagine what happens AFTER you give in to this craving.  Don't live   in this moment of intense craving.  There are lots of ways to live   through this moment of intense craving. It won't be easy, but you can do it.  And think how proud of yourself you will be tomorrow when you look back on today and know that you took   personal responsibility for keeping your Quit!  (Especially since you can blog about it and gets lots of cool, encouraging, loving comments!!!) Congratulations! 
  
xxxooo,    Sky 
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About the Author
I'm a 64 year-old flight attendant for a major US airline. Prior to that, I owned an ice cream store and six hot dog carts and put my five kids thru college on hot dog earnings! Prior to THAT, I was Director of International Administration for Domino's Pizza, Inc. I was married to my H.S. sweetheart (dad of my 5 kids) for 17 years. I've been with Jeff for 23 years, but we just finally got married in 2016! Jeff & I live in Cape Meares, OR right on the beach. I'm from Ann Arbor, MI, where many of my kids/relatives still live. My flying base is Washington, DC, where I have a condo that I stay in when I'm between flying trips. My dream is to retire and stay home with Jeff and my two cats, Kenneth & Barbara...not happening soon, though. So I go home whenever I can get a week or more off. I LOVE to meet up with other EXers in the cities where I lay over. I usually blog about what cities I'm laying over in, so let me know if I'm staying near you! I'll buy dinner!! Xxxooo, Sky