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I've not been the best of advice-givers lately.  I've either been absent or blogging about my own broken body.

(I must inject some humor here.  I first typed "crapped-out body", which made me think of Imodium-AD.  So I changed it to "knocked-up body", which made me sound pregnant.  So I went with "broken"

I got a much-needed "whack-on-the-side-of-the-head" private message from Thomas yesterday that was filled with wisdom and really made me think about how I've been projecting here on EX.  So, as I said to Brenda M tonight, time to pull up my big girl panties and pin on my wings again!

In a blog today, dearest Sharon (Smorgy) (and I still want to know what that nickname is all about!!!) used some phrases such as "what will I do?", "can't live without it", etc.  It got me to thinking.... 

Isn't that the FIRST fear we all faced when we started seriously thinking about quitting?  Before we even thought about practical ways to deal with cravings and educating ourselves about nicotine addiction...didn't we ALL have the initial fears that sounded like this:  "But, who AM I if I'm not a "smoker?",  "What will I be like without cigarettes?",  "I go outside for a cigarette break every 30 minutes; it's what I DO", " I hate it, but cigarettes are a part of my IDENTITY."

Yes.  Yes.  Yes.  We ALL felt that way in the very beginning; "I don't know who I will BECOME if I am not always planning for my next cigarette".

And THAT'S where this whole idea of a support group like EX starts to make sense.  When you decide not to lean on cigarettes anymore...lean on EX. 

Listen to the advice about what to read.  Make the effort to go to the links and to download the resources that EXers tell you will help you be successful.  Listen seriously when we tell you how to prepare for your Quit.  Do all the things that experienced Quitters recommend.  Depend upon those of us who have already achieved what you came here to achieve. 

And then stick close to EX, get to know some of us personally, and let us help you learn how to become a person who doesn't smoke anymore. 

Yup, Sky is back.  And ready to help ANYONE who thinks they can't do it.  If I did, YOU can.



Down, down, down...

Posted by SkyGirl Oct 25, 2013

So.  Off work again.  Enthesopathy (whatever the h*ll that is) of the joints.  More physical therapy, 3x week.

I never really got back to work; only been able to fly two trips.  Called in sick for three trips.  I hurt all over.

And...I have the flu now.

I cannot catch a break. 

If I had a cigarette right now, I would probably smoke it.  It sounds awful good to me right now.

I could use some cheering up from my EX friends.  And don't worry about me smoking;  I have $36 left in the entire world, including my laundry quarters, so I won't be buying cigarettes.


    This is a repost of a blog I posted about a year ago.  I re-read it today and was cracking up all over again!   I've included all the comments, too, because they add to the giggles!   Enjoy!
    Dear Tech Support,

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0. In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed undesirable programs such as NFL 5.0, NASCAR 3.0 and Golf Clubs 4.1.

... Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system. Please note that I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail. What can I do?


Dear Desperate,

First, keep in mind that Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system. Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.html and try to download Tears 6.2 and do not forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewelry2.0 and Flowers 3.5. However, remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0 or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will download the Farting and Snoring Loudly Beta. Whatever you do, DO NOT under any circumstances install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources). In addition, please do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0. In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We recommend Cooking 3.0 and Hot Lingerie 7.7.

Good Luck!

Tech Support


Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 276 days ago



       freedom 38      

Pretty much.


freedom 38 276 days ago




LMAO that's great!


Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 276 days ago



       joyeuxencore 11♥5♥12      

WHERE did you find that!! Shoot I still haven't gotten boyfriend 5.0 yet! xo


joyeuxencore 11♥5♥12 276 days ago



       joyeuxencore 11♥5♥12   

Oh look the gals are all here! Now we just need Deb! xo


joyeuxencore 11♥5♥12 276 days ago



       Sarah    (Quit Date March 12, 2011)   

I want my money back. 


Sarah (Quit Date March 12, 2011) 276 days ago



       Ex Nancy   

Ya, I want my money back too.


Ex Nancy 276 days ago




I got gypped. Then I got D and then he passed, I still miss him but I still got gypped. lol


Froguelady 276 days ago




LOL.  That about sums it up!


jka03 276 days ago




Oh My God, Sky.  That piece is so, so, so, too true!!  I'd rather downgrade from a husband to a once-in-a-while-boyfriend.  Don't get me wrong, I do love my husband, but once the wedding band goes on, they short circuit!!!


DebR 276 days ago



       Sky Girl   

Well, at least now I understand why I've decided to keep running My Beloved under Boyfriend 5.0 for 18 years instead of switching to Husband 1.0! 


Actually, I guess he'd be Husband 2.0.  I dumped the Husband 1.0 operating system YEARS ago!  That really cleared out my cache memory, along with a lot of outdated data.  All my programs have been running a lot smoother and faster since then!




Sky Girl 276 days ago




This entire thread is too hilarious for words.


Julia 276 days ago




Ah-hem....  there was a glitch in my system also.  Have alerted the proper maintenience people and am trying to 'fix' the problem.  Outcome pending............................


Kris 276 days ago




my Husband 1.0 was corrupted beyond repair, so I had to toss it. I will never waste my time on that program again!!!


Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 276 days ago




Hee hee hee Jordan. Was he Microsoft NT?


Julia 276 days ago



      LOL i think of him as a Trojan Horse more than a virus or malware.    

Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 276 days ago




All you need to do to get the unit to do chores and romance and all the other functions promised, is properly install the external hard drive. If you get that right, all the other functions should work seamlessly. I would love to help with compatability issues, but that is above my pay grade.


Justsayno 276 days ago




Love this!


notgivingup2013 276 days ago



       Sky Girl   

Oooh, naughty double entendre, Justsayno!!  lol


Sky Girl 276 days ago




I am not the one that called him a Trojan Horse.....Jordan.


Justsayno 276 days ago




LOL@ Lee


Lee, let me start by saying, I think you were very brave to jump on this thread, with all us women-folk makin fun of the men-folk!!  Secongly, I must give credit where credit is do.... The ONLY good thing about my Husband 1.0 program WAS the external hard drive, but it is no where near worth the cost of re-installiation!!!


Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 276 days ago




OMG, Jordan and JustSayNo, I'm dying over here. [Coughs out bits of carrot]


Julia 276 days ago



       Newfound Joy   

Really enjoyed girls are HILARIOUS!!!


Here's my computer story:


After many repeated attempts over 15 years to be compatible with Husband 1.0, I finally figured out that he caused the entire system to crash including the added software Child 1.0, 2.0, 3.0, and 4.0.


I stayed without any operating programs for many years and was totally immersed in Child 1.0 – 4.0.


Now I have upgraded to Husband 2.0  and he satisfies all the requirements of this new operating system. He added Laughter 1.0, Silly Goofy Antics 1.0, and Problem Solving 1.0.  I know a Trojan Horse is supposed to be a bad virus on my system………..but He is a KEEPER!


Newfound Joy 276 days ago



      Ex Nancy  

*snicker-snicker*....well let's see, what about "deleting and recovery". then there is also "Save as" like Sky has done with BF for 18 years....(should we really marry them) and crash?   Will copy and paste still work?  :)


Ex Nancy 276 days ago

        Sky Girl    

"Save as"!!!!!   AAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.  That's a great one, Nancy!!!!  Yup, that's what I've done with My Beloved   He's in a folder called "Don't Discard"...but don't tell HIM that!  Shhhh. He knows he's my only operating system after all these years, but I don't want to run the possibility of running into any stupid add-ons like Overconfidence 1.0 or Lack of Effort 1.0.


What about "Control, Alt, Delete"?  That function ought to be good for getting them out of your way when they are not loading properly.  Then you can just reboot when you're ready to have him back, right?


Sky Girl 276 days ago



        Sky Girl    

Although, I must say, I don't mind all the pop-ups on Boyfriend 5.0...


Sky Girl 276 days ago




LMAO@ Nancy and SKy


yea, I'll give mine a reboot right in the pop up blocker!!  (gasp)


PS< My current program (BF 7.0) runs smoothly with only minor, occasional glitches.


Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 276 days ago




I can't stop laughing! 


Shawn❤Quit❤03-17-2012 275 days ago




This is so funny! And in many cases, so true!


Can't stop giggling....


mrsb2013 271 days ago




I just had a sort of epiphany. (I love it whenever I can find a reason to use that word "epiphany"  What a great word, eh?)

I'm always going on (and on and on and on) about how people who want to quit smoking need to spend a lot of time educating themselves about nicotine addiction, right?  (Those who know me well will agree with this assessment of most of my advice, and will raise your hands while yelling "Amen", please!)

And I DO sincerely believe that any person who truly wants to quit will have a huge advantage when they begin their Quit if they understand EXACTLY how nicotine affects the brain.  When you have learned how nicotine actually PHYSICALLY alters the way that your brain receptors work (which makes you falsely believe that you "enjoy" smoking) you will have a whole new way of seeing smoking. 

If you have any doubts about how the chemical nicotine gets into your brain and makes you believe that you love smoking, please go to and read the article at the top left side of the page called "Nicotine Addiction 101". It should rock your thinking.

But...didn't I say something about an epiphany...? 

Yes, I did.  And maybe it doesn't qualify as a real epiphany...because it's a concept that you might already know as "N.O.P.E", which means "Not One Puff Ever".  Perhaps the so-called epiphany (Gosh, I love that word!!!) is more about HOW you go about living "not one puff ever".

Here's how:  Get rid of ALL your cigarettes.  And I mean every single cigarette that you might be able to access during a craving.  Do not have any cigarettes in your house, your car, your office, your pocket, your kitchen drawer, your purse, your tote bag.  Do not keep ANY "emergency" cigarettes "just in case".  Just in case WHAT?  In case you change your mind?  In case it gets too difficult?  In case you have a really strong craving?  In case you feel stressed?

If there are NO cigarettes available to you, you won't smoke.  At least, you won't smoke UNLESS you get in a car, drive to a store, ask for cigarettes, pay for cigarettes, open the pack, put one in your mouth, find a lighter, ignite the cigarette and then inhale the smoke.

And that last paragraph does not describe an irresistable urge.  It describes a conscious decision to acquire some nicotine and put it into your body.

So I guess what I'm saying is this:  While education about nicotine addiction is the best weapon you can use in your quest to become an ex-smoker...don't forget the practical aspect: if you don't HAVE a cigarette, you can't smoke one.

And I speak from experience.  I know full well that, during my first few weeks of my Quit, if I'd been able to find a cigarette in my coat pocket or the bottom of my purse or get one from my sweetie...I would have smoked it.  But I didn't...because when I thought I couldn't last another minute without a cigarette, I DID last without a cigarette.  Because I made them UNAVAILABLE to myself.  I can't tell you how many times I decided that I was just going to smoke, darn it all!.  But then I didn't...because I didn't HAVE any cigarettes available.

And then one beautiful day...I just didn't think about smoking anymore.  Talk about FREEDOM!

xxxooo,   Sky


Silly Rabbit!

Posted by SkyGirl Oct 9, 2013

I'm back in DC finally and, soon, headed off to my first working flight since July 16!  But before I go, I wanted to relate a short story about my silly boyfriend.

About 24 hours after my car accident, we were standing on the edge of the road looking down into the six-foot deep ditch where Jeff's car sat in a tangle of torn bumpers, banged up quarter panels, flat tires and cracked windows.  We had met the tow truck driver there and were watching as Jeff's car was being dragged sideways up out of the deep muddy ditch, metal screeching.and crunching all the way...

Jeff turned to me and said, "I wonder if that tow truck driver has a cigarette."  Astonished, I said, "WHY?  You don't smoke!!!"

He replied, "No, but you used to believe that smoking would fix your problems.  Maybe if you smoked a cigarette, this accident wouldn't have happened..."  Then he cracked up.  Silly rabbit.

It was a light moment in an otherwise very bad situation.


Where I've been...

Posted by SkyGirl Oct 5, 2013

Sorry for being absent for so long.  I was in a car accident and have been dealing with broken ribs, disc problems, along with a few other painful, but minor, injuries.  On the upswing now, thanks to lots of physical therapy, rest and painkillers.  I have used up all my Family Medical Leave that is allowed during a 12-month period, so I'll be returning to work next week.  More later.