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Day 454

Posted by Marilyn_marmac_07-31-13 Oct 28, 2014

So many people in need of prayers today. My thoughts are with each of you. My only wish is to offer comfort in some way. May you find peace in the journey.

To every thing there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
a time to get, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
a time to rend, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time of war, and a time of peace.



Day 447

Posted by Marilyn_marmac_07-31-13 Oct 21, 2014
  Just dropping in to say hello and wish each of you a beautiful day!
  Life continues on and I'm glad I decided to spend time helping those that need me most. So much seems to be happening at once. Since I last blogged, in addition to my stage 4 lung cancer friend and my double mastectomy cancer son-in law had to have knee surgery  again, this does not bode well for his military retirement plans :( And my mother-in-law was admitted for a heart stint that turned into a medical saga that changed from stint to bypass, from bypass to pacemaker, from pacemaker to medicine, back to pacemaker then back to medicine for a month to see if they can avoid a pacemaker! She has a lot of health issues so we pray the medicine will do the trick. She was at a good hospital and has a top rated Washington DC cardiologist so we are hoping everyone knew what they were doing with her health care.
  Stressful, to say the least! But, as the saying goes   "When the going gets tough, the tough get going!" I'm a pretty tough old bird so despite the stress, I will stay strong and continue my quit journey. I also know...smoking won't help or change a thing!
  Did you hear that?   Smoking won't help or change a single thing! Remember that!
  Love, peace and well wishes,

First, I want to send a special thank you to a very special lady.....Brenda M! She sent me a wonderful letter, my 2nd, that was covered with stickers that made me smile. If Brenda ask for your address, give it to her and you will receive wonderful, entertaining letters. It really did warm my heart and make me realize, again, just how lucky we are to have stumbled upon a site that has enriched both our bodies and souls. On EX, I lost my need for a cigarette but gained a treasure trove of wonderful friends.

Second, as I've blogged before, I have a good friend with stage 4 lung cancer and another friend that is battling breast cancer. I got busy and went a couple of weeks without seeing my lung cancer friend. Shame on me! I was devastated when I saw him the other day. His weight, appearance and overall health have changed drastically, just in that short period of time. His wife, my best friend, looked like she was ready to crumble into a million pieces. And I realized, what a sucky friend I've been! They need their friends more than they have ever needed them before. It's hard to know what to say or do sometimes. Both my friends are so strong. They are the one's that always take care of others, so they aren't use to asking for help or showing weakness.

Anyway, realizing they need help, even though they won't ask for it, I made a list of things I can do...starting with dinner delivery on hectic chemo days. My friend going through chemo has lost his appetite and can only eat soft foods the majority of time. He needs high calorie foods to try and maintain some weight. Anything cold (that rules out shakes & smoothies) or anything hard or gritty are to intense for him. His wife is more concerned about getting food into him than herself, so she isn't eating either. I did a combo meal yesterday of roast chicken (for the wife), small chopped mixed vegetables cooked soft, and hash brown casserole. which covered the high calorie food and was also something they could both eat.

Radiation is next on the list. So, if you have gone through chemo, radiation, or were the caregiver and can offer menu suggestions, please do! I need meals that are transportable for a long drive, can be reheated, and the higher the calorie the better!

With that being said, I have decided to spend my spare time helping my friends as much as possible. Don't worry if you don't hear from me. My quit is strong and so am I.