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We got 4 tenths of an inch of rain Monday but we need so much more which hopefully we'll get this afternoon and evening we're predicted to get some severe thunderstormi which will break this horrid humidity I watch my 10 year old grandson Mason most days so we've been at the community pool pretty much every afternoon and then we've been going in the evenings as well with his Mom my beautiful daughter Mandy I'm some thankful for that pool, it only cost $20.00 for a pass and we get 25 swims.  I'm so glad that I finally wised up and quit smoking because it's really hard to breathe in this humidity there's nothing but positives when it comes to quitting smoking BUT first you must get through the roller coaster ups and downs to get to that point where you realize how much better life is without the Smokes then you'll know beyond a shadow of a doubt that that there's nothing but negatives to smoking so sticking with N.O.P.E and vigilance gives all of us a lifetime of Freedom because relapsing isn't an option anymore.......keep moving forward stacking up those precious DOF so each evening you can say YAY for another Day WON because LIFE really is Grand without a Cigarette in Hand so chin up if you're struggling with remaining quit please stay close because we're all here to help you in any way we can......

Once we decide to join the ranks of being a Non Smoker it only makes sense  that it's bound to take time to relearn life without the smokes because if you stop and think about how decades upon decades you smoked then it only stands to reason that you're going to feel very uncomfortable in your own skin for quite a while you're going to have withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep BUT with commitment and perseverance you will get through the roller coaster ups and downs and into that good place in your quit where you realize how much better life is without the crutch of cigarettes as Dale says keep them away from your face and the only way out is through and that's the absolute truth sticking with N.O.P.E and vigilance works when applied on a daily basis BUT you must believe it and stick with your quit journey N.M.W.- No Matter What In order to EXperience the Freedom of living a life of Freedom.....

Quitting smoking & staying quit takes takes committment & perseverance & the willingness plus the determination of knowing that as long as you stick with your quit journey and continue making the choice to stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance on a daily basis then there's absolutely no way you can FAIL, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt how horrendous it is in those early days and weeks because I lived through the roller coaster ups and downs of withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep there were times that I wanted to scream and I most likely did plus I remember  many times feeling like tearing my hair out or ripping someone's face off anyone's face it really didn't matter who's face & most people even my grown children didn't want to be anywhere near me because they knew that I smoked over a pk of cigarettes a day for 40 yrs with at least a half dozen failed attempts at trying to quit & they knew I wasn't fit to be around plus they never thought I'd actually quit ssmoking anyway the only people that I wanted around were the grandchildren because they were my incentive to live a Smokefree Life and they still are   as difficult as quitting smoking can be it's absolutely Doable and it's up to us to make the choice to relapse or NOT and choosing a life of Freedom is the gift of LIFE......BUT you must go through the rough patches so you can get to that point where you realize how much better life is without the Smokes.....

Once we decide to bite the bullet and take back our lives from the clutches of the dreaded nicotine poison then we must choose to stick with our quits N.M.W - No Matter What is happening in our lives we have a choice to relapse or NOT and in order to live a Smokefree Life then we must be vigilant and apply N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever on a daily basis once we get to that good place in our quits let's always remember and N.E.F - Never Ever Forget that horrid DAY ONE or those early days and weeks of quitting smoking because another Day ONE would totally suck big time but another Day WON is pure freedom  it's up to us to nurture and protect the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the gift of LIFE......

N.M.W.- No Matter What is happening in our lives we have a choice to relapse or NOT and choosing Not is the answer to living a life of Freedom I know at times the cravings and moodswings and lack of sleep may seem never ending and probably almost overwhelming BUT thankfully with willingness determination and commitment along with perservence you can and will get through to that point where you realize how much better life is without the crutch of cigarettes BUT it does take time to relearn life without the smokes BUT boy oh boy it's so worth it once you get to that good place in your quit so relapsing isn't the answer N.M.W - No Matter What! Sticking with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever works when applied on a daily basis then there's absolutely no way you can FAIL.....

Sometimes I get feeling overwhelmed and frustrated and even though I've been quit for over FIVE years there's still times that for just a split second I'll think aaah surely just ONE would be OK BUT thankfully I know that just ONE would totally screw up a perfectly beautiful quit so I really hope that each of us no matter where we are in our quits will N.E.F - NEVER EVER FORGET  because none of us has to ever go back to to that horrid DAY ONE as long as we all stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance N.M.W - No Matter What . I remember jus how difficult it can be in those early weeks BUT thankfully with perservence it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it to be Free.....

We're faced with multiple choices every day way back when I was 15, I met my first husband and married him 10 months later at the age of 16 he was 19 we both had very dysfunctional childhoods my Mom signed for me to get married and


13 years and two kids later I ended it and met Mark shortly after we've been together 30 years and married for 23 years today    Happy Anniversary to us  I've made many questionable choices in my life I'm sure of that BUT quitting smoking 1,837 glorious days ago definetly was & is one of the wisest choices I've ever made or ever will make in my lifetime if you were to ask me if quitting smoking was easy? I'll be saying HELL NO!!!!!! and if you were to ask me if quitting smoking was worth it? I'll be saying HELL YES!!!!!!!! Anything in this life worth having takes time and effort AND kicking the damned Cancer Sticks to the curb permanently is absolutely Doable and so very worth it to be Free.......

Another Hump Day is upon us and there's only one more to go in July plus it'll be the last day of July next week too YIKES! Time sure is zooming right along anyway if you haven't quit smoking yet Now is the time and if you happen to be struggling please take a deep breath or two or as many as you need to and focus on your precious quit journey and know that we're all here to help you in any way we can, I know it's hard to believe especially when you're in the throes of the horrendous cravings BUT it will get easier and easier with time under your belt and it definitely gets better and better without the crutch of cigarettes BUT first you must go throughall of the the rough patches of withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep so you can get to that good place in your quit......Life is full of ups and downs whether we smoke or not and choosing Not to Smoke is the gift of LIFE.......

Mason having supper in our patio area last night he's still sleeping this morning.

I'm so thankful that I finally wised up and bit the bullet and stopped playing Russian Roulette with my life finding out that I have mild copd was probably the best thing that could of happened to me because it got me to realize that I'm not invincible and that if I didn't brighten up that I could die of cancer or some other smoking related illness and it most likely would be slow and painful so I went on line looking for help to quit smoking and I found this site back on the 22nd of June 2014 and on the 14th of July 2014 after tons of reading I became Smokefree, if you're reading this and are on the fence about quitting smoking it's time to join the ranks of being an Ex Smoker and if you're struggling with remaining quit please stay close because we're all here to help you in any way we can as difficult as quitting smoking can be it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it so hang on tight and keep moving forward stacking up those precious DOF so each evening you can say YAY for another Day WON......I love being an Ex Smoker Non Smoker or EXer it doesn't matter what you call it as long as we all stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance N.M.W because Freedom Rocks BUT first you must go through all of the horrendous cravings and moodswings and lack of sleep to get to that point where you realize how much better life is BUT it does take time to get to that good place in your quit BUT boy oh boy it's so worth it.......

Willingness commitment and perseverance are definitely key to success in so many areas in our lives and thankfully when it comes to quitting smoking we can and will be successful as long as we've got the right Mindset and we stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance N.M.W then we'll reap the benefits of living a life of Freedom it's a choice that we all have to make at some point in our lives I decided I wanted to be on this side of the grass so I could be around a few EXtra years with hopefully a better quality of life......those first few weeks of quitting smoking were horrid at times BUT with commitment and perseverance I made it throughand so can anyone that sticks with their quit journey....... it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it.....

Everyone's quit journey is different BUT with commitment and perseverance we all get to that good place iin our quits where we realize how much better life is without the crutch of cigarettes we may all get there at different in our quits  times BUT by sticking with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever and vigilance we'll be living a life of Freedom, life happens whether we smoke or not and choosing Not to Smoke is the gift of LIFE so we must choose to stick with our quits N.M.W - No Matter What.....

 

I want all of us here at Ex to EXperience the Freedom of living a Smokefree Life because once we've made it through the roller coaster ups and downs of withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep and we've got to that good place in our quits where we realize just how much better life is without the crutch of cigarettes then we must never allow ourselves to become lazy and complacent instead let's nurture and protect the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the gift of LIFE which I consider the one gift that will keep on giving day after day week after week month after month and Lord willing year after year because another Day ONE would totally suck big time but another Day WON is pure freedom.......LIFE is Grand without a Cigarette in Hand.....

I am weary and very sore this morning I pushed myself yesterday getting the lawn mowed with a push gas mower for over two hours and then I put the first coat of stain on the cazebo Mark built for our patio area which took a few hours but we had a break in the humidity yesterday and I knew the heat warning was coming back today and over the wk end with thunderstorm chances all wk end with extremely high humidity so I was trying to get as much done as I could. Anyway I'm pooped so I'll only do what I have to today I posted H.A.L.T yesterday and I think I'll post it again because no matter where we are in our quits whether it's day ONE or ONE thousand and one we must take EXtra good care of ourselves so that we N.E.F - Never Ever Forget AND screw up a perfectly beautiful quit because relapsing isn't the answer N.M.W - No Matter What, our quits are firmly in our grasp and it's up to us to nurture and protect the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the gift of LIFE.....

I prefer chocolate as my comfort  not the smokes because I don't do that anymore plus I know now that smoking was never a comfort BUT an annoyance that slowly kills I'm so glad that I found this site and am living a life of Freedom. 

Mark is shelling peas  I'm going to H.A.L.T and  continue to enjoy the little things in life that's actually the the big things in life and enjoy LIFE on LIFE'S Terms without the yuckies (cigarettes) let's always take a deep breath and continue stacking up those precious DOF - Days Of Freedom so each evening we can look ourselves in the mirror and say YAY for another Day WON....

I've got a tendency to not eat when I'm stressed where some people stress eat either way isn't good so I try to follow H.A.L.T especially when I was in my early weeks of quitting smoking BUT I still try to live by it because our quits need us to look after ourselves because if we don't nobody else can do it for us and living a Smokefree Life must be our # 1 priority so we can continue living a life of Freedom......

Isn't it super fantastic that we can live a Smokefree Life by choosing to stick with our quits N.M.W - No Matter What and by choosing to stick with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever and Vigilance there's absolutely no way we can FAIL because we can't relapse if we make the choice to stick with our precious quit journey and apply it on a daily basis .....

I'm so glad that we can live life on life's terms without the damned Cancer Sticks I find it amazing thinking back to my smoking days because I thought I needed them to keep me calm in stressful situations or if I was sad maybe a smoke would make me feel better or if I was happy I'd need a smoke because I was happy or that smoke after a job well done or a smoke for a phone call or one for the drive and so on and so on BUT in reality they were all lies that were stuck in my head because I know that I don't need a smoke whatsoever because living LIFE on LIFE'S Terms is so much better, I can handle stressful situations or any situation and emotion much easier now that I'm not sitting outside chainsmoking in a cloud of smoke trying to figure out what to do it definitely takes time to relearn life without the smokes BUT it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it so giving yourself the time needed to get to that point where you realize how much better life is as an EX smoker non smoker or EXer it sooooooo worth the wait once you get to that good place in your quit......

Happy five year milestone to me    when I signed up with this Site on June 22nd of 2014 I read everything I could find about this horrid addiction and I set up a quit date and I continued to read some each day BUT when July 7th came I wasn't ready so I reset it for the 14th of July I promised myself the night before that I would never ever pick up another cigarette as long as I live and my quit date arrived BUT for some reason I totally forgot about this site until my 18th day when I was having horrendous cravings back to back and they seemed never ending and I felt like I was having out of body experiences grrrrrr, I was ready to tear my hair out or rip someone's face off anyone's face it really didn't matter who's face and believe me when I say this is true, I've got at least a half dozen half assed attempts at quitting smoking until this time because of finding this community and thankfully that day when I was ready to jump in my car and buy a carton of cigarettes and SCREW just the pk    BUT I remembered and got on line and I commented on something up until that point I was hiding in the shadows and hadn't let myself be known BUT for some reason that day I did comment and it was moody_9-18-13 whom I haven't seen for quite some time she suggested that I write a blog and say a little about myself and so I did and here I am 5 splendiferous Smokefree years later. I believe by reading and educating myself on ways to kick the nicotine poison to the curb permanently and the mantras like N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever keep them away from your face and the only way out is through along with S.I.N.A.O - Smoking Is Not An Option & quitting smoking is DOABLE, N.E.F - Never Ever Forget N.M.W - No Matter What, there's many more BUT applying each and every one of these on a daily basis will give us a Smokefree Life which is the gift of LIFE..... Being pigheaded can be a really good thing.  I still smile at each and every Day WON because going back to another Day ONE would totally suck big time  BUT with N.O.P.E. and Vigilance it's never going to happen ever...

Here's our little patio area my hubby Mark has been working on roofing and screening it in it's not finished yet but we're now out of the bugs we've bought chocolate stain which I plan on doing since Mark has done everything else.

Quitting smoking and remaining quit is a CHOICE I know that for myself it's the best CHOICE that I've ever made and most likely Will ever make in my lifetime and as difficult as quitting smoking can be it's DOABLE and VITAL to our LIVES because our lives literally depends on us to stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance N.M.W and if we're willing determined and totally committed to succeed then there's no way any of will FAIL......

Everyone starts their quit journey with Day ONE which turns into DAY WON then leads to Days WON and so on and so on and as long as we all stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance N.M.W then we'll continue to reap the benefits of Smokefree living.

Kicking the yuckies ( cigarettes ) to the curb permanently wasn't easy by any stretch of the imagination in those early weeks BUT boy oh boy it's definitely the wisest decision that I'll ever make in my lifetime and I believe it's the wisest decision that anyone and everyone will ever make because Smokefree living is so much better than sucking on the yuckies, coughing and choking and nearly horking up a lung or possibly even both trying to get that drag UGH NOT anymore because we don't do that anymore Freedom Rocks each and everyday by sticking with N.O.P.E....I'm Sending everyone a long distance hug from New Brunswick Canada......  

Life really does get easier and easier with time under your belt and it definitely gets better and better without the crutch of cigarettes BUT when it comes to quitting smoking it does take time to relearn life without the smokes BUT with commitment and perseverance you will succeed in living a Smokefree Life and you will get to that point where you realize how much better life is as an EX smoker non smoker or EXer it doesn't matter what you call it as long as you stick with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever and vigilance N.M.W. - No Matter What then you'll be reaping the benefits of Freedom....

If you're willing determined and totally committed to succeed then you Will succeed even when the throes of the horrendous cravings and moodswings and lack of sleep get to you and you feel like screaming or if you're like I was in my early weeks of quitting smoking there were times I could've tore my hair out or rip someone's face off anyone's face it really didn't matter who's face but instead of giving up I kept persevering through those horrid rough patches because I knew from reading everything on this site that I would get through to that good place in my quit I wasn't sure when at the time  BUT I knew that I would and I did and so will you it's definetly not easy in those early weeks by any stretch of the imagination BUT it's absolutely Doable and I really do smile at each DAY WON because after 40 yrs of slavery to the damned Cancer Sticks of smoking at least 30 a day I'm Free and I think that's worth celebrating each and single day ...... As long as we all stick with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever and vigilance N.M.W. - No Matter What & We don't allow ourselves to become complacent and lose the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the gift of LIFE instead let's always remember and N.E.F - Never Ever Forget that horrid DAY ONE or those early days and weeks of quitting smoking because that would totally suck big time but another Day WON really is the best GIFT that we can give ourselves & our families PLUS our health family and friends BUT especially our lives  which will reap the benefits of Freedom ......


when I came across this silly pic below of cutting back on coffee it got me thinking that there's many things in this World that we can cut back on and manage just fine BUT smoking isn't ONE of them it's all or none when it comes to SMOKING so we must nurture and protect the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the gift of LIFE so that means never fall for aaah just ONE would be OK because when it comes to smoking that's a downright LIE because it most definetly send you back to a LIFE of Slavery or at least it would for me so WHY chance it when each evening we can look ourselves in the mirror and say YAY for another Day WON .... 

I still smile at each and every Day WON because LIFE really is Grand without a Cigarette in Hand so chin up if you're struggling with remaining quit please stay close because we're all here to help you in any way we can there's definitely LIFE after Cigarettes and it's super fantastic BUT you must believe it and stick with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever  and vigilance N.M.W - No Matter What, it's absolutely worth all of the horrendous cravings and moodswings and lack of sleep because once you get to that point where you realize how much better life is without the crutch of cigarettes then you'll be so glad that you stuck with your quit journey.... you'll never ever want to go back to to that horrid DAY ONE ever again BUT you should be smiling at each and every Day WON......

I just wanted to say good morning and wish each of you a Stressfree hasslefree but most importantly a Smokefree day because we can and will remain Smokefree and live a life of Freedom N.M.W. - No Matter What is happening in our lives we have a choice to relapse or NOT and choosing Not to Smoke is the gift of LIFE let's always remember and N.E.F - Never Ever Forget that horrid DAY ONE or those early days and weeks of quitting smoking because another Day ONE would totally suck big time but another Day WON is pure freedom once you get through the rough patches and into that good place in your quit.....N.O.P.E.- Not One Puff Ever and Vigilance guarantees you a Smokefree Life.....

Marilyn.H.July.14.14.

D.E.B.S.

Posted by Marilyn.H.July.14.14. Jul 5, 2019

D.E.B.S. - Decide Educate Believe Succeed will give you a life of Freedom BUT in those early days and weeks of quitting smoking it can be EXtremely difficult at times and some of the cravings may seem never ending BUT they will end do whatever you have to do to get through the roller coaster ups and downs because with willingness & perservence it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it so if you're in the throes of the horrendous cravings and moodswings and lack of sleep please  hang on tight because you can and will make it to that point where you realize how much better life is as an EX smoker non smoker or EXer it doesn't matter what you call it as long as you stick with your quit journey it's not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT boy oh boy it's so worth it to be able to go anywhere anytime whenever wherever and however without worrying about where to sneak off to suck on a damned Cancer Stick .......

I want to wish each of you a safe, happy Smokefree 4th of July  Happy Independence day.....

Always stick with N.O.P.E and vigilance because Freedom Rocks....

We must take EXtra good care of ourselves so we can enjoy the little things in life that's actually the the big things in  LIFE really is Grand without a Cigarette in Hand so chin up if you're struggling with your quit journey because it takes time to get to that good place in your quit but you will get there and it's absolutely worth it once you do get there then you'll never ever want to go back to to that horrid DAY ONE or those early BUT you'll be smiling at each and every Day WON ......

It's the 1st Hump Day of July and the day before your July 4th holiday I hope the weather will cooperate we had a chilly damp rainy Canada Day on Sunday but then again it was that way the whole trip BUT it was great just the same and being a non smoker I didn't have to be out in the icky weather sucking on a cancer stick like my one sister in law Linda who still smokes, she forgot and left the umbrella out on the deck after her smoke on the wk end and the wind picked it up and started to blow it away but we got it back  I fell on Sunday and landed on my right elbow and right knee ugh BUT luckily I didn't break anything although I'm scraped up and bruised, I'm on my way over to watch Mason. Our buddy our pal our friend our Hump Day Camel George and I want to wish everyone a a hasslefree Stressfree but most importantly Smokefree day and if you happen to be struggling with your quit journey please know that we're all here to help you in any way we can and after decades of smoking it's bound to take time to relearn life without the smokes BUT it's absolutely Doable and totally worth it so hang on tight and know that you will get to that point where you realize how much better life is without the crutch of cigarettes so please give yourself the time needed to get to that good place in your quit because it's totally worth it to be Free & anything in this life worth having takes time and effort and quitting smoking is the gift of LIFE which I consider the one gift that will keep on giving day after day week after week month after month and Lord willing year after year and by sticking with N.O.P.E  - Not One Puff Ever and Vigilance N.M.W - No Matter What then there's absolutely no way we can relapse or go back to to that horrid DAY ONE BUT instead we'll continue to move forward reaping the benefits of Freedom ONE precious Smokefree Day at a time....

I'm back home it'll be wonderful to sleep in my own bed tonight  BUT I had a fantastic time away even though the weather was Crappy we still had a great time it's always nice to get away BUT it's also nice to get back home again I think we all need a vacation from our vacation at least I know I do  my 10 year old grandson Mason sprained his ankle yesterday on Canada Day poor guy, so as soon as I got home today I went over to see him to give him a big hug what a way to start his Summer holidays, anyway I wanted to let you know I'm back I'll be around some time tomorrow I'm going to watch Mason over to his house for a few hours tomorrow so Mandy can get a few things done. I'll try to get on site before I go over but if not I'll get on as soon as I get home huge hug to all of you my friends and Fellow EXers.